Not Recognising and Valuing Our Own Writers! 5

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http://main.omanobserver.om/?p=33351  – Arab writers’ forum begins – Omani Society of Writers and Literati

System Failure! Not Recognising and Valuing Our Own Writers!

  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing , for life itself is a Writer’s love until deathEdna Ferber
  •  Simply calling yourself as wise men does not make you as such. People will judge you by your character and behavior only! – Famous

It is a shame to see that this conference was not used to incorporate All The Omani Writers, Columnists and Authors.

A good Indian friend called me to want to know more (maybe he knew already?) – but I replied to him that I did not!

If these sites will not make an impact – nothing else will!

My Books Websites –

www.myownmajid.com

www.myown-ebooks.com

www.bethesafedriver.com

www.majidbooks.com

Or is it crimes because we write in English?

These things of rivalry, jealousy, envy, polarization – and not recognizing and valuing our own – need to end!

I wrote to The Oman Daily Observer – who print my columns – and whom I have given complimentary gift copies to All in The Features Columns – including the Top Guys too! NO ONE RESPONDED – as usual!

It is a shame that these kind of things are happening in our country now – after all the things we have seen live happening in others – starting with just a school graffiti!

Bloody Shame on us!

Now we hear of Angola banning Islam and breaking down of mosques!

What is next?

As an Omani – Arab blood and Muslim – I hold my head down low with shame! Real Shame!

Maybe we do not meet the mark because we write in English? Maybe!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us All – Amin

Disappointed Sad Citizen

Majid bin Said bin Nasser bin Zahor bin Salim bin Ali bin Masoud Al Sulaimany

I guess this poor man – my late father – is turning in his grave!

Father

My Late Father – PBUH!

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Wipe My Tears! My New Book! Reply

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About The Book – Briefly!

• I read your article – it made me cry! I gave it to the wife – and she too cried with me! – Indian CEO. • Real visionary and with great realistic foresight – American CEO. • The article was a great eye-opener for me! – British CEO. • Great experiences, ideas and thoughts! – Senior Public Official! • My heart just broke out – and I cried out loud! – Omani Lady Fan

This is the Author’s 10th book – and book 6 in the Between Us Only! series. The book follows up on the success of the previous books and furthers the idea of private talks between friends on matters that many are too scared to touch!

Often times delving into sensitive critical topics that aren’t always sweet, this enlightening book uses a clear and elegant prose to explore social evils in the society as well as their light hearted counterparts.

Covering a variety of priceless topics, this wonderful collection of articles gives readers everywhere a glimpse into the issues that are prevalent in today’s society.

Although the book is based mainly on Oman and The GCC, many of the topics are of universal application and appeal – with the increasing lack of tolerance, radicalization and fundamentalism in society.

The book also carries many family, offices and human based articles that are applicable to us all – as bottom line we are the same human being in that same a person – with the same needs, wants and fears – devoid of race, religion, creed and color! Many of the articles are highly emotive and heart rendering – and that is the reason of adopting the title of Wipe My Tears!

Majid Al Suleimany has over twenty-five years of experience as a human resources specialist and over ten years of experience as a management and human resources consultant, expert, and advisor. For the past ten years, he has written weekly columns in The Oman Daily Observer, an English daily, which has led to five  published books based off of his columns. Al Suleimany has also published two other books on Arab management – http://www.myown-ebooks.com and one on Road Safety Awareness – http://www.bethesafedriver.com

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Morsi: A Management Issue? The Full Version Reply

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Spotlight – The Oman Daily Observer – August 21st 2013

Morsi: A Management Issue?

Or more sinister forces at work and play?

Morsi

Image – Desposed by Army Coup – Morsi – First Elected Egyptian President!

  • I live in a posh area – I have a big villa – I have a good job – I drive a posh car – and my children go to the best expensive school – But I simply have no freedom!Demonstrating Woman Against Army Take Over to Al Jazeera TV
  • Famous East African Saying Those that go out to destroy the homes of others – will have God Destroy their homes in return!

August 19, 2013

 Outpoint – Before I start on the topic.

I will try my level best to keep this article simple and apolitical – though I am still trying hard to understand and comprehend how GCC countries like KSA and UAE had supported the ‘military coup’ in Egypt – and even after massacres of innocent Muslims too – and despite the fact – whether we like to accept it or not – and whether we like Muslim Brotherhood or not – and of a first time elected government under Morsi after years in Egypt under Mubarak et al. This fact cannot be denied under any circumstances.

If it is a question of removing an elected government because of ‘gross mistakes violations and errors of judgment ‘ – then one can imagine of a lot of military coups would possibly take place in a number of places – using the same terms and references – as plausible strong reason and excuse?

In my article – Episode 14 – ‘Advice To A New CEO’ – dated August 27, 2003 in Book One – Between Us Only! – and over 10 years ago- I had said – Quote – .

The new CEO? Welcome Aboard! – …. But don’t change a thing! – The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by good examples and in leadership demonstrations.

DON’T CHANGE A THING! – In its October 2002 issue, Harvard Business Review – HBR (Ideas with impact), noted famous Management Magazine notes the following in one of its topics – New CEO, Welcome Aboard (But Don’t Change A Thing)” – some quotes: –

  • Ø “The folks at ……… were thrilled when they got a new CEO with fresh, bold ideas – until she started to act on them”
  • Ø (Old CEO to NEW) “Everyone here is in the slow lane. They are all wedded to the way things have always been done. You have to understand, this is a very old company. You may need to pull people along more slowly to make sure you don’t end up tearing the place apart”
  • Ø “She (New CEO) – if she is not clear with this team, she’ll be no better with the next. She should not make personnel (staff) changes until she has given the current team a chance.

This is a commonly held Management Concept for Success for the CEO – especially the new one!

The role of the Chief Executive Officer – including especially The New!

Refer to any Management expert or books on Management, the one fundamental advice that is always given to a new CEO or Official in joining an organisation, is never to ‘rock the boat’ on day one of joining! – However, good sincere and genuine your intentions may be!

In his book ‘7 habits of highly effective peoples’, Dr. Stephen Convey, a Management ‘guru’, says that in addition of being proactive and think win/win, ‘it is very important to seek first to understand and then to be understood’. Others are Begin with the end in mind; Put first things first; Synergize, and sharpen the sword (socially, spiritually, physically & mentally).

Other references and quotes –

‘It is impossible for anyone to perform well in these continually changing roles without help from his subordinates in the organisation – he needs to have a well – informed objective understanding and supportive sounding board with whom he can freely discuss his doubts, fears and aspirations’.

– Robert L. Katz ‘Skills of an Effective Administrator’ – Three Skills Approach (Technical Skill, Human Skill and Conceptual Skills).

‘The first duty – and the continuing responsibility of the Business Manager (CEO) are “to strive for the best possible economic results from the resources employed or available – by Peter F. Drucker – another Management guru.

Good Ideas – Bad Implementation Practices!

Where have we heard this one before? Many establishments, some of them international Conglomerates, have collapsed because a new CEO was installed who wanted to make fast, rapid and drastic changes, without first getting to know the establishment well and its peoples, and what made them tick.

Success may have seemed to come with immediate effects (with the usual ‘colourings’ of press and for coverage) but in the medium to long term, the consequences are detrimental to the healthy running of the establishment and in its eventual early collapse and demise.

The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. When you transgress such a group, you are not only asking for trouble, but also putting your own neck on the line (shooting oneself in the foot too!).

The resentment, antipathy, anger, fury, animosities, frustrations and disappointments felt by such peoples (maybe results not visible immediately) but eventually can cause havoc and disaster to the organisation.

Many CEOs do a fundamental (grave) error of judgement when they remove (enmasse especially) the ‘old guards’ and put in their place ‘new likeable faces of his own’ choice into positions of power and authority. Not only these old guards pretend and act to go along with the changes, but they sure take aim and target to ensure the ‘introduced changes’ are sabotaged and killed from within.

They do these carefully and viciously, because the least thing they want are to be found out and be caught in the process. The process is exacerbated when you have still in-fighting within this group too (some at even senior levels), but who will attempt to come together against the new CEO and his intended changes per se!

For the short span of time and duration, things may even seem to work with new creativity, ideas and innovation coming from those ‘replacing new bright younger brains’ – but eventually we are all human beings, and the fear and dread of what may turn up next gets the better of all of us!. This is especially when the new CEO keeps asking ‘for more and more’ ideas and innovations to keep him in the limelight and in coverage! It puts a lot of pressures on the work force, with the ‘bubble bursting’ in the final analysis.

The ‘new blood’ start to feel (as they are all human too) that if an ‘uncle’ or ‘elder relative or fellow worker’ was so easily sidelined and marginalized in his duties and in his responsibilities (he saw it too, perhaps they came to his office to ‘cry’ too), why the same cannot be matted out instead to them eventually and in the course of time.

This creates uncertainties, apprehensions and worries and instead of being a morale booster, actually turns up to be quite the opposite in results, outcome and in consequences.

The new CEO may find support and encouragement from the Board of Directors and in the Chairman, but when morale, motivation and performance and profits (for which results are all paramount oriented and based) fall, ‘heads will definitely roll, however, they liked you before!’

In this scenario, the CEO will be required to change his outlook, focus orientation and in pursuits. He has to do this immediately if he is to survive. Otherwise it will mean that he will need to ‘Update and Validate’ his CV in pursuit of other new job venue and opportunities – if any – especially if history will record his ‘killing off and collapsing’ an otherwise operation of a successful and profitable establishment (killing the goose that laid golden eggs) – be it that there were even a lot to be desired to be modified or changed in the old structure of the establishment.

Continued – I had said – It is also in Countries and in Politics!
These things do not only happen to establishments but even to countries (example recently in Iraq and in Peru – Article written August 2003.
This situation goes on to even to the highest office in some lands. A new President is elected by popular vote- he gets a popular rating. Greater percentages of the population have voted him in.  So what is the first thing he does? He removes all those in top positions (early retirement is a good option!), and puts his crony friends in their places. He feels now confident that he has the support of all his friends.
He removes all the top brass professional Generals and puts his cronies in their places instead. History then proves the rest – one of his most reliable and trusted General ‘takes over the helm of leadership’. The man ends up in jail, or he is allowed to ‘abdicate’ if he is so lucky. The ‘cut outs’ professional but not trusted other Generals ‘shake their heads in sadness and disbelief – perhaps if they were still there, this would not have happened!
The General is a human too. If he saw his peers sidelined, what guarantee is there that it will not happen to him – especially in a disagreement or confrontation module with the boss!

In life we all go on to do the same things, at our own levels in life. As the CEO, we remove the assistants we think we cannot trust, or move them to positions of less significance but of grand newly designed titles – ‘Head of IT Development and Implementation’, or ‘Strategic Management Business Head’ (early retirement here too is a good option!).

‘Live Personal Examples’ per se!

In my life career, I had one Company Director who wanted to make drastic and rapid changes on day one he came in! As is my usual self, I always try to maintain a balance of being pragmatic and proactive vis-à-vis to follow formal instructions (for my next pay cheque), so I had the ‘guts and the audacity’ (catching the bull by its horns, so to speak!) and to tell him that these changes he wanted would not augur well with affected staff, especially local.

I had also cautioned him of the ‘consequences of making many changes rapidly and in a short tenure of time. It is not only peoples getting lost, but the antipathy, cynicism and the disenfranchise elements emanating from the ‘affected Staff’ per se.

Though initially he was taken back by this response from the good self, but to his credit – being an educated, proactive, and pragmatic and highly profile person, he was able to see my views and points, and more importantly the dire dangers and consequences that he wanted to drive us all through.

Some of my friends thought I was ‘naïve and a fool’ to risk my career (putting a rope around your own neck to hanged!). “You could have been sidelined / marginalised or even be terminated’, my good friends advised, ‘why bother? He wants it that way, just do it – it is his own funeral!

Not many senior peoples inhigh echelon positions take kindly to be “confronted” by those junior or lower to them, and these “brave and courageous’ peoples found too late that their careers were not only dented, but faced an early death. Early Retirement is what ‘the game is nowadays!’

This Director – we still correspond, at least at the end of the year. He keeps referring to me as ‘a friend’, but also as ‘a best example of a risk taker’ he ever knew for a while!

There is nothing so bad and damaging than frustrated staff that suffer in disdain and in quiet, frustration, rancour, bitterness and in apathy and in disappointments. When staff are ‘not healthy’ the organisation also suffers eventually. Productivity is affected. You can forget ideas of expansion; survival of the establishment is highly taxed and put to great risks, deprivation and in detriment.

The concepts of Change Management are in itself complex in that even the Management do not agree to each other on what is the right approach and perspective to ‘influence change’ in itself per se.

Recommendations.

It is essential and vital to get everyone on board when contemplating and formulating changes. The underlying factor is that the new CEO especially has to understand and appreciate that he is dealing with the most complex of his resources (albeit it being the most paramount and important one too).

It is critical and extreme too if these changes would incorporate drastic changes or reversals in peoples entrenched formal positions (worse in informal leadership positions!) or their continued existence in the Organisation, that the new CEO uses all his tact, interpersonal and managerial skills to see participation and involvement of all the staff (or majority) in these changes per se.

It is very important to make Staff feel that no particular polarization or group is being targeted in these changes, even if the intentions maybe good sincere and genuine, and this was ‘not in the plans’ per se!

My advice and counsel to CEOs and ‘the new man in Charge’ is that not many of our subordinates are ready to take a risk to tell you exactly what they think or feel – especially when they see very bad and raw treatment vetted out on the long serving staff.

It is not a question of just getting rid of only old staff who perhaps may be truly ‘transfixed and rigid in their outlooks and approaches, or even ‘dead wood’ for that matter.

It is a question of how you get to know the establishment well first, to get to know its social culture and its environment and modus operation, and how you tackle the issue and convince people.

Even armies if they are not convinced, they will surrender and let the enemy take over. We saw that even in Iraq just only recently! The same ‘convinced army’ will fight to its death in protecting and honouring those it is supposed to serve and protect. We have already seen examples of that recently.

The thing is called “tact” and the right and correct approach and how equitable, ethical and right approach and cohesion is taken.

Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by examples and in demonstrations.

This is my (humble) advice to any CEO who wants to make a niche and name for himself, and to be acknowledged as a ‘successful CEO’ – and not a loser (and either be sidelined / marginalized or even eventually be jobless, what goes around, comes around!).

Remember you are the driver of the car, when your passengers are scared, they will not tell you of the obstacles you cannot see. You will only see after inadvertently you have hit them!

That is the worst-case scenario for any CEO! New or Old!

The rest is history on what had happened to Morsi. A lot of ‘Conspiracy Stories’ are now emerging as to why he was removed from power – including The Ethiopian Dam Link – The Israeli-Saudi link – and the usual of The West not wanting an ‘Islamic Government’ to succeed in Egypt – after The Turkey and Senegal experiences etc – and ‘refusing to accept ‘Democracy results’ in previously Algeria and Gaza.

And Morsi should have realised the sinister forces working against him – and who he was surrounded with. Phaorah’s Egypt. On a personal front – it was a big mistake to open his mistakes in his rambling 2 hours speech

Anyway, as I had promised in the beginning I will stop here – as my usual style in writing of ‘taking you up to the bridge – and then letting you decide if you want to cross it – or go back.

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Images – For and Against Morsi – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

This article is dedicated to the innocent lost lives and maimed ones in the ‘unneeded and unwanted called for’ massacres – instead of following our Religion and The Hadith in solving our own problems our own ways – by frank honest sincere genuine one-to-one – give-and-take – face2face discussions – and in making hard, difficult complex decisions for compromises, settlements and solutions.

Let us only hope and pray MB does not go underground – as Muslims (Arabs) lose confidence in Elections! Making Another Syria – the worst nightmare scenario!

May Allah God Guide us and Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin

With sincere and due apologies,

By:

Majid Al-Suleimany

August 19, 2013

The Writer is a weekly Column Contributor in The Oman Observer Features under ‘Between Us Only’. He has published 10 books – more details here at http://www.myownmajid.com

He has worked for over 25 years as a Human Resources Professional in mainly Petroleum Development Oman (PDO). And a Management Expert, Consultant and Advisor for the past 12 years – now fully retired. He holds an MBA in International Management (UK).
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
 
 
 

My Arab Management books are now in eBooks! Reply

Good News – on My Books!

My Arab Management books are now in eBooks!

May 23, 2012

www.myown-ebooks.com

My Books in Arab Management are now in eBooks format! See below letter from The Publishers Trafford in USA. The book also A Cry For Help! had been converted last month to eBooks.

I believe this is an achievement for an Omani Author, Writer and Columnist to have his books in Arab Management (in English) recognised and established due to the books demand worldwide. Please note that Trafford Publishing USA had converted the books free for this Author due to many requests worldwide.

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This Psychology book is sold out in Oman bookshops. Sadly they will not order directly and want me to order the books for them! And I am just broke…!

And that is the Oman (Arab) tragedy for all openly to see! I can see similar lack of support for my next book in Road Safety book novel type – see posting here.

Will we ever change? I do not think so! If I was an expatriate and wrote about Omani Castles and or Butterflies – all of us will come forward to help – especially if it is a HER!

Allah Kareem. God Is Great. Amin. Amen.

Subject: eBook Conversion Post Fulfillment for PID_165228
To: <majidalsuleimanybooks@gmail.com>

THE EMAIL – as below: –

Dear Majid Al Suleimany,

Good day!

We are glad to inform you that your Book, Psychology of Arab Management Thinking, has been successfully converted to a new eBook file format. This new eBook version, called EPUB, is quickly becoming the new standard for the eBook industry. The new eBook file does not affect any previous eBook versions you may have for this book. Trafford has submitted the new eBook file to our partner eBook vendors to increase the overall distribution of your book. Your new eBook will appear on each vendor’s website after each company has had a chance to review and process the file. Please note we cannot guarantee your eBook will be accepted by every vendor.

We will do our best to get your book included on as many sites as possible including future partnerships we are or will be working on. If you are curious to know which eBook vendors are carrying your new eBook file, we encourage you to search online using an online search engine. The results there will show you which vendors are currently carrying your title.

Should you have questions about the conversion of your title to an eBook, please email us at ebookservice@authorsolutions.com.

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From the Publishers Trafford in USA!

So was A Cry For Help! similarly done last month. See books images here…

 

 

The Committee Has Not Met Yet! At My Workplace! Reply

At My Workplace!

The Committee Has Not Met Yet!

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 See also scanned copy here as has appeared in The Oman Daily Observer of April 25th 2012

  •  Still Nothing Has Changed Much – Despite All The Rhetoric!
  • If Moses were a Committee – The Israelites would still be in Egypt today!
  • Nothing you tell these people will have any effect on them – Ali Fazari – Syrian Artist.

 In hindsight and again speaking from my own personal experiences and in retrospect – I wish to reiterate this point – that though we have seen some initiations and improvements in the citizens’ rights and freedom – still nothing has changed much on the grounds and in reality.

 The problems are the same in pushing them forward into action, reality and into practice – rather than them being minutes of meetings – and if even filed for records first of all in the first instance. There is need for real movement into action, propelling, push, dynamism and pragmatism in moving them forward – into practice and into reality. Time is not in our side – in essence and or in favour – before we all get bogged down into being reactive ‘fire fighting’ – and further ‘red tape, bureaucracy and inaction’!

 It is alright to put news of improvements and changes for the better in the media – but what is the use of all of them – if they are still not practiced – or excuses given for delays and procrastinations – as is the usual case? I hope that Readers can remember of what I wrote before of those working within the system – the ‘old guards syndrome’ – to prevent and or delay changes. These peoples need to be exposed – and kicked out – and as lessons to others.

 This is also the real truth still! The citizen cannot still win – or very few isolated cases in success – against the public departments and bodies. This is even if you have a case where if things were really practiced and put in action – the citizen SHOULD win in case of dispute scenario. But he will simply not win. Adversely, the same public body can take you for action – and or sue you in courts for the ‘same case and situation’ – for as many times as they want – and the case will still be heard – and nothing can stop them! Even if you cannot draw blood from a stone! 

You go to the Public Officials that you know to hope for solace and intervention – and they are obligated to do so by their authorities, power, control and auspices dominion – if not that you know them well and hope Wastah will kick in – but does not! Simply no one will ever lift a finger to help you – or they turn away from you as if you do not exist- and even if you try to contact then face to face – let alone by emails and by phone? Even if you want to fight against the Big Cats for your rights or that company of yours that is closing down – you end yet again as The Loser!

 How long these things will go on – before something breaks up – or blows up in front of our faces?  The truth and in actual fact – the things at stake and at issue are in reality not really big unsolvable issues – but involve the usual uncaring, care-free, no-interest, cannot-be-bothered-the least approaches and attitudes. What if really big things were at stake? One shudders –  and does not want even want to start thinking on this! Heads need to roll – before things can really improve – otherwise it is a lost cause – and everyone will end as the loser!

 Even if you have given up and do not want to fight your case – because you know you will lose again as the citizen – and complied by what ‘as has been thought as fair and equitable – does not matter if you think differently – who cares? If you follow up your case – so you can be in the clear – and restore your personal freedom and rights – you get the same excuse – The Committee has still not met yet to discuss and or finalise your situation. You are not the only one – so just wait! This is said to you more in annoyance and in anger – rather than in trying to cool you down – or making you understand about the situation – and in letting you know about the results.

 There are things I said in 1980s that now have really happened in reality and on the grounds too. Yet I was given all the labels – including having chips on his shoulders! – A big mouth – a trouble-maker – needs to be stopped! – and so on!

 My problems are that I care and feel a lotand want things to work out – and not go bad! Instead, I always end up as the victim of circumstances of my own making for speaking up and making a stand – and the usual at the end loser! Whilst those who do not care or bother get rewarded – and acknowledged – and given more and more – because of their lack of caring and in indifference.

 Twice I have given up writing anymore – only to persuaded to come back in again. Of course, I cannot deny that I need the money – if even after 35 years of dedicated services, loyalty and feelings of caring are simply wasted – because I cannot touch much my own pension for the very same aforementioned reasons.

 I can now understand and appreciate why people turn to Religion in despair and in giving up hope – instead of the few like Mohamed Buazizi of Tunisia in self-immolation. I simply cannot understand and comprehend why people are so mean and dastardly to each other – and not wanting to change – despite all the changes around us now!

 I am really tired now in continuing writing about these same issues – and I am still in the tunnel – and no hopes for to see the light at the end of the tunnel – if ever that will be so!

 TAKE CARE!

By: –

Majid Al Suleimany.

The Scared Managers! At My Workplace! Reply

At My Workplace!

The Scared Managers!

For the last 18 months or so I have been at home with no sort of any Human Resources Management job (temporary and or part time) or project-wise. Being bored stiff and having my car back now after it was hijacked by Madam – who finally hit the ceiling to call in retirement benefits (did you notice how sensitive ladies get when they have to tell people their true age and why they are now at home!) – I decided to visit a few of my peers in their offices! Uninvited and unprepared they were for me in my visits!

There are some places I know that I will be most welcomed in and be well treated – whilst I am not naïve not to know that in some places I will be not welcomed – and if I tried entry I would be asked to leave – and or escorted out if I still resisted! This does not bother me the least – because these are places where my good Indian friends have said – he first gave Aaacha Boloo (AB – plain true straight forward hit back talk to the boss!) before he abruptly quit with short or no notice at all!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So I met these good friends of mine. In some of the places the offices provided for the last day of the week samosas and snacks were still continuing (I missed these and the chats!) – but in others they were no longer there. The excuse was of course ‘budget’ – but I personally think it was more ‘sinister and covered up’ than that! In one of the places my peer friend decided to take me to introduce me to the new Top Guy (TG – Omani also) – and as I sat chatting with him the subject moved over to requirement of filling in the position of one HR position – the incumbent who had interrupted a meeting the TG was giving – and had quitted on the spot after getting AB from him.

So the peer was suggesting to promote the Assistant of the resigned incumbent – but the TG would not hear about it! He just said – if we could not ‘control’ the other guy – how can we be able to control this one – he is worse than him (resigned incumbent)! This scared me to my wits that the desire ‘to control, dominate and manipulate’ was still there – despite all the things that have happened – and in some places still happening! Things in the offices will never change – whether it was locally or expatriate run like in the past!

Why are the Managers so scared that they still want to control their staff? It looks to me like conscripted workers that need to be put in their places like in the military or prison arenas with unruly vagabond rebellious units – and inactive and on the run! Actually the scariest part was not this one but the approaches, attitudes and focuses now of not upsetting the staff – especially the latest entrants younger local staff including the graduates too. The fear is that they do not want to be ‘in the news’ again of slowdowns or work stoppages – so the Management is driving a clear safe distance of dealings and inter relationships – and even if the talks of ‘control management’ aspects are also going on in line and in parallel!

It reminded me of one company that I used to work for in one of the neigbouring countries where they laughed their heads off when being in HR I wanted to see a few of the new entrants in the lists! The mockery and tease was – wait for payday when they come to collect their salaries – we make it a point that at least on pay day they come in to sign in for the cheques – though we could as well transfer their salaries through the bank too if we wanted.

But just to keep minimal contacts – because ‘they are not workers – and we are forced to take them in being nationals’! This plus the interviewee who wanted first to see how his office would look first before sitting down and agreeing to be interviewed by me – though albeit admittedly a local by default too!

Frankly if these things are really going on of not wanting ‘to bother and disturb the staff and let peace reign supreme’ then there are more troubled waters ahead – and MORE dangers than if not action and discipline is not taken for the few offenders and miscreants – localization or not? Why are the Managers now so scared – even the locals too?

We really do need to really self-analyse ourselves and deep consciousness review and research – before we build up lazy bones and uncaring unethical and unprofessional staff for the future!

Take Care!

By: –

Majid Al Suleimany

Cinder Fires Burning! Between Us Only! 1

Between Us Only!

 Cinder Fires Burning!

 From Burning Homes! To Still Burning Homes!

My last week article Marriages In Peril! seemed to have touched some raw nerves and this time even the men joined the fray in blaming each other on ‘who is the causer and the main culprit’! There were repeated calls to write more on the social issues – because ‘M you write as if you are speaking to us directly (from your heart!) – and this style touches and moves us quite a lot!

 

Although everyone appreciates that life has not been fair to you and you are victim of circumstances beyond your control – and you are suffering now because you are sincere, transparent and straight forward – and some people simply do not like or appreciate this – and even if at the bottom line you are kind, considerate, feeling and compassionate – but hell who cares – especially now!

In a nutshell that is the crunch of the problem – people stopping to care, feel and touch – to be kind and compassionate to each other – and that is why we have all these problems now and the tear at the social fabric! And things are now just going more in the other adverse direction – and not for the better or good!

This week a good couple I know have decided to go ‘into separation mode’ quoting irrevocable unmendable differences – and the sad and tragic part was that the children now ‘understand the situation – appreciate the outcome as no other alternative’ – and for me trying to butt in and interfere that is the most hurtful and painful. Yet the couple are comfortable and relaxed – like going to the Dentist to ‘remove a painful decaying tooth’!

 I was also chatting with one friend of mine from one of the GCC country – and he was telling me now that because of the new environment there – the things that now take the most hit now are family relationships and friends – especially across the artificial divide. Though we are all Believers and supposed to be as One and Together – but we are now split and divided – and even intrusions in the family homes are now becoming more evident with marriages breakdowns and divide. Even between siblings too – which is the worst case scenarios – because one sibling decided to join this sect – whilst the other the opposite sect – though in the same house – and to divided parents loyalties and affiliations – where none existed before the troubles began!

 

This happened also in one famous Arab country after the civil war that lasted several years! Yet today I was reading in the news of at least one famous (and bold!) USA General speaking out against the envisaged and planned attack on Iran by Israel – and the flak he is receiving because bold and good men dare to come out and speak the truth for a change ‘to change things’ – contexts and perspectives. It seems that human beings will never learn their lessons – and we simply do not read our history books – and even for that matter the recent records! The irony and sad thing is also this – People do attack things that they should defend – and they defend things that they should attack! I am taking a patent on this expression!

 I was also joking to Madam that in our villa in Qurum Heights we have all the sects in praying in the very same house – and including our Filipino housemaid for the last 18 years – with her bible and images of Christ in her room. When my son told me he is planning to get married to a girl of another sect – it reminded me of my late father – peace be upon him – looking at me in disdain when I told him the very same thing – though she was too of Arab blood – but of another country – and sect! It reminded me of the famous expression – What goes around – comes around! I think my late father is smiling in his grave!

 And that is the beauty of OmanMay Allah God Protect and Preserve our beloved land from all mischief and trouble makers – Amin. May Allah Allow us to solve all our issues and problems in an amicable, peaceful way – Amin. May Allah God Give long life and health to our His Majesty and his enlightened and benevolent rule – and let Oman remain as a beacon and example for the rest of the world to follow and emulate – Amin.

Our His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – The Founder of Oman.

 The truth is also this – whether some want to accept it or not. There is no true Omani who can boast and say he is not related or associated to other groupings than just his own one – and that is the real truth – even if for some may find it as a bitter pill to swallow! The acts, pretenses and charades are being seen through – and that is what makes us like other great nations of the world – and my particular example I like to quote is of The USA – with its ethnic mix and composition. Another example is also Mother India – if communal violence and minority elements are removed.

Omani People Images – Allah Bless Us All – Amin!

 Actually things do need to start from the homes first. When things are settled and peaceful at the homes – the rest will follow suit. Personally I think that things are more at stake at homes and followed by The Offices – as always in my columns – and not to sound repetitive, discerning and boring!

 My books especially Between Us Only! – series – have many articles on such issues – and much more – please visit at www.majidbooks.com

 Take Care!

 By Majid Al Suleimany

No More Wars – Please!!!!! 6

The Oman Daily Observer Features of

Sunday February 12th 2012.

 Link to My Website – www.majidall.com

 Between Us Only!

No More Wars – Please!

In the end – no one will be spared – and everyone will suffer – in one way or the other!

 Call me whatever you want – give me any colouring that you want or wish for me – but in the final analysis and juncture it is me who decides who I am really as M – and where I belong – my associations and leanings etc. Who I am as a person – the real me – my mantle – my outlooks – perceptions – focuses – attitudes – you name it! If you do not know me by now – you will never be able to do ever again! I am what I am – the real me – as M!

 I have always called a spade as a spade – even if I end as The Loser- I fall down – but I gather myself – and rise up again. I never allow myself to lose – or be pushed down without a fight and a stand. I will rise up to the occasion – even if it may take time for me to do so – or give wrong signals that I am now surrendering – and have given up!

 Forget what the politicians on both sides of the fence may say. Forget what some of the Leadership may say. Enough is Enough! We have had it to the core – and red lines have been crossed so many times – and now no longer – no more! We simply have had enough!

 Images Destructions and Effecting human lives – the famous ‘collateral damages’ slang!

If people can never learn from past mistakes – past history – error in judgment and in decisions taken before – and being contemplated again – they will never learn now – and never will. Like Napoleon had said – and I keep repeating in my columns every time – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself! Or that famous Roman expression – Those that the gods are out to destroy – they make them not see, hear or speak!

 We are supposed to be the smartest, brilliant and intelligent species on the face of the earth – but yet human beings still never fail to amaze and shock you – shock and awe! People will always let you down – disappoint you – to say the least here!  

 People now are just tired of being lied to – and always attempts to hoodwink and cheat them! They do not agree anymore to be taken for granted and as fools – and they will take in everything thrown to them – hook, bait and sinker? That people are so naïve and gullible that they will believe everything thrown to them – especially when you give it an air of authencity and reality surroundings – so they will believe what you are saying to them now? Especially when lied before – and what happened in other places.

 Everyone for that matter needs to make his own house in order first – before you go on lecturing down to others! Or just issuing cautions and threats. Saying that sincerely and openly too! And please do be responsible – do not antagonize – and making things more worse than what they are already! Or make mountains out of molehills! Think out your words carefully – and realize its impact, repercussions and results – to others and yourself included too!

 The message is very clear. We do not care who is right or wrong – who started it or not – who is to blame or not! Simply and smugly put – we do not need to have another war. We just have had enough!

 Everyone is giving the same message – sit down together and talk – like intelligent, smart, wise, dynamic and pragmatic human beings are required to do so! Act your roles and responsibilities entrusted to you by your own peoples and humanity as a whole – for peace, stability, understanding, harmony and tolerance – live and let live – think outside the box – for the region, your own places and for the whole world!

 http://warisacrime.org/node/10442

 See above website as an example of horrors of war. CAUTION – before you open it! You have been warned!!

Image War Destructions – Do it to others – and others do unto you! Or God Will!

 Please act now – before it is too late for everybody! Take Care!

 This article is dedicated to Late Dr. Donald Taeke Bosch – and his family. A great man came – and has now gone! May God rest his soul in eternal peace – in this world – and the next – Amin (Amen) – and may his family have the forbearance, patience and peace – as we all mourn his demise and departure from amongst us all. Now here is a best example of a great person and personality that we all can learn from – how to live together in peace, harmony, understanding and love – and we can all copy and emulate!

 By Majid Al Suleimany

Books by Majid Al Suleimany – The Omani Author, Publisher, Writer and Columnist. Reply

Books by Majid Al Suleimany – The Omani Author, Publisher, Writer and Columnist.

A     The Arab Management Books (English)

www.majidbooks.com

www.mymajidbooks.wordpress.com

Please visit my above websites for books in Arab Management issues and aspects – and as written in English.

There are few books as such written in English and published by the Arab locals themselves – and in this style and format from a personal perspective – and in deep self conscience, criticism, analysis and review.

The First Book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – was published in January 2009 Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.

The Second Book – A Cry For Help! – published in September 2009 – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.

A Cry For Help! sort of foretold and prophesied The Arab Awakening and Uprisings – by highlighting the issues and aspects that were also revealed by The Arab Youth cries and grievances – mainly centred on jobs, their outlooks, their participation – and need for involvement – and their future – and for their destiny and legacy.

Psychology book critically reviewed shortfalls and out comings in Arab Management – and ways and means to improve and in changes required to overcome – and to be seen as successful and in winning!

The books are written from a personal perspective and context covering the Author’s over 35 years as a Management and Human Resources Professional, Expert, Advisor and Advisor in Oman and GCC.

Books published in USA by Trafford – www.trafford.com

Both books available in eBooks format

 

 

B     Between Us Only! Series Books.

You will also find Between Us Only! Series books from The Oman Daily Observer Columns for the last 11 years covering interesting wide varied and relevant subjects and topics – both local, Arab, GCC and International.

Books also in English.

Between Us Only! – The Sequel – Between Us Only! – and Short Takes – Between Us Only!

Books published in USA by Trafford – www.trafford.com

The First book was published in Oman. Short Takes have emotional short stories with pictures and caricatures.

 

 

 

 C     Books Ordering

See here also on how to order the books

In Oman books are available at Family Bookshop Medinat Al Qaboos and at WHSmith (The Wave).

In UAE at Magrudys and Jashanamal – by ordering only!

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Majid Al Suleimany

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Why Do We Do All These Things To Each Other Now?? 3

 

Why Do We Do All These Things To Each Other Now??

I stopped smiling now!

 Dear All;

People may say anything that they want about me – including that I am ‘eccentric. crazy or mad even’ – and that I get angry quickly even though I am diabetic and my Eye Doctor has warned me to ‘be extra careful’ because I am one of the few in millions that has pressures going to my eyes instead of my body. My left eye has left 55% vision left only and 65% of the right eye. When I am extra angry I even bleed from my eyes!

The point I want to make is this.

 I have noticed that people have changed for the worse now! The situation has gone even worse then before! It has gone ……. bad!

There is too much meanness, viciousness, vindictiveness, divisions, bad hearts, polarisations, bad intentions and wills – and some think they are more important than others – and have more rights too! Despite all things we see in real life happening in front of our eyes – and not far from us either! 

Frankly, I am not a vengeful and vindictive person – I think  I am confident and convinced in saying this!

I respect and esteem everyone – whatever religion, race or creed – and I expect the same from everyone in turn. Bottom line I know I try best to be kind, nice and helpful – because I am afraid of My God – the Punishment of The Grave – and Eternal Hell Fire as a Believer! Even that ant you trample on viciously will have you punished in your grave and Day of Judgment – let alone doing it to a fellow human being – believer or not.

 And as Muslims we believe Judaism and Christianity amongst the Believers – and Islam is the only Religion after Christianity that believes in Jesus Christ (Prophet Issa), Mother Miriam and the miracle birth!

I have been writing for the last 8 years – and on the same subjects and topics – and I keep writing – again and again! I am writing more as a hobby – something that I like to do! Nothing more or less! The money is peanuts – if and when it comes in!

The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak. Or as we Arabs say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had appropriately have said – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (let it be syndrome).

Things I had said in 1980s came to pass – even in my working time and career too! I am tired of saying – I TOLD YOU SO! The same things that I have said in my articles from 2003 onwards – 8 years ago! Just imagine! I warned and cautioned on the cinder fires burning underneath – instead my books and me were targeted instead! Even the VIPs I sent my books did not have even the courtesy to acknowledge and thank me!

What are all these things for?

 Anyway, I would like to thank all my fans and supporters from my heart with warmth, sincerity and genuine feelings and touch. And I ask your forgiveness for those who chose ‘not to be my friends’ – and those trying to get back at me – to shut me up and close my mouth!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin

Best Wishes and Regards,

 Majid Al Suleimany