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 When Things Turn Really Bad!

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The Gaza Images of Wanton Destruction and Crimes Against Humanity!

 

When Things Turn Really Bad!

Dear All & After Compliments;

1          What Has Been Happening So Far!

It has been a long while since I wrote anything in the format of an article for my websites – and as you know my two columns in The Oman Daily Observer took a natural death metaphorically by the wrong prescriptions of drugs and medicines to a slowly dying cancer victim! Sometimes the end comes quicker than expected after remission even – or when the patient was thought to be recovering by a new doctor – who turned out to be even worse than the previous doctors looking after the sick ailing patient – and ‘kicking the bucket’ for all to see!

Of course, with great cheers and happiness from some quarters determined and for some intentional wanting and willing for the columns to end! And yet still with some still craving for some more articles to come out – and a sort of relief that though the columns have ended in the said paper since November 2013 – see here –   – but ‘sort of relieved’ that I was still posting in my websites my articles – mainly in www.majidall.comwww.majidwrite.com – and opinions and views on www.majidsn.com . This apart of my books in www.myownmajid.comwww.myown-ebooks.com and www.majidbooks.com Plus the new websites for Short Takes (Stories) with mainly Omani theme at my new website at www.myshorttakes.com – and the Road Safety website at www.bethesafedriver.com

One can safely say that with all these websites belonging to me – and recently being that active in the Social Media – Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, What’s Up etc. – the losers are more the newspaper than me – because if there are still followers and fans out there they can still follow me! There are of course those that bought the newspaper only on the days that my articles would appear because they read more Arabic newspapers – and now will not be doing so! And those fans that may be inclined not to buy the newspaper anymore – because my articles no longer appear!

It reminds me of a good friend of mine – a Pilot – whom I had queried a long time ago that as we landed in Zanzibar small strip I thought I heard brakes as the plane was landing? I thought this was strange – because normally the brakes were being applied after the plane had gone to some distance – not as the plane was landing – and this is dangerous even to the layman! Metaphorically, when I used to write my columns I used to ‘apply the brakes’ so to speak as the pane was landing – but now in The Social Media I could write whatever I wanted to a reason without an Editing Staff interference – and as in many cases just for them to show they had power and control to ‘edit your articles’! Trust my Indian friends ‘not to let you down’! J !

2          The Gaza Impact

Take from me because all that I had wanted to say were in The Social Media where I was very active to what some may even dare to say to ‘dangerous levels’ – but a time comes in life when you have to do the ‘Right Thing at The Right Time’ – and that the ‘element of fear’ has long gone now! Or even if you do put a brave front – what is the difference – or what else is new? – As I like often to ask!

One thing I have noticed – even at home that people are at ‘short fuse’ and ready to explode at any moment! My granddaughter was asking me why those bad Jews (!) were killing innocent children – and what have the children done to be killed and to be hurt by this? I cried when one of The Palestinian girl had her legs amputated – including her mother too! – And she was asking her father when ‘When can I have my legs back, Daddy?’ – So heartbreaking and distressing – Sometimes those with children killed could even be classified ‘as luckier’ – than those with injured and maimed for life children!

Arab blood is not cheap as an Arab Leader had said. Another had said that we are ready to go back and ‘ride our camels’ – but is the West ready to do the same – if we ourselves burn all the oil wells to prevent them being taken over by our enemies!

Anyway, I was just watching Obama giving justifications of attacking the so-called Iraqi ‘Muslim’ fundamentalists to ‘protect the Yazidi people of Iraq! Sic! What about Gazans and The Palestinians Mr. Obama. I am sorry I voted for you in my way – I think even Bush was better and had more guts and courage than you Obama! I guess your converted Muslim father must be turning in his grave – the poor man! But then it must not be forgotten that Israel is also occupying, dominating and controlling USA UK and all the others – just as The West Bank is! Enough for a moment on Gaza – but I want to talk here on the repercussions of Gaza!

3          The Gaza Affects!

This week I had two incidents.

One

It was at a place that I had gone ‘for services’ but the treatment was at best ‘much wanting’ from such a high profile place always in the news! So I went instead to another pace where I was ‘treated better and more professionally cum ethically’ to my full satisfaction. I should have left it at that – but silly stupid me I never learn from my lessons – and I went up to put a claim for refund from the first place. They bluntly refused – so again I should have let things lie and accept my loss – but when I encountered that if it were a VIP or a customer of their likes – they would have refunded! All hell was let loose! With all kinds of provocations including the element of my writings! See this one for good measure www.majidwrite.com/2014/01/07/being-proud-conceited-and-haughty-in-life/ and even this one too! www.majidwrite.com/2012/10/28/the-disease-of-pride/ in elaborating and making the point!

This supposed to be Professional High Profile Person was so provocative and hurtful – and he had the guile and guts to tell me that ‘this is the reason your articles got ended’! Sic! and Double Sic! I respected and esteemed this person highly – and I had always considered him as ‘a brother and friend’ – but he got angry at me because I attacked his Secretary for saying NO to me as if she had this Authority to say No! So sad and tragic really!

Two

A simple request from a family member who was having his first daughter getting married and in good trust and faith had come to me for whatever I could muster to help him – seeing especially daughters’ marriages to be very expensive! I saw it myself a few months ago with my youngest daughter when I ended literally bankrupted!

So I passed the request to the other members of the family and relatives! Trust people to bring past histories – and past errors of judgments and mistakes to light – when that poor person has ‘as the East Africans say – Kuchonga Uso – that is ‘literally carving up my face’ in shame to ask others for favours and help! My late Father always warned us – the fastest way to lose respects and standings from people is to go to others to ask for help and favours! And the difference between men and God is that the more you ask from God Allah SWT He is more pleased with you – whist with human beings it is exactly the opposite!

Our Religion also tells us – that we should be kind and compassionate to our fellow human beings – and if we cannot then do not expect Allah God to be so inclined to you either on The Day of Reckoning and as they lower your body into the ground for burial! With ants, worms and others waiting to consume your body for a festive meal!

So this one family member ‘reminded me of what this man’s father – sic! – had done to our father before in their past lives! Why should we keep grudges of the past – when both the elders had forgiven each other? And for us the off springs to keep on the feud? And what has this poor girl getting married done as a mistake? Her grandfather parents mistakes? So she should be held accountable too! We forget that the same God that gave you – is the same God that denied this person!

This week I was very sick person with my glucose count down as a result of watching the Gaza scenes! And abdomen pain that found itself to be prostate too! Thank God so far not terminal or cancerous!

I need to take things easier and calmer now – but I guess the after effects of Gaza have hit many – and the vicious cycle seems for each one of us to turn against each other – instead of directing it to The Real Causer and Enemy! What hurts more are that in both cases I thought I was dealing with peoples friendly and known to me – but the end results and how these people turned out worse is very scary and alarming! God Allah Help and Protect and Preserve us all Ameen Amen.

I will not involve the case of doing a Human Resources Consultancy job for one Local Company from The South owned – and how I got raw treated and lost money (again and again)! How cruel and unkind we are to each other is not only scary and frightening – but is just an Omen of just more bad things and disasters waiting to happen to us! But I have said all these things already in my Arab Management books – A Cry For Help! – www.myownmajid.com and Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! www.trafford.com/08-0889

The only good news I had this week – from the stomach of evil came blessings – as The Arabs like to say – is this – please read it too! – http://bethesafedriver.com/2014/08/04/arabic-behind-the-wheel-book-now-available-on-line/

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Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Ex – Between Us Only! The Oman Daily Observer

Why We Are Failing? Between Us Only! Reply

 

For Sunday October 7th 2012

My Website – www.majidwrite.com

Between Us Only!

Why We Are Failing!

Lack of professionalism, ethics and principles – Why We Are Failing!

This article is shown in full also in my new website www.majidwrite.com

Frankly, if I have to sum it all up in one sentence – I can elaborate in saying – that it is all due to the problems that we are all facing us now all over – and failing badly – is all due to this great craved hunger to always to try to frighten, intimidate, control, dominate and manipulate others.

I will share with you today this email from a good Indian friend of mine! Quote –

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Lovely Presentation – Why We Fail! – By Ghandi

1 Lack of Persistence.

More people fail not because they lack knowledge or talent but because they quit. The total secret of success lies in two words – persistence and resistance. Persist in what must be done and resist what ought not to be done. When problems seem insurmountable, quitting seems the easiest way out. Winners are struck but not destroyed. We all have setbacks in life. Failing does not mean we are failures.

2. Lack of Conviction.

People who lack conviction take the middle road; and guess what happens in the middle of the road? You get run over! People without a conviction do not take a stand! They go along to get along because they lack confidence and courage. They conform in order to get accepted even when they know that what they are doing is wrong! They behave like part of a herd.

3. Rationalizing.

Winners may analyse but never rationalize. That is a Losers game. Losers will always have a book of excuses to tell you why they could not. We hear excuses like – I am unlucky – I am born under the wrong stars – I am not good looking – I don’t have contacts – I don’t have enough money – The economy is bad – If only I had the opportunity and If only I didn’t have a family!

4 Not Learning From Past Mistakes,

Some people live and learn – and some only live! Wise people learn from their mistakes. People who do not learn lessons from history are doomed. Failure is a Teacher – if we have the right attitude. Failure is a detour – not a dead end. It is a delay – not a defeat. Experience is the name we give to our mistakes.

5 Lack of Discipline.

Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done so without discipline. Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice, and avoiding distractions and temptations. It means staying focused. Steam does not move the engine unless it is confined. Niagara Falls would not generate power unless it was harnessed.

6 Poor Self Esteem

Poor Self Esteem is a lack of self-respect and self-worth. It leads to abuse of one’s self and others too. People with low self-esteem are constantly looking for identity. They are trying to find themselves. One’s self is not to be found but to be created. Idleness and laziness are consequences of poor self-esteem – and so is making excuses. Idleness is like rust that eats into the most brilliant metal.

7 Fatalistic Attitude

A Fatalistic Attitude prevents people from accepting responsibility for their position in life. They attribute success and failure to luck. They resign themselves to their fate. They believe and accept the predestined factor written in their horoscope or stars – that regardless of their efforts whatever has to happen will happen. Hence they never put in any effort and complacency becomes a way of life. They wait for things to happen rather than make things happen.

Namaste!

So the next time you want to blame someone – or find an excuse why you failed (or failing) – remember the words of The Great Man. – Unquote.

If you are a General Manager – micro-managing and your mind is controlled by simple and small things like how the Cleaner cleans the floor – and leaves the dirt behind – or how many spoons of sugar a staff puts in his cup of coffee or tea – and yet you are in charge of an operating budget of millions of dollars – how can the two merge to be a successful operation – when your mind and everything else – is this defeatist self-centred selfish outlook ‘not to spend money’ – as if it comes from your own pocket – and is your own money? Yet this same person has no hang ups or whims to buy an expensive company car – and all the benefits and comforts for his own personal office and ego!

A few years ago in one GCC country The Head of Marketing called all his Sales and Marketing Staff to ‘give them a piece of his mind – and lecture on – either you do – or! You know the usual ritual stuff – if not – you are fired! But what took a dramatic and twisted turn was he putting all the staff names in a box – and asking one staff to choose pick ‘three names from the box’ – that he was going to fire that day – as a lesson (encouragement and motivation!) to the rest! Luckily for the poor chooser – that he did not pick his own name. That would have been suicidal! The staff were so much antagonized and traumatized – that the news reached outside the office – to the press – and to the rest of us!

Now this was a typical case where sales were fluctuating. So to save his own neck – he was turning the guns ‘like that General to his own troops’ – as is my favourite quote! And this is where the problems lay!

With the Top Senior Management and The Board wanting to get excuses and reasons – the scape goats’ syndrome – and letting others do the ‘dirty works’ – and if the situation would eventually explode – as it does in many cases! – new scape goats would again be found (Animal Farm!)!

If he is very lucky and fortunate the GM would be transferred to a quickly artificial created position of Head of Corporate Strategic Business Development Director (Advisor in other places!). Otherwise in very few rare cases he will be seen to the door – by the Security Staff – as we see in the films! But these things – trust me – do not happen in real life – at least ours!

During the time of my Consultancy business when it was on its death-bed – I had people (all expatriates of course!) – that came to me with their salary deductions statements – because the outstanding amount that was payable by us – was being deducted from the poor man’s salary – as if he was responsible for us not paying! Remember the deductions were carried out by mainly expatriate heads – though there were some isolated cases of not to be left behind – ‘instructions from the local heads’ too! How wicked and vicious one can get?

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In my career life of over 40 years – I have noticed this. Especially emanating from our own in running their businesses per se! As soon as he (or she!) is nominated for the high position he will introduce quick dramatic drastic changes – and the most crystal clear ones are that he is now surrounded by people (cronies!) that he can always trust – and remove those of his own that he perceives as ‘a threat to his own position and standing’ – and that includes people like his own peers!

Especially those from within (or few outside cases – which he cannot touch much!) shortlisted for his position – before he got it! Trust me – I am speaking from personal experiences and exposures here – and I have so many cases to prove these too! Even in my Arab Management books! Read my article 8 years ago – The Offices Mini-Dictators!

The most sad, pathetic and tragic part is this mistaken illusion and connotation that – you must be surrounded by ‘only expatriates – and encourage all high positions in the future to be reserved and to be kept for the expatriates’ – with due respects to our expatriates – as they too become victims from their own in many means and ways too!

Personally, I have nothing against expatriates recruitment – if in reality there is a vacuum from available within local talents and expertise – but what about outside your offices? Did you try at all? Frankly too – nor do I believe in artificial window dressings – of putting Omanis as Heads and Top Positions – that are there just for the show – and just for signing approvals and payments – for The Press – whilst all the hard, dirty and all other works are done by expatriates.

In one of the interviews in one so-called National Company – they gave me to do an entry College trade test in Human Resources – which I refused to do! Given to me by fellow Omanis – and sadly and tragically not even Human Resources experiences and exposures like me even! But then he got a Doctorate in Human Resources – and for sure do not be ‘surrounded by fellow Omanis – especially real qualified HR Professionals’ – because they will expose and find you out! Bring in that pretty expatriate woman with all smiles and charms – and mistakenly thinking ‘she will not talk’! She will surely still talk – with her friends at home – and you are not there to hear it! Yet smile and wink at you in the offices!

I wrote on this before in my columns – before things went more bad for me! Yet this same place is always in the news too! How misguided and misinformed our own are and can be! That is why even after leaving them – they still cannot stop the hatred – because nobody wants to hear the REAL TRUTH being said!

What more can I say now?

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

 

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At My Workplace!

The Worst Offenders!

You would expect that human beings supposed to be the most intelligent species on the earth would be better knowledgeable and learn from experiences – but no human beings never end to shock, awe and surprise us all! I was reading this article of what happened in Tunisia again – Woman sets fire on herself, child – According to her neighbours … the woman had bought the flat with all her savings … owners had reclaimed the flat leaving her homeless in the streets!

Despite the removal of the fear element, and the end of the usual old schemes, games, gimmicks and tricks – people have still not learnt their lessons in life!

Frankly the worst offenders are:-

·        People who are still susceptible to quick short gains, greed, temptations, evil ways and means – and corruptible practices! The greatest evil, malaise and decadence in society!

·        People who procrastinate and delay in implementing agreed decisions made – or find excuses in implementing and carrying them out!

·        Very good actors who pretend to go along whilst within the system try to break up and destroy – what they call as ‘rogue elements’ within the system.

·        Not fulfilling promises and commitments made!

·        Preachers who do not practice what they preach! JUST DOUBLE-FACED AND HYPOCRITES THAT THEY ARE!

·        Evil hearted, vile, subjective, individualistic and biased of other people based only their whims and dislikes!

·        People who want you to fail by putting so many hurdles and blockages on your way and path – only to fail is what they want as paramount and important to them.

·        Not only wanting you to fail but also land you in great stress, hardships and pain – and even loss of all your possessions and even personal freedoms too!

·        Create artificial barriers, barriers and more subsidiary conditions to show off their power and authority. Sometimes really hysterical and unimaginable!

·        Look kind and supportive whilst all the time planning to stab you in the back!

·        People sadistic by nature enjoying giving pain and hardships to others.

·        Polarisation and set off people one against the other – Divide and Conquer (Rule)!

·        People who will not act their responsibilities and accountabilities until they get something or reward in return – or only when found out and exposed – and or pressures put on them!

·        People with short memory and records of what lucky breaks and turns they got in life – but not ready to reciprocate or give the same chances, breaks and opportunities to others.

·        People who protect and defend those not defendable – but do the opposite to those that deserve such protection and defence – especially in areas beyond their control but are now being highlighted to protect and preserve those faces not deserving as such.

·        Promote and encourage those not deserving such – and ignoring those that deserve such recognition and acknowledgement.

·        People get preferential or better treatment even for less entitled and deserving – but the opposite to others because ‘you just do not like them – or hate them and their guts too!

·        Ridiculing, insulting, belittling etc. especially peers and subordinates – and more in front of customers, clients and clients – and even subordinates of the person being insulted.

·        Copying, emulating and taking credit of works and projects etc of others – especially own subordinates.

·        Putting all the works and pressures so you can leave – or abandon hopes and dreams to come in.

·         Ignoring and marginalizing sincere and genuine advices and cautions – and instead targeting and marking the forthcoming person for raw and bad treatment – and putting him in great difficulties and troubles.

·        In other words ‘killing the messenger of bad news’!

·         Avoiding doing the necessary action to clear a person’s image and reputation

·         Red tape and bureaucracy – and causing unnecessary barriers and blockages.

·        The army general shooting at his own troops!

·        And many more!

My theory unless proven otherwise still holds that frustrated people in the offices may explain the increased volumes of accidents and fatalities – and the tear and wear of the national and domestic home fabric!

Take Care!

By:

Majid Al Suleimany

 

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Facing Realities In Life!

Before I start, you will forgive me in my usual style of quoting my own examples – or near cases – because first of all there is no better examples and comparisons to give – and more importantly you also do escape a lot of things  that Writers like us nowadays of have to be careful for – and some from least expected quarters!

Yesterday night a good fiend of mine an ex work peer told me the sad news that he was going abroad for medical treatment – because his cancer case had returned – and he thought he had beaten it after being treated first abroad a few years back. He said to me – forgive me if I have done anything against you – and in case I do not return!

I also want to quote this story to you as an opener.

1          The Post Office Man

There was a man who worked for the Post Office whose job it was to process all the mail that had illegible addresses. One day, a letter came addressed in a shaky handwriting to God. He thought he should open it to see what it was about.

The letter read:

Dear God,

I am an 83 year old widow, living on a very small pension. Yesterday someone stole my purse. It had $100.00 in it, which was all the money I had until my next pension check. Next Sunday is Christmas and I had invited two of my friends over for dinner.

Without that money, I have nothing to buy food with. I have no family to turn to and you are my only hope. Can you please help me?

Sincerely,

Edna

The postal worker was touched. He showed the letter to all the other workers. Each one dug into his or her wallet and ca! m e up with a few dollars. By the time he made the rounds, he had collected $96, which they put into an envelope and sent to the woman. The rest of the day, all the workers felt a warm glow thinking of Edna and the dinner she would be able to share with her friends.

Christmas came and went. A few days later, another letter came from the old lady to God. All the workers gathered around while the letter was opened.

It read:

Dear God,

How can I ever thank you enough for what you did for me? Because of your gift of love, I was able to fix a glorious dinner for my friends. We had a very nice day and I told my friends of your wonderful gift. By the way, there was $4.00 missing. I think it must have been those thieving bastards at the Post Office.

2          Et tu, Brute (And you too, Brutus) : Origin and Meaning

What does Et tu Brute mean?

These words are said to have been Julius Caesars last words after being assassinated on the Ides of March

This by a group of  Senators, including Marcus Brutus, someone he had considered a close friend.

A number of translations exist:-

“And you, Brutus?”

“You too, Brutus?”

“Even you Brutus?”

“And you, (too) Brutus?”

Today, this quotation is mostly used to refer to an act of ultimate betrayal, usually from a trusted person.

The source of this quote appears to be from William Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar: –

“Caesar: Doth not Brutus bootless kneel?

Casca: Speak, hands, for me! (They stab Caesar.)

Caesar: Et tu, Brute? Then fall, Caesar! (Dies.)

Cinna: Liberty! Freedom! Tyranny is dead!”

3          The Story of The Scorpion and The Frog

(From The Arab Short Stories and Tales – also from My Book Between Us Only!).

Have you heard this story?

A scorpion saw a frog.  So he told the frog – I have my relative who is sick on the other side of the river.  I want to go to visit him.  Can you carry me across?

The frog said – do you think I was born yesterday?  If I do that you will sting me on my back and I shall then die.  The scorpion said – How can I do that?  Did I not just now request you to carry me  across?  Do you take to be crazy or stupid?   The frog was convinced.  So it said to the scorpion – okay jump on my back!

As they were crossing the river, the scorpion said – see, you did not trust me – now do you believe me?  Did I sting you?  No – said the frog – I am sorry.  Ten minutes later half-way the river – the scorpion stung the frog.

‘Whatever are  you doing?  Do you know what you have just done?  I shall now die – and you will drown too.  Yes – replied the scorpion – I know!

But it is my nature – I just cannot change.

4          Human Species are The Worst Traitors.

It is acknowledged that Human beings are the worst in deception and in lying. The worst that will turn on their own. Next I am told are the monkeys (chimpanzees) as most near men – though other animals have been known to do it – like driving away the Old Lion King by younger lions to take over the colony!

Thus the old lion joke – I am too old to chase any preys now, I just sit under the tree and wait for leftovers – or weak animals that will stray to my path.

5           Our Religious Book (The Sunnah andThe Hadith) are Full of stories of deception and traitorship – and done against even our Great Prophets of God (Peace Be Upon Them)

6          Ghandi said it too!

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean – if a few drops of the ocean are dirty – the ocean does not become dirty!

Also – I  claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and retrace my steps ..Mahatma Ghandi.

You simply cannot change human nature!

The Realities of Life!

Did you know that life is a continuous Learner to us of all?. Sometimes one may tend to think that in death then that is the end of learning as it is, but is it really so? For us Believers when we do die (God Give us all long life and health – Amin!), we are made to lie on our right side facing Mecca. Now how many of us sleep that way in our daily lives? I do not know about you, but I surely do not do it that way!

I know you are asking yourself where is this leading to, after reading the topic? Well, Dear Reader, just give me some more space to explain myself, or those who may feel adversarial may comment – give him enough rope to hang himself!

I have never kidded myself that I have all friends out there, so I am practical and realistic too. There is this famous expression the  East Africans like to quote – That which bites your skin comes from the  same fabric that is being worn by you. Or as a relative likes to  satirically likes to comment – ‘Between Us Only’ whenever he has something (stupid!)  to say, especially when I am around to hear it! But then life will not be  complete and beautiful without all these kinds of peoples amongst our midst to  make our day more beautiful and make life worth living for!

They say in life there are two kinds of peoples. You  either fit in one or the other – you cannot sit on the fence and pretend you  belong to neither. As I had said in this column before, (Lady I think?)  Margaret Thatcher had said – Those who sit on the fence get pelted by  both sides – or words to that effect.

My Dear Reader, let me put it this way. You are very  thirsty. You go to an Office, and they are still after your business hoping  that you will still buy from them, then they ask you – What are you having? (Notice that as soon as you have bought the offers are not there anymore, or  have dwindled in frequencies?). Actually the sentence itself is a misnomer –  because it should mean nothing, and English is a strange language. So automatically  or by default you answer back – Can I have a glass of water please? The  water is delivered to you. You look at the glass, it is not full – so what is
your reaction? Either (you may think it all inside or even ask it loud too):-

(a)  The glass is half empty – what?

(b)  The glass is half full – thank you anyway!

Now, Dear Reader, which one are you?

That is the beauty of life, or the twists, turns and  ironies of life.

The same picture can be seen differently by different  peoples. Have you had these tests? They show you a picture and ask you what you  see? Depending on your sight and view of life, you either see a very pretty  young beautiful girl, or a very ugly old lady! They show you another picture  and ask you what you see now? And you either see a smiling cheerful man, or a  very sad looking man. I was once very embarrassed when I was asked to tell what  I saw, and there was a gasp in the class as to what my inclinations were, but I  will not bore you with details and keep the secret with me till I die anyway.  Point taken that from that date onwards I had never volunteered a quick answer  till others had their say first!

Anyway, coming back to the issue of the water in the  glass! Majority of peoples would normally say Thank you for the half full of  water glass. If they needed more water, they may well ask – can I have  another glass please?  These are the  positive out looking peoples, appreciative of kindness and some bread crumbs  thrown to their way, but there will be still some who will sarcastically remark  – how much did you pay for the water? Why are you giving mean a half empty  glass of water?

These are the kinds of peoples that are never appreciative  of kind gestures, kindness, good or mercy of any kind done to them. They are  always mean, ghastly dastardly cruel and always finding faults to a tune. Even  if others do not see it, for sure for them they will be able to! Whatever you  do for or to them is not enough – they never appreciate anything and are always  complaining and finding fault. Apportioning blame. No problem to make you the  ‘fall guy’ or the ‘scape goat’ and cause of all their misfortunes and troubles!  If you have a parent or boss of this kind, woe unto you Dear Friend!

They may remind you of incidences long past and best  left forgotten – but they will still do it. If you have wronged them, even  unintentionally and inadvertently, they will never let it go and never forgive  you. For the rest of their lives they will hound and pursue you, the slightest  mistake you make – they will jump on you with guns blazing. They never forgive  and forget, even if the shrewder ones may pretend to be forgiving and  forgetting, but it is still in the back of their minds.

These are very dangerous peoples, and they can easily  without any remorse or conscience destroy your life, career and future – and  kill and character assassinate you too – and put you in untold miseries,  hardships and difficulties.

These are peoples best to avoid and never annoy  and confronteven if you maybe right. They will make vicious  campaigns against you and try to harm and destroy you. It gives them great  sadistic immense great pleasure and happiness when they have succeeded in doing  so!

That is life for you, and the meaning of life – its  ups and downs.

Long time back when I was a kid there was this old  African lady, whom I respected and esteemed. I always greeted her nicely  whenever I had met her. She was staying by herself all alone, abandoned by her  family. I do not know if she was the lady who had complained in the past to her  relatives of being given ‘half empty glass of water’,

But with me she was always kind and treated me like her grandson. So this lady told me one day  – grandson, do you like chicken? I was wondering what to reply thinking  maybe she wanted to cook one for me? Seeing me surprised, she went on – If  you follow a chicken and see what it eats, you will never eat a chicken again  in your life, even if you like chicken! The message was clear – it is best  not to delve and look into details into things, and best leave some things best  as they are! All Alone!

An old fisherman friend to the family said of the same things – if you follow a crab or lobster – it is the same story!

My First  Column Article.

With my first article titled “More  Dangerous and Troubled Waters Ahead” that first appeared in this column on 23rd April 2003 (after the Iraq invasion)  – I had said – Quote – Now those of you  who know me well would recall that I am not by profession or even by design a  military analyst or military expert, or even a political expert one at that
unquote.

However, I had warned of the dangerous spiraling of events into more  dangers, troubles, and malaise and decadence post-Iraq invasion. So far what I  had said there and predicted has come to pass. Than how come it that this ‘own  true son of the land’ is still unemployed and gone unnoticed, I ask you?

In my jobs life, I have always believed  in respectable esteeming treatment of my Staff. My door has always been open to  them. Some even call me at home, raising ‘jealousy levels’ at home when it is  the ladies who will call. I listen to my Staff; I hear them too (didn’t you  know there is a difference between the two?). The Staff who stands up to me is  never judged as a ‘Personal danger or threat’ – I respect that. I hate  ‘Yes-Sir’ Staff. I also hate ‘Tell-Tales’ Staff in trying to please me.

You can  ask any of my Staff who worked with me, I am sure they will affirm to what I am  saying here. When I worked for one small firm, I had arranged for a  welcome-party-after-delivery-thing for one of my lady Staff.

The day I left the  place, she cried. This had never happened in that company’s plus twenty years  existence. I can never forget you – and now you are going…

When I had any issue with a Staff, I believed in calling in the  person and trash out the issue vis-à-vis (face to face), and no other way. The  last thing I would do is write that Staff an Official letter, and then discuss  with him. I would discuss with the Staff, and then put it in writing as ‘A  Gentleman’s Agreement’ of where we had reached! As a matter of record and for  future reference only, and for nothing else! Not for punishment; nor for  vengeance!

You know in all my life, I have been a  ‘Pusher’. I always and firmly believe in ‘Live and Let Live’. I am  always a great believer and always after a ‘win-win thing’ (remember my  last 2 weeks’ back article? Win Some; Lose Some!).

 I stand my grounds and  issues. I let no one scare me to make me change what I strongly believe in! Yet  if I make a mistake, I am not stubborn – I shall accept it and apologise!

Do you know what people really want? You turn the other cheek when they slap you – or poke fingers in your eyes – you do not raise your hand to protect yourself – even if they wiull take the eyes out!

Do not squarm – or complain! Who are you to have such audacity? It is this reason why everything is burning around us now!

Making Employees always happy was all I had wanted!

Frankly and  honestly, I am always against unfairness and  injustice, favouritism and unethical unprofessional behaviour. If some peoples think that is aggressiveness, then let them continue  to think so!. In the Management classes, I was always classified by the Lecturers ‘As the ‘Leader who cares, feels and stands with his Staff. 

Polite, kind and decent and tactful too’ Leadership style!. Besides one  should not judge a person by what others paint him from what he is not really  (by the cover of the book). Don’t you agree?

Thanks to the MBA course and  post-my company (after early retirement) experiences, I have now learnt  that the best way to transform changes and systems are from within, rather than  confront from outside. I am fully aware that some companies tend to prefer softer approach.

Criticisms can be healthy when only considered positively. In  life they say – You can never know how far out you can go, until you have  tried. Or birds can fly because they know they can! Did you hear about Murphy’s Law? That  things will only get worse, before they can get any better!

The  Africans have this * expression – sometimes just a kind word or compliment can  do wonders (* you can even draw that snake out of a rock, praise its  beautiful eyes, and ask ‘just to see it’). I think this is the reason that many  have misunderstood and misjudged me in my last jobs.

It is not that I do not  say NO too like the others – I too do it and am a Team Player – but it is the  question of how I say it – with care and feelings touch, and also to explain
why too!

I  never broke any rules or regulations, possibly bend them a bit in really acute  and taxing situations – letting humanity set in, with no distinction in any  way!

When  the chips are down and things are at its lowest ebb – it is not easy to face  someone with your problem, and that needs intervention, help and assistance.  You have to swallow your pride, esteem and honour.

Not for yourself, but for  those who depend on you to look after them! The Swahilis call it ‘Kuchonga  Uso’ which literally means ‘to carve up one’s face’ – that is how hard and difficult  it is to some – but than what other alternatives do they have?

Sometinmes the people that can hurt and pain you the most are those supposed to be close and near you – like your wife, family and children – friends and relatives – when they become (unexpectedly?) mean, selfish, self-centred and even evil against you! So what do you do? Sulk in – and go in deep distress and self destruction – or hold up your head high?

Eve did it to Adam – so what else is new?

Actually  I am indebted to the person who really ‘SAVED’ me is this esteemed paper –  offered me a Free Lance Column Writer job! And you know what – they say in the  Management spheres, if they can pay you whilst still doing your hobby and  interests, you have made it!

Certainly I do not feel so. Though the money is  not that much and always delayed, but at least I get paid for a hobby and interest in writing per  se! Besides, my salary (pension) just evaporates into the Bank’s Accounts as  soon as they receive it from that old good company of mine!

What else can I do,  I ask you? It is as if I am not getting any pension after working for more than  25 years of dedicated and loyal services to The Company – and to The Nation.

Ironically, sadly and tragically the same Bank that takes away all a Pensioner’s salary – is the same bank introducing a Pension Savings Scheme – but yet in an Arab and Muslim country – the same bank is ‘screwing up’ Pensioners by taking all a Pensioner (mine!) salary. The lessons of Tunisia, Egypt, Yemen, Bahrain, Syria is easily and conveniently forgotten – and all too soon too!

How despicable and pathetic one can get?

In my life, I have helped so many others in my prime before, but this is now all easily and  conveniently forgotten now! No one remembers, or wants to! I have personal  references in good men CEOs who will stand by me, because they have seen ‘The  real me’ and I in action too. One has become even a very close personal friend  too. When he says – I wish I had met you long time back, but I have still  time to change my Management styles. Surely that must mean something?

I had great opportunities to ‘get quick  rich thing’ – but in all my life I have NEVER taken anything that did  not belong to me. Nor do I intend to start now at this age either! Not everyone  can be an accursed and bad peoples.

Some of us are quite different.  Born different and in outlook, perspectives and in behaviours.

Being at the top does not mean being  always unscrupulous, evil, shrewd, mean, bad and ugly!

Or being shunned and  cursed at!

So next time you feel like being judgemental, criticizing and to be opinionated  – think of what I have just said!

E-Mails In Hindsight.

It is immaterial and of no consequence of the fact that I had already  opted out from a sinking ship by going for an Early Enhanced (Voluntary)  Retirement. It is immaterial of the fact that my pension should have taken care  of me and my family for that matter had I the smartness, foresight, vision and  brains not to try to be an entrepreneur and get myself involved into such  business at late stage of my life, into a Consultancy business of Human  Resources Development that was supposed to take off naturedly as being the talk  and craze in town to encourage development and entrepreneurship – especially  this sector – but instead ended with a big thud and crash.

It is immaterial and of no  consequence that the ‘big attractive contract’ that my Consultancy was bidding  for and had won would cause the fall and demise of the company for a lower  bidding, though successful to get it though. Even though they had promised us  ‘Take this now, we will give you more in the future’ – but none came!

It is immaterial and of no consequence also of the fact that the  International Consultant with us were paid three times (if not more) to the  same job scope and aspects that we too as a local fully Omani owned Consultancy  were to do – and yet for a large National Company too.

It is immaterial and of no consequences now either that at the interviews  there were younger Omani Candidates (some of them educationally even higher  educated than me.

But with little or minimal work experiences and exposures –  25 years in that big oil company in all Human Resources aspects and on top of 6  years as a HR Expert and Consultant. And they were ‘surprised’ to see ‘Uncle’  in the competition too!

Immaterial and of no consequence that too that there were Expatriates who  were retired and older than me too in the same place – but of course being from  different ethnic backgrounds (overseas) were opened doors to come in!

Whilst  for me the citizen of the land the doors were closed in front of my face –  including windows too that were barred shut from inside.

Immaterial too and of no consequence whatsoever that jobs supposed to be  reserved for the likes of us Nationals of the land, were given instead to  Expatriates based on personality basis (whom you know!), and that too  International Companies supposed to be of high repute and fame and their  Corporate and Social culture, values and missions cum vision to develop and  encourage local available talents, experts and competences.

Finally, it is immaterial and of no consequence either when ‘some of  those’ doing these jobs are not even experienced and professional peoples in  this line of business at all, but their being pretty things and of different  ethnicity (or other attractions) allows them in?

What do you do? Complain and write in your book and column? Nobody hears  or listens to you anymore now. Yet they brand you a colour you do not have nor  ever aim to have in your life. They stereotype you. Prototype you.

You are  trouble. Your name is not glory but just headache and trouble. You are to be  avoided, ignored and to be discarded.

Even from the filthy rich who had made it in life, from humble poor  levels and beginnings that you were in together, and shared the same corridors  in the Offices before at one time. From the big profile peoples whom you had  looked after and handled their cases more personally than official requirements  when they were just students with many sick and other family situation.

Would they remember you? Bet your life they have conveniently forgotten,  and just do not want anything coming from you. Just nothing!

What The Bosses Had  Said – Saying Goodbyes…

1          Majid is a very caring, kind and  spiritual person – a shame and pity that many do not give him the time and the
efforts to understand him better – American CEO

2          His coming here was like A Fresh Blow  of Wind – now that he has gone the air is more stale than ever before!” – British  GM

3          Some time back I met this old European  boss of mine who came to visit Oman.  He  is now working for a very powerful conglomerate and in a very high  position.  He nearly made me cry when he  said to me – I knew M the day I had left that you will not go far in your  career because of what you are as a person and in outlook.

But  I still have the highest  respects, esteem and like for you, in actual case the few I had always  remembered.  Because you are a real  professional ethical (and courageous) person who had the courage (audacity?) to  stand up to me and tell me what I was doing then was actually wrong – not like  the others who pretended to go along with me, but behind my back were saying  something different to those they ‘really trusted and had confidence with’.

4          I have a good boss friend of  mine.  He tells me this point blank ‘of  what is wrong with you’.

Stop caring and  feeling – it just does not pay (or at least increase your salary!).  Be rough – hit your heart strongly and just  say – I just do not care or feel anymore.  You said your bit – nobody cared to hear or listen, so move along.  Just take care of yourself and your direct  family members only.  The others and rest  are not important.

5          I had an expatriate  CEO once – he told me what? You are giving me just your hand to say goodbye? I cannot have that. Come here! And the poor man hugged me kissing me on both  cheeks. That I had to bend my face (he being short!) is another issue, and his  hands could not get around me (remember that diet!).

The same had happened to  me with a British lady boss, who I had thought not cared but she did the same wiping  her face. I gave her my handkerchief – it was clean anyway! She tells me she  still has it – for remembrance sake (do not worry, madam does not read my  articles!).

6          This  Indian Peer Manager says to me – Are you really leaving us now? I cannot  believe it! But I can appreciate your position – even I am looking for a  position outside – have not got it yet! But I will leave – as soon as I get a  good offer elsewhere (he left later on!).

He caught my hand  and kissed it in goodbye. I had never been so embarrassed in my life before –  till then!

7          Always  it had been those in the lower rungs that cared more as I left. It was the  Indian Tea Maker in Abu Dhabi – the old man cried! Who is going to say Thank  You now to me (as he served me tea – a thing that really upset my Emirati  National Boss. Do you want me to say thank you, every time you did something  for me? What is wrong with you – he screamed to me!

8          If the machines closed down, it triggered an Emergency code to The  USA CEO in Dubai. So he called The Production Manager – what is going on? He  gets the reply – all the Staff have switched off the machines – they are saying  Goodbyes to Majid – and escorting him to the gate! Some are visibly upset and  angry – some are sad! That includes the Non Omani Staff too. Yet I had come in  7 months back to take over The Human Resources Manager job from an Indian peer  – who had been in the position for the last 12 years – till the position was  Omanised by me.

One of the Indian  Technicians pleads – Why sir? Who will look after us now?

9    I always believe this. If there is unfairness and injustice – Allah God takes away blessings from anything. It can perhaps explain all the chaos and commotions – and why everything is burning now around us! And the reduced everyday incomes, profits and sustainibilities – and the increased chaos, confusions and corruptions – and so much sadness and unhappiness!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin Amen!

By Majid Al Suleimany