Hurtful, Cruel, Mean and Painful Words! Reply

Hurtful, Cruel, Mean and Painful Words!

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Article From The Archives – Between Us Only! The Oman Daily Observer!

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The worst part of all these is being told those words by supposed to be near you – like a Family Relative or Friend! Like this one from such a person – When I was moving out from Qorum Heights – What are you going to do with your books? Burn them? Imagine telling that to an Author & Writer – and who loves his book and with a passion for writing!

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There is nothing wrong in expressing yourself, so long as it is focused, objective and constructive – rather than being deadly, abusive and destructive. Or using foul (4 letter words!), ugly, acrimonious and ‘venom hatred filled’ punches and counter-punches. When some families fight, the whole street would know!

So it seemed a marriage created and with final touches from the good heaven itself, until that is the wife decided to walk away from that marriage and asked for her divorce saying – “I hate that man! I simply cannot stand the sight of him; he is all artificial and not real. No words of exchange in 12 years? How is it to be possible, natural and possible”?

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There is no married life without bliss, quarrels and fights. It is not only in such relationships, but also between friends, family and relatives for that matter too. Sometimes even high up the pedestals between communities and nations too. It may take years and years of toil, hardship. Forbearance and creation to build very solid and formidable relationships – but only a few seconds in hurtful, vengeful and painful words to destroy that.

Most important is – do not let your brain tell your mouth what to speak, and then you speak it! Once said it cannot be taken back. Do you know that the most hurtful and painful things one can say against another are between peoples who are supposed to be very near and close to you? Think for a moment – who knows you best? Isn’t that your own spouse, best friend or relative – the closer the more worse? Outsiders don’t know you that close. Outside peoples always see an angel and nice things only in you – ‘butter would not melt in your mouth type’! Only those close or near you know you better, for the real and mantle you! Heard the phrase – familiarity breeds contempt?

One person it is said had asked our Great Prophet (PBUH) – Oh Great Prophet, what should I do to have peoples respect and esteem me a lot? He was told – do not ask anything (favours) from anyone! Do you notice what is the difference between us and God (whichever denomination). The more you ask from man, the more you lose respect, like and esteem. With God it is different, the more you ask of God – the more He likes it that man is asking from Him. True too, isn’t it dear Reader?

When I was a younger man, I know of one couple that was married for more than 12 years. There was not even one word said in anger fury or disappointment between them. The man admitted he was very happy with his wife, the wife with her husband. So it seemed a marriage created and with final touches from the good heaven itself, until that is the wife decided to walk away from that marriage and asked for her divorce saying – “I hate that man! I simply cannot stand the sight of him; he is all artificial and not real. No words of exchange in 12 years? How is it to be natural and possible”. It seemed she needed to express herself a bit now and then, but was denied the chance and opportunity by the ‘hen pecked doting’ husband!

There is nothing wrong in expressing yourself, so long as it is focused, objective and constructive – rather than being deadly, abusive and destructive. Or using foul (4 letter words!), ugly, acrimonious and ‘venom hatred filled’ punches and counter-punches. When some families fight, the whole street would know!

Sometimes when things get out of control, they end up in divorce. On the subject, I asked a Muslim Scholar friend of mine. I said – K, please tell me this, or clarify it for me! Why is it in our Religion that the man can divorce his wife that easily, but for the wife she has to request to be divorced, and the husband has to agree.

If he does not agree, than there have to be others to be involved. But none are required if he decided Instead?). The good man replied – because women are known for their temperaments, their ups and downs (related to their genes and body). The good man then asked me – don’t you think, if they were allowed to do so, that most men would have been divorced, some several times too? I could not find any reason to argue with him. Besides, you certainly do not argue these delicate sensitive things in Religion.

With the latest technologies and innovation, it is not only speaking but even writings too. Simply do not answer an E-Mail when you are angry and furious, however infuriating, disappointing and annoying one is received by you from anyone, especially job related at work. E-Mails are simply like spoken words, once you have spoken them, it is too late to take them back. They have gone to the ears of that other person!

Nowadays if I am annoyed by an E-Mail, I take time to cool down. If I must reply, I reply it – first I make SURE that I will not send it. I may type my angry retort, and then be SURE to delete it!. Or I write my response in another place, and then destroy that paper. Try it – actually it will make you relieved, and give you time for a more reasoned approach! The old days of being quick to the button retorts had put me in a lot of troubles – it is best avoided. Do not forget and can be said against you – you are a Professional, supposed to serve and to know better too!.

So next time you fight with your hubby, or he has annoyed you, do not let what you really think of him go into your head, and tell him exactly what you think of him. That goes to you too man to wife, or to friend, or anyone else for that matter. Can you believe that these kind of words have been heard to be uttered between peoples supposed to be one, let alone between enemies or adversaries (compiled from various sources!):-

• Sometimes you behave like a prostitute, the way you are after money (things)!
• I have always suspected you to be a gay (homosexual, lesbian, crook, thief etc) person!
• I saw your ex fiancée (supposed to get married to) today with his new find, how long before he dumps her like he did to you?
• From day one, you had never been committed to this marriage (or had ever liked me).
• I should have NEVER married you or even let our paths cross.
• I wish I was dead, so I was free from you.
• My father is right, he knew you to be what you really are, the good man.
• Why did I ever get married to such a poor loafer like you?
• You are very stingy and misery with our family, but not with your Mother etc..
• Everyone is invited to the party but not you. Nobody likes even to see your ugly face now.
• You never take me out till I force you, and that has to be after a BIG fight too.
• Act and behave like a real he-man (not like a lady).
• What is the difference between you and your Mother – you are both cheap easy going stuff – like Mother like daughter.
• Like Father Like son, you are both number one crooks and not to be trusted.
• You are a great actress, as if butter will not melt on your mouth.
• If I had married XYZ, where would I be today!
• Your mother (or father, brother, sister etc) again wants favours from me!
• Your drunkard alcoholic uncle (or whatever) took some more money from me today to buy more drinks, drugs etc. He wanted 20 Rials, I gave him 5 only.
• The children are crazy etc. because they take it from you and your family side.
• Your parents (or children) think you are an angel, they do not know about ….. (Secret only you two know)!
• There again your Freeloader relative has come to the house uninvited!
• Who invited them for dinner, they just drop in like it is a Free Soup Serving Place!
• Next time your relatives break (spoil) anything, I shall ask them to pay!
• No, I have a headache (just do not want or feel like it).
• Worse still – I shall find it outside, if you keep saying No!
• Your mouth (or body) smells awful.
• I don’t have any money (why should I help you?)
• Your family is coming for dinner, you better take them out (or order) dinner. I am not cooking anything for them, they always find faults in my cooking (never appreciate).
• My first (wife or husband) was a real person (man), not like you …!
• Worse still – I do not like the way you are doing this to me …! (It does give a connotation of comparing!)
• One of these days I shall pack my bags and just disappear (or something else that you will do)!
• Why don’t you drop dead, so at least there is peace in the house.
• Go and -the F word – yourself.
• For heavens sake do not involve the children in this!
• I feel like leaving this marriage now for good, I am really tired – cannot take this anymore!
• So many other hurtful, painful words once said cannot be withdrawn! Sow so shall you reap, it has been said so many times – but who listens? Or what goes around, comes around – for that matter too!

So next time you have a fight, do not let that evilness and ugliness that is within us all tell you or dictate you what to say. Or don’t open your mouth and say what you are thinking – for Heavens sake! Once said it cannot be taken back or be withdrawn. The Americans and Brits say count to 10 first. I say count to 20 at least!

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The Secret Marriage! Or The New Wife! Reply

The Secret Marriage!

THE NEW WIFE!

Or

The Marriage In Secret!

Seems like it is A TRUE STORY!!!

He was reading this newspaper, when this angelic voice he used to remember called him up.

Only angels do not cry on the phone. It was the lady she knew calling him to tell him that after a rancorous and bitter feud, her husband had declared that he was divorcing her and that she was no longer his wife. She cried to him – what can I do? To be divorced at this age? And the children too, especially the one who was very close to the father. She stopped eating, and her grades in school were falling down badly. She had suddenly developed a nasty and mean streak and a very bad and furious temper too. To make it worse, the poor girl was blaming the Mother for the break up. You never paid attention or care to dad, most of the time he would be alone in the TV room watching news and documentaries, whilst the rest of us looked at the soap operas, and without a care or feeling for him.

When he returned from Office, only I ran to say hello to him and welcome him home, the rest of you were glued to the so-called-live-shows showing men and women living together in quarters, and how they behaved to each other. Sad too that it were all home peoples and the show was being shown live to millions in the region. If a curt response to his greeting as he entered the hose being made by the rest of you, then he was lucky. It was always the housemaid who made the food for him, and made it warm when he came in. Including that tea he usually liked after his meals.

Mum, the girl added, even if you were making tea, you never asked him if he wanted some too, and when he asked for some, you told the house maid to do it for him, why not you. The worst part was when we came to the house with ordered food from outside, and not only we did not ask him what he wanted, but ate in front of him the food as if he did not exist. It was only him and the housemaid who ate the home cooked food, whilst the rest of us plunged ourselves in different dishes day by day ordered outside, and when he asked – what about me? What did you reply?

All that food in the house and you want to order outside too? Who will eat the cooked food then (you of course and your house maid)? Was not that sending him away into another woman’s arms (and hugs!), by what you did to him, Mummy? Eh, Mummy? Child – shut up – the mother reprimanded. Still that was no excuse for him to go off and marry that young lass, just the age of his eldest daughter.

Is he not ashamed of himself? What does he think he is doing? Has he suddenly become that young and virile again for new adventures? Mum, the girl protested, that is my dad you are talking about, and you are embarrassing us. See the Mother said, there was no excuse for what he did, and he marrying in secret. It was only I was looking for the copy of the car registration, and I found the car closet closed. When I took his car keys and opened it, I got the biggest shock of my life to see the marriage certificate (of his marriage in secret to the young lass) and can you believe your uncle was a witness, and he said nothing. And all these things happened six months ago?

I had seen the secret wedded wife, and she looked pregnant and with a wedding finger in her hand. When I asked her who she got married to, now I understand now how she had changed all the colours of the rainbow – just replying Aunty you would not recognize him, even if I told you who he was! And calling me Aunty too – the cheek and audacity of it all.

The young wedded in secret girl recalled what his father from the Interior had told her – Daughter, you are going to start a new job now in the city after your graduation from the University. You seem too much excited about your new boss, and you say that he is the best gentleman you have ever met, nice and friendly and very helpful. Daughter, you worry me – dad says. I think you are getting infatuated with this new boss of yours. Come on – the daughter protested – be serious.

He is just your age, what do you take me for? Anyway daughter, the father cuts in, if he is interested in you and you in him, then I give my blessings to wed in secret, it is damage control and better this way, then to have illicit and not legal affairs with him. All I ask is to see the official wedding certificate, which is all I ask. The dowry is not important, nor are the celebrations, and the fewer peoples know about it, the better for all.

It was too months ago before the divorce, when ‘the friend and confidante’ had told her that ‘hubby had married in secret’ and the lass was a village girl working in his place, and that is the reason he had left the place, because wife and hubby working in one place was not on, especially he who was supposed to monitor the rules, regulations and policies of the place.

It had started with simple small SMS messages and the last one before things ‘got hot’ was she said – Sir, I am looking forward to work under you. You are the best boss in the world, a First Class gentleman and I am very happy to have met and known you. So he teased her back. What do you mean working under me? She laughs out loud! A tease SMS comes – If you see everything red around you – Do Not Be Scare! You are in My Heart! His time now to laugh aloud! He teases her! She teases him back! Teases became serious stuff. Soon they were meeting in secret, and he telling her how unhappy he was with ‘my wife and life’.

Then he suddenly went cold. He felt guilty that he was cheating on his wife and family, though all he did was just a few small pecks and holding hands. That cannot be cheating, the voice inside him said, just holding hands – be serious man! The girl had cried, why are turning away from me, you are breaking my hurt. What have I done wrong, please tell me so I can correct myself, and please tell me. PLEASE.

You are too young to understand. A few years from now you will be tired of ‘this fancy toy’ and look for something better to toy around with. No, she protested, I do not care. I love you (that is it, the word and others to follow soon came out. I love you. I am ready to be yours for ever, but please keep it secret between us two only. A week later the marriage took place. Far months later, the divorce also took place.

The first wife insisted either her or me – you cannot have it both ways. You cannot have your cake, and eat it too. You must choose between us. Remember your children? Yes, he replied, but she is 6 months pregnant already, and with my child.!How do you know it is your child? From what I heard – she moves around! You stupid man! Can you still do it? I do not think. That was the last straw. The straw that broke the camel’s back.

The words that came out he never thought he will ever say, but he uttered them just the same.

He had made his choice, even if it was forced on him!

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All Under One Platform! Reply

Between Us Only!

All Under One Platform!

First Published April 13 2010

Several years ago, I remember well this incident when I was still working in one neighbouring country.

The family accommodation that I was provided with had satellite facilities that were provided to Staff at unbelievable special prices as a Special Package to those Oil Company Staff only. I took all the available packages to occupy my mind and thoughts as originally I was there alone in this very big apartment – until my son had joined me later on!

One day I had a problem with both two satellite channels receivers. As one provider technician had come in, I asked him if he could look in into the other satellite receiver as well? His reply was short and curt – I come from this other company – and cannot even touch that receiver – let alone look into it and repair it. The other technician said the very same thing – when the opposite channel was not working properly!

Now both these two channels are working under one joint name and platform, and they have been able to give all their channels services at almost 70% of the original charged price if you were to take them separately – as in the past – and still they are making a profit to be able to provide all these services of channels all under one platform – or one roof! Where once they were bitter feuds and competition, they now operate as one – all under one platform – as their new drive and motto!

The question to ask oneself is this. Why did they do it? It was out of necessity more to survive and stay in the market – from other channels that were providing equally good programmes to the public for free. These ones were surviving more because of advertisements – and making families feel safe and secure that even inadvertently and or by chance any child below 18 had pressed the buttons for these channels – there was nothing scary or to worry about because they cut all the X-rated parts – and the unsightly and forbidden parts too.

The ideas were starting to catch on – and people had already started thinking why they should pay for paying channels – when you can get almost the same films and programmes for free – and more decently delivered too! To survive they had come up with new ideas and solutions – fast and rapidly too!

Which brings me to the point I want to make today here – and especially this is addressed to The Property Developers in our country – and can even be applicable to others too were there are stiff and feuding competition for survival – and for markets and clients. Though I did take Marketing in my studies, it was just one module – but I am really convinced and confident that the idea merits further consideration and review – especially in this sector that is suffering greatly from markets, clients and customers confidence and trust. And lack of commitment and investment opportunities, confidence and trust.

Just imagine this. They joining forces and to be able to operate under one roof – and provide all the services, choices and options under one umbrella and one platform. You want a villa in town? Same time you want a villa in the suburbs – or country villa? And a good office location too? Then why go to three or more places? Go to one place only! Within one hat, umbrella and centre, they will be able to serve all your needs and requirements – all under one roof and one platform.

The beauty of this idea is also this. It will open a venue for the Top Performers Executives and Senior Managers to prove their mantle, capabilities and performance – and to compete for the few positions in the new joint place. A State Regulatory Board will also need to be established at the same time – in line like the Telecommunications one – and The Water and Electricity one – to choose the best minds, brains, entrepreneurship, dynamism, pragmatism, and high performers and deliverers! It will also get rid of elements that should have been removed out long time ago – but are simply being protected by personalities and friendships – and lesser to do with the real realities and right practices, approaches and performances.

It will also remove all those things going on now that are not professional, not ethical, not principled, not sincere and not genuine – and also ensuring timely payments to staff, customers and clients. It will also remove all the current practices that are really against the country’s laws, regulations, procedures and systems – and it will open a wider window of choice, opportunity and investment – and create market stability, trust and confidence.

It is a matter of fact that there are some customers and clients that may like certain choices in certain locations – but are not too sure of The Operators of those locations. Similarly there are those with Hobson’s choice of locations – simply because they have more trust and confidence with these Developers – but not too keen on the locations themselves.

Having worked in these sectors and seeing all that is going on there, I personally recommend the idea strongly to our Leadership to think about – and to regulate the market with the best practices – and a window of opportunity for real employment opportunities for Omanis especially – and to support and encourage much needed the right and correct tourism and investment opportunities in the country.

Take Care!

By: –

Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

First Published April 13 2010

   

   

  

The Case In Defence of Majid Al Suleimany! Reply

The Case In Defence of Majid Al Suleimany!

The End of The Road! Stark Choices!

The Last Final Call!

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MMDC The Office Gadget Video!

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The Last Call to Our Leadership from The English more Speaking Omani Ethnicity Born Outside .. even if Parents Grandparents were born in Interior Omani of same stock Original Ethnicity!

In 1974 I rented my Villa in Qorum Heights for OMR 550 per month year in advance! Today in 2018 I cannot get even 400 monthly!

Due to the extreme difficult times people are losing their not only rights and privileges but also their few properties and belongings .. making them poorer and sicker with even more social domestic issues and problems.

When people become afraid and go for silence it is like an underground deep heat cinder fire burning intensely to explode at the most inopportune time and or inadvertently.

For 16 years I have been saying the very same things in my books and in my columns.

After this I will go on Silent Mode .. which is the weakest of the three forms of Worship and Imaan!

With sincere apologies!

Loyal Faithful Citizen!

Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

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An Open Letter To The Omani Youth! From The Archives! Reply

 Dear All & After Compliments;

February 28th 2011 – The Original Post!

        

 

You will forgive me in reminding you a bit about myself but for those who know me well will vouch for me that I have always stood up to face my Management Teams in whichever company that I had worked for as a Human Resources Professional, Consultant, Expert and Advisor to push for Omanisation, Omani Recruitment and for Training and Development. I had never bothered that it may cause permanent dent to my career and future prospects – because I believed it in my blood that it was the right, principled and decent thing to do so always!

Some of the students that I have looked after some of them are today Their Excellencies, some in The Royal Family and many as CEOs, Directors and Board Members of many companies in Oman – and even outside Oman. My records speak for themselves. You are most free to check around and ascertain for yourselves – if need be.

Last two weeks I wrote the following articles with you most in my mind. Time To Hear and Dealing With Situations In Life. You can find both these articles in my website http://www.majidall.com and http://www.majidwrite.com

A long time ago when I was a boy of eight years old I wanted to play with a blade. My late grandfather was dead set against me being given the blade – though I threw in tantrums and emotions to get it. In the end he relented – saying to my late Mother – give him the blade! I was soon bleeding and had to be medically treated. The point is in being obstinate and wanting to play with things that are harmful to me – but not listening to elderly advice and caution being given to me. In the end the person who suffered most is me!

There is a similar expression in Arabic for children who want to play with matches – you get your hands burnt as a result of your not listening to advice being given to you. Another one is throwing a stone at a beehive – and they will come out to sting you. It is you who brought out the bees – they were quietly doing their works and livelihood in their beehive – till you provoked them!

I will also tell you this from my personal experiences and exposures which I will share with you. To make changes you yourself must be part and parcel of the change process – that is with you inside it – not as you fighting it from the outside. I found this the hard way in life. When I became part of the team and being supportive – I got faster and more rapid progress than confronting it and fighting it from outside.

The reason is simple. You become part of The Team and you are acceptable and recognised – and people open up to listen and hear you. This took me a long time to get to understand – and I wished I had done it earlier in order to be more useful to the cause that I was after!

When you fight the cause from outside you naturally bring resistance to change – as we all know change is not easy and there is a natural resistance to change. We all know this very clearly – and even our conscious and sub conscious mind speaks to us in the same voice and tone. That small thin voice inside wanting to speak to you – and telling you that though you are very frustrated and angry – but what you are doing is not right, correct or ethical – or professional – simply and smugly put.

I am not going to bring our Omani ways, values, heritage traditions and customs in doing things – because we all know this deep within ourselves. That is the Family sit together as one to discuss things as one Family – united under One Flag, One Nation, One His Majesty. I invite you to read my article here too under my website above or here – http://knowledgeoman.com/en/?p=165 – All Under One Flag. Visit also Forty Years On under the same site!

My pleas and requests to you that we should always remember that we have enemies both from within and outside who want desperately to cause harm, disaster and havoc to us – because they cannot be like us or simply hate us to see the progress, development and our peace, security and stability.

We have a very good thing here in our country – Allah God Be Blessed. We should come together to keep it – nurture it – let it grow and prosper – protect and defend it. We should not put sand in our food – then we will not be able to eat it – or if you spit on it – or do bad things to it – then how can you eat it yourself? Ask yourself this critical and fundamental question – please!

I beg of you to cool down and let things take its natural cause. The Leadership under His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – Allah Give him long life and health – Amin – is already listening and hearing you – and changes have already started to be formulated and to be implemented. There are some things that in your levels you will not be able to know and appreciate why maybe taking a longer time or need more efforts to implement. Only The Leadership and The Decision Makers will know – and not to our levels – some being very sensitive, critical and confidential – if not State Secrets themselves.

Make your own right decisions and follow your conscience. Most importantly do not harm others – or cause yourself to be in harm’s way. Or destroy others’ properties – because you would not want others to do the same towards you. A Muslim brother is one who wants others to have the same best things he wants for himself.

I know these things I came to know the hard way when I came to know later why some things took longer to implement – and it is not my intention to bore you with details – or to brag or and blow my own trumpet.

If you remember what both Gandhi and Nelson Mandela have said – when they wanted changes in a peaceful way they got all they wanted. India became Independent – despite years of fighting. So were the unexpected results of end of Apartheid in South Africa – the point is success came more faster and more rapid after doing it all more peacefully – whilst failed miserably when force was used before!

Let us go back to our Omani ways and to our Religion – and our Islamic ways of doing things and in solving our issues and the difficulties and complexities between us – Amin.

May Allah Protect and Preserve our beloved Nation of Oman – Amin. And our His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – May Allah Give him long life and health – Amin

Let us hope and pray for wisdom, pragmatism, tact and diplomacy – Amin

 Take Care!

 By Majid Al Suleimany

 February 28, 2011

Tags: An Open Letter To The Omani Youth.

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Allah SWT My Lord God Al Mighty – I am Crying Out To You! Reply

  

  

Allah SWT My Lord God Al Mighty I am Crying Out To You!

My Heart is breaking into pieces in this Holy Month of Ramadhan Fasting!

Allah SWT I am crying out to you for help and assistance to take me out of this situation I am now in last 18 months. No Civil Status!

I have even gone out to beg for money – even if I know the Upper Hand is better. But I have No Money .. I am a Retired Pensioner struggling to make ends meet and Allah is My Witness.

Kuchonga Uso! Carving Your Face!

Be Afraid of Allah SWT – especially in this Holy Month of Fasting in Ramadhan! Be afraid of The Punishment on Earth – in your grave – in front of Allah SWT God Almighty on The Day of Reckoning – and Eternal Hell Fire for DHULOOM INJUSTICES you have done on Those Poor and Without.

BE VERY MUCH AFRAID!!

This is a Swahili saying meaning ‘Carving Your Face!’ It means asking for Help from Others! I have been doing that this whole week! As I have no money being a Retired Pensioner myself with no other money or savings – as I was always a honest person and never took even a Baizas not my own!

I felt great pain just now starting my Yukon GMC MW 2356 and now 13 months since Mulkiya Vehicle Registration had expired and The ROP are refusing to renew it because of an Old Court case 16 years since my Consultancy went bankrupted by doing a National Prestigious Project where we received only 33% what was paid to an International Consultant.

We recruited 6 Omanis – 3 we were told we would be compensated their salaries. For more than 2 years till the Consultancy collapsed we did not receive even one Baizas from The Authorities – and now only even bad things happening to my own life instead!

It really makes a mockery of Self-Employment & SMEs support and in Justice in favour always of the Minority and those with money power richness and Wastah against The Poor Omani Citizen Pensioner and Retiree.

See also

https://majidall.com/…/still-looking-for-my-haqq-rights-an…/

https://majidall.com/…/looking-for-financial-help-assistan…/

https://majidall.com/…/please-help-me-your-majesty-a-perso…/

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Be Merciful for Allah SWT to be Merciful to You!

“He who does not show mercy shall see no mercy (from his Lord).”
“Allah is not merciful to him who is not merciful to men.” The Holy Quran 2.278

Whosoever removes a worldly grief from a Believer, Allah will remove from him one of the griefs of the Day of Judgment. Whosoever alleviates [the lot of] a needy person, Allah will alleviate [his lot] in this world and the next. Whosoever shields a Muslim, Allah will shield him in this world and the next. Allah will aid a slave [of His] so long as the slave aids his brother.

“The best charity is that which is practiced by a wealthy person. And start giving first to your dependents.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari] Volume 2, Book 24, Number 507

Narrated Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him):

The Prophet (peace & blessings of Allah be upon him) said“The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a Mujahid (warrior) who fights for Allah’s Cause, or like him who performs prayers all the night and fasts all the day.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari] Volume 7, Book 64, Number 265

Pickthall
Establish worship, and pay the poor-due; and whatever of good ye send before (you) for your souls, ye will find it with Allah. Lo! Allah is Seer of what ye do. (2:110)

Sahih International
Righteousness is not that you turn your faces toward the east or the west, but [true] righteousness is [in] one who believes in Allah , the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, and the Prophets and gives wealth, in spite of love for it, to relatives, orphans, the needy, the traveler, those who ask [for help], and for freeing slaves; [and who] establishes prayer and gives Zakah; [those who] fulfill their promise when they promise; and [those who] are patient in poverty and hardship and during battle. Those are the ones who have been true, and it is those who are the righteous. (2:177)

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The likeness of those who spend their wealth in Allah’s way is as the likeness of a grain which groweth seven ears, in every ear a hundred grains. Allah giveth increase manifold to whom He will. Allah is All-Embracing, All-Knowing. Those who spend their wealth in the Cause of Allah, and do not follow up their gifts with reminders of their generosity or with injury, their reward is with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. A kind word with forgiveness is better than almsgiving followed by injury. Allah is Absolute, Clement. O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury as does one who spends his wealth [only] to be seen by the people and does not believe in Allah and the Last Day…. (2:261-264, part)

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Lo! those who believe and do good works and establish worship and pay the poor-due, their reward is with their Lord and there shall no fear come upon them neither shall they grieve. (2:277)

Another one of the favourite hadiths because it teaches us to get up and do something:

On the authority of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudree (May Allah be pleased with him) who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say,

“Whosoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart — and that is the weakest of faith.” [Muslim]

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The Importance of Justice!

The Quran, the sacred scripture of Islam, considers justice to be a supreme virtue.

It is a basic objective of Islam to the degree that it stands next in order of priority to belief in God’s exclusive right to worship (Tawheed) and the truth of Muhammad’s (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) prophethood.  God declares in the Quran:

“God commands justice and fair dealing…” (Quran 16:90)

Prophet Muhammad underscored the importance of rulers being just in one of his famous sayings.

 “There are seven categories of people whom Allah will shelter under His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His. (One will be) a just leader.” (Saheeh Muslim)

The Qur’an warns believers against subjective factors or personal emotions leading them to deviate from the path of justice, which is also the path of Islam, but it weighs heavily upon those who are required to adjudicate in disputes or to give judgment on other issues.

“O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah and be just witnesses and let not the enmity and hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: That is nearer to piety, and fear Allah. Verily, Allah is Well-Acquainted with what you do.” (Al-Maidah: 8)

Muslims are also called upon to rise above social evils such as nepotism and favoritism. Almighty Allah says in the Qur’an,

“O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even though it be against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, be he rich or poor, Allah is a Better Protector to both (than you). So follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest you may avoid justice, and if you distort your witness or refuse to give it, verily, Allah is Ever Well-Acquainted with what you do.” (Al-Nisa: 135)

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Oppressing Others!

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه) reports that_

_Rasoolullah (صلي الله عليه وسلم) said:_

“Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation/honour or anything else should seek to be absolved by him before [the day when] there will be neither Dinaar nor Dirham _[there will be no money on the day of Qiyaamah to pay for any oppression committed]_

If he [the oppressor] has good deeds, they will be taken from him to balance the injustice he did, and if he does not have any good actions, the bad deeds of [the oppressed] will be loaded onto him.”

*(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 2449)*

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On increasing (Dhulum) your property by Riba Interest!

 The Holy Quran 30.39 Surah AR Ruum

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That which ye give in usury in order that it may increase on (other) people’s property hath no increase with Allah; but that which ye give in charity, seeking Allah’s Countenance, hath increase manifold.

By Yusuf Ali

That which ye lay out for increase through the property of (other) people, will have no increase with Allah: but that which ye lay out for charity, seeking the Countenance of Allah, (will increase): it is these who will get a recompense multiplied.

Arabic

وَمَآ ءَاتَيْتُم مِّن رِّبًا لِّيَرْبُوَا۟ فِىٓ أَمْوَٰلِ ٱلنَّاسِ فَلَا يَرْبُوا۟ عِندَ ٱللَّهِ ۖ وَمَآ ءَاتَيْتُم مِّن زَكَوٰةٍ تُرِيدُونَ وَجْهَ ٱللَّهِ فَأُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلْمُضْعِفُونَ

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O you who have believed, fear Allah and give up what remains [due to you] of interest, if you should be believers. 2.279 

And if you do not, then be informed of a war [against you] from Allah and His Messenger. But if you repent, you may have your principal – [thus] you do no wrong, nor are you wronged. Quran 2.280

And if someone is in hardship, then [let there be] postponement until [a time of] ease. But if you give [from your right as] charity, then it is better for you, if you only knew.

And fear a Day when you will be returned to Allah. Then every soul will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated unjustly.

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Arriving at the stage when you feel it is just useless to keep fighting for your case! When Fear just faces you straight on the face – and you simply cannot fight your case anymore – because you know well that no one wants to hear anything from you in your defence – and people have already sided with those against you because they have Money, Power and Wastah – and you do not!

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The Tanzanian (African) Housemaids Syndromes! Reply

The Tanzanian (African) Housemaids Syndromes!

May 5, 2017

The Tanzania Woman Image!

I was planning to write this article in Swahili but half way I got stuck – because the Swahili I know and speak out is outdated model 2003 when I left Tanzania to return to Oman! There are a lot of new words now being used in Swahili – so sometimes you have to listen carefully to get the gist of the meaning – or ask the Speaker what the new words mean?

One of the topics that I had covered intensively in the start of my columns Between Us Only! in The Oman Daily Observer from January 2003 on wards to 12 years later was the topic of Housemaids! My first articles also in my first book Between Us Only! was also The Happy Housemaid! See image!

I do not consider myself as an Expert or Consultant on the topic! All I know is that we have a Filipino housemaid who has stayed with us for the past 22 years – and we consider her as family more than housemaid – even if she is Christian – but is more Islamic to many people that I know off! We in the Family have also recently like the trend have also started to take in Tanzanian Housemaids from both Mainland and also from Zanzibar! Years have passed – but still yet have not faced any issues! There are also from both Kenya and Uganda in East Africa for that matter!

There was a case, however, when one of them had forgotten her place ‘as Familiarity Breeds Contempt Scenario’ when she mistook the friendliness – and speaking to her in Swahili ‘that there was no boss formal role between us – but that was soon taken care of very soon afterwards! That is also how human nature is always!

Anyway, there is this audio that is going viral in The Social Media where purportedly this Tanzanian housemaid residing in Oman has gone on the air using very nasty foul filthy language insulting her bosses – especially The Omani Ladies without exception – and cursing Oman and Omanis. I would not like to repeat what she says – but you can get hold of it and listen to it if you know Swahili! If you do not know frankly I feel there would be very few willing to translate it to you by the very bad filthy foul language used!

Frankly, I would advise The Authorities to trace the audio and let her prove the allegation that a Tanzanian housemaid ‘was indeed murdered’ by her Omani lady boss – because the maid was very sick but the bosses refused her to go for medical treatment – and still forcing her to work despite her being very sick as it is! How she died is a bit vague – but this is what prompted this person to use foul filthy language against her Omani bosses!

The concept that if one apple (fish) is bad does not mean that the whole bag contents are bad seems to have deluded and missed her! Of course in each basket there are bad apples (eggs/fish) – that one cannot either deny – and it works on both sides of the equation (side!) for that matter!

Use of foul filthy language does not solve anything – it just portrays what type of a person you are whatever and however angry you maybe! It only makes a bad situation even to get more worse – it helps no one and it does not solve anything! In actual fact, as they say in both Swahili and in Arabic you have caused ‘fitna’ (friction discord fight enmity etc.)!

The Holy Quran and The Hadith are both very clear on how to treat the workers with us – and that treating even one slightly bad would invalidate all the otherwise good deeds you have performed in life – even opening for you the doors of Eternal Fire starting in your grave before The Day of Judgement Reckoning when you meet Allah SWT – and that too when you escape The Punishment on Earth – with the great Islamic Principle of ‘Being Bankrupted’ against your judgement in front of Allah SWT!

In one of The Hadiths Abdulla bin Umar RA narrates – When someone asked Nabii Muhammad SAW – How often was one expected to overlook his slave’s faults he was replied – after some silence and repeat of the question – Seventy times in a day!

Most of these housemaids (houseboys / drivers) driven by poverty more than anything else have left their homes family and country to come and look after you and your children and family! Just as you would not like your Office boss to mistreat insult you – the same ethic, principle etc. applies to you in your handling and dealing with those working for you!

And you more the housemaid than anything else for that matter should appreciate and value your job – as it more than take cares and looks after your own family back home! My housemaid with the years with us has built even a villa for her mother back home in Philippines!

There have been issues too with housemaids from other countries – but the East African one has taken up a nasty sour turn that may develop – if one is not careful – to sour relations of ties that have been historical since ages!

Day before yesterday a family member who had promised me some funds to send to build a Masjid Mosque was lamenting to me loudly why he should continue ‘when these people have still hatreds for us Omanis – and see how they think of us and curse us like this? I retorted to him – Brother this is only one ‘irate lady’ – but now how many audios are circulating from Tanzanian housemaids praising and justifying Omanis as good decent kind caring people – as we have always have known to be – despite some issues and problems here and there!

A Joint Investigation should be held between Oman and Tanzania on The Plight of The Housemaids and on The Purported Death Case if is true – and the culprits to be brought to justice – as we always do to Protect The Workers and in Human Rights!

Take Care!

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ADDED POINTS!

 

Be Merciful for Allah SWT to be Merciful to You!

 

“Whosoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart — and that is the weakest of faith.” [Muslim]

“He who does not show mercy shall see no mercy (from his Lord).” “Allah is not merciful to him who is not merciful to men.”

Debt: Relieving the person in debt

Abu Qatadah related that the Prophet said: If anyone would like Allah to save him from the hardships of the Day of Resurrection, he should give more time to his debtor who is short of money, or remit his debt altogether. (Muslim)

Relatives who are needy!

Abu Huraira narrated that the Prophet said: The best charity is that which is practiced by a wealthy person. And start giving first to your dependents. (Bukhari)

Salman ibn Amer reported that the Prophet said: To give something to a poor man brings one reward, while giving the same to a needy relation brings two: one for charity and the other for respecting the family ties. (Ahmad, Ibn Majah, Nasai, Tirmidhi)

Stinginess

Jabir reported that the Prophet said: Avoid doing injustice to others, for on the Day of Judgment, it will turn into manifold darkness, and safeguard yourself against miserliness, for it ruined those who were before you. It incited them to murder and treating the unlawful as lawful. (Muslim)

One Hadith in particular that underscores this message comes from a collection called An-Nawawi:

Whosoever removes a worldly grief from a Believer, Allah will remove from him one of the griefs of the Day of Judgment. Whosoever alleviates [the lot of] a needy person, Allah will alleviate [his lot] in this world and the next. Whosoever shields a Muslim, Allah will shield him in this world and the next. Allah will aid a slave [of His] so long as the slave aids his brother.

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Images – African Women – For Demonstration Purposes Only! 

The Happy Housemaid Article!

 

 

 

In My Defence! The Case For Majid Al Suleimany! 3

In My Defence!

The Case for Majid Al Suleimany!

January 23, 2017

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The Suppression of Ideas!

Am I Now The Victim????

The suppression of ideas, thought and intellectual effort is a major sin.

We will’ never allow anyone to suppress freedom of thought. I do not wish to go into detail about this. However, I know that there are people who call for the suppression of thought.

Ideas cannot be suppressed!

Our Religion stands for ideas and the intellect not the suppression of thought. Never.

Our religion is tolerant, ethical and receptive to ideas. Every verse of the Glorious Quran calls for thinking, cogitation, etc. It does not call for narrow-mindedness, mental inertia and blindly going with the flow!

Address by His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said to the students on opening of The Sultan Qaboos University

 

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I am Real Tired Now!

I have reached the end of my patience and strength – continuing to live! I am a very sad unhappy person with too much tests of life and difficulties! I even think have given up the will to continue living!

Everything has gone so wrong, hard and difficult to me now!

Really I do not know what to do now!

Please pray for me!

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Please Help Me Your Majesty!

An Appeal from an Omani Retiree Pensioner!

A Personal Appeal!

https://majidall.com/2017/01/20/please-help-me-your-majesty-a-personal-appeal/

https://majidwrite.com/2017/01/22/please-help-me-your-majesty-from-an-omani-retiree-pensioner/

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My Contributions to The Nation!

Just to Remind! May Allah SWT God The Lord Almighty Guide us to The Right Path Ameen Amen

https://majidall.com/2016/11/20/my-contributions-to-the-nation-46th-national-day/

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Finding Justice in Islam!

https://majidall.com/2017/01/20/finding-justice-in-islam/

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The New Book 55th – That Is The Way It Still Is!

 https://majidall.com/2017/01/12/the-new-book-55th-that-is-the-way-it-still-is/

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What are you Thankful for in Life? 1

Being Thankful In Life!

What are you Thankful for in Life?

A        Thanksgiving Day! Thanks for the Blessings!

It is a national holiday celebrated in Canada and the United States on the fourth Thursday of November. This time it fell on November 24 2016.

It was originally celebrated as a day of giving thanks by Native Americans for the blessing of the harvest and of the preceding year. The Pilgrims copied it and made it as their own!

Thanksgiving is celebrated on the second Monday of October in Canada and on the fourth Thursday of November in the United States. Several other places around the world observe similar celebrations. Although Thanksgiving has historical roots in religious and cultural traditions, it has long been celebrated in a secular manner as well.

Setting aside time to give thanks for one’s blessings, along with holding feasts to celebrate a harvest, are both practices that long predate the European settlement of North America.

The event that Americans commonly call the “First Thanksgiving” was celebrated by the Pilgrims after their first harvest in the New World in October 1621. This feast lasted for three days, and—as accounted by attendee Edward Winslow — it was attended by 90 Native Americans and 53 Pilgrims. The New England Colonists were accustomed to regularly celebrating “Thanksgivings” — days of prayer thanking God for blessings such as military victory or the end of a drought.

B        Being Thankful In Life!

If you ask me – and truthfully, honestly, frankly and sincerely, I am thankful for a lot of things in life! Although I would want some things now more than ever before – like on my personal life and on my health – I am thankful to have –

·       My family and relatives – my children and the grandchildren!

·       The few friends I have!

  • Being a True Muslim to my best of my abilities and following My Religion as best as I Can!
  • And in trying to be near Allah SWT God Almighty as much as I can!

·       A roof over my head even if it is a very old house needing much repairs and renovation!

·       Can now walk on my own without assistance like before!

·       The little things I have – even if I wished for more – but I remind myself that there are others far behind me and who would be ready anytime to change places with me!

·       Getting my Pension Salary regularly from PDO – even though I would have wanted it to be more – because every month struggling to make ends meet – like all people – especially Pensioners now!

·       Living in a peaceful stable secure place – after seeing all the things that are going wrong all around us now!

·       My books I have published – which will keep my name going long after I am gone!

·       And so many other things and aspects!

But truthfully, honestly, frankly and sincerely! I will not want to change myself with anyone! I am happy I came out as Majid (Arabic for Glory!) that I am now!

If I have my life all over again – I want again to be me! The same and only Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany! Because I know deep in myself that I do care and feel for people! I am full of understanding, empathy, and kindness and caring! I do not want to hurt or pain anyway. I am I!

I always try to help people as best as I can – and if I cannot will say so politely kindly and emphatically – but I will not lie or tell lies – or say wrong (unkind) things!

If I have made a mistake or error of judgement – I am ready to forgive and forget! Those who hurt and pain me – whether purposefully or unknowingly inadvertently – I will tell them frankly! I will not keep it bottled in – and suffering in silence! I know this part is what makes me unpopular and being resented by others!

I will not want to change myself to anyone other – even if far Richer, Famous and or Powerful! Majid will be Majid always – under Allah SWT God Almighty Grace and Blessings! Ameen Amen

I try hard to avoid conflict and fights – and after 3 or 4 point outs – and still people after me – I come in charging! Like in a bull! Would I want to change this trait and habit – and suffer in silence? The answer is emphatically NO!

This is Me – and This is what I am! Will be till end of time! Majid will remain as Majid!

C        My Epitaph!

Majid Epitaph (Legacy) – I Want to be Remembered!

A long time ago as a kid, I used to hear people talk about death and how they will go! I always wondered out aloud how I would go – if my turn came up next!

I always prayed that I would go sudden and people surprised he went away that fast! But I never want to cause trouble and inconveniences to others before I die – if I was to choose these things! But it is all in God Allah hands!

Anyway, I had this dream of ‘dying by starvation’ – I do not know what it meant! Was it going to be real as in the dream – or as a metaphor like liking to eat too much and getting fatter by day – and as now being diabetic case?

Or would it be like my late Father PBUH where he wanted food and water but was denied by The Doctors (they were using instead drips!) – because they needed to operate on his stomach – because there was a blockage in his small intestines – and till after the operation could be given food!

Anyway only God Allah SWT Knows these things best!

Sorry for a morbid subject!

Here lies a person who in all his life had acted and stood up for the rights of others – and to whatever extent and even harm and injury and damage to himself personally – and he went down that way!

Always wanting to do good things and help others as much as one could.

If he could not, he would be Truthful and offer instead kind words and support – and or offer advices to his best level always!

Where he could change things himself he did – otherwise he spoke out for Change. Always wanted to be fair, just, professional, principled, correct and ethical in all things he did.

He wants to be remembered that way only!

Please Pray for Him – when they tell you he is gone!

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Images Thanksgiving!

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Five orange pumpkins sit in a row in front of a distressed, wooden background.

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Message Received from Dr. Faris Al Hajri via Facebook!

[25/11, 22:25] to Majid Said Al Suleimany:

Many thanks to you dear Majid Al Suleiman, I read your article and has a very deep emotional story. I love the way you wrote for what you’re thankful correlating to all cultures in being always thankful for who you are and your achievements.

Keep Climbing the Endless Mountains of Life!

Your books & articles are of high values!

[25/11, 22:25] to Majid Said Al Suleimany:

My dear friend, never ever give up, i looked unto your marvelous awards, you’ve raised Oman’s flag to the world, keep up and you’ll see by yourself the day you eat the fruits of your success much beyond those from your ex-job. You’re an impressive writer but international figure. We all go through tough and painful moments, but the success would be beyond once you keep persevering.
Greetings from Ohio!
Dr. Faris Al Hajri in Facebook

We Are Very Lucky In Oman! 3

We Are Very Lucky in Oman!

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The Americas Cup Trophy in Muscat, Oman. Shown here with a group of local schoolboys to celebrate and highlight The Louis Vuitton Americas Cup World Series coming to Oman in February 2016. Image licensed to Lloyd Images

We are very lucky in Oman for having our Beloved His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said!

May Allah SWT Our Lord God Almighty Give him long life and health Ameen!

Even though I am a sick and ailing person – and with a lot of other personal problems – I sincerely genuinely and honestly feel –

I look at the News!

Everywhere and all around us and in front of our eyes –

– See people are crying!

– See people are dying!

– Seeing people being victimized, injured and being maimed!

– See all the destruction disasters decadence malaise and decay!

– See mischief being done on land!

– See there is just wars and fights all around!

– See people living as displaced and destitute – both internally and externally!

– See so many other bad things!

Oman – under HM Renaissance – is a land and bastion of peace, harmony, understanding, tolerance and co-existence amongst people – Local, Residents and Visitors and Guests!

Frankly and honestly, I do believe if people had listened to His Majesty there would have been NO –

– No Iraq Saddam invasion of Kuwait!

– No Gulf War of any kind as a result!!

– No Syria Destruction and Civil War as now!

– No Libya Destruction and Civil War as now!!

– No Yemen fiascos and war!

– No attacks on Yemen!

– No Fitnas of any kind!

– Most likely as a result No Daesh or IS syndromes!

– Most likely not even September 11 events!

Indeed initially, we had some initial problems – but under wise leadership of HM – they all went solved and peace and harmony reigned in – Al Hamdu Lillah – Allah Be Praised!

May Allah SWT Our Lord God Almighty Give him long life and health Ameen!

Read also – 

https://majidall.com/2013/09/25/oman-the-beacon-to-the-world/

All Under One Flag – Feel And Act As One!

The above two articles I wrote two years ago – and still valid!

Loyal Faithful Citizen,

Majid bin Said bin Nasser bin Zahor Al Sulaimani

November 22, 2016

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