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The Joy of   Being Happy!

What is being happy is all about?

April 17, 2018

The other day I was complaining bitterly about my Mobile Phone that I needed now to charge it almost two to three times a day! Overheard by my daughter – she suggested to have the phone battery changed – as it was a very old model Samsung Note 4 – it was struggling hard to keep up with the latest versions, media and technology!

Then the miracle came into being – after just a mirage in the horizon! My daughter bought for me the latest Samsung S9 Plus! An old PDO Retiree Pensioner has never been so much happier – albeit so many upsets and downs recently for even wanting basic things in life – which are available to many others – or at least should be available – but then everybody wants to show off their powers and control elements on others – as has been the life that we are facing nowadays!

When I was studying in UK in the 1970s I got my UK Driving License and instead of using the efficient reliable public transport services – I wanted to climb the social ladder me too! Why be left out in the ‘rat race’? So I looked around for an affordable old banger of a car! I found one Morris 1300 belonging to an old lady!

She wanted Sterling Pounds 200 for it (about Omani Rials 120 I think!). The car was a Morris 1300 – see the image! Seeing me hesitating – she came down to Pounds 150. She was so happy – poor lady – when I said I will take it! She admitted to me that she originally had wanted 250 Pounds – but was afraid it would have put me off! Yes I know the left hand should not know what the right hand was giving! So I gave her what she originally wanted – and was she much happier after that!

It was a very old British car powerful and strong. Proved its mantle when one day I hit the house gates with just a minor scratch! Typical Quality British car! But one funny anecdote was if you were reversing you needed to pull a knob at the dashboard for reverse light to come on! Many times I was reprimanded by The British Traffic by driving with the reverse knob still on and not pushed back!

      

Images For Demonstration Purposes only!  From the first car Morris 1300   to Toyota Crown to my last one the Yukon GMC Truck!

When I started working in PDO as Senior Staff I bought at the time a Toyota Crown – see image! If you had asked me – I would have told you the Morris 1300 had made me so much happier than buying the luxury Toyota Crown! And even lesser happier than later cars I bought later in life – much more expensive and luxurious – including the famous Yukon GMC Truck case story lately!

When I was working in HR in one of the companies – the American CEO told me – Majid I want you to make the Staff feel happy to come to work and not that the only reason that they come to work is to take care of their families and pay off bills! I want that to be a priority in your HR Tasks and Targets – and portfolio! The other day I met one of the Staff – and she told me – Mr. Majid – we still remember you by your ordering vegetarian food – and keeping it separate from the rest of the food! Our own HR Director before – a non-practicing person never ever even bothered! It made a lump in my mouth!

You would think the riche folks are happier than us the rest of us – but they are not! Some of them spend the whole night pacing up and down – scared stiff that they may loose and become poor! I read this article of what looked like a poor shepherd – but the local man – after he had died – had so much money hidden in the shed – lucky for him the goats did not find them and ate them – as they are well known to chew even cardboard boxes! What is the point of having so much money hidden and being so miserly in life – just to have the feeling and power of owning money and riches?

You find in life so many people still smiling and happy faces despite so many issues and problems! They are struggling hard in life to survive and manage with the little they have but you will find them still cheerful jovial and happy! Then there is that lots of like us where small issues and problems are blown out of proportions – with some not really major issues that are facing them in life!

I know this from my relatives in Tanzania – by a far wider margin and level they are much happier! I remember this ugly incident when one of the relatives fired back at me when I asked her why she cooked so much food in the lunch times and letting others local partake the food! Far lesser incomes and levels than them as their contributions to solve the hunger issues! She was shocked by my outlook that she was struggling still in life – but was ready and willing to share whatever they had with the others lesser fortune! An awakening up call to the rest of us – considering ourselves more fortunate!

We were building a Masjid Mosque in Mafia Island in Tanzania and this sort of rich friend called me – I have got very good news for you! Come to the Office to collect! I was so excited and thrilled when he gave me the envelope! Afraid till I reached home I opened it to find OMR 20 inside after all the excitements! Mind you whatever contribution should be accepted and acknowledged – but from this rich person (happier person?) I was expecting much more!

How many of us have richer family and friends but when you are in trouble they will not raise a finger to help you – even if you are in extreme dire straits! Do not tell me – I have been there – and still there – but no one will help you by their stinginess bad hearts and lack of care and feelings for anyone even family but just want to check daily their Bank Accounts balances! Comes here the famous King Alexander Last Words (you can google it!)

I remember the case alsowhen I was collecting funds to make a farewell party for one British Staff leaving PDO after many years of services! This was an Expatriate who stood and fought for ‘Omani issues and cases’ well beyond the call of duty! It was agreed that for the Junior Staff they should contribute OMR 5 – and for the Senior Staff like us – OMR 10!

When I went to my Director he told me – take OMR 5 and ‘get out of my office – I do not want to see your ugly face here’ – how locals can be cruel and cutting to each other is totally another issue! With much more received income plus Company car and accommodation – he should have been more generous – but he was not! He retorted to me – I am not paying anyone more than 5 Rials for anyone leaving the company – whether local or expatriate! Who will pay for me when I leave? – were his words!

Yet at the same time there were more Junior Staff levels who were paying much more! Happier people? In Swahili they say – Kutoa ni moyo! The giving is from the heart!Not being rich or poor! There is also Kuchonga Uso! Carving your face! That is when ou go to ask for help fro richer peope (happier people supposed to be!0 – and they let you down badly! They will not even answer your phone – and ignore you if they see you outside! AL HAMDU LILLAH!

They say if you can eat at least once a day, have a roof over your head and have shelter and security you should remain and be happy always! Our Late Father – PBUH – used to tell us – Just do not compare and contrast with those ahead of you – but look at so many that are behind you in lots in life! He was drawing of when going to Dubai from Muscat – look at those still in Rustaq compared to yourself already in Sohar – be whatever car that you are driving!

Some students had approached the President then of one Third World Country that they were going to school without shoes! So he asked them to follow him! They all thought they were getting shoes – and he led them to a Leper Colony where people really wished they had feet – let alone shoes! This highly charged emotional film demonstrates well the point! A Short Film – The Other Pair! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkWdyZFyvO8

 I hope you had enjoyed the article! If you did ask The CEO Oman Daily Observer why they killed off The Columns – Between Us Only! On a Technicality!

The question still remains – Are you happy? Think again before you answer!

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An Open Letter To The Omani Youth! From The Archives! Reply

 Dear All & After Compliments;

February 28th 2011 – The Original Post!

        

 

You will forgive me in reminding you a bit about myself but for those who know me well will vouch for me that I have always stood up to face my Management Teams in whichever company that I had worked for as a Human Resources Professional, Consultant, Expert and Advisor to push for Omanisation, Omani Recruitment and for Training and Development. I had never bothered that it may cause permanent dent to my career and future prospects – because I believed it in my blood that it was the right, principled and decent thing to do so always!

Some of the students that I have looked after some of them are today Their Excellencies, some in The Royal Family and many as CEOs, Directors and Board Members of many companies in Oman – and even outside Oman. My records speak for themselves. You are most free to check around and ascertain for yourselves – if need be.

Last two weeks I wrote the following articles with you most in my mind. Time To Hear and Dealing With Situations In Life. You can find both these articles in my website http://www.majidall.com and http://www.majidwrite.com

A long time ago when I was a boy of eight years old I wanted to play with a blade. My late grandfather was dead set against me being given the blade – though I threw in tantrums and emotions to get it. In the end he relented – saying to my late Mother – give him the blade! I was soon bleeding and had to be medically treated. The point is in being obstinate and wanting to play with things that are harmful to me – but not listening to elderly advice and caution being given to me. In the end the person who suffered most is me!

There is a similar expression in Arabic for children who want to play with matches – you get your hands burnt as a result of your not listening to advice being given to you. Another one is throwing a stone at a beehive – and they will come out to sting you. It is you who brought out the bees – they were quietly doing their works and livelihood in their beehive – till you provoked them!

I will also tell you this from my personal experiences and exposures which I will share with you. To make changes you yourself must be part and parcel of the change process – that is with you inside it – not as you fighting it from the outside. I found this the hard way in life. When I became part of the team and being supportive – I got faster and more rapid progress than confronting it and fighting it from outside.

The reason is simple. You become part of The Team and you are acceptable and recognised – and people open up to listen and hear you. This took me a long time to get to understand – and I wished I had done it earlier in order to be more useful to the cause that I was after!

When you fight the cause from outside you naturally bring resistance to change – as we all know change is not easy and there is a natural resistance to change. We all know this very clearly – and even our conscious and sub conscious mind speaks to us in the same voice and tone. That small thin voice inside wanting to speak to you – and telling you that though you are very frustrated and angry – but what you are doing is not right, correct or ethical – or professional – simply and smugly put.

I am not going to bring our Omani ways, values, heritage traditions and customs in doing things – because we all know this deep within ourselves. That is the Family sit together as one to discuss things as one Family – united under One Flag, One Nation, One His Majesty. I invite you to read my article here too under my website above or here – http://knowledgeoman.com/en/?p=165 – All Under One Flag. Visit also Forty Years On under the same site!

My pleas and requests to you that we should always remember that we have enemies both from within and outside who want desperately to cause harm, disaster and havoc to us – because they cannot be like us or simply hate us to see the progress, development and our peace, security and stability.

We have a very good thing here in our country – Allah God Be Blessed. We should come together to keep it – nurture it – let it grow and prosper – protect and defend it. We should not put sand in our food – then we will not be able to eat it – or if you spit on it – or do bad things to it – then how can you eat it yourself? Ask yourself this critical and fundamental question – please!

I beg of you to cool down and let things take its natural cause. The Leadership under His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – Allah Give him long life and health – Amin – is already listening and hearing you – and changes have already started to be formulated and to be implemented. There are some things that in your levels you will not be able to know and appreciate why maybe taking a longer time or need more efforts to implement. Only The Leadership and The Decision Makers will know – and not to our levels – some being very sensitive, critical and confidential – if not State Secrets themselves.

Make your own right decisions and follow your conscience. Most importantly do not harm others – or cause yourself to be in harm’s way. Or destroy others’ properties – because you would not want others to do the same towards you. A Muslim brother is one who wants others to have the same best things he wants for himself.

I know these things I came to know the hard way when I came to know later why some things took longer to implement – and it is not my intention to bore you with details – or to brag or and blow my own trumpet.

If you remember what both Gandhi and Nelson Mandela have said – when they wanted changes in a peaceful way they got all they wanted. India became Independent – despite years of fighting. So were the unexpected results of end of Apartheid in South Africa – the point is success came more faster and more rapid after doing it all more peacefully – whilst failed miserably when force was used before!

Let us go back to our Omani ways and to our Religion – and our Islamic ways of doing things and in solving our issues and the difficulties and complexities between us – Amin.

May Allah Protect and Preserve our beloved Nation of Oman – Amin. And our His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – May Allah Give him long life and health – Amin

Let us hope and pray for wisdom, pragmatism, tact and diplomacy – Amin

 Take Care!

 By Majid Al Suleimany

 February 28, 2011

Tags: An Open Letter To The Omani Youth.

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