Not Recognising and Valuing Our Own Writers! 5

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System Failure! Not Recognising and Valuing Our Own Writers!

  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing , for life itself is a Writer’s love until deathEdna Ferber
  •  Simply calling yourself as wise men does not make you as such. People will judge you by your character and behavior only! – Famous

It is a shame to see that this conference was not used to incorporate All The Omani Writers, Columnists and Authors.

A good Indian friend called me to want to know more (maybe he knew already?) – but I replied to him that I did not!

If these sites will not make an impact – nothing else will!

My Books Websites –

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Or is it crimes because we write in English?

These things of rivalry, jealousy, envy, polarization – and not recognizing and valuing our own – need to end!

I wrote to The Oman Daily Observer – who print my columns – and whom I have given complimentary gift copies to All in The Features Columns – including the Top Guys too! NO ONE RESPONDED – as usual!

It is a shame that these kind of things are happening in our country now – after all the things we have seen live happening in others – starting with just a school graffiti!

Bloody Shame on us!

Now we hear of Angola banning Islam and breaking down of mosques!

What is next?

As an Omani – Arab blood and Muslim – I hold my head down low with shame! Real Shame!

Maybe we do not meet the mark because we write in English? Maybe!

Allah God Protect and Preserve us All – Amin

Disappointed Sad Citizen

Majid bin Said bin Nasser bin Zahor bin Salim bin Ali bin Masoud Al Sulaimany

I guess this poor man – my late father – is turning in his grave!

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My Late Father – PBUH!

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What Women Do Not Say! 

Domestic Violence!

  • Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent! – Isaac Asimov
  • Never let a man put his hands on you without your permission! – Melda Beatty 

In my role as a Human Resources Professional – I have met many cases of victims of domestic violence – to an extent that if I were planning for a 11th book to be authored by me in this my line of books – it could be a topic by itself! Though frankly speaking my last book – Wipe My Tears! – has many articles of battered wives and on domestic violence. Even the front cover has a photo of a very pretty girl – but still yet crying!

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The most tragic and sad part out of it all trying to justify why she had become the victim – for example he lost his job – his business is not doing well – or other such things! Yet still she will pretend that she is wearing the big sunglasses because ‘she banged her face on a car door’ etc – but does not want to show her scaled and wounded face – and body by heavy clothing!

People always ask me ‘why you do not drink?’ – is it because of the Religion? And I always strive to answer not to offend anyone from both camps – those who do – to be social! – and those who do not! The last group do not want to sit with anyone who drinks – but for I – there are no issues to sit with those that do – whilst I drink my own poison of sodas – or if possible fresh juices! That is until the abusive jokes start to fly – and I quit gracefully – before things get any more out of place and control in insults and affronts!

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Images – Domestic Violence – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

The real reason I do not drink ever in my life is as a young boy getting this beating of my life from a relative who was so drunk and out of his mind – very abusive and aggressive after a few drinks – that he mistakenly thought I was his son – because we were playing together in football! His wives used to run away from home as soon as the call went out that he was now returning home from the bars!

Like we Arabs like to say – from the stomach of evil came good tidings – or the silver lining in the storm clouds! I made a vow to myself that I will never ever drink in my life – promotion or not – or asked to leave the company in my new job – because it started with my refusing to hold up in cheers a glass of wine – though I was ready to do so – if my favourite Sprite soda was in the glass – thus going half-way up to be modern and social!

Far later in my career life in HR – I came to realise which female staff to avoid for the day who came to the office as victim. Being victim did not necessarily mean being beaten and battered – but some husbands and fathers were equally good in using cruel hurting painful words as their tools – instead of the hands. The mouth was equally hurtful – if not more in some cases! But what if it is the husband – with the children – instead are the victims? Points to ponder in real life!

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A few days back I watched this television melodrama – Soapbox Mexico – Vicky’s StoryEmotions run high as a sexually abused woman who freed herself thanks to the soap opera has her story turned into an episode. Planning a special programme for the upcoming 13 anniversary of the soap, executive producer Alicia asks scriptwriter Araceli to find a case of a woman who has suffered abuse, and recovered, thanks to the programme’s message. Vicky comes forward, and Araceli adapts her story for the programme. In a deeply emotional demonstration of the back-and-forth between reality and fiction,

Vicky’s real story is played out on set. Her years of sexual abuse at the hands of a violent husband form the central theme of the episode and arguably reflect real life in Mexico where two out of every three women suffer abuse. Vicky saved herself because she called a helpline advertised at the end of What Women Don’t Say. The theme of speaking out and of breaking silence is very clearly and powerfully realised, as Vicky makes an emotional visit to the set to watch the last scenes of her story being filmed.Another famous series is the Turkish one titled Kismet produced from Turkish women writers’ contributions from real life true stories and incidents.

Yet another series that I really liked to watch is Desperate Housewives! It is an American television comedy-drama-mystery series. The show followed the lives of a group of women as seen through the eyes of a dead neighbour who committed suicide in the very first episode. The storyline covers thirteen years of the women’s lives over eight seasons, set between the years 2004–2008, and later 2013–2017 (the story arc included a 5 year passage of time). They worked through domestic struggles and family life, while facing the secrets, crimes and mysteries hidden behind the doors of their — at the surface — beautiful and seemingly perfect suburban neighborhood.

As a Writer, Author and Columnist – I get many emails from my lady fans about their family issues – and many border actual physical abuse – let alone of verbal words – which are more common. There is a famous East Africa expression that goes like this – The real man comes out when he (suddenly!) becomes rich – and the woman when her husband has become poor, needy and dispossessed!

Some of the cases are so unbelievable – that the other day in a social occasion a prominent and famous person was asking me why I was looking intensely and staring at him – in slipping up in my thoughts! It is really shocking some of the cases – but as I had pledged confidence – sorry I am not telling – at least for now!

Some More Sayings

  • There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds! – Laurel Hamilton
  • One thing that you cannot hide is when you are crippled inside! – John Lennon
  • If anyone hits me, they can expect to be hit back, and harder. I never turn the other cheek, because in my experience that doesn’t work – Alice Bag

Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

November 27th 2013

A Death In The Family! Reply

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A Death In The Family!

  • To a father when a child dies, the future dies; to a child when a parent dies, the past dies! – Red Auerbach
  • It is after death that we measure men! – James Barion Hope

It was really touching to see the human race coming together as one to give peace and diplomacy a chance – and for human beings to come together to discuss their own problems and issues face to face vis-à-vis – and come to an amicable solution for the interests and the benefits of all and for human kind as a whole! Even if there were no winners or losers at the end – and difficult and hard decisions had to be made! I was really traumatised – and can only hope and pray that it will eventually work out! Quiet diplomacy has won the day again! It was only my wish and prayers that some had really watched – and had learnt the lesson!

Last two weeks, I received a What’s Up message from one of our distant relatives in the Interior – of someone with similar tribal name having expired! The presumption was automatically that there had to be some relationships – even if far and isolated! The Western world specifically does not know or appreciate this ‘extended family link’ in our lives – especially when it comes to applying company rules and regulations – like obligations of attending funerals etc. Even if – and although the modernity application was used – from the old days and ways of telephone usages – or sending of emissaries to deliver messages!

A few days back, we received a similar message – but this time from India that our uncle had died there. Though since he moved there from the distant land – there was no real contact until his death. Then one questions oneself whose fault it was really that this so happened? Amazingly, all these type of questions only come out – when death has struck – and everyone feels remorseful and guilty! For a temporary phase and time only – until the next time! Having seen how people drive once back on the road – where only a few minutes back we had buried someone as a casualty and victim of a road accident!

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When I was a young boy, we used to have a small library in that distant small island. Trust the colonialists’ wives led by The District Commissioner (DC) to be so forthcoming and charitable to even organise to have books to form a library where – even students could borrow books! Post independence the library took a natural death with one by one of the books just ‘mysteriously disappearing’ from the shelves! It was written by me in my article – The District Commissioner’s Wife! – several years back!

One of the books that really had a traumatic affect on me at that time was titled A Death In The Family. Even today after more than forty years it still does – and I still remember that book! I do not know who in the end took the book away from the shelves – but what a pity – and shame on him or her for denying others to share the book from the library!

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Islamic Grave – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

About The Book –  A Death in the Family – by James Agee and Steve Earle –

Forty years after its original publication, James Agee’s last novel seems, more than ever, an American classic. For in his lyrical, sorrowful account of a man’s death and its impact on his family, Agee painstakingly created a small world of domestic happiness and then showed how quickly and casually it could be destroyed.

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On a sultry summer night in 1915, Jay Follet leaves his house in Knoxville, Tennessee, to tend to his father, whom he believes is dying. The summons turns out to be a false alarm, but on his way back to his family, Jay has a car accident and is killed instantly. Dancing back and forth in time and braiding the viewpoints of Jay’s wife, brother, and young son, Rufus, Agee creates an overwhelmingly powerful novel of innocence, tenderness, and loss that should be read aloud for the sheer music of its prose.

In his Pulitzer Prize–winning novel A Death in the Family, James Agee reconstructs through the lens of fiction the real-life car accident that claimed his father when James was not yet six years old. Leading us from the evening of the phone call that sets the tragedy in motion to the funeral that strives to bring the calamity to closure, Agee offers a plot that is simplicity itself, and the occurrences he describes are perhaps no different from those that would transpire within any family that has had a member suddenly stolen from its midst. Despite its seeming straightforwardness, however, A Death in the Family is a novel of surprising profundity and aching lyricism.

A triumph of literary style and psychological acumen, A Death in the Family excels in its brilliant attention to the too-often overlooked nuances of thought, speech, and action that comprise the true fabric of being. One of the most intensely personal novels ever written, it also transcends its author’s subjectivity to shed clear light on the mysteries of life and death, of faith and unbelief, in which all of us inescapably share.

More Sayings: –

  • Every man must do two things alone; his own believing and his own dying! – Martin Luther King
  • Always go to other people’s funerals, otherwise they won’t come to yours! – Yogi Berra

Sorry for a morbid subject! Take Care!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

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Love Thy Neighbour!

  • And do good – to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need;  Neighbours who are near; Neighbours who are strangers; The companion by your side; The Wayfarer (you meet);  and what your right hand possesses; for Allah loves not; The Arrogant; The Vainglorious (Proud) ….  – The Holy Quran – Surat An-Nisaa’ 4:36
  • Don’t throw stones at your neighbours; if your own windows are of glass – Benjamin Franklin 

It was nice to see some good falling rain once again – with the thunder and the lightening for a change this weekend. It reminded me of my childhood days in that distant island that we grew up – where it would rain incessantly unending for weeks – and the lightening was so intense that it would go on for more than a minute or so – lightening up the sky – and the deafening thunder that had followed!

People are free to say anything that they want about me as a person – but I can assure you that I always strive my very best to be on good friendly useful terms with my neighbours! One of them is an ex office peer – and we would talk for long minutes – time again and again – and he once admitted that once we may have been office rivals – because I took over his job aspects – and I think my expatriate staff families were most impressed by my services in making their stay here enjoyable and hassle free!

I have learnt this treating of neighbours well from my late Mother – peace be upon her soul – and is now see 4 years exactly since she died in a bungled up simple operation – Goodbye, Our Mama! In Memoriam – A Cry For Help Book! – www.myownmajid.com . If you have read that article – you will have no doubt have realised why Neighbours have always played in an important part in our family – and how we try our level best not to annoy or upset anyone of them in our lives – wherever we lived!

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Frankly, The neighbour holds a special status in Islam. Islam encourages Muslims to treat their neighbours in a gentle way that reflects the true and genuine spirit of Islam as exemplified in its tolerant aspect especially with people of other faiths. It makes no difference whether the neighbours are Muslim or non-Muslim. ‘A’ishah, the Mother of the Believers, (May Allah be pleased with her) stated that she once asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), “O Messenger of Allah! I have two neighbours. To whom shall I send my gifts?” He said, “To the one whose gate is nearer to you.”

It is clear from the above Prophetic Hadith that Muslims are encouraged to not only treat our neighbours kindly, but also to exchange gifts with them. It was even reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) had a neighbor who used to harm him and insult him at every encounter.

Some days elapsed without the Prophet getting his share of this man’s abuse. Thinking that there must be some reason behind the man’s absence, he (peace and blessings be upon him) paid him a visit and found him sick. The man wondered how the Prophet could meet his bad treatment with such great behavior. To him, such noble character as taught by Islam was completely new.

If your neighbours are Muslim and relatives, then they have three rights on you: the right of the neighbour, the right of kin, and the right of the co-religionist. If they are non-Muslim and relatives, then two rights are due to them: that of neighbour and kin. And if they are non-Muslims outside of the family, you owe them the right of the neighbour only. And this is to be treated with the highest of importance!

Referring to this, Allah Almighty says what means, (And serve Allah. Ascribe no thing as partner unto Him. Enough to say that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) stated in one of his Hadiths that Angel Jibreel (Gabriel) kept exhorting him to treat neighbors kindly to the extent that the Prophet imagined that a neighbor could inherit from his neighbour!

  • We make our friends; we make our enemies; but God makes our next door neighbour – G. K. Chesterton
  • Far better a neighbour that is near than a brother far off – The Bible

Recently, a family member moved to her new built home – and she was looking forward for complete peace and quiet – and away from paying always increasing flat rents – that frankly are not even worth half of the charged rates – but then people are simply taking advantage of the market prices – and peoples’ needs and weaknesses!

Despite all the things I have written in my above book – sadly, I still have noticed – nothing has changed much! Especially from some of the European expatriates – having a rather dim whimsical view of the Omani neighbours – even if the ‘castle’ that he is staying now is most likely Omani owned! The spirit of being in a foreign country – and the neighbour in front of you is a ‘bloody foreigner!’ – even if in his own country – still is a foreigner!

I have made a solemn promise to myself – not to write any more things to vex and annoy myself –  but I had noticed that I had left this one out for awhile! But then I ask the question again – what else is new? Tongue in cheek speaking!

More Sayings: –

  • If you want to annoy your neighbours, tell the truth about them! – Pietro Aretino
  • Love thy neighbour – but don’t pull down your hedge      – Benjamin Franklin

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By  Majid Al Suleimany

The Incorrigibles (In)Corruptible! 1

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The Incorrigibles (In)Corruptible! 

Incorrigible – means somebody or something that is impossible or very difficult to control, correct or reform 

Incorruptible – means not to be bought – not open to bribery – honorable – honest and morally upright

  • Allah cursed the one who pays a bribe, the one who takes it and the mediator between      the two –  The Islamic      Hadith
  • The  son of Adam will not pass away from Allah until he is asked about five      things: how he lived his life, and how he utilized his youth, how did he  earn his wealth, how did he spend his wealth, and what did he do with his      knowledge      – Tirmidhi
  • I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feetGhandi

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There is a running commentary about a certain place also notorious for bribery and corruption that it starts from the moment you board their national airline to the time you check out from your hotel and return – and that it is always advisable to carry small denominations of foreign currencies – especially USA Dollars – the  preferred one – to give out. This is in order to avoid unnecessary hassles – whether real or created – and woe to you if you wish not to engage! Everybody is in corruption – and everybody gives corruption – even if needed or not!

Frankly, I have always suspected that there was some ‘measured levels’ of corruption – most of it implied and hidden – but it was a real shocker to me to find it ‘real and live’ when I had my Consultancy a decade back. I wrote about these things before some years back – and you can find my previous articles here. This is in response to those that have been asking me why I do not write on the subject – like others have done?

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You see the point is – even if I do – nobody pays attention or read what I write – even if it is worthwhile causes like Road Safety Awareness – where people outside were ready to invest to propagate my book Being The Safe Driver! – if I could chip in US Dollars 5000 – 50% – and they would contribute the rest – to see the message and theme propagated in all the US Television channels in the format of video marketing advertising! I do not know if it is a question of bribery – or that I am just unlucky! Anyway, the titles are there – in my books and in my columns – written over 2 years ago – Being Exemplary In Life! – How Rich Can One Get? – Are You looking For A Bribe? – Taking The High Road! – Investigative Reporting! – Some Will Never Change! and Can You Buy Respects?

  • When rich villains have need of poor ones, poor ones may make what price they will      – Shakespeare
  • The accomplice to the crime of corruption is frequently our own indifference – Bess Myerson

Our Late Father always used to lecture us – Do not take anything that does not belong to you – and avoid temptations – living beyond your means – and going for bribery and corruption – even if it is offered to you! Deny – and refuse vehemently! I was watching Al Jazeera Television and it showed – in one of its programmes – of a certain place where if somebody needed a favour from you and came with a bribe – and you denied them – then you were easily targeted for annihilation and destruction in the format of a suicide bomber! That is how serious bribery and corruption has become as one of the major social, domestic, economic and political anathema and disease there!

I remember one of the Contractors I used to deal with long time back lamenting to me – I have high respects and esteem for you – but either you are a naive person – or stupid (not said loud!) – and designated to remain always poor in life! How poetic and right he was – but I prefer to be this way only. If you have time – feel free to go through my articles mentioned above – as there is no point in re-inventing the wheel – just to fill in the number of words required for the article!

The real thing that has to be said here is that you cannot pin corruption and bribery to a certain face or character that you will see in life! Sometimes it is a great shocker to find somebody with great features, outlooks and personalities – respectable and polite full gentlemanly – to be involved! It is always a betrayal – and Life Great Learner! Sometimes it is so sad – and unbelievable – but that is life anyway – and how the cookie crumbles!

Some More Sayings on Corruption: –

  • Truly, Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.- The Holy Quran 13:11
  • The eyes of the people are watching you!Sierra LeoneFight Against Corruption  Banner
  • Corruption  is  the abuse of entrusted power for private gain. It hurts everyone who      depends on the integrity of people in a position of authorityTransparency      International
  • The difference between a corrupt and a honest      person; the corrupt person has a price and the honest person has valueNeha
  • It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing      power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power  corrupts those who are subject to itAung San Suu Kyi
  • Absolute power corrupts – Famous

Happy National Day Greetings!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Staying After Office Hours! 2

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Staying After Office Hours! 

  • Family is the most important thing in the world! – Late Princess Diana
  • A man should never neglect his family for business! –      Walt Disney
  • Family is not an important thing! – it is everything – Michael J.      Fox

A long time ago – a good friend sent me this below – Speech by Brian Dyson – CEO Coca Cola – Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends and spirit … and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life.

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Some years back – I was working in HR for this new Chinese company investing here and as usual by everyone – and them included – they do not have trust and confidence in local expertise and talents. So they brought their own HR person from home – only they gave him a different job title as at that time HR jobs were reserved only for Omanis – and laws were being monitored to ensure this.

You would imagine with such a situation there would be a natural clash with the local HR guy – even if it was not me! The person tried his level best to marginalise and belittle me in the eyes of his bosses – more his jealous and envious streak when they bought a new car for me – but he had to use Company car – as anyway he could not be allowed to drive! Anyway – it ended in me losing out – because of many things – and my own characteristics and personalities could just not go on.

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It eventually led to my first Arab Management book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – which you may recall won The USA Literary Excellency Golden Seal Award for 2013 anyway! As we the Arabs say – from the stomach of evil came blessings – or the silver lining in the storm clouds!

The reason I am bringing this is to demonstrate live how deceptions, lies, acting and facade can push your career progression upwards very fast!. As the East Africans also say – wait for the person going up the ladder – he will soon come down! Because some time far later the man was exposed – but I cannot put the real reasons here – as it is politically explosive – but is in my book anyway! You will find it at www.myownmajid.com

Besides, I am not a good Actor or Pretender. I have no issues staying behind office hours if there is a real need or case to do so. In my Oil Company – in Emergencies – we could work till 3 a.m. – and 7 a.m. we were back at Office – and sometimes we just did not sleep!

This guy was very good in inventing artificial and unnecessary work to do in HR – just to show he is very busy and dedicated. With his Chinese bosses – they used to go home even at 10 p.m. – but they were Engineering Project people – so it was understandable. But he went along – to accompany and give them support per se! And here was I – a family man – in my own country – going home past 2 or 3 hours closing time – but that was still not enough for them! Even if they were all single contracts – and their families back home!

Years far back – a similar situation had developed when I took over a HR job in my then Oil Company – but here I was able to win – and because there was Real Omanisation support, adherence and taking place! The Expatriate Assistant looking after the job soon found his way out  from my job auspices – after trying the same tricks that his future peer would try on me far later in life! The point to make here – it is not true that many Omanis do not want to stay after Office hours! First and foremost – we have our family and social commitments – that many expatriates do not have! So these wanton acts of pretenses, acting and facade need to end now!

I have seen live my expatriate peers ‘waste time` the whole day – doing petty and unnecessary works – and that includes endless meetings – till you are lost what that meeting was for – and you had to be reminded by The Chair – or bringing even wrong notes to the meeting! Real work for some of them start one or two hours before closing time – and in that way they can look real active and busy – and woe to you who has been working from the moment go – and now near closing time need to take a break – and or even go home!

Staying after office hours cause many expatriate families – and the isolated similarly inclined locals too – lots and lots of family problems and issues! If you read the weekly magazines – and see what the expatriate wives write to the Problem Columns! Some of them are so unhappy and miserable that they wish they were not married – and want to go home! Unfortunately, some of them are real qualified professionals – but have to stay in the houses because of the rules and regulations! I found this myself when I had my Consultancy!

Some of these ladies are so much bored, distressed, frustrated and unhappy  – that there is wear and tear in the family – including the children too – when hubby returns late at night – and early morning back to the Offices – including even weekends and holidays!

Being in HR – I have myself seen live examples and cases of expatriate housewives coming to see me with their problems – because `I was told you are good in listening – and sorry to waste your time’ – because you cannot do anything `for me in this hole I am now in’ ! Yet on the outside – their spouses have very good high paying jobs – paid houses and cars etc. The sad part is those on the lower echelons staying in miserable accommodation and pay – following their top peers!

Trust me in saying this – and I am not exaggerating or blowing things out of proportion here – but I have noticed live escapades and affairs – in those in the offices after office hours – and at homes with the neglected and ignored wives! It now includes men as a new trend too as the spouse – with the women working or in more senior positions – and priority more for the office than family!

After a few isolated visits and the sending of flowers – they will end soon from the Company side – when you really fall seriously sick – and that if you are lucky too! It will be your family, relatives and friends that will look after you – and depends how you have treated them before!

I do not know when ‘this disease’ will ever end? Take Care!

Happy National Day Greetings!

By  Majid Al Suleimany

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*** Please Open Your Eyes! 

  • A mediocre person tells, A good person explains, A superior person      demonstrates. A great person inspires others to see for themselves –      Harvey Mackay     
  • An empty head is not really empty; it is stuffed with rubbish. Hence the difficulty of forcing anything into an empty head – Eric Hoffer
  • Leadership is solving problems. The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care! Either case is a failure of leadership – Colin Powell

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Apart from the devastations caused by typhoon Haiyan in especially Philippines – it was very interesting to watch the headline news in three different newspapers on the same day – and each one with different priority of what was meant for the headline side! Perhaps coupled with different focuses – and perhaps with view of their usual main Readers – and possibly I would not discount the way things are going nowadays of ‘their (hidden) agendas’ even!

Then we have some of the columnists who have not made a decision yet of which side to support – and move between sides as they go on – perhaps in trying to please everyone – and in the end perhaps none – as is the usual case! In one of the newspapers – they were saying why Oman is amongst the highest liked place by expatriates living in the countries – and according to the researched study index! They gave break downs and comparisons of the other places in the conducted research works down.

I guess anything good news for the country must go in capital headline news – but I am not too sure – seeing the other bits and pieces that do make their way sometimes – and it makes you think aloud of what is going on! If you will excuse the scepticism and cynicism!

In the other newspaper a great worry and concern is expressed why the young Omanis are still not interested in Private Sector jobs – and the continued rising trend of increasing lots of leaving their jobs for the preferred Public Sector jobs – or even just go without! This last part is really worrisome and scary – especially with the added bit of many of them being terminated for one reason or the other! The reasons are not explicitly given – and neither are the possible solutions to the crisis!

It reminds me of a long time ago British boss who told me point blank and without mincing his words – do not come to me with a problem – unless you have three solutions at least – and at least one is plausible and workable! He did not realise with whom he was dealing with at the time – because I gently reminded him that the problem was carefully analysed and researched by me – and could he please reread his emails? With the retort – I am quite busy now – and will eventually do so!

At least my conscience goes clear that I did my required job part in highlighting live the situation – and the rest is not up to me then! And whenever I did say this – it got them working hard – whether they liked it or not – because as the label went ‘he is the barometer of what is going on’ – and we do need not to ignore him – and our loss only!

That is how I became infamous popular – but if you have read my columns and books – I have blown my trumpet there many times before!

Especially in my Arab Management books Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! and A Cry For Help! – http://www.myownmajid.com. As aforementioned – I feel I have done my part as a loyal and faithful citizen – with great concerns, worries and priorities to see things ‘do not go’ wrong – and if they have – what to do about them! Anyway and as in many cases – I hate saying ‘I told you so!’

 *** In one of the places that I had worked some time ago – this top personality was telling me this – Please open your eyes – and see! This after calling me to his place to put me in my place – because of highlighting situations that ‘it was more them that did not see – but anyway, that is another story for now! Only I learnt far later – that he had actually prepared a Termination Letter for me that day – but he was at least receptive when I told him what I had to say – and appealing to his conscience of ‘us both being citizens of the land – and for the sake of our children – and their children’s future!

I was also watching this programme in Al Jazeera Television of Inside Syria – and how each adversaries kept to their lines and stories – and each one believed he was completely right – and the other one completely wrong! Nothing has changed much – we still do the very same – and still have not learnt our lessons in life – and the teachings of mistakes and in history – even if we see live the disasters and devastations man-made – and even in typhoon Haiyan etc. Will we wake up and see?

The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people – Napoleon

Please Open Your Eyes – And See!

Take Care!

 By  Majid Al Suleimany

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For Sunday – November 13th 2013.

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Please Do (Not) Come! 

You Are (Not) Invited!

  • Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option – Nina Potts-Jefferies

 Please forgive me for starting this today with some morbid facts – but that is how the trend is going nowadays! Frankly and honestly, I have no issues for people sending me messages, videos and audios – but sometimes we do need to ask the fundamental question of `what added gain – and advantage’ and knowledge one will have in going through the messages?

A long time ago – I still remember what my lovely Indian Assistant used to say to me that ‘a certain level of being mental’ could be okay – but exceeding it – and doing too much of it is not! She was also saying to me that if someone is determined to insult you – there is no need to choose words wisely and correctly – because whatever comes into mind is just okay – fine and dandy! Except with the last words – I told her that is also a famous East African expression also! And the point that she kept insisting that there is a very ‘thin line’ between good and evil – and sometimes you may have crossed it – inadvertently and without really thinking!

The question to ask again is this! By sending this to the person – will it be something pleasant and enjoyable – or something that is just sad and disappointing? What is the logic of sending someone videos of a lion eating a man – or a crocodile attacking a girl by the river as she is being photographed by her friend? Or the latest trend of our Syrian brothers and sisters tying up a cat for slaughter – because of the infamous Fatwa that ‘people are allowed to eat cats, dogs and donkeys’ to avoid starvation – and this even in the suburbs of Damascus itself under the war front!

At least caution and warn the person – and then it will be upon himself to open the message or not! As one of my Top Omani Directors once warned me – I sort my mail By Sender – and whatever you send me – I just delete! He found it the hard way when he deleted a very important formal HR message that involved his staff – and with the International Head Offices in London! I was able to cover myself by proving that I had sent it to him – plus repeated chasers!

And that brings us to the theme of the topic for today! I feel sorry for this guy now seeing he is in great troubles in ‘past skeletons in the closets’ – so to speak – following him now!

As they also say – Be careful what you say, You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, But ten years later, the wounds are still there – Joel Osteen

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I do not know if you have noticed this? In the past people used to literally come to your house to invite you for the wedding – even if it is for men – and sometimes it comes with invitation cards – so that you do not forget – and sometimes just plain by word of mouth! Then the system went to just sending cards and phone calls. It is now at level of Messaging – and there is simply no more respects and esteem left – I would imagine – if you are a close family member, relative or friend – to also receive the same message that 400 or more have similarly received! And a worst case scenario when one asks you – were you invited to *Kalmy party? – and you were not! * Not a real person! I am talking here of the men invitation – I guess it is another worse fiasco with the ladies!

But let me ask you this! And please let us interact in response! If my son knows your son very well and they were schooling together – or are just close friends – and I tell your son – please tell your father to come to the wedding also? Okay? Do not forget! And your son even – a close friend to my son – just gets a regular messaging invitation? And when my son points out delicately – here is his mobile number – please just send him a message! But he just ignores!!

Would you go? I can assure you that I am not a fussy or complicated person by nature – but I think respects and esteem are in order! It reminds me of one sort of VIP saying to a friend – and the ‘good friend’ that likes to pass it on! – that I know M – but I do not know his father! This was when my father expired a few years ago – and he was contemplating whether to come or not – to the Masjid (?) to offer his condolences (!).

Like my late father used to say – nobody kisses your hand – unless you are rich and famous – or have spiked your hands with honey!

I always know that when I go to the social functions – there will be one or two odd balls that will come to upset and annoy me ‘of what is this rubbish’ you are writing? Rubbish? Can you write even quarter of the rubbish, my friend? And certainly there will be some others too – all positive and complimentary – at least vis-à-vis!

Anyway, it reminds me of this famous expressionIf you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing! – Benjamin Franklin –  I think I have tried my level best  to do what I could do in my life – and remaining life on earth – but the rest is not up to me!

And finally – When I stand before God at the end of my life, I  would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me’ – Erma Bombeck

Take Care!

 By  Majid Al Suleimany

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Still Working After Sixty!

 

  • Education is the best provision for old age! – Aristotle
  • The tragedy of old age is not that one is old, but that one is young – Oscar Wilde
  • No man loves life like him that is growing old – Sophocles
  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin

 Before I start – I would like to apologise for some few weeks missed articles! Frankly and truthful speaking, I was just not in the mood! You see I have thought that things have really changed – but in reality they have not! Forgive me for being a sucker – and a naive person too – forgetting I had read many times – Animal Farm by George Orwell – as my literature study book! I have also forgotten also that I had written the article 12 years ago titled – Sorry Sir, You Are Over 50! – when I was looking for a job in HR – after the collapse of my Consultancy business post early retirement!

You see I was trying hard to get a Hire Purchase loan for replacing my old 8 years old Toyota Camry – and I went with cup in hand to all the Financial places – but vehemently rejected – even by the so-called Islamic ones – because as I was told – I was 65! It is better for me not to trouble anyone – and go to the Saih Dhabi funeral grounds to just wait for my day to exit this world!

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Anyway – back to realities – I was watching this Television Programme in Al Jazeera about The World Elderly – and was comparing about how the elderly are being treated now in different parts of the world! It is a very interesting programme and comes as part of the segment of The News Programme. If you are a Jazeera fan – you might have noticed it – unless you switch ofF after the main segment of the news!

No wonder the whole word is now becoming agitated, traumatised and in despair, confusion and in depression watching these news! In one of the news bit – a Syrian young woman laments cuttingly – why their families are trying to smuggle their way to Europe – with young children with them – and with the dangers of sinking overloaded boats to unwelcome ports – because she believed ‘The sea will be more merciful to us than people are here to us (another Arab country) – at least when we get to Europe – we will be human beings again! Very sad – and very much telling!

The programme looks at what those challenges are, how the elderly can keep contributing to society and whether enough is being done to support them. This is because the world is getting old fast and within the next 10 years, there will be more than one billion people over the age of 60. The UN is calling for governments to take action and face this new reality.

In these elderly programmes they show how they are being treated in different countries – with live examples and interviews of the old people involved! The question comes into mind what is old? Reminds me of an incident of a young Omani graduate recruited casually remarking to my then British boss that as he was 52 – he must be old! Old? retorted the good man. You think I am old at 52?

He was so upset that I had to use my best persuasion skills to make the young lad not lose on his being planned education abroad! Trust our youngsters to say whatever quickly comes to their minds – without really thinking! In another incident – an Omani Manager was throwing out my short listed best candidates for an Engineering job – because the top candidate was over 50 – even though the Manager himself was far much older! But that is how the cookie crumbles – as our good friends the Brits say!

Coming back to the programme – the elderly in Afghanistan fare very badly ‘as the worst place on earth to be elderly’ – as the programme points out! By tradition, the elderly are expected to be looked after by their children – and as the unemployment is so high – and people are struggling to make ends meet – the youngsters are abandoning their old ways of doing things in looking after their parents and the elderly!

As a result – the old people are forced out to go out and find menial work in order to survive. It is so disheartening and so sad to see some of them chopping wood with the feeble remaining strength they have to earn pittance money in order to survive! This is supposed to be a Muslim traditional conservative environment where people are bound to respect and esteem their parents – and look after them!

In a more secular and modern environment – we are shown in later programmes – of how the elderly are being treated in South Korea – where the State has jumped in to help the elderly by incentive programmes given to The Private Sector to still recruit experienced and qualified citizens into jobs – and to continue working well after even 65 to 70s – because they want to avoid the social problems in the country – when the youngsters continue to fail dismally to look after their parents – and the elderly!

In one of the real sad things I have seen in my life – is to see this old woman doing pittance menial job followed behind by her sick mental patient daughter – because as she the Mother says – she will do everything she could till her last breath then to put her sick daughter into a mental institution – even if she will be looked better there than she could ever imagine!

My son got married, I had to work to ‘save face’Retiree at Son’s Home – Korea.

Yet here we are complaining of such petty things – and forget that there are people out there really and really trying hard to survive – with the very little things that they have! And that includes me too for that matter – for over dramatising – for not being able to get a new car – unless my children guaranteed it for me – as being high risk factor due to my age!

Though, I have seen so many youngsters die early than me – some from nasty road accidents – that even prompted me to write the book – Being The Safe Driver! – http://www.bethesafedriver.com/ . I am very much convinced – frankly and honestly and genuinely speaking – that somewhere, someplace there is someone dead set jealous at least I have an old car!!

Take Care – and Keep Smiling! Happy New Islamic Year 1435 AH

*** The Programme ***

http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/insidestory/2012/10/201210244730939625

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Inside Story – Looking After An Ageing World.

“I think this is a cause for concern because the young’s fertility is declining and life expectancy is increasing all over the world … these issues are not clear to many of the developing countries. This is a social as well as a demographic issue and the government is very concerned about how to tackle this issue.”

– Hafiz Khan, former Research Fellow at the Oxford Institute of Population Ageing

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Book Review – Culture Features – The Oman Daily Observer

Tuesday 22nd, October 2013 / 17:55

Written by Oman Observer in Culture

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Front Wipe My Tears

Wipe My Tears! — Between Us Only!has been adapted from Majid Al Suleimany’s successful newspaper columns in Oman Daily Observer. Utilising the very best touching stories and articles from the columns that he has penned over the past four years, Al Suleimany touches on a wide variety of vital and riveting topics. The subject matter will be of interest to everyone from teenagers to grandparents — and from the clerks to the CEOs. The book focuses on the study of humanity, human needs, human interaction, society, and economics, as well as other areas. In fact, the author covers all socio-economic-political aspects of society, with an emphasis on working environments such as office space.

The author also addresses society as a whole, and the dire repercussions and consequences of bad ideas and thoughts that can be harmful to society in the broadest sense. Though many topics apply to Oman and GCC countries, the collection of columns organised by Al Suleimany offers a universal appeal because, in his view, society and family are quite similar.

According to the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears — as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is essentially the same — regardless of race, creed, religion, colour, ancestry, and ethnicity!” The book will encourage soul-searching, deep analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. It has been penned directly from the heart of the author to the reader. It carries many emotional personal family stories and encounters — including work experiences as a highly-qualified human resources management consultant.

The book moves quickly, advancing without boundaries, and is careful never to get bogged down in politics. While critical, the writings are also realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding. The author, through his writings, offers up a tome that is part prayer and part preaching, desperately hoping for a change in the world that will produce a new and more positive direction.

“Live and let live in peace, harmony, and co-existence,” is Al Suleimany’s mantra. States the author, “We have the same needs, worries, concerns and fears, as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is the same regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity!” The book will encourage soul-searching, analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place. The writings are realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding — as well as how to live with others in the world.

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