Attire (Garb) Versus Character! Between Us Only! Reply

Between Us Only!

 Attire (Garb) Versus Character!

I was reading this article on MSNBC about – Philadelphia Muslims in USA offering $20,000 reward to find criminals wearing Islamic garb. One of the two suspects wanted in a series of bank robberies is shown in a bank’s cameras as entering a Sovereign Bank in Philadelphia dressed as such. They said that they have zero tolerance for the tactic – and are offering a $20,000 reward to find the criminals cloaking their identities beneath Islamic women’s clothing – and saying that the crooks are feeding mistrust of their faith. 

Whatever happened to the mask? – Imam Asim Abdul-Rashid of the Masjid of the Delaware Valley said, referring to ski masks often seen worn by bank robbers. Officials say perpetrators have worn Muslim garb in five Philadelphia bank robberies since December 2011. These types of bizarre incidents feed into that cottage industry of Muslim bashers – Ibrahim Hooper – spokesman for the National Council on American-Islamic Relations, told They demonize Islam and the American Muslims. They also make it difficult for Muslim women to get service in banks – Hooper said.

Sometime back I was also watching this video of some European ladies demonstrating in the streets in skimpy-see-through-dresses – but wearing a hijab – as their way of demonstrating against the hijab (burkah) wearing of Muslim women in Europe.

Honestly speaking, I do hate  politics – because I believe in Live and Let Live and being tolerant and patient to others – because at the bottom line of things we are all human beings from the same Adam and Eve – and I have still yet to see anyone come out with blue blood for me to start to change my views, outlooks and perceptions per se! I only hope that human beings can learn to live in peace, harmony, understanding, tolerance and love – and we need to learn from history – and the mistakes of the past and the gross errors of judgement and decisions in life!


This news that I read above brought me to my topic of today. This is the question that I want to pose for today – forgetting the above news for a moment – but on an individual level. Does attire (garb) define one’s character – or is it based more on one own personal character, behaviour, traits and attitudes? Let me explain what I mean here.



If you see a person wearing what we call in Oman as the white turban and dress attire in a man – do you think that you are now meeting a pious religious observing person by behaviour, traits and all the works? That is a person of good behaviour, character, traits and personality? Does the attire make the person – or it is far more than that – and is more related and correlated to what is really inside the person – the good coming out in winning against the bad and evil within! Or is it just like a mask to cover one’s own fears inhibitions, bias, prejudices  – and worries – and come out in pretentious, acting and imaginary roles – than in reality and the truth within us? 

Understandably it is unfair, unethical and completely wrong to judge and generalize by comparing one and or a few to the majority. There are bad eggs (fish) in each basket – though if you draw two bad fish consequentially than one can be excused to include that the whole basket is bad!

Frankly in life I have been let down badly to think that I am dealing with a sincere, honest, principled, ethical and genuine person – only to find that I was very much mistaken in my outlook, focus and judgement. There are so many cases that have been narrated in these columns and in my books too – not to bore you with more sordid details!

 In actual fact, many of my stories are around these themes – things start off moderately well – there is a start of a few signs of disappointments and betrayals – followed by some more – still remain patient and hopeful – then a straw that broke the camel’s back – and then all hell let loose – follow-ups, revenge and vendettas – and everything is now lost and destroyed.

Some time back – a well meaning good friend was asking me – You as the Human Resources professional don’t you need to take in your own advice in dealing with certain people that you will interact and interface in life – and adjust accordingly? A few days back I met him again – and asked him – Are you still working in the same place? He retorted – No I quit! He went on – I admire you – how you could have taken all these crap from that guy?


I wanted to remind him of what he had asked me – but at the last minute decided not to! Yes – yet the person in question was thought by all of us as being religious and pious – but actually and in reality had the most bad, dirty, jealous and envious heart that you ever saw in one in life! God forgive us in passing sentence and in judgement – and in generalising – Amin!

 Yet in life I have met characters in life that you would actually want to avoid to meet – in reality by just their wear, appearances and outlooks – but they can really amaze you how good they can be if put to the real test – and how they can come forward to help and assist you – at the most unexpected and inopportune time! His only sandwich? He will want to share with you – or even give it all to you!

 In summary – please do not be deceived by the dress (attire, garb) – but what is really inside that person!

 Take Care!

 By: –

 Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.


Need For Tolerance! Between Us Only! Reply

Between Us Only!

Need For Tolerance!

 Letting The Genie Out Of The Bottle!

Or Opening A Can Of Worms!

I was really aghast and shocked to the extreme to watch this Norwegian Mass Killer Anders Breivik pleading as ‘not guilty’ to his wanton crimes of slaughter of 77 innocent people – many of them at the prime of their lives – and having the audacity to come in the court with a Nazi extreme right salute – and yet still asking to be released.


 He also ‘does not recognise the court – the impudence and the audacity! And still more that his dastardly crimes plans were for far more murders than he had achieved – and that if released ‘he would do it all over again – and better this time even’! Yet he could show tears only because his manifesto was being read to the court – but not even a tear shed for the images of the young men and women slaughtered by him and images shown live!

 I do not know what the world is coming to by this killer being given all these breaks and opportunities to spread his venom and hatred to the rest of the world – and why even give him live coverage – because that is a sure way of encouraging others and copy cats actions too! I for sure am not in favour of quick and fast justice without finding why these things have been done – and even if admitted willingly that he has done it.

 In such other places he would hang from the highest crane – or his head chopped off for all the public to see and left out for show for some time – and as a lesson to others! I do not know who is right or wrong in such swift acts of justice! But surely going this route is really stretching it too far – and the mind really boggles and is confused of what is really going on here!

 And what is the real purpose and intention? Civilized open transparent approaches? I beg to differ strongly here! I was just wondering aloud if it was done by the usual culprits would it be like this – and that even Al Jazeera Television will interrupt normal programming to show us live pictures of these court cases going on now?

 In my mind,  I was wondering if we have people amongst our guests and visitors – invited guests – that maybe secretly cheering him on at their homes – away from host home prying and intrusive eyes? You will excuse me for raising this protruding blatant intrusive questioning here – because my mind is really troubled and worried by things I have seen in reality and in action in my dealings in the work fronts, relationships and interfaces. If you remember my last week article of Polarisation Dilemma – when your ex foreign boss boasts ‘of the bad things he did to Arabs’ in Palestine – and here too trying to ‘divide and rule’ amongst Omanis!

 Some fans even ventured to tell me that these things are really happening still. As a Human Resources Professional I have been involved in circulating reading material to foreign staff being assigned to other countries – where they are cautioned that there the office assistant – and even the housemaid or gardener are there ‘to tap and record’ what the invited guests are saying about the nationals and the country.

 I am for sure against such extremes – because my late maternal grandmother would tell us – Let them talk as much and as long as they wish – and at night they will go to sleep anyway – and nothing will have changed much! Of course poor granny was talking about our own people gossiping and idle talk – because she did not have the ‘luck, privilege and advantage’ to work with the few expatriates ‘that are anti-local and have abused the usual welcome, acceptance and respect – and biting the hand that feeds them’!

 But then if we have our own very people discriminating amongst ourselves – and feeling they have more rights than others – where are we headed –  if not more dangers, crisis and catastrophe ahead?

 The point I want to make in bringing in this Breivik murderer is the Islamophobia and Extremism that is being preached by certain few – especially in The Western countries – and isolated pockets elsewhere in the world! Now even in quarters that we used to consider as our ever true friends and supporters. An Arab leader had said – The friends of today can change to be our enemies of tomorrow – and the enemies of yesterday to be our friends of today.  


Tell that to the Northern (Arab associated) Sudanese living in the South – and vice versa with the African from the South living in the North – when the North now declares the South –as the enemy’! Yet a few years ago were the very same country even!

People are simply killing each other because of dirty slimy oil – and there is no humanity left – even in what was one country before – like in Sudan! See war images here! Danger of a full scale war – and other partied drawn in too! When will people ever learn??

 Nobody knows what the future will bring – but hatreds, fundamentalism, animosities, extremism – both sides – are double edged swords that cut both sides – as clearly evidenced by this Breivik case too. Hopefully humankind will learn from this case – that is all one can pray and hope for – Amin Amen!

 Take Care!

 By: –

 Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.