Some Will Never Change! – By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

Outlook – The Oman Daily Observer – Sunday July 15th 2012 

My Website – www.majidall.com 

Between Us Only! 

Some Will Never Change! 

I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself! – Aldous Huxley.”

Be blind to the fault of others – It brings peace in your life- Because people won’t change – You got to change your way of accepting things! – Anon

Never play with the feelings of others because you may win the game – but you will lose the person for sure for goodAnon

What Goes Around; Comes Around! – Common Saying

Writing is a struggle against silence! Carlos Fuentes

Sometimes I ask myself if it is worth me keeping on writing on these same topics again and again? Is it really worth it? Or is it a foregone conclusion – that all is now simply gone?

Image – From A Cry For Help! Book

She is still crying!

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It seems to me that I am talking to brick walls and all I get are a bloodied nose – and a swollen head by all these. The truth is some people and places will never change – even if they know the consequences and repercussions of doing so! That is how people and some places are – despite all exterior images and publicities! Even if they appear in the press – and even in the internet – all the websites – and even call centres. It is all a show – a facade – an ivory elephant.

In my career life – and 12 years in Consultancy – I have found that there is nothing worse than raising peoples’ expectations and hopes – and then dash it all – and or do nothing real and or concrete in the direction to accomplish these promises. Or make an agreement and or acceptance to a deal – but be painful, painstaking slow and tedious to do your part of the deal – with all kinds of flimsy and inexcusable reasons for not doing your part of the deal.

As if nothing can ever happen or touch you – you are impregnable and well protected – and the others are all bumbling stupid clumsy fools – best ignored and ridiculed. But will we ever learn? I personally do not think so!

During my Consultancy times I used to visit the branches and talk to the Staff with a view of finding out what were their problems and issues – and what help and assistance they needed from the Company! Believe me – they used to tease and mock me – you are the 5th Consultant who came asking the very same questions – and nothing happened after that.

Maybe they did not file in the reports – and or if they did nobody in The Head Offices bothered or cared. Perhaps put in box files – till the next time the exercise is repeated again – all for publicity and for media – but nothing real and concrete in action and in reality and practice.

I had a very difficult time to convince them – but thankfully my records went with me. However, when I wanted to file the reports I was plainly asked to ‘give full information’ of who said what – it was more a spying case than anything else. I refused and the contract was rescinded – but they were afraid I may write about it in my columns – so they tried to appease me – and let me back.

But I maintained the confidentiality and trust given to me by the employees – but then I may have been professional, ethical and principled – but how many people out there can be so?

I worked for one Regional Company but with Head Office in Muscat. At one time in disagreement with the CEO – a fellow Omani – trying to appease me told me that The Company Board had preferred for the Consultant to be a foreigner – or Omani from the Region. I was neither.

Within half an hour I immediately quit from the place. I definitely do need the money – but I need respects and esteem more! How can we Omanis treat each other like this? After all the personal sacrifices of His Majesty? And people still continue to behave like this?

In writing this new book of mine Novel Type on Road Safety – Behind The Wheel! – and despite everyone recognising the importance of the subject with the increased road casualties and accidents – I went to some places asking if I could quote some of their works. Some completely ignored me – some made promises which they rescinded at the last minute when the book was almost ready – and some few only were kind and supportive!

Even if there is no money in books here – and it is all designed for a greater noble, worthy and National cause. But I was a mere nobody and No Wastah person! And that is the sad, tragic and bitter truth – and all the wanton decadence and malaise all around us now!

Yet it is still true that in some places you go you find all kinds of lack of principles, ethics and professionalism – if not behind the scenes bribery and corruption even! Things are so devious and bad that nobody even cares or bothers – and even to try to hide anything! It is a public secret – and everyone knows all about it. Employees are treated very badly – and even the customers and clients even are not spared! Except for oneself – nobody cares or bothers!

The only problem is that those higher up involved and can put a stop to all these are themselves weak and docile – if not part of the pattern even! It is so scary and worrisome to think about this.

Everyone forgets what you treat others will one day be treated to you – or those near you. Meanwhile, they go on torturing and tormenting others in their lives – and those near them. Now everyone is doing – not like in the past in a few places only!

I am even getting a severe headache and pain thinking about these things – and being acute sick and diabetic – I need to stop here now!

The Truth Remains. Some people and places will simply Never Ever Change! They will drag the rest of us into wanton demise, decadence and malaise!

Take Care! May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen

Take Care!

By: 

Majid Al Suleimany

 N.B. This is the Original Version – without any part re edited…

The Offices Soap Operas – The Offices’ Going Ons! Reply

BETWEEN USE ONLY.

 The Offices on Goings!

 (The Soap Operas In The Offices)

 Further my Wednesday in my Column – The Boss Is Killing Us – Slowly! –  The Office Dictators! Despite all the things that have happened – and still happening in some of the offices – nothing has changed much!

 In my working and career life as a Human (Capital) Resources Professional – I have met many cases of employees being taken for granted to such an extent that the office bosses are simply patronizing, condescending, ridiculing, insulting, brazen, vulgar and all the negatives that you can add in to describe their behaviours, attitudes, outlook, perceptions and focuses – especially in dealing with the employees. See my book – A Cry For Help! – www.majidbooks.com

Honestly and to be crystal clear and transparent – this generalization applies to just a few ‘bad fish and apples’ in the basket. The majority are decent, good professional and ethical peoples – made of the right mantle and material – and with good outlooks, intentions, perceptions, focuses and behaviours.

 The employees are so fed up and are dead tired – and that red lines have been crossed so many times! What peoples do not realize is to what extent these things are now causing others – especially the poor working employees in the Offices!

 

To such an extent that there is stress and frustrations all around – and they drift back to homes for marital and family strife, road rage and accidents – and the breaking up of the social order, fabric, character and harmony. Just by the actions of a few or some who lack confidence, honesty, sincerity, genuineness and lack of integrity, fairness, harmony, principles, ethics and professionalism.

 And perhaps too their secret hidden agendas and real true intentions! They have no morals or borders, and are capable of doing anything so low, cheap, dastardly and unexpected! And what they dictate, control and impose on others per se!

The offices atmosphere nowadays are so abrasive, vulgar and crude that you cringe in fear that the weekend is over – and you have to meet these same peoples in the Offices again!

         

                                                                                                             

These people have simply no fear of their God either, their Creator – or that they may one day fall very critical sick – and take years in bed in pain and suffering before they kick the bucket – with the curses and incriminations from their employees – and even from families and outside the Company.

 Yet they pride themselves otherwise as ‘good likeable and decent peoples’ when they know well and deep down themselves that they are not – but just cheap actors hypocrites  peoples – who will sell their best friend and colleague for a few more Omani Rials in promotion or progression. They are ready even to lower down the barrel for their ‘friend’ to be side-lined and to be marginalized too – or even to lose their jobs – as a worst case scenario!

 Yet all the Religions of the world teach us to be nice and good to each other – and to have an honest and sincere living – because in front of Society, Family and God – we are all responsible for everything we do in this world – whether directly or inadvertently – whether by design or by default – and whether by purpose or inaction. We are still accountable and responsible – whether we like to accept this fact or not – the truth remains the same and cannot be changed at all.

 The real sad, pathetic and tragic part is that the stakeholders know well what is going on in the offices – but look the other way – as if nothing untoward is happening there – until the next staff action – or more and more employees resign! The excuses the stakeholders give are always because of the office political and other reasons that are so unimportant, vague and irrelevant – that it amazes and shocks you that somebody can even make them out!

 Few miscreants and irresponsible people in the offices can destroy all the good works taken generations to build and maintain. This ‘pass the buck and blame-game’ and the usual Wastah business of looking the other way needs to stop now – because it is just like a cinder fire burning underneath – and ready to explode at any unexpected time!

 These are how some bad some Offices have become and a laughing stock and jest to others – especially the customers, clients and outsiders. You will find in all the same Offices usual glaring Quality, Mission and Vision Statements – saying all the good nice things – and none is being practiced in reality!

 Sometimes the situation is so bad and corrupt – that you just surrender and quit – even if you have nothing else to go to. The East Africans have this expression – some of the houses hide what is going on in those houses (skeletons hidden in the closets!). The same thing can be said – what is going on in some of the Offices are so frightening and shocking – but it is the Office Building and the name outside that is hiding all these things.

 And will we learn? We never will! Till everyone ends as losers! ake Care!

 By: –

 Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.