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On 25 Aug 2014 22:10,  a good reliable friend (source) sent me this email – about her experiences with some Foreign Arab (Levant) Ladies. Will reproduce verbatim as is self explanatory!


Dear Majid,

After what had happened to me today I immediately thought of sharing this with you – it might not be the kind of story you want to write in your news forum – please do write it for the sake of omani women.

It all started when I took my kids for swimming in Al Khalili swimming in Al khuwair near the Egyptian school. As usual it was ladies time and the pool was filled with mums and kids – most of the kids were below 5 years of age.  As soon as my girls were changed and in the pool – I took a chair to sit and observe them – then this terrible smell of cigarette started – and in the middle of all kids and other mums were these 4 (shami) ladies smoking. I approached them and politely requested if they want to smoke they should go outside the pool area – they ignored me – so again I explained its not allowed to smoke in such public area where small kids are exposed to smoking – I could not believe their own kids who are like 3 to 5 were just there playing and breathing all the smoke like its nothing.

Ok – back to my story – the lady smoker just looked up at me and gave that look  like nothing happened – I gave her an empty cup and told her in a firm tone – please put that cigarette out. the other shami lady was like its not your business so I lost it and took the cigarette from her mouth and threw down and stepped on it. then they all started attacking me – like smoking was a great thing – I could not believe it they all took cigarettes and I kept repeating its not allowed to smoke there are kids here and they were – this is our rights – so I said what right?? you have no right to smoke between all these small kids – all these other mums do not appreciate what you are doing – they were saying well if you don’t like our smoking then leave the pool!!

Imagine then, she says if we were american you would not have said a thing – so i said if you were american you would have respect for other people – and she said listen – you omani women – you are not like us – we have rights – so I said what rights?? smoking rights? and she answered the moment your rights ends our rights begin. so I said Alhamdullilah I am Omani in Oman so my rights will not end for stupid women like you who fight for smoking like its a wonderful thing. Imagine they had hijabs on and they say – then let Oman ban the swimming costume if they can not allow women to smoke.  so I said we respect that and that is why we have a women day.

I told her off – Lady you may smoke to your death in your home surrounded by your kids but here in public place where there are other women and very small children you should not smoke and don lecture me about rights and i never heard of women rights to smoke maybe in Syria but not in Oman.

and she started swearing on omani women – you omani women you have no thaqafa – thank god we dont have it – if it means we smoke in front of our kids. I have not seen such disrespectful women like shami women – they are rude and just because they do not have values in their country they do not respect other people’s values.

Please majid if you ever get chance put this on your blog.


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Paak Ghaya!


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For those who do not know what it means, I know you are dying to let me tell you what it means, but have patience with me Dear Reader; because it is going to be clear in the next few sentences! I can assure you that it is Hindi, just in case you are wondering what it all means! And why not? After all, I have a great following in this group too!

You know those of us so-called Human Resources Professionals always say this thing – it is not the reasons given to you by a Staff who is leaving the establishment (mad house! Or one flew over the cuckoo’s nest!) That is valid and being more important but actually what was it that had prompted that person to start to look for another job in the first instance that is more important! Does not make any sense, or is the gist lost in its meanings? Let me explain.

In normal what they refer in Human Resources as an Exit Interview (let us ask you why you are leaving interview), the Staff may give a number of reasons why. For example the salary is higher being received in the new place. Perhaps and or fringe benefits and perks, or a higher more senior job even if sometimes there maybe no visible financial advantages per se (in some cases even losing out financially – but then you may be right in thinking that no ‘one is mad enough’ to do such a thing! You may be right too, but do not forget that there is a mad house out there too, and peoples are capable of doing the least and when expected syndromes too!). But then it is easy for us to judge as ‘outsiders’ and unless these things have happened to you or are happening to you now! Trust my word on it, I know I have been there too, in many times and too close for comfort either!

What I am trying to say here is this – as an establishment you need to find out what was it that had prompted that staff to apply outside in the first instance! It could be a small thing to the boss in charge and or to the establishment, but could be a major issue and or catastrophe to the Staff. For example when a Boss shouts and screams to a subordinate in front of his own peers and his own subordinates, what does this Boss expect? What do we have big rooms for Managers and Supervisors for? It is to use for privacy and discuss sensitive issues in the privacies of those rooms. Like a sceptic friend of mine would have remarked – The big rooms surely not for decoration, but for usage. He would go on to say – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations! 

It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before: This is why people leave organizations – Azim Premji. – WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS? – (much of this article is based from that article) unquote.

The article goes on – Every company normally faces one common problem of high employee turnout ratio. People are leaving the company for better pay, better profile or simply for just one reason’ pak gaya ! 

Why do experienced, professional and talented employees leave despite a top salary?

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called First Break All the Rules.

It came up with this surprising finding: If you’re losing good people, look to their immediate supervisor. More than any other single reason, he is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization.  And he’s the reason why they quit, taking their knowledge, experience and contacts with them. Often, straight to the competition.

People leave Managers not Companies,” write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman. “So much money has been thrown at  the challenge of keeping good people – in the form of better pay, better  perks and better training – when, in the end, turnover is mostly  Manager  issue.”

If you have a turnover problem, look first to your Managers.   Are they driving people away?

Beyond a point, an employee’s primary need has less to do with money, and more to do with how he’s treated and how valued he feels. Much of this depends directly on the immediate manager. And yet, bad bosses seem to happen to good people everywhere..

A Fortune magazine survey some years ago found that nearly 75 per cent of employees have suffered at the hands of difficult superiors. You can leave one job to find – you guessed   it, another wolf in a pin-stripe suit in the next one.

Of all the workplace stressors, a bad boss is possibly the worst, directly impacting the emotional health and productivity of employees. HR Experts say that of all the abuses, employees find public humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a Thought has been planted…

The second time that thought gets strengthened.  The third time, he starts looking for another job.  When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and NO MORE. This is done by omitting to give the boss crucial and very essential information.

That could impact and seriously jeopardize an organization. Have you seen this in real life? A new staff joins and is highly keen and motivated. He seriously and genuinely cares and feels for the organization. At the risk of his own job (remember probation and can be terminated in a week’s notice at the least?) he speaks his mind in order to try to rectify, remedy and correct a situation. His peers look up at him in disdain, cynicism and even bordering contempt – in their hearts they say we have seen and heard these all over before (so what else is new?). In the end another (new) frustrated, de motivated, dehumanized Staff hits the dust! Another casualty figure to contend!

That is Paak Ghaya, or in Hindi – over ripe fruit, cannot be eaten anymore! 

It is said“If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble.  (The sooner the better!) You don’t have your heart and soul in the job”. The day he leaves, there is a BIG CELEBRATION party the villain has gone, no more trouble, no more pain, no more suffering. Until the new Manager has come in ‘with a new broom sweeping better’ – unless and until that is he starts to behave like his old peer again (Remember Animal Farm?).

Different Managers can stress out employees in different ways – by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, too manipulative (divide and conquer syndrome, even if it is the establishment that eventually suffers!) – but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit – often over seemingly trivial issue.

It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before. And while it’s true that people leave jobs for all kinds of reasons- for better opportunities or for circumstantial reasons, many who leave would have stayed – had it not been for one man constantly telling them, as Arun’s boss did: “You are dispensable. I can find dozens like you.”

While it seems like there are plenty of other fish especially in today’s waters, consider for a moment the cost of losing a talented employee. There’s the cost of finding a replacement.

The cost of training the replacement. The cost of not having someone to do the job in the meantime. The loss of clients and contacts the person had with the industry. The loss of morale in co-workers. The loss of trade secrets this person may now share with others.

Plus, of course, the loss of the company’s reputation. Every person who leaves a   corporation then becomes its ambassador, for better or for worse.

We all know of large IT companies that people would love to join and large television companies few want to go near. In both cases, former employees have left to tell their tales. “Any company trying to compete must figure out a way to engage the mind of every employee,

Jack Welch of GE once said.   Much of a company’s value lies “between the ears of its employees”.  If it’s bleeding talent, it’s bleeding value.

Unfortunately, many senior executives busy traveling the world, signing new deals and developing a vision for the company, have little idea of what may be going on at home. That deep within an organization that otherwise does all the right things, one man could be driving its best people away.

Next time you as the Manager or Supervisor feel like screaming and shouting at that Staff of yours – THINK AGAIN. As I said before – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations!


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Blacklist companies, not just punish corrupt officials – Saleh Al Shaibany Reply


Blacklist companies, not just punish corrupt officials –

Sunday Beat – Times of Oman – March 16, 2014

Saleh Al Shaibany



  Sunday Beat: Oman   needs strict laws to combat corruption

  Sunday Beat: The   corrupt should not escape the consequences

Real justice will not be done until companies whose senior   officials have been convicted on corruption charges are either blacklisted   for a number of years from bidding for the government tenders, or made to pay   heavy fines.

We should follow the regulations the rest of the world   does to make companies accountable for the actions of their employees   representing them.

The excuse that the board of directors cite by saying,   “we knew nothing about it”, does not wash when it is their job to   know about it. It defies logic when hundreds of thousands of rials disappear   in the company’s bank accounts and the chairman says “it escaped my   notice” or simply that “it was hidden from my view” and the   courts believe that statement. A CEO or a managing director will not   authorise the accountant to use the company’s money to bribe a government   official unless he has approval from someone in the board. There is always   that prior arrangement of “you go ahead with it but I will deny it if   you are caught” type of thing which means the bribe had the blessing   from the top.

For justice to go around a full 360 degrees instead of   doing a semi circle, the Oman Tender Board (OTB) must ban the bribing   companies for at least 10 years from any future activities. It is no excuse   that these companies, just because they employ hundreds of Omanis, should get   away with it. If they are allowed to bid again, then they should pay a fine   equivalent to the bid value of the contract in which they were accused of   offering bribe.

Otherwise, it will be morally wrong when one or two   employees, acting under certain instructions, should be made scapegoats for   something bigger than them without any consequences to the company   itself.

The shocking thing is that while the company is being   investigated for bribery charges, it is still in the running to win the next   contract of the project they had bid for prior to the court case. It is like   telling a school boy “don’t climb this tree again but you can climb the   other one at the back but make sure you don’t fall this time.”

Then there is a question of the auditing companies. How   does it escape their expert scrutiny when a large amount of cash was not   accountable for? If a company is listed in the Muscat Securities Market (MSM)   or in the case of a government organisation, surely the auditors must spot   any financial irregularities. If not, where are they looking?

To say that the financials are hidden from their full   scrutiny is again a lame excuse for not doing their job or simply taking for   granted that “all is well” when it is not, as we now find out. For   listed companies, it is the investors’ money that is used to bribe for   contracts where the board of directors are the trustees. It is not business   ethics, as one insider speculated. “Bribery money is the board of   directors’ way of increasing profits for their investors.”

What about the role of the State Financial and   Administrative Audit Institution when it comes to scrutinise the accounts of   the government’s organisations and their employees? We expect such an   institution with wide powers to put under the spotlight any financial   irregularity committed by officials, especially those at the very top, to act   decisively and timely to win the public’s confidence.

If we argue if we should make board of directors of   private companies responsible for their actions, then it makes perfect sense   to make heads of the ministries take responsibility for the spate of   corruption cases in their patches. If their response is that “we were   not aware of it”, then questions should be asked about their competence.   Somebody else should be appointed who will be “aware of it” when it   starts to happen again.

To sum it all up, corrupt companies should not simply   plead ignorance and blame it on their managers to survive to make money   another day. Similarly, heads of ministries cannot shrug their shoulders by   claiming lack of knowledge. It is part of their responsibility and the buck   stops with them. The time for cover-up has long passed. 

You can get in touch with the writer: saleh@timesofoman.com

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OOC boss gets 23 years jail term in graft case

Thursday 27th, February 2014 / 22:47

Written by Oman Observer  in Head stories

Ordered to pay RO 8 million fine; 2 others sentenced – 

By Zakaria Fikry –

MUSCAT — The Court of First Instance in Muscat yesterday sentenced the CEO of Oman Oil Company (OOC) to 23 years in jail, a fine of RO 8 million and ordered him to be sacked from his post permanently in connection with the Sohar Aromatics case. The second accused in the case — who is a former adviser to the ministry of national economy — was awarded 10 years in jail, a fine of RO 4 million and deportation for a life-long after severing his term.

The third accused — CEO of South Korea’s LGI Corporation — was sentenced to 10 years imprisonment and a fine of RO 4 million as well as deportation for a life-long after serving his jail term. The court also ordered the restoration of $8 million to the public treasury and that the defendants settle the litigation.

Last December the Public Prosecution accused the CEO of Oman Oil Company with abuse of office, accepting bribes from LGI to facilitate a $1.6 billion pact for construction of the a petrochemical aromatics plant at Sohar industrial port for the Korean firm. In return the defendant took $8.4 million in bribe which he deposited in a Swiss bank. The defendant was convicted of exploiting his position for personal interests, bribery and money laundering

The second defendant was convicted of taking bribes and the third — Korean national CEO of LGI Corporation — was found guilty of offering bribe to procure the contract.


Omani CEO jailed for 23 years in graft case: Court

(Reuters) –

A court sentenced the CEO of state-owned Oman Oil Company to a total of 23 years in jail on Thursday for accepting bribes, abuse of office and money laundering, the most severe punishment meted out in a series of corruption trials that began last year.

The judge at the Court of First Instance in Muscat also convicted Adel al-Raisi, a former aide to the minister of the now-dissolved economy ministry, of organizing a bribe made by a senior official at a South Korea-based firm to Oman Oil Company CEO, Ahmad al-Wahaibi, and sentenced him to 10 years in jail.

The court found the vice CEO of the Korean-based LGI, named in court as Myung Jao Yoo, guilty of paying $8 million to a Caribbean-registered company owned by Wahaibi after winning a billion rial petrochemical project in Sohar Port in Oman.

Myung was also jailed for 10 years. LGI was not immediately available for comment on the court’s verdict.

Oman’s Sultan Qaboos has waged an anti-graft campaign to defuse mass protests in several Omani cities in 2011 that were mainly directed against graft and to demand jobs, issues that fuelled uprisings around the Arab world in the same year.

More than 20 civil servants and businessmen have gone on trial in Oman since last year.

Court documents said the latest case dated back to 2011, when Omani authorities were informed by their Swiss counterparts about suspicious transactions involving Wahaibi’s Swiss bank account. The trial began in December last year.

Oman Oil Company is an investment arm of the government of Oman with over 40 investments inside and outside Oman.

Wahaibi admitted in court to receiving money from Myung but pleaded not guilty to the charge of taking bribes, saying he “didn’t know why LGI transferred $8 million” into his company.

Raisi also pleaded not guilty. He said his confessions during questioning were not genuine

and that he only admitted brokering the deal and receiving the money under pressure.

Myung admitted in court that he had received money from Wahaibi but said he did not remember why. “Maybe it was a birthday gift. I don’t remember,” he told the court.

Apart from the prison sentences, Raisi and Myung were each fined 4 million rials. Myung would be deported after serving his sentence, the court ruled.

Oman Oil Company said in a statement it was committed to “enforcing a stringent code of ethics and corporate governance practices across all levels of the organization”.

Its Deputy CEO, Mulham Al Jarf, said he was given the “rights, responsibilities and authorities of the CEO in August 2013 to ensure that the business operations of the company remain uninterrupted,” the statement added.

At the hearings, Wahaibi admitted that after the cash was deposited into the accounts of his company, he had given the two other defendants their shares of the cash.

The court sentenced Wahaibi to 10 years in jail and fined him 4 million rials ($10.39 million) for accepting bribes, 10 years for money laundering and one million rials and three years in prison for abuse of office.

The court also confiscated all the bribe money in his frozen Swiss bank account. Lawyers confirmed Wahaibi’s sentences would run successively.

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Do Not Push Your Children To Suicides! Reply

Do Not Push Your Children To Suicides!

I was reading the article below *** and as a parent of also three daughters – two being twins – my heart cried out for the poor parents now terrible anguish and suffering after this has happened to them – and their lives will never be the same again – especially if the girl was the only child!

In an Islamic Hadith (Story) I read about our Great Prophet (PBUH) scolding a father of a child who was ridiculing openly his child who had urinated on the Prophet’s dress. The Great Prophet told him off saying that there was nothing big about it all as the offender was just a child – and what kind of a future the child would have if he was openly continuously being ridiculed like this in front of everyone?

This is the point that I want to make here!

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Do Not Make Them Cry – To feel worthless!

In all my over 13 years duration but now expired columns in Between Us Only! in The Oman Daily Observer – and those who are my Readers and Fans will authencicate – I have continuously strived to write about Parenting, Family importance and values! You can even find so many articles in this same very website about this!

A long time ago a very close friend and confidante had told me how he had at one time planned to commit suicide by similarly jumping from a high towers in UAE after his business went bust – and he was facing many problems – mainly legal and court based in Oman. It seems to him that people are less tolerant and patient for trying to go into business and being self employed – and all the SMEs support rhetoric still going on now 30 years later to no avail or takers!

See my article – Why They Do It? – www.betweenusonly.com

In that night he had a dream of his late father coming to him and telling him ‘that things will be okay – and next day he received a good job offer that made him to be able to sort out his problems. The only thing that had saved him is his sister noting something was amiss – and the man had similarly locked himself in with his ‘suicide note’ on the dressing table!

Another friend of mine had caught his teenager son about to jump from top of his villa after he was continuously and repeatedly being scolded for ‘failing grades’! The boy had even tied a brick around him – and in order to make the fall faster and more grave! He caught the boy just in time after reading his suicide note in the boy’s room. The part that still eats him saying ‘Please forgive me for disappointing you my parents’! The boy today is an executive in a large national firm – just imagine!

Lady Diana Spencer had also said – Family is very important. See also My Own FM Radio Interview here! – http://myownmajid.com/2014/02/08/my-own-fm-radio-interview/ @@

People should learn from others (mistakes) and I urge you once again to pay more attention and care for the children and the family – like I said in my Oman FM Radio interview – what is the point of having more money when the family is disintegrating in front of your very eyes?

Think about it! Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

Creator of Between Us Only! & Publisher of Ten Books! www.myownmajid.com 

14 year old Indian Schoolgirl jumps to death in Dubai


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*** A 14-year-old Indian schoolgirl jumped to her death from the 17th floor of a Dubai tower after her father scolded her for cheating in an exam, local media reported Monday.

A cleaner alerted police after he found the girl’s body lying on the ground in the Jumeirah Lake Towers neighborhood, Khaleej Times reported.

Police investigators found that a teacher had caught the girl cheating in an exam and warned her that she would be expelled if it happened again.

At home, her father scolded her when he found about the cheating incident, the paper said.

“Her parents told us that when she returned home, she was distraught and very upset. Her father, who came to know about the cheating, also chided her. She went to her room and locked the door,” the daily cited a police officer as saying.

The parents only found out about their daughter’s suicide when police informed them.

Source Agence France Presse

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What Is Happening To Us Now? Reply

What Is Happening To Us Now?

Dear All;

Has anybody out there read my books? See www.myownmajid.com

Yesterday Saturday January 25th 2014 – I visited CCC and met this nice British lady who was really surprised that there are in Oman Local Authors that write in English and also in serious books that make you think like Arab Management, Road Safety, Social, Economic, Political etc. topics! Brothers and Sisters Omanis and Friends Residents and Guests – what is happening to us in Oman now not to appreciate and value our own? Is it just bad hearts and Haassiyyds, or is it that we have eyes but cannot see, have ears but cannot hear and mouths but afraid to speak! Shocking and weird to say the least!

Maybe because we wear dishdashas and brown skinned!

In times of Oman today Sunday Beat Saleh Shaibany wrote about the Omani brain drain to rest GCC esp UAE and Qatar for better salaries etc. Allah God Help us all Ameen – See Below

The brain drain is mainly fully highly qualified experienced Omanis in especially  Oil and Gas – who get paid 3 times more outside Oman. Where is our Leadership? Don’t they know these things? And then every day more and more expatriates come in – and our own leave! We are not interested in new roads, railways and bridges – but how we get treated in our own very country! Sad and tragic really!

We need to deep soul search and self analyse ourselves – at least for the sake of our future, destiny and legacy – and for future generations. But I am really scared and worried…

Perhaps to venture a conspiracy theory – some Old Guards and The Expatriate Mafias want to destroy from within …and keep everyone down! Especially those who dare to now to open their mouths – or dare to now write! My columns got killed this way!

Maybe even the oil and gas corruption cases some of them may think or feel that they deserved more … and then stole this way? Conspiracy Theory?

My mind just ponders….!

See the article here – or appended below


Saleh Al Shaibany

Brain drain could end up doing irreversible damage –

Sunday Beat – By Saleh Al Shaibany – Times of Oman – January 26th 2014

Muscat: The depressing reality is that Oman is beginning     to witness its human capital transferring to other countries for the simple     reason that the Sultanate cannot anymore satisfy the higher wages that its     skilled workers demand.

Talented local workers with years of experience are     looking for better paid jobs abroad leaving the country in a brain drain     zone. The gap they leave behind cannot be filled by graduates. The human     flight can do an irreversible damage on a long-term basis if employers     continue to pay low wages to its most experienced Omani staff.

And the problem is deeper than that. Oman is also losing     its new talents as well for greener pastures.

With the government investing so much money in     education and vocational training, the job opportunities need to match the     college and university leaving students’ expectations for wages. For the record, the Ministry of Finance has allocated OMR2.6 billion for education     this year, twice the budget allocated for the same sector last year. The  huge capital investment will need to translate into better paid jobs if we have to keep young talents right here at home.

Most of the Omanis who are leaving are emigrating to  other Gulf Cooperation Council (GCC) countries and the prime targets are the United Arab Emirates and Qatar. That means that we are losing professionals and skilled workers that the government has paid millions at different levels of training and education. The areas in which we now face the brain drain are in Information Technology (IT), medicine, the financial sector and academia. In a fledgling economy like Oman, we cannot leave     talent gaps and then hope that things will remain alright. Employers must     match the wages paid by our neighbours instead of hoping that someone from  abroad will fill these positions when Omanis vacate them. For that to     happen, attitudes must also change.

Top on the list is trusting local skills. Oman has become so dependent on importing talent and the mind set is now embedded deep among the employers that only foreign workers can do a better job. These employers are now being proved pleasantly wrong. While we shun our own  skills, the GCC states hold these in high esteem and companies there start to poach Omani talents. So where does it leave the huge effort of the     government which is spending about OMR4 billion a year on projects, trade subsidies and education to inject funds in the private sector? Yes, it does create jobs but now Omanis want to be paid enough to compensate for their talents.

It took 40 years to create a powerhouse of local skills. The ammunition of that powerhouse is better financial packages.     Omani managers know that they are worth much more across the border than here. In the UAE or in Qatar, a senior IT manager with 10 to     15 years of experience gets a monthly package of around OMR7,000.

Here,  they only get paid about OMR3,500. New doctors get a maximum of OMR700 per month in the Sultanate. They would get paid about OMR2,500 when they land  jobs in those two countries. One would say it is not exactly patriotism to abandon one’s country in its moment of need but better standard of living is what drives people these days.

The funny thing is that 20 years ago, Oman barely had     any experienced and skilled people to work in the high profile jobs in the private sector. It was natural to import these talents from different countries to push the wheel of development forward. It is a different scenario now. We have the right people now but we are beginning to export  local talents when it is mostly needed here. The trend is threatening to wipe out any advancement we made in the last two decades in the build up of skilled workforce.  The result, if we don’t watch out, is the loss of   senior managers to foreign bidders and that will give the Omanisation  process a severe knock.

It goes without saying that to continue to compete on     the global basis, Oman must invest on its local workers by paying them much more than the present wage scales if it wants to retain its skills.


Thank you Saleh, My Brother! Well said!

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Book Review – New Book – Wipe My Tears!

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Wipe My Tears! has been adapted from Majid Al Suleimany’s successful newspaper columns in The Oman Daily Observer titled Between Us Only!. Utilizing the very best touching emotional based stories and articles from the columns that he has penned over the past four years, Al Suleimany touches on a wide variety of vital and riveting topics. The subject matter will be of interest to everyone from teenagers to grandparents – and from the clerks to the CEOs.

Wipe My Tears! focuses on the study of humanity, human needs, human interaction, society, and economics, as well as other areas. In fact, the author covers all socio-economic-political aspects of society, with an emphasis on working environments such as office space.

The book follows up on the success of the previous books and furthers the idea of private talks between friends on matters that many are too scared to touch! Often times delving into sensitive critical topics that aren’t always sweet, this enlightening book uses a clear and elegant prose to explore social evils in the society as well as their light hearted counterparts. Covering a variety of priceless topics, this wonderful collection of articles gives readers everywhere a glimpse into the issues that are prevalent in today’s society.

The author also addresses society as a whole, and the dire repercussions and consequences of bad ideas and thoughts that can be harmful to society in the broadest sense. Though many topics apply to Oman and GCC countries, the collection of columns organized by Al Suleimany offer a universal appeal because, in his view, society and family are quite similar.

  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • Whenever you read a good book, it is like the author is right there, talking to you – Jack Handy

According to the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears—as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is essentially the same—regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity!”

The book will encourage soul-searching, deep analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. It has been penned directly from the heart of the author to the reader. It carries many emotional personal family stories and encounters – including work experiences as a highly-qualified human resources management consultant.

The book moves quickly, advancing without boundaries, and is careful never to get bogged down in politics. While critical, the writings are also realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding.

Yet Between Us Only! Wipe My Tears! – is not without controversy. For readers who wish to study Arabic (and Islamic) approaches to the Middle East, the West, and other religions, the book makes excellent references relating to the post-September 11 world. The increases in religious fundamentalism and radicalization in society, and the fact that many youngsters are on board with these aspects, are also taken to task.

The author, through his writings, offers up a tome that is part prayer and part preaching, desperately hoping for a change in the world that will produce a new and more positive direction. “Live and let live in peace, harmony, and co-existence,” is Al Suleimany’s mantra.

States the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears, as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is the same regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity!”

The book will encourage soul-searching, analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. The writings are realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding—as well as how to live with others in the world.

Majid Al Suleimany is a writer and management consultant based in the Middle East.

C       About The Author 

The Author began his columns ten years ago with The Oman Daily Observer. This is the author’s seventh book in the Between Us Only! series.

Please visit www.myown-ebooks.com  and www.majidbooks.com  to learn more about his books.

He has worked for over twenty-five years as a human resources professional, mainly with Petroleum Development Oman, as well as having served a stint in Abu Dhabi in the United Arab Emirates. He has also worked for over ten years as a management consultant, expert, and advisor. Al Suleimany holds an MBA in International Management, which he earned in the UK.

He started writing as a hobby when he was only fourteen years old, and his first project in writing, My Most Vivid Dream, won him an award outside Oman. He is married with three daughters and son (married). His first born daughters were twins (married with children). His youngest daughter is an Engineering Graduate in Electricity and Electronics – and the other children are in Marketing and Accountancy respectively. His wife is soon to retire as an executive secretary with Petroleum Development Oman.

By Majid Al Suleimany

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By Mohamed Anwar Al Balushi


THOUSANDS of articles have been written and read regarding the dilemma of Syria, Palestine and Egypt. Discussions and debates too took place about these articles. The entire world had been engaged and participated directly and indirectly on these issues. It was looking that it looked like a “doom’s day”.

The world media covered and reeled out several reports and news about those nations and their countries’ sufferings, either sufferings came from different corners or through natural disasters.

Baluchistan! Believe it or not, but it has become a hidden story for everyone. Those who are living there are unfortunate. Their voices are still not reaching the entire world.

All the basic needs became only names like: education, health, welfare, security and employment. A few reporters are suggesting that the situation in Baluchistan is worse than that in Sudan, Ethiopia, Syria and Palestine.

I was in the session and was not able to read messages, once I finished the session, I found several messages regarding the earthquake in Awaran district of Baluchistan. It was the first earthquake which measured 7.2 magnitude, according to different channels, last Tuesday. The second one was 6.8 on September 29.

After that I could only hear silence from everywhere. From the first earthquake it was reported that around 309 people died and more than 500 had been badly injured. What would be the next? What would happen to those who remained without houses, clothes, food, water and medicine? Which country had really initiated to go to support humanity?

Did United Nations, Red Cross, charity organisations take any initiates? I was asking myself, while driving home. Did the state itself take any positive action? No. The media even was not allowed to enter to give accurate report of the causalities.

What is really happening in Baluchistan? Is there any war or dispute for a long time? Why the media failed to take out the reality on that area, the small part of the entire world, where you are directly or indirectly connected in some extent?

I was reading one of the messages from “What’s App” from a baby who was saying that: “I am thirsty, I need water”. The second message was read as “Wait my son, the aid is on the way. She was a mother”. There must be more such stories like this.

More or less in such situations nothing but only compassion and humanity should be shown. One should see the child who is waiting for your help and aid. Believe it or not, this is the time when humans should serve other humans.

Joel Osteen had once said: “Take time for the people in your life. They won’t always be there”.

Let’s continue the journey to Baluchistan, which is the largest province in Pakistan, 45 per cent of the country’s land with largest coastline of around 700 km. It has its own strategic location, which borders with Iran and Afghanistan. This makes it a global trade centre walkway to China, Central Asia and even the Gulf. Should people die so easily in such a place?

One of the reports which had been published under the title “The most unfortunate man in the world”. This report expresses about missing persons especially students and youth, where their mothers and sisters every day hold pictures of their relatives.

Baluchistan and its people are being hit differently either by the system or by natural disasters. If someone goes in depth, this can be nothing but a great case study which needs to be fixed immediately before it reaches a point of no return or to that level where humans can only imagine of holding it but can’t touch it.

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For Sunday –  July 7th 2013.

Between Us Only!

The Role of Advisors!

  • Be very careful in what you are wishing for!
  • You may get your wish to come true!
  • Be careful in choosing your Advisors – they can make – or break you!
  • Do you remember the fable of The Emperor’s New Clothes?

Human beings never cease to surprise and amaze at what they are really capable of – and doing to others – and as if nothing will ever happen to them – because they are fully covered – and have all the protection they need! But are we really sure? Have we read and analysed the situation correctly? Have we compared notes to what happened to others – and elsewhere before all these things?

There is a famous East African saying that when brothers fight – take your plough and go to farm – that is metaphorically ‘Do not get involved!’ – Because when they patch up – you will end as the loser!

There is also the Arabic saying that if my brother fights my brother – I will try to bring them together – and not get involved. But if my brother fights my cousin – I will support my brother. But if my cousin fights someone else – I will support my cousin!

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It is also being said that in one ex colonial ruled country, the Dictator was asking his Team of Advisors – that he wanted to reverse the traffic system of the country from what it was now of people driving on the left to driving opposite to the right. He formed a panel compromising several engineers, experts and intellectuals to come up with a concrete and feasible plan on how to do the change. He was driven by bringing change to the ways of the colonial masters.

After several months and follow-ups the Advisors came up to the conclusion that the plan was not feasible due to very high costs in transformation and changes to the traffic layout and infrastructure – and it was a nightmare plan to even think off – let alone to implement! But everybody was scared to tell the bad news to the Dictator – for fear of real heads to roll if one tried to do this!

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So they drew lots of who would tell the Dictator. It finally dawned on one Engineer who was distantly related to the Dictator – as a possible way out of the impasse situation. He tried his best to convey the message to the Dictator. Luckily for him the man was in a good mood that day – and he did nothing untoward the messenger of bad news! Then he took the advisor aside and told him – try to see if we can at least have the big trucks go on the right for now – whilst the rest go on the left. Maybe this can work! The Engineer Advisor was baffled – because this was a sure way of increasing that fast the rate of accidents and fatalities in the country!

There are several cases reported later in history where very bad decisions were made but the Advisors were all impotent and helpless – and in fear and dread – to advise correctly and ethically because they feared for their lives’ if they said the truth to the especially draconian autocratic dictators!

Forgive me for those that really know of the advisor joke and if I had missed out the punch line! There are many other such advisors’ jokes – you can Google them! I liked also about the one of the last advisor who gave the advice to the Dictator of how he could make the whole country happy – though it is usually one group of people making the very same joke about the other group of people always!

During my career life, I have been fooled and hoodwinked that the top brass were really interested in getting ideas, feedback and research on the aspects, issues and tasks at hand! It was more a front and façade to show ‘things were changing and improving’ – and not really find out the real core and real truth of things and the situation per se!

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I have a very clever family member who always would try to figure out what the boss really wanted – and would make him very happy by giving the same advice back to him. His outlook was – why should I be bothered – if I can get all I want from the situation – and I have lost nothing from the equation? The boss is happy – and I am happy too!

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We both gain from the situation – and if anything would go wrong in the plan – or its execution – he would always reiterate that he had given the boss a choice of options – and it is the boss that had opted for this one! Remember boss? The boss cannot deny it – because they usually only remember his own preferred option – and he had conveniently forgotten the other options – or even if they had been made in the first instance!

Then when things have turned out wrong and sour – the boss has only himself to blame – because of listening to his own advices – but coming out from another person’s mouth – which is all in reality that he had wanted in the first place – but was using all kinds of cover and disguise to get at it!

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I said this in my column years back! As kids we used to be that much scared of our father – that even one day he was reversing the truck into a coconut tree – and we dared not to shout at him to stop! Even though we were all sitting at the back of the truck – and we were most likely to be hurt in the process! Our late father got out from the truck – took a look at the slightly dented American Ford truck – and for the first time he saw the funny and the humourous part of his own dictatorial and autocratic ways – a joke he kept telling his friends for a long time after! The only thing he asked was – Why did you not tell me?  To complete silence and no answer even!

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In one of the most ugly and vulgar experiences as a Human Resources Consultant and Advisor – we were given names of some staff that we should come forward to ‘volunteer to the company’ as people marked out for release and termination – and a few others for fast development and progression! This came out after we had said we had interviewed most of the Staff – and what were their training and other requirements! Of course, we refused to participate in the sham scam business – and not only were we denied further business – but the payment for the current job was considerably delayed.

In one other incident at another place, we were even asked to give full names ‘of who said what, where and when’ – when we were conducting a Staff Morale (Climate) Survey! The more disturbing part was not that this was asked of us in the first instance – but that as they said – ‘others had consented to this request before’ – and we reiterated we were not like them! That too ended with the business side – with me resisting the urge from others high up ‘to please participate and join with them’ in this!

In one person I sent my books to, he gave the books to his Advisor – If you want them – that is parting remark! Please keep remembering all these things happened years ago – and I do not know if things have now really changed on the grounds – but I sincerely hope it has!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany