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The Chilcot Iraq Inquiry report:-

Statement by Sir John Chilcot in full – military action was not a last resort’

‘The UK chose to join the invasion of Iraq before the peaceful options for disarmament had been exhausted.’

 http://www.ibtimes.co.uk/iraq-inquiry-report-statement-by-sir-john-chilcot-full-military-action-was-not-last-resort-1569230

This is what I said in My First Article in my columns in The Oman Daily Observer dated April 23 2003 – 13 years ago – titled – More Dangerous and Troubled Waters Ahead! This after the Iraq invasion. Also reproduced in My Books – see Images below!

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The Article – Reproduced Below –

Episode 1.

More Dangerous and Troubled Waters Ahead!

The Chapter aims to describe the different aspects and scenarios of the Gulf war. Compares the different Gulf Wars from a personal perspective and experience and the problems then in his old company on this, and foretells more troubles and dangers ahead (some which had happened and actually materialized later on). Start of the series to be printed in The Oman Daily Observer. Please remember this was written immediately after the Invasion of Iraq!

In the First Gulf war, family members were split between those who supported removing Saddam from Kuwait by force and those who did not the support war option but by ‘talk, persuasion and coercion’ methods.

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I was expecting to start off this column  (after getting the  ‘green light’ from the esteemed paper) with light hearted and humour laced articles, but then the Iraq war dawned on us, and it took a dramatic turn to write something else on ‘the war’ instead!

Now those of  you who know me well would recall that I am not by profession or even by design a military analyst or military expert, or even a political expert one at that (if you can call being a Human Resources professional as is also involved in sort of  ‘wars’ between Management and Staff, and to draw a ‘thin line’ between getting your next salary payment (if you annoy the Management!) and to see ‘professionalism and ethics are played’ in dealing and in handling with staff problems, issues and grievances!)

However, I do read a lot of newspapers (at least 4 daily including from the UAE).  I watch BBC world, CNN, Euro News etc. and to get the flavour from the other side Al-Jazeera TV, Al-Arabi, MBC, LBC and other Arab channels.  So you may say ‘I am sort of informed’ – especially as I also spend at least 2 hours a day on the Internet – glossing and grouping all the news from different networks.

So please forgive the layman’s views on what he considers ‘his informed opinions and ideas on this war – though I can hear it being said – ‘Those of you who think they know everything, are upsetting those of us who know that we do!’.

First of all, let us draw a comparison of this war (3rd Gulf War) with the 1st one in 1991.

It was in the first week in January 1991 when a great meeting was held in my previous company to vet opinions of senior staff in Human Resources of what were the ‘options’ of the company then, especially vis-à-vis Expatriate Families and their possible urgent evacuations from Oman, especially ‘those families who will want to leave at a hurry!’.

I was the sole voice who said that we should prepare for the war and the contingencies in retrospect. I got on a scare technique to frighten expatriates (or was it I was anti-expatriate?) – and the beating up the war ‘drums’.  On the 17th January, 1991,  I was vindicated, as the great Company had to go on a ‘panic run’ when expatriate families wanted to leave out on the next quickest available flight out of the country.  Then everybody said “we should have listened to M!” – let alone that day after the meeting – I was the loneliest person on the face of the earth with even my peers colleagues turning up against me! I felt like sinking into the ground – and became so sick and had to go early back home!

Nobody had asked me to this day.  Why I was so sure or convinced that there would be a war?.  You may ‘call it gut feelings’, but I think it was more intelligence, sense and reason related – because you do not issue ultimatums to ‘powerful (bully!) figures’ like Saddam – and expect him to follow it!

Then this Third Gulf War.  At our usual Friday family gathering, again I was the sole person who said ‘there is going to be a war’ and we had better be prepared for it!

Again one or two of my family members (this time, as no longer working – Early Retired, Voluntary that  is!) ‘There he goes again war-mongering – if he says it, it will happen!’ (Somebody should shut him up – unsaid!). The war came again, as I had predicted.

Again it was a question of ‘intelligence, sense and reason’ prevailing.  It was not a question of ‘weapons of mass destruction’ (WMD) – it was simply and smugly put – a question of removing ‘the threat of Saddam rule’ in Iraq. Threat to whom? That is still a million dollar question!

Nobody noticed the small print at the bottom.  ‘Even if, Saddam will leave, the ‘Allied’ Forces would still go in! Or I think it was Qusay, son of Saddam who had ‘admitted that we did have WMDs before, but not anymore’.

They always say in wars (or near wars) the first  casualty is the ‘truth’ and all that goes with it!

Another comparison between the 1st Gulf war and this one, at least on ‘circles’ I know well – that is my friends peers and family!

In the First Gulf war, members were split between those who supported removing Saddam from Kuwait by force and those who did not support the war option but rather by talk, persuasion and coercion’ methods.

This time though some may not be too keen on Saddam, but they were all against it with no exception, including the kids who are favourite of  Kentucky Fried Chicken, Pepsi and Cola, Showtime, Orbit, American films etc. Of course do not forget the Dodge Durango (and previous Pontiac Bonneville) parked outside the villa!

This should be very ‘telling’ on the ‘Allied’ Forces what peoples in the streets think – , including the so-called vast silent majority’!

……. Rest is history!

QED – I rest my case – with all happening around us now – 13 years after The Iraq Invasion!

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Between Us Only! The Original!

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 The original book was published on around May 2003 in Oman by Al Nahda Printing Press.

 Surprisingly, despite several books later – there is still a large following who still think that this was my Best Book! I would not know – but surely it was My First Book! Compiling all my articles in my columns then Between Us Only! And At My Workplace in The Oman Daily Observer!

You can still find this book still in many offices in Oman – and that is really touching to me as The Author! The other day my brother in law MYS was ‘scolding me’ that I should have translated this book into Arabic – instead of the book Arabic – Behind The Wheel! – www.createspace.com/4875352  He is one of my most advertent Reader and fan!

As there are only few copies left circulating around, I thought it fit to preserve the works by redoing the book! I was debating to add pictures and images – and to sort out by topics – but in the end decided to try as best as to add some images in! The aforementioned were ‘the usual pointers and complaints’ mainly raised on the book. The first book was sponsored by The MB Group of Companies and carried their Corporate Logos.

Many of the articles talk of increasing extremism, fundamentalism – of plain evil etc. – and the tear and wear – the breaking up of The Society Fabric! 13 years later – The Truth arises – and what is most astonishing (shocking!) is that most of the things I had said and predicted then had come to pass! And still folding – and as prevailing relevant too – to date!

It was always my dream to redo the book on my own! Today that dream has become a reality! I hope you will enjoy reading the book again of past memories – a sense of Déjà Vu!

Despite strong temptations, I decided just to stick to make the book as best same as The Original version! I have used the book image of The Sequel book as front cover for this one – because honestly I did not like the previous one of boy whispering to boy – and thus an opportune time to redo it!

Tell me what you think!

Best wishes and regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

The Author – September 23, 2014


 About the Author

The Author is an ex-retired now Management and Human Resources Consultant, Advisor, Expert and Professional with over 40 years experiences in companies in Oman and GCC. He has published 21 books before this one – see http://www.myownmajid.com

Lives in Muscat in Oman – married with grandchildren.

Writing has been his passion and hobby from the age of 14 years old and his first essay had won a National Competition at this age. He has been writing wherever he was – from Schools, Colleges, Universities and Company Magazines and Newsletters! He is also a noted and famed Columnist where many of his books originate!

His famous quote is always – Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you make no money! – Jules Renard!

More about the Author here – www.myownmajid.com

 

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Banning Alcohol In Oman!

Can Oman Go Dry?

December 11, 2014

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Images Alcoholism – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

As some of you may still remember my columns Between Us Only! was ‘killed starting on a Technicality’ propagated by ‘The Indian Mafias’ and aided and supported by our own ‘The Old Guards’ – and right at the highest central profile media place!

See more here – http://myownmajid.com/2014/12/10/no-more-between-us-only-this-is-goodbye/

Since the last 3 days or so, I have heard nothing but just very emotional and passionate discussions on the above topic! People have been calling me to write on the topic and send it to at least Muscat Daily or The Oman Tribune to be published – in addition to my websites!

Actually I have covered this subject intensively in my Arab Management Books and with my

own personal experiences at work and elsewhere!

I have also written about it intensively in my columns – Between Us Only! See last 2 samples below!

I can assure you – it is starting! Soon people will cry out for me to write again! Because there are FEW Pragmatic Broadminded ‘Live and Let Live’ Writers like me! Only again to say – I told you so! As I have already said it many times before!

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  • No matter how late they take ur words ….but one day ur words will make voice … I told u earlier my Guru! – Omani Fan
  • It is always the people who know the least about you who want to judge you the most ..! – Another!

What amazed me more is to find some ‘Drinkers’ supporting the decision – perhaps more from A Cry For Help! Syndrome – and surprisingly still from Non Drinkers and Followers who are against the proposal – because they believe ‘there is no compulsion in Religion’ – and not really being ‘Secular’ in outlooks and approaches! I do not know who said it – but there is this expression – I am against your views – but I will die defending your right to say it!

As Fans and Readers who know me well, I will present my views ‘from my heart and as if speaking to you directly from my heart’ – and coming from my own exposures and experiences in life! Actually, I have covered this subject intensively in my Arab Management books – see my books website – www.myownmajid.com – and also in my Between Us Only! Columns!

http://majidwrite.com/2013/03/17/increasing-alcohol-abuse/

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Article 1 – Increasing Alcohol Abuse!

For Sunday March 17th 2013

Between Us Only!

Increasing Alcohol Abuse!

v O you who believe! Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), gambling, idolatry, and diving arrows are an abomination of Satan’s handiwork. So avoid that so that you may be successful  – The Holy Quran 5: 90

v Alcohol maybe man’s worst enemy! – Frank Sinatra

v I don’t even drink! I can’t stand the taste of alcohol! – Kim Kardashian

v Alcohol gives you infinite patience for stupidity – Sammy Davis Jnr.

v Herb is the healing of a nation; alcohol is the destruction! – Bob Marley

v Alcohol is the anesthia by which we endure the operation of life – George Bernard Shaw.

Frankly and truthfully speaking, I have written on this very same topic a few times before! The last time I wrote on this – a few years ago – a very irate and upset relative of the family called me to start an abusive from the start discussion about my writings – and saying to me that he will be very blunt – because maybe the world does not know it – but he knows it for sure that an Indian guy working for this newspaper – was writing for me – and paying him on the sideline! He said to me – you can fool everyone – but not me! I know exactly about you. All things you think we do not know about you!

The call was placed to me at 2 a.m. in those days when people still used land phone lines! And Madam Wife MW was worried because I was ‘at my best behaviour’ and just listening without saying anything – especially to the loud voices and shouts at the other end – after calling some minutes later – to ‘give me a piece of his mind – once more!’. Anyway – I told MW that it was a certain WRTXY – and certainly at that time he was not sober – and one could easily tell from the hoarse husky gruff voice at the other end. I do not know what hand signals he was also placing – as he was talking to me – but one does not need high imagination to fathom out what they could be!

Next day, at around noon he came to my Office – and I was just about to press the emergency link button to Security – when he started crying in the Office in very loud voices – now that he was sober – and asking for ‘my help to save him’ – and if I knew Alcoholics Anonymous contact – but I referred him to a fellow Omani peer who likes his drinks – and the one that easily became ‘high flying potential’ to succeed over a lot of the rest of us that went without and observing – because we had not caught on – and were ‘not modern’!

When I was studying in UK in the 1970s,  my peers foreign students friends used to use me as their chauffeur to take them from the pubs – until that day when I put my foot down – when two of them dirtied my car. There was there one pretty tall local girl that really took a fancy to me – remember I was still young and not married then – but when she found out that I was not ‘drinking even socially’ – as she kindly put it – that was too much for her! And the pretty thing slipped through my fingers!

For a long time I was fighting with the devil whether to entertain her or not – until then when I remembered and came to my senses – as the East Africans say – The one who denies you beans – is just reducing you from getting gas! – And frankly not a lost grapes saga!

 In one of the new FDI companies,  I was in a very good position and status as their HR man in Oman. Until the day when the top guys from their home came to the launch – and found out that my white wine glass was actually a soft drink beverage! One of them was drawn to the bubbles in the glass – because as I understand it – the white wine does not cause bubbles?

He said to me – I am confused! I thought you were 3 years in UK? Explain to me! So I did! And that also happened in a Management course abroad – a few years before I retired – because the good final farewell party Organiser said to me – All you people (you people?) coming from (our region) drink heavily – why are you a fish out of water – from the famous expression – drink like a fish! Sic!

It is very sad to see the outlook and approach of life that some of our youngsters have adopted and taken that ‘it is okay – that you can drink a little – ‘just to socialise’ escapades – but they forget that it is how all the things start – before you start making a fool and nuisance of yourself – and cause strife and havoc in your married and family life. Sad when even the lassies do it too – because I can tell you – honestly and frankly – whether you believe me or not – that even those that like their drinks want a spouse and life partner that does not drink!

I have seen it real life experiences – both local and foreign – where marriages – even amongst the elders – supposed to be more patient and waiting in dreams for changes – have broken up – because of the stuff! Because that is the root cause of domestic violence! The people that suffer the most – and hopefully will not join in the future – copy and emulate  – are the children teenagers only!

Trust me – I am a great believer in ‘live and let live’ syndromes and approaches – because I could go to a pub and have my meal – and if you leave me alone to have nowadays my fresh juice also – and you have whatever you want – but don’t impose your rules and values to me – and I will not impose mine to you! If you say to me things like ‘a lot of you people (you people?) drink a lot – when you have only have few examples in reality to give – then we have problems ahead – between us – as I had said in my books too!

One long time ago – in a great party – one of the top local guys that just could not stand me – told me ‘why he hated me to the core’. Next day sober (hopefully!) he said to me – I hope I was not a nuisance yesterday? I said – sarcastically – more to myself – No Sir! You were okay! Why give him the advantage – and an ace card?

Allah God Guide us the Right Path and Way – Amin Amen. Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

With sincere and due apologies! 

http://majidwrite.com/2013/05/01/crimes-against-children/

https://majidall.com/2013/10/01/alcoholism-dangers-drink-and-fly/

Article 2 – Rising Alcoholism Syndrome!

 For The Oman Daily Observer of Sunday June 7th 2010,

Between Us Only!

Rising Alcoholism Syndrome!

In all my writings, and in My Books, I have tried my level best to move away from writing taboo subjects – but the coming incident confirmed to write on this one – with sincere, genuine and due apologies.

I had been to this Recreation Centre when I saw a group of young Omanis come out from the Alcohol Bulk store with carts full of the stuff – from beers to the real heavy and expensive stuff – because cartons betray what they have inside them! They looked to me as recently joined Graduates to the Company.

So the mean and evil streak in me decided to play a game with them. I asked them if they could spare me a few drinks – and I was willing to pay for them. It was already coming evening Prayer time – so one of the nicer kinder sympathetic ones offered me the address because they were having a bash and celebration from what looked similar to Gonnu to strike our Omani shores! This shocked me to smithereens – the approach to celebrate before the storm struck – instead of going into prayers and reciting our Holy books instead – like some of us in our generation would normally do.

Just for the records, being a member of that club, I too could purchase in bulk if I had wanted – but then I am not ‘developed and progressed enough’ with my sad state of affairs of being a student in UK for three years – still single at that time – and downstairs opposite lane I used to sit and watch those indulging (including pretty young girls too!) making a fool and spectacle of themselves after awhile – and too good and decent a material to bring into my column in this esteemed newspaper! But let us put it this way – I told all to the good wife before our marriage!!

Some years ago when I was travelling to UK for my Management course, the local guy beside me pressed the distress call button just as the plane was taking off from Muscat International airport (we could even see it below us) – and the poor air hostess came running to find what was wrong? Remember The Fasten Your seatbelts sign was on! The man asked for a beer! I do not know if he was afraid to fly – or maybe taking early advantage of the limited free offer of drinks on board as travelling Economy!

The Air Hostess firmly put him in his place – though he kept the button chiming! Then when the warning seat signal was off, he said give me English beer! He mentioned a brand which even dumb and stupid me in ignorance and being backwards as a teetotaller knew was a Dutch brand – and not an English one – as in my job aspects of peers trying to impress our Western bosses that they are progressed and developed! I remember even one peer who joked to me in front of our British boss – he was a Non Believer in God though – and said it when he was even sober to us! My friend peer was teasing me – M – it is time for prayers, what are you doing still waiting here? I have had suckers and yes men in my life – but as our Indian friends say – this one had the biscuit!

I have met many people I know where families are complaining to me to write about this subject – but I am always the type of person who is a Live and Let Live type of person – but to limits – when you start to encroach on me in your superiority false outlooks – and that you know better even for me – then we have issues and problems. So long as you leave me alone, I drink my carbonated and or fresh juices with those at the party enjoying themselves – but at the same time can leave the table and go for my prayers – I am that type of person per se!

A lot of families complain of smoking and alcoholism amongst some of their family members – and sadly and tragically including the teenagers and the youth too. One of the off shots of increased road accidents and fatalities is this stuff! There is also this element of domestic and family violence as a result of alcoholism, resulting in increasing divorces, family breakdowns and social disorders.

Personally I do not believe in imposing rules and regulations – Believing in Live and Let Live – and have even a blog under such a name! However,  as parents and grandparents – and as elders – we do have a prime and fundamental duty to lead by examples – and advice, counsel and caution the youth to protect and preserve our heritage, customs, traditions, values and culture as a people – and the teachings and practices of our religion – and even if to be in moderation when going flexible and accommodating!

I remember this incident very well after my father had expired – and I was receiving condolences in my villa in Qurum. They wanted some juice – and unfortunately I had left only apple juice! Soon after a while, my uncle from the village came to me and started yelling and shouting to me – how could you? And my uncle in Muscat cut him short – and said you must have got your facts twisted and intertwined – because I was accused of offering beer to them! My town uncle said very emphatically and strongly – I do not know about the others, but I can guarantee on my life that this son of Late Said NEVER DRINKS the stuff! That is confidence for you!

Incidentally Happy Birthday me! Take Care!

By Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

I am not sure who said it – but it could be Pervez ex Pakistan Leader or Mahathir Mohamed – ex Malaysian Leader – who said that people are only more interested in life in The Basic Necessities of Life like Air, Food, Water, Shelter and Clothing – though some would also add Health and Love to the equation. People are lesser interested in higher buildings, bigger roads and flyovers, bigger airports and seaport – or newer industries and projects – or schemes. That is for them to live and survive the Basic Necessities of Life are more paramount and predominant!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

December 11th 2014

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My Letter To The Newspaper (My Columns!)

Dear Chief Editor & Team

After Compliments; 

I would like to express my thanks and appreciation for your turning down my article – No Money For The Crayons! For your Weekend Magazine despite a personal call and plea from you yourself to me to send in the article.

The Weekend came – but  my article was not in! 

Nobody had called me earlier to explain why the article did not appear. As my style, I sent in my emotional query. The response was ‘the article was not suitable for our requirements’ – but I guess it was your rights and decisions to accept or reject any article. No one can argue or dispute that!

Sadly, the article was received well in the social media including WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Tumblr, Google Plus etc – and I did send you some feedbacks – which as usual were unacknowledged and ignored – as usual! What else is new?

It gave me courage to create my own website dedicated to Short Takes (Stories) here at http://www.myshorttakes.com/

Sadly too, despite a signed contract with the person you took over from  –  my contract of two columns per week and a formal WRITTEN notice of one month from both sides for any changes – I was unceremoniously removed by ultimatum of only one article – take it or leave it – and I chose ‘to leave it’ – or as we lot born in Zanzibar like to say ‘rubbing salt into the wound’! Sic!

So sad and tragic!

And all this because I previously complained bitterly for being delayed in payments for over even 6 months – and then deciding which article to pay or not!

It is sad and tragic how our National Governmental Newspaper can treat this way long time running National Columnists!

But nothing is surprising – because that is how things are goiing now – and one has to accept the status quo only!

On Monday 7th April, 2014 there was a PDO Petroleum Development Oman Retirees Party. As you may know if interested, the biggest chunk of my Readers come from PDO and The MOG Sector – being one of them. Plus Omanis that read English Newspapers more – and all The Residents, Guests and Friends in Oman – AlHamdu Lillah – God Is Great! Ameen – Amen!

I told them they can follow me in The Social Media if still interested – and if they have any issues I can refer them to past articles.

Dear Sirs  – you yourself told me in more than one hour chat with you why you left your previous job to join here!

But I do not blame you – because The Truth is people want the dirt to be pushed under the carpet and those like me daring to speak are targetted, sidelined and marginalised.

The Truth can NEVER BE STOPPED – it is all issues of time and dire consequences and repercussions only!

Nice knowing you all and thanks for the iPhone 5 Ramadhan Gift – at the cost of my columns.

Let me be clear! I do not want resumption of my columns even if paid 100 Rials per article. This is not only for you  but sadly all the other newspapers in Oman for that matter. 

Take care and wishing you and your families all the best – and my sincere genuine apologies!

Goodbye….

Sent From My Dell PC

Best Wishes and Regards

Majid Al Suleimany

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N.B. If this is how a long time serving National Columnist of over 13 years and in a Public Newspaper is treated, the mind just boggles what happens elsewhere? You be The Judge!

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After Greetings & Compliments;

It is strange that sometimes small things in life can make a great impact and difference on one! Even small things count in life!

As an Author, Writer and Columnist – I have had all my ten books authored by me spread out all over the house! But this Wednesday – December 18th 2013 – I had purchased bookstalls – and put all my books at one place – plus in the filing cabinets!

Great feelings of achievements, pride and self-contentment filled my mind – and my heart! Hearty self congratulations!

Now even if I depart in this world – all my works have been collected together at one place! Allah God Is Great! Allah Be Blessed – Amin – Amen!

Next day Thursday my Omani Short Life Story – Omani Theme – that was requested out of me by this personality in the newspaper to `revive revamp my column Between Us Only! was not published in The Weekend magazine as was promised to me!

The story can be found here – No Money For The Crayons! 

http://majidwrite.com/2013/12/19/short-story-no-money-for-the-crayons/

I hope you will enjoy reading the article. More such articles in my books – especially the last one – Wipe My Tears! – http://www.createspace.com/4304972 and more information and details at http://www.myownmajid.com

Wishing you all the very best – and many thanks!

Best Regards;

Majid Al Suleimany

  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin 
  • Words once printed have a life of their own! Carol Burnett  
  • Writing is a struggle against silence – Carlos Fuentes 
  • Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers – Charles W. Eliot
  • You don’t have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them – Ray Bradbury 
  • You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend – Paul Sweeney. 
  • Books let us into their souls and lay open to us the secrets of our own – William Hazlitt 
  • Whenever you read a good book, it is like the author is right there, talking to you – Jack Handy
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Goodbye; Between Us Only! One Minute Silence – Please!

For those who have been closely following events, you may have noticed that the column has not been published for the last two weeks now. All the explanations are here in the website.

Somebody does not need to insult your intelligence to make you feel that you are no longer welcome – or wanted!

The East Africans also say – you do not need to choose your words rightly (ethically) if you have planned to insult someone in life! That is true, really!

They also say – do not cry if someone has refused you beans (mbaazi) – it just has reduced your gas (mishuuzi)  outtake!

Please offer a minute of silence for its death! If people like Mandela have died, what is Between Us Only?

Born on March 2001 and died December 2013 – 12 years later!

Wishing you all the very best! Take Care!

Citizen – Majid bin Said bin Nasser Al Suleimany

Muscat – Oman – December 12th 2013

Please Read Also This – http://majidsn.com/2013/12/08/learning-from-mandela/ – More at www.majidsn.com

All The Between Us Only! Books.

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  • I came to you with good advice – but you like not Good Advisors! – Prophet Salah (Methu Salah) RA
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing,  for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • No need for revenge. just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and if you are lucky, God will let you watch – Good Karma

This is Goodbye! Bye!

One day people will remember me – and people will search out and look out for my books – This I am very sure of!

Many Thanks!

Best Wishes and Regards – Majid Al Suleimany

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System Failure! Not Recognising and Valuing Our Own Writers!

  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing , for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  •  Simply calling yourself as wise men does not make you as such. People will judge you by your character and behavior only! – Famous

It is a shame to see that this conference was not used to incorporate All The Omani Writers, Columnists and Authors.

A good Indian friend called me to want to know more (maybe he knew already?) – but I replied to him that I did not!

If these sites will not make an impact – nothing else will!

My Books Websites –

www.myownmajid.com

www.myown-ebooks.com

www.bethesafedriver.com

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Or is it crimes because we write in English?

These things of rivalry, jealousy, envy, polarization – and not recognizing and valuing our own – need to end!

I wrote to The Oman Daily Observer – who print my columns – and whom I have given complimentary gift copies to All in The Features Columns – including the Top Guys too! NO ONE RESPONDED – as usual!

It is a shame that these kind of things are happening in our country now – after all the things we have seen live happening in others – starting with just a school graffiti!

Bloody Shame on us!

Now we hear of Angola banning Islam and breaking down of mosques!

What is next?

As an Omani – Arab blood and Muslim – I hold my head down low with shame! Real Shame!

Maybe we do not meet the mark because we write in English? Maybe!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us All – Amin

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Majid bin Said bin Nasser bin Zahor bin Salim bin Ali bin Masoud Al Sulaimany

I guess this poor man – my late father – is turning in his grave!

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My Late Father – PBUH!

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For Sunday – December 1st 2013.

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Between Us Only!

What Women Do Not Say! 

Domestic Violence!

  • Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent! – Isaac Asimov
  • Never let a man put his hands on you without your permission! – Melda Beatty 

In my role as a Human Resources Professional – I have met many cases of victims of domestic violence – to an extent that if I were planning for a 11th book to be authored by me in this my line of books – it could be a topic by itself! Though frankly speaking my last book – Wipe My Tears! – has many articles of battered wives and on domestic violence. Even the front cover has a photo of a very pretty girl – but still yet crying!

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The most tragic and sad part out of it all trying to justify why she had become the victim – for example he lost his job – his business is not doing well – or other such things! Yet still she will pretend that she is wearing the big sunglasses because ‘she banged her face on a car door’ etc – but does not want to show her scaled and wounded face – and body by heavy clothing!

People always ask me ‘why you do not drink?’ – is it because of the Religion? And I always strive to answer not to offend anyone from both camps – those who do – to be social! – and those who do not! The last group do not want to sit with anyone who drinks – but for I – there are no issues to sit with those that do – whilst I drink my own poison of sodas – or if possible fresh juices! That is until the abusive jokes start to fly – and I quit gracefully – before things get any more out of place and control in insults and affronts!

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Images – Domestic Violence – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

The real reason I do not drink ever in my life is as a young boy getting this beating of my life from a relative who was so drunk and out of his mind – very abusive and aggressive after a few drinks – that he mistakenly thought I was his son – because we were playing together in football! His wives used to run away from home as soon as the call went out that he was now returning home from the bars!

Like we Arabs like to say – from the stomach of evil came good tidings – or the silver lining in the storm clouds! I made a vow to myself that I will never ever drink in my life – promotion or not – or asked to leave the company in my new job – because it started with my refusing to hold up in cheers a glass of wine – though I was ready to do so – if my favourite Sprite soda was in the glass – thus going half-way up to be modern and social!

Far later in my career life in HR – I came to realise which female staff to avoid for the day who came to the office as victim. Being victim did not necessarily mean being beaten and battered – but some husbands and fathers were equally good in using cruel hurting painful words as their tools – instead of the hands. The mouth was equally hurtful – if not more in some cases! But what if it is the husband – with the children – instead are the victims? Points to ponder in real life!

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Images – Domestic Violence – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

A few days back I watched this television melodrama – Soapbox Mexico – Vicky’s Story.  Emotions run high as a sexually abused woman who freed herself thanks to the soap opera has her story turned into an episode. Planning a special programme for the upcoming 13 anniversary of the soap, executive producer Alicia asks scriptwriter Araceli to find a case of a woman who has suffered abuse, and recovered, thanks to the programme’s message. Vicky comes forward, and Araceli adapts her story for the programme. In a deeply emotional demonstration of the back-and-forth between reality and fiction,

Vicky’s real story is played out on set. Her years of sexual abuse at the hands of a violent husband form the central theme of the episode and arguably reflect real life in Mexico where two out of every three women suffer abuse. Vicky saved herself because she called a helpline advertised at the end of What Women Don’t Say. The theme of speaking out and of breaking silence is very clearly and powerfully realised, as Vicky makes an emotional visit to the set to watch the last scenes of her story being filmed.Another famous series is the Turkish one titled Kismet produced from Turkish women writers’ contributions from real life true stories and incidents.

Yet another series that I really liked to watch is Desperate Housewives! It is an American television comedy-drama-mystery series. The show followed the lives of a group of women as seen through the eyes of a dead neighbour who committed suicide in the very first episode. The storyline covers thirteen years of the women’s lives over eight seasons, set between the years 2004–2008, and later 2013–2017 (the story arc included a 5 year passage of time). They worked through domestic struggles and family life, while facing the secrets, crimes and mysteries hidden behind the doors of their — at the surface — beautiful and seemingly perfect suburban neighborhood.

As a Writer, Author and Columnist – I get many emails from my lady fans about their family issues – and many border actual physical abuse – let alone of verbal words – which are more common. There is a famous East Africa expression that goes like this – The real man comes out when he (suddenly!) becomes rich – and the woman when her husband has become poor, needy and dispossessed!

Some of the cases are so unbelievable – that the other day in a social occasion a prominent and famous person was asking me why I was looking intensely and staring at him – in slipping up in my thoughts! It is really shocking some of the cases – but as I had pledged confidence – sorry I am not telling – at least for now!

Some More Sayings –

  • There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds! – Laurel Hamilton
  • One thing that you cannot hide is when you are crippled inside! – John Lennon
  • If anyone hits me, they can expect to be hit back, and harder. I never turn the other cheek, because in my experience that doesn’t work – Alice Bag

Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

November 27th 2013

A Death In The Family! Reply

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For Wednesday – November 27th  2013.

Between Us Only!

A Death In The Family!

  • To a father when a child dies, the future dies; to a child when a parent dies, the past dies! – Red Auerbach
  • It is after death that we measure men! – James Barion Hope

It was really touching to see the human race coming together as one to give peace and diplomacy a chance – and for human beings to come together to discuss their own problems and issues face to face vis-à-vis – and come to an amicable solution for the interests and the benefits of all and for human kind as a whole! Even if there were no winners or losers at the end – and difficult and hard decisions had to be made! I was really traumatised – and can only hope and pray that it will eventually work out! Quiet diplomacy has won the day again! It was only my wish and prayers that some had really watched – and had learnt the lesson!

Last two weeks, I received a What’s Up message from one of our distant relatives in the Interior – of someone with similar tribal name having expired! The presumption was automatically that there had to be some relationships – even if far and isolated! The Western world specifically does not know or appreciate this ‘extended family link’ in our lives – especially when it comes to applying company rules and regulations – like obligations of attending funerals etc. Even if – and although the modernity application was used – from the old days and ways of telephone usages – or sending of emissaries to deliver messages!

A few days back, we received a similar message – but this time from India that our uncle had died there. Though since he moved there from the distant land – there was no real contact until his death. Then one questions oneself whose fault it was really that this so happened? Amazingly, all these type of questions only come out – when death has struck – and everyone feels remorseful and guilty! For a temporary phase and time only – until the next time! Having seen how people drive once back on the road – where only a few minutes back we had buried someone as a casualty and victim of a road accident!

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When I was a young boy, we used to have a small library in that distant small island. Trust the colonialists’ wives led by The District Commissioner (DC) to be so forthcoming and charitable to even organise to have books to form a library where – even students could borrow books! Post independence the library took a natural death with one by one of the books just ‘mysteriously disappearing’ from the shelves! It was written by me in my article – The District Commissioner’s Wife! – several years back!

One of the books that really had a traumatic affect on me at that time was titled A Death In The Family. Even today after more than forty years it still does – and I still remember that book! I do not know who in the end took the book away from the shelves – but what a pity – and shame on him or her for denying others to share the book from the library!

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Islamic Grave – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

About The Book –  A Death in the Family – by James Agee and Steve Earle –

Forty years after its original publication, James Agee’s last novel seems, more than ever, an American classic. For in his lyrical, sorrowful account of a man’s death and its impact on his family, Agee painstakingly created a small world of domestic happiness and then showed how quickly and casually it could be destroyed.

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Crying! For Demonstration Purposes Only!

On a sultry summer night in 1915, Jay Follet leaves his house in Knoxville, Tennessee, to tend to his father, whom he believes is dying. The summons turns out to be a false alarm, but on his way back to his family, Jay has a car accident and is killed instantly. Dancing back and forth in time and braiding the viewpoints of Jay’s wife, brother, and young son, Rufus, Agee creates an overwhelmingly powerful novel of innocence, tenderness, and loss that should be read aloud for the sheer music of its prose.

In his Pulitzer Prize–winning novel A Death in the Family, James Agee reconstructs through the lens of fiction the real-life car accident that claimed his father when James was not yet six years old. Leading us from the evening of the phone call that sets the tragedy in motion to the funeral that strives to bring the calamity to closure, Agee offers a plot that is simplicity itself, and the occurrences he describes are perhaps no different from those that would transpire within any family that has had a member suddenly stolen from its midst. Despite its seeming straightforwardness, however, A Death in the Family is a novel of surprising profundity and aching lyricism.

A triumph of literary style and psychological acumen, A Death in the Family excels in its brilliant attention to the too-often overlooked nuances of thought, speech, and action that comprise the true fabric of being. One of the most intensely personal novels ever written, it also transcends its author’s subjectivity to shed clear light on the mysteries of life and death, of faith and unbelief, in which all of us inescapably share.

More Sayings: –

  • Every man must do two things alone; his own believing and his own dying! – Martin Luther King
  • Always go to other people’s funerals, otherwise they won’t come to yours! – Yogi Berra

Sorry for a morbid subject! Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

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For Wednesday – November 13th 2013.

Between Us Only!

Staying After Office Hours! 

  • Family is the most important thing in the world! – Late Princess Diana
  • A man should never neglect his family for business! –      Walt Disney
  • Family is not an important thing! – it is everything – Michael J.      Fox

A long time ago – a good friend sent me this below – Speech by Brian Dyson – CEO Coca Cola – Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit … and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life.

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Images – Family – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Some years back – I was working in HR for this new Chinese company investing here and as usual by everyone – and them included – they do not have trust and confidence in local expertise and talents. So they brought their own HR person from home – only they gave him a different job title as at that time HR jobs were reserved only for Omanis – and laws were being monitored to ensure this.

You would imagine with such a situation there would be a natural clash with the local HR guy – even if it was not me! The person tried his level best to marginalise and belittle me in the eyes of his bosses – more his jealous and envious streak when they bought a new car for me – but he had to use Company car – as anyway he could not be allowed to drive! Anyway – it ended in me losing out – because of many things – and my own characteristics and personalities could just not go on.

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Images – Family – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

It eventually led to my first Arab Management book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – which you may recall won The USA Literary Excellency Golden Seal Award for 2013 anyway! As we the Arabs say – from the stomach of evil came blessings – or the silver lining in the storm clouds!

The reason I am bringing this is to demonstrate live how deceptions, lies, acting and facade can push your career progression upwards very fast!. As the East Africans also say – wait for the person going up the ladder – he will soon come down! Because some time far later the man was exposed – but I cannot put the real reasons here – as it is politically explosive – but is in my book anyway! You will find it at www.myownmajid.com

Besides, I am not a good Actor or Pretender. I have no issues staying behind office hours if there is a real need or case to do so. In my Oil Company – in Emergencies – we could work till 3 a.m. – and 7 a.m. we were back at Office – and sometimes we just did not sleep!

This guy was very good in inventing artificial and unnecessary work to do in HR – just to show he is very busy and dedicated. With his Chinese bosses – they used to go home even at 10 p.m. – but they were Engineering Project people – so it was understandable. But he went along – to accompany and give them support per se! And here was I – a family man – in my own country – going home past 2 or 3 hours closing time – but that was still not enough for them! Even if they were all single contracts – and their families back home!

Years far back – a similar situation had developed when I took over a HR job in my then Oil Company – but here I was able to win – and because there was Real Omanisation support, adherence and taking place! The Expatriate Assistant looking after the job soon found his way out  from my job auspices – after trying the same tricks that his future peer would try on me far later in life! The point to make here – it is not true that many Omanis do not want to stay after Office hours! First and foremost – we have our family and social commitments – that many expatriates do not have! So these wanton acts of pretenses, acting and facade need to end now!

I have seen live my expatriate peers ‘waste time` the whole day – doing petty and unnecessary works – and that includes endless meetings – till you are lost what that meeting was for – and you had to be reminded by The Chair – or bringing even wrong notes to the meeting! Real work for some of them start one or two hours before closing time – and in that way they can look real active and busy – and woe to you who has been working from the moment go – and now near closing time need to take a break – and or even go home!

Staying after office hours cause many expatriate families – and the isolated similarly inclined locals too – lots and lots of family problems and issues! If you read the weekly magazines – and see what the expatriate wives write to the Problem Columns! Some of them are so unhappy and miserable that they wish they were not married – and want to go home! Unfortunately, some of them are real qualified professionals – but have to stay in the houses because of the rules and regulations! I found this myself when I had my Consultancy!

Some of these ladies are so much bored, distressed, frustrated and unhappy  – that there is wear and tear in the family – including the children too – when hubby returns late at night – and early morning back to the Offices – including even weekends and holidays!

Being in HR – I have myself seen live examples and cases of expatriate housewives coming to see me with their problems – because `I was told you are good in listening – and sorry to waste your time’ – because you cannot do anything `for me in this hole I am now in’ ! Yet on the outside – their spouses have very good high paying jobs – paid houses and cars etc. The sad part is those on the lower echelons staying in miserable accommodation and pay – following their top peers!

Trust me in saying this – and I am not exaggerating or blowing things out of proportion here – but I have noticed live escapades and affairs – in those in the offices after office hours – and at homes with the neglected and ignored wives! It now includes men as a new trend too as the spouse – with the women working or in more senior positions – and priority more for the office than family!

After a few isolated visits and the sending of flowers – they will end soon from the Company side – when you really fall seriously sick – and that if you are lucky too! It will be your family, relatives and friends that will look after you – and depends how you have treated them before!

I do not know when ‘this disease’ will ever end? Take Care!

Happy National Day Greetings!

By  Majid Al Suleimany