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This Will Explain Why Stopping Writing For Now!

Explaining Why! Please Do Not Stop Writing!

This week was very hectic and traumatic with very emotional painful and exhaustive exchanges between me and an ex boss in PDO! The irony was he had never been a direct formal boss to me in any aspects – but was instrumental in causing dent to my career – whether by his own volition or by instructions from higher up!

My mistake was copying him amongst my other ‘friends’ an email protest type to one local English daily. In a response he curtly said to me – Quote –

Majid,

Two things.

1. Avoid criticising others unnecessarily.
2. Avoid GLORIFYING yourself excessively.

That is the secret of success.

Unquote.

From the goodness of his heart – he copied this email to ALL on the list. I had addressed this direct to The Editor – and my inadvertent stupidity in including him in the copy circulation list! And giving him that opportunity any person like he was would not let go away!

Not to bore you with more sordid details, but there was a reaction from my two strongest supporters after bitter rancorous hard hitting exchanges with him. He later tacitly apologised – but asked me to take him out from my mailing list – which I was now most inclined to do anyway without any further prompt from him.

A         Response verbatim from one addressed to someone he knows well in PDO – and copied to me – Quote –

Dear Ustaadh xxx and after compliments 

In the name of Allah – With due respects Sir –  

A friend had forwarded me the not necessary response that this guy YYYYY has sent to Ami Majid. Unfortunately, people miss the very important thing that this man is highly appreciated and followed by many young Omanis as one lone voice that really cares and feels for us! 

He is one of the few that took great risks and dangers to himself even harm when even in PDO and he suffered a lot life later on because of his stand on things and everyone.

 It is very sad and tragic that you his so-called friends treat him like this and I can only assume an element of jealousy and envy – perhaps because of his popularity. You have hurt him so much and now he has decided to stop writing his websites and columns. 

Only time will tell the repercussions in the future and please accept my sincere apologies for this email. Forgive my English also Sir. 

Allah protect and preserve our country from all things bad inside and outside Ameen – Unquote!

B         Response verbatim from Number Two Responder – Quote

Dear Majid 

If you want my personal advice and sent in good faith please keep away from all these people ex PDO especially because you cannot remove the hypocrisies and double standards within them.  

It will not surprise me and from seeing some of the names that they will be communicating to each other and laughing and sneering you behind your back. This is how they are and will always be! Some of them even got later in life great personal tragedies and woes in their lives and in their families but they will never learn! 

Keep away from them and even stop writing even. This is a lost cause beyond redemption and only time will tell! So please keep away! All of them combined cannot even be 20% of what you are as Majid. 

I will always pray for you and your family Amin 

Unquote.

And finally to those that finally killed my columns – I said to them –

Quote –

I see that ZZZ (expatriate person) has now taken over my columns! It will not surprise me that you will be paying him even 3 or 4 times my rate – but that is how things are nowadays! So it is not surprising to me at all. Take care and all the best! – Unquote!

Now you know why I am giving writing in this website low priority from now onwards! It was good whilst it lasted – but everything 9good) has to end one day!

Wishing you all the best!

Citizen Majid bin Said bin Nasser Al Suleimany

January 31st 2014.

 N.B.

Dr. Seuss Sayings!

  • Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened!
  • Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!
  • A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out!

History repeats itself because man is incapable of learning from experiences!George Bernard Shaw

Please also read this below – which can explain a lot of things on the above Post!

http://majidsn.com/as-to-why-i-had-left-my-last-oil-company-loc/

Morsi: A Management Issue? The Full Version Reply

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Spotlight – The Oman Daily Observer – August 21st 2013

Morsi: A Management Issue?

Or more sinister forces at work and play?

Morsi

Image – Desposed by Army Coup – Morsi – First Elected Egyptian President!

  • I live in a posh area – I have a big villa – I have a good job – I drive a posh car – and my children go to the best expensive school – But I simply have no freedom!Demonstrating Woman Against Army Take Over to Al Jazeera TV
  • Famous East African Saying Those that go out to destroy the homes of others – will have God Destroy their homes in return!

August 19, 2013

 Outpoint – Before I start on the topic.

I will try my level best to keep this article simple and apolitical – though I am still trying hard to understand and comprehend how GCC countries like KSA and UAE had supported the ‘military coup’ in Egypt – and even after massacres of innocent Muslims too – and despite the fact – whether we like to accept it or not – and whether we like Muslim Brotherhood or not – and of a first time elected government under Morsi after years in Egypt under Mubarak et al. This fact cannot be denied under any circumstances.

If it is a question of removing an elected government because of ‘gross mistakes violations and errors of judgment ‘ – then one can imagine of a lot of military coups would possibly take place in a number of places – using the same terms and references – as plausible strong reason and excuse?

In my article – Episode 14 – ‘Advice To A New CEO’ – dated August 27, 2003 in Book One – Between Us Only! – and over 10 years ago- I had said – Quote – .

The new CEO? Welcome Aboard! – …. But don’t change a thing! – The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by good examples and in leadership demonstrations.

DON’T CHANGE A THING! – In its October 2002 issue, Harvard Business Review – HBR (Ideas with impact), noted famous Management Magazine notes the following in one of its topics – New CEO, Welcome Aboard (But Don’t Change A Thing)” – some quotes: –

  • Ø “The folks at ……… were thrilled when they got a new CEO with fresh, bold ideas – until she started to act on them”
  • Ø (Old CEO to NEW) “Everyone here is in the slow lane. They are all wedded to the way things have always been done. You have to understand, this is a very old company. You may need to pull people along more slowly to make sure you don’t end up tearing the place apart”
  • Ø “She (New CEO) – if she is not clear with this team, she’ll be no better with the next. She should not make personnel (staff) changes until she has given the current team a chance.

This is a commonly held Management Concept for Success for the CEO – especially the new one!

The role of the Chief Executive Officer – including especially The New!

Refer to any Management expert or books on Management, the one fundamental advice that is always given to a new CEO or Official in joining an organisation, is never to ‘rock the boat’ on day one of joining! – However, good sincere and genuine your intentions may be!

In his book ‘7 habits of highly effective peoples’, Dr. Stephen Convey, a Management ‘guru’, says that in addition of being proactive and think win/win, ‘it is very important to seek first to understand and then to be understood’. Others are Begin with the end in mind; Put first things first; Synergize, and sharpen the sword (socially, spiritually, physically & mentally).

Other references and quotes –

‘It is impossible for anyone to perform well in these continually changing roles without help from his subordinates in the organisation – he needs to have a well – informed objective understanding and supportive sounding board with whom he can freely discuss his doubts, fears and aspirations’.

– Robert L. Katz ‘Skills of an Effective Administrator’ – Three Skills Approach (Technical Skill, Human Skill and Conceptual Skills).

‘The first duty – and the continuing responsibility of the Business Manager (CEO) are “to strive for the best possible economic results from the resources employed or available – by Peter F. Drucker – another Management guru.

Good Ideas – Bad Implementation Practices!

Where have we heard this one before? Many establishments, some of them international Conglomerates, have collapsed because a new CEO was installed who wanted to make fast, rapid and drastic changes, without first getting to know the establishment well and its peoples, and what made them tick.

Success may have seemed to come with immediate effects (with the usual ‘colourings’ of press and for coverage) but in the medium to long term, the consequences are detrimental to the healthy running of the establishment and in its eventual early collapse and demise.

The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. When you transgress such a group, you are not only asking for trouble, but also putting your own neck on the line (shooting oneself in the foot too!).

The resentment, antipathy, anger, fury, animosities, frustrations and disappointments felt by such peoples (maybe results not visible immediately) but eventually can cause havoc and disaster to the organisation.

Many CEOs do a fundamental (grave) error of judgement when they remove (enmasse especially) the ‘old guards’ and put in their place ‘new likeable faces of his own’ choice into positions of power and authority. Not only these old guards pretend and act to go along with the changes, but they sure take aim and target to ensure the ‘introduced changes’ are sabotaged and killed from within.

They do these carefully and viciously, because the least thing they want are to be found out and be caught in the process. The process is exacerbated when you have still in-fighting within this group too (some at even senior levels), but who will attempt to come together against the new CEO and his intended changes per se!

For the short span of time and duration, things may even seem to work with new creativity, ideas and innovation coming from those ‘replacing new bright younger brains’ – but eventually we are all human beings, and the fear and dread of what may turn up next gets the better of all of us!. This is especially when the new CEO keeps asking ‘for more and more’ ideas and innovations to keep him in the limelight and in coverage! It puts a lot of pressures on the work force, with the ‘bubble bursting’ in the final analysis.

The ‘new blood’ start to feel (as they are all human too) that if an ‘uncle’ or ‘elder relative or fellow worker’ was so easily sidelined and marginalized in his duties and in his responsibilities (he saw it too, perhaps they came to his office to ‘cry’ too), why the same cannot be matted out instead to them eventually and in the course of time.

This creates uncertainties, apprehensions and worries and instead of being a morale booster, actually turns up to be quite the opposite in results, outcome and in consequences.

The new CEO may find support and encouragement from the Board of Directors and in the Chairman, but when morale, motivation and performance and profits (for which results are all paramount oriented and based) fall, ‘heads will definitely roll, however, they liked you before!’

In this scenario, the CEO will be required to change his outlook, focus orientation and in pursuits. He has to do this immediately if he is to survive. Otherwise it will mean that he will need to ‘Update and Validate’ his CV in pursuit of other new job venue and opportunities – if any – especially if history will record his ‘killing off and collapsing’ an otherwise operation of a successful and profitable establishment (killing the goose that laid golden eggs) – be it that there were even a lot to be desired to be modified or changed in the old structure of the establishment.

Continued – I had said – It is also in Countries and in Politics!
These things do not only happen to establishments but even to countries (example recently in Iraq and in Peru – Article written August 2003.
This situation goes on to even to the highest office in some lands. A new President is elected by popular vote- he gets a popular rating. Greater percentages of the population have voted him in.  So what is the first thing he does? He removes all those in top positions (early retirement is a good option!), and puts his crony friends in their places. He feels now confident that he has the support of all his friends.
He removes all the top brass professional Generals and puts his cronies in their places instead. History then proves the rest – one of his most reliable and trusted General ‘takes over the helm of leadership’. The man ends up in jail, or he is allowed to ‘abdicate’ if he is so lucky. The ‘cut outs’ professional but not trusted other Generals ‘shake their heads in sadness and disbelief – perhaps if they were still there, this would not have happened!
The General is a human too. If he saw his peers sidelined, what guarantee is there that it will not happen to him – especially in a disagreement or confrontation module with the boss!

In life we all go on to do the same things, at our own levels in life. As the CEO, we remove the assistants we think we cannot trust, or move them to positions of less significance but of grand newly designed titles – ‘Head of IT Development and Implementation’, or ‘Strategic Management Business Head’ (early retirement here too is a good option!).

‘Live Personal Examples’ per se!

In my life career, I had one Company Director who wanted to make drastic and rapid changes on day one he came in! As is my usual self, I always try to maintain a balance of being pragmatic and proactive vis-à-vis to follow formal instructions (for my next pay cheque), so I had the ‘guts and the audacity’ (catching the bull by its horns, so to speak!) and to tell him that these changes he wanted would not augur well with affected staff, especially local.

I had also cautioned him of the ‘consequences of making many changes rapidly and in a short tenure of time. It is not only peoples getting lost, but the antipathy, cynicism and the disenfranchise elements emanating from the ‘affected Staff’ per se.

Though initially he was taken back by this response from the good self, but to his credit – being an educated, proactive, and pragmatic and highly profile person, he was able to see my views and points, and more importantly the dire dangers and consequences that he wanted to drive us all through.

Some of my friends thought I was ‘naïve and a fool’ to risk my career (putting a rope around your own neck to hanged!). “You could have been sidelined / marginalised or even be terminated’, my good friends advised, ‘why bother? He wants it that way, just do it – it is his own funeral!

Not many senior peoples inhigh echelon positions take kindly to be “confronted” by those junior or lower to them, and these “brave and courageous’ peoples found too late that their careers were not only dented, but faced an early death. Early Retirement is what ‘the game is nowadays!’

This Director – we still correspond, at least at the end of the year. He keeps referring to me as ‘a friend’, but also as ‘a best example of a risk taker’ he ever knew for a while!

There is nothing so bad and damaging than frustrated staff that suffer in disdain and in quiet, frustration, rancour, bitterness and in apathy and in disappointments. When staff are ‘not healthy’ the organisation also suffers eventually. Productivity is affected. You can forget ideas of expansion; survival of the establishment is highly taxed and put to great risks, deprivation and in detriment.

The concepts of Change Management are in itself complex in that even the Management do not agree to each other on what is the right approach and perspective to ‘influence change’ in itself per se.

Recommendations.

It is essential and vital to get everyone on board when contemplating and formulating changes. The underlying factor is that the new CEO especially has to understand and appreciate that he is dealing with the most complex of his resources (albeit it being the most paramount and important one too).

It is critical and extreme too if these changes would incorporate drastic changes or reversals in peoples entrenched formal positions (worse in informal leadership positions!) or their continued existence in the Organisation, that the new CEO uses all his tact, interpersonal and managerial skills to see participation and involvement of all the staff (or majority) in these changes per se.

It is very important to make Staff feel that no particular polarization or group is being targeted in these changes, even if the intentions maybe good sincere and genuine, and this was ‘not in the plans’ per se!

My advice and counsel to CEOs and ‘the new man in Charge’ is that not many of our subordinates are ready to take a risk to tell you exactly what they think or feel – especially when they see very bad and raw treatment vetted out on the long serving staff.

It is not a question of just getting rid of only old staff who perhaps may be truly ‘transfixed and rigid in their outlooks and approaches, or even ‘dead wood’ for that matter.

It is a question of how you get to know the establishment well first, to get to know its social culture and its environment and modus operation, and how you tackle the issue and convince people.

Even armies if they are not convinced, they will surrender and let the enemy take over. We saw that even in Iraq just only recently! The same ‘convinced army’ will fight to its death in protecting and honouring those it is supposed to serve and protect. We have already seen examples of that recently.

The thing is called “tact” and the right and correct approach and how equitable, ethical and right approach and cohesion is taken.

Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by examples and in demonstrations.

This is my (humble) advice to any CEO who wants to make a niche and name for himself, and to be acknowledged as a ‘successful CEO’ – and not a loser (and either be sidelined / marginalized or even eventually be jobless, what goes around, comes around!).

Remember you are the driver of the car, when your passengers are scared, they will not tell you of the obstacles you cannot see. You will only see after inadvertently you have hit them!

That is the worst-case scenario for any CEO! New or Old!

The rest is history on what had happened to Morsi. A lot of ‘Conspiracy Stories’ are now emerging as to why he was removed from power – including The Ethiopian Dam Link – The Israeli-Saudi link – and the usual of The West not wanting an ‘Islamic Government’ to succeed in Egypt – after The Turkey and Senegal experiences etc – and ‘refusing to accept ‘Democracy results’ in previously Algeria and Gaza.

And Morsi should have realised the sinister forces working against him – and who he was surrounded with. Phaorah’s Egypt. On a personal front – it was a big mistake to open his mistakes in his rambling 2 hours speech

Anyway, as I had promised in the beginning I will stop here – as my usual style in writing of ‘taking you up to the bridge – and then letting you decide if you want to cross it – or go back.

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Images – For and Against Morsi – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

This article is dedicated to the innocent lost lives and maimed ones in the ‘unneeded and unwanted called for’ massacres – instead of following our Religion and The Hadith in solving our own problems our own ways – by frank honest sincere genuine one-to-one – give-and-take – face2face discussions – and in making hard, difficult complex decisions for compromises, settlements and solutions.

Let us only hope and pray MB does not go underground – as Muslims (Arabs) lose confidence in Elections! Making Another Syria – the worst nightmare scenario!

May Allah God Guide us and Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin

With sincere and due apologies,

By:

Majid Al-Suleimany

August 19, 2013

The Writer is a weekly Column Contributor in The Oman Observer Features under ‘Between Us Only’. He has published 10 books – more details here at http://www.myownmajid.com

He has worked for over 25 years as a Human Resources Professional in mainly Petroleum Development Oman (PDO). And a Management Expert, Consultant and Advisor for the past 12 years – now fully retired. He holds an MBA in International Management (UK).
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
 
 

Are You Afraid? Reply

 For Sunday May 19th 2013.

Between Us Only!

Are You Afraid?

Or The (African) Island Touch!

Do you believe in these paranormal ghost things? These things were common occurrences in this place!

The Island – When I was a young boy in this island I grew up in East Africa (Mafia – not the Italian one) but the Arabic one for the place (island) without (She without) – also known locally as Chole – there were a lot of scare and weird stories there. These are not tales that I was told, but had actually experienced myself, family and or by my close friends! See Mafia Island Images Below!

I - So Shocked

So Afraid?

For example? Like cars cutting off engines whenever they reached one special baobab tree, especially after evening prayers (Maghrib) and for no reason. It never happened when our late father (pbuh) was there! In one incident when it happened, my late father shot in the air – and the truck mysteriously restarted!

See Fear Images Below

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There was this beautiful damsel wandering in the night (very tall fair Arab lady). They said she was a ‘Jinn’ (ghost, fairy) trying to trap gullible (and usually drunk) men. It was said she actually walks through walls. If that will not scare you to run (and forget all others ideas you had in your head) what else will? I never met her – but our houseboy did! We heard his screams late at night!

We used to mock these things that they used to make people collect cashew nuts whilst they thought they were dreaming it in their sleep – only to find it the hard way when their hands reeked of cashew fruit next morning!

Travel Express by Night – One old Bedouin (Omani) telling my father one day early morning ‘that our grandmother had died in Hail Al-Ghaaf (Quriyaat)’. In those days mails took a month, when the letter was received, it was the exact date (the man had insisted to my disbelieving late father to write down the date!).

It was said this man traveled at night (how – do not ask me! I never asked him, nor did I want to find out!) to and back to Oman. To prove his point, he had fresh ripening dates in his house (guess nobody ate them except himself, who else in his right mind would want to try?) It was always in summer time – I came only to know when I returned to Oman in 1972 was the time of dates!

There were so many stories In this island, of so many stories of people changing into ‘cats and monkeys’ and coming to people’s houses (we used to think our poor dad (pbuh) had lost it, when he used to shout at them in Arabic – to go away, and they actually did!).

There is also this one! How my late elder brother (pbuh) beat a cat badly because it ate his food. Next day he was seriously sick, everybody said he was a goner. They had to go to apologise to an old African man who looked like he was just beaten up! Only then my brother recovered.

The Haunted Hotel Room – The hotel Reception offered me this room on the top floor. It was at a reduced rate. The Reception Staff lady said to me – You are Omani. So you will be okay in the room! I refused to take chances – and rightly too – as it emerged that the room was haunted – and there was an evil presence in the room. Next morning the people found themselves on the floor thrown from the bed – in the bath tub – and hearing angry hissing voices – like get out from my master’s bed!

I would have discounted this as just whim. But I met someone later one I knew well who had tried the room – and met exactly the same fate. It seemed the hotel was housed in a large family house belonging to an ex Omani famous family. Some of the family members were massacred in the Revolution – and the rest had all left the place soon afterwards!

The Singing Pretty Damsel – There was a great disbelief – but one person was ready to swear on his mother’s grave – that he had a glimpse of her at the haunted house as dusk was setting! Only two brothers lived in the house. They were aloofers – and were marked as hermit misers! The man swore he had never seen such a beautiful woman before in his life – she had long hair – and was singing a Faiza Ahmed (Arabic) song! She was tall and very fair in complexion. When he looked into the window – she instantly disappeared – but he felt his whole body going into a chill! Then the fierce dog of the house barked loudly – and he just ran non-stop back to the village!

The People of the Night! – As kids we used to go out early in the morning before dawn to collect fresh fallen from the trees mangoes! In one place we heard as if someone was moving in the shrubs near us – moaning loudly! Next day we met this old local woman who kept staring at us! She was known as a Mchawi – Mwanga – or as you and I understand as a witch!

She lamented to us – You be careful in your fruit mango picking things – because you are disturbing some other people out doing their thing (job: business)! Lucky they know you – or they could have harmed you! Actually we did not really need to collect the mangoes – as they were always being sold to us the family very cheap! But boys will always be boys! We stopped the mangoes collecting exercises soon after this!

The Big Question – The big question I keep asking myself since a kid! How come the people practicing these are always still poor, destitute and in need? Or why don’t they help us fight our adversaries?

Hope I did not scare you in the process! Being scared and afraid is normal human trait and behaviour – nothing illogical, alien or strange either! Or illogical and inconclusive either!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Mafia Island Images Below

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ADDENDUM

The Very Tall (UFO) Person – Our farm boy was returning to the farm at Wayani late at night. Then he saw this very tall looking person, pulling chains tied to him! When asked if he was local or not – he said I did not stop to look! But the tall person was wearing the long white dress put for funeral purposes! The man was admitted in the hospital for acute shock! He was exclaiming loudly what he saw at the hospital ward. Two days later he had died! People just put it to him turning mad and senile – and seeing things! But was it really? True the man liked the local drink Uraka – made from fermented cashew fruits! But is it that all to make the person so scared … to death?

The Car Lift Gone All Wrong! It was coconut picking season time. So he was driving very late at night. He nearly hit the local woman who was standing on the road – after his car beams picked her out from the shadows! So he asked her – Mother – what are you doing late at night? Get in the car – I will take you to the village. She reluctantly got in! After awhile talking incessantly to her – but she was not answering – so he turned around! She was not in the car!

A few miles on – he saw her again by the side of the road! This time she was stopping him for a lift! Again she was standing in the middle of the road! He said to me – I drove through her. I thought I hit something – because I found the car shaking! He did not stop – or look back. He put loud the Quraan cassette – and reciting along! When he told the villagers – they did not disbelieve him! They mentioned one old woman who had died many years ago! The woman was famous for asking for lifts!

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