Ridiculing and Insulting Writers! Reply

Between Us Only!

Ridiculing and Insulting Writers!

Writing Is Not A Dirty Word!

  • Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter, don’t mind!Dr. Seuss – Writer, Cartoonist and Animator
  • Writing is a struggle against silence. Carlos Fuentes
  • The only reason for being a professional writer is that you can’t help it – Leo Rosten
  • The art of writing is the art of discovering what you believe!Gustave Flaubert
  • Writing to me, is simply thinking through my fingersIsaac Asimov
  • Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you earn no moneyJules Renard
  • If the writing is honest it cannot be separated from the man who wrote it. — Tennessee Williams

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Images Writing – You can write anywhere! – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Some years ago, I was working in this new just come in venture foreign company and I gave my first book Between Us Only! as a complimentary gift to this just arrived in Oman European Manager – and who had joined after me! He came from the Tanzanian branch of the same company. In the book there was an article titled Are You Afraid? It was about magic and witchcraft in East Africa. One day earlier we had got talking about Tanzania and the subject had cropped up – and in good faith and sincerity – I had thought of giving him the book!

A few days later, I had asked him if he had read the book and especially the article – but he retorted that he had not! This person had taken a lot of pride of how he got rid of a Tanzanian local who was in the real position before him – and wanted to have an added plus of including an Omani in his list tick off too! Which he successfully did – by telling everyone in Management that M had written a book that was critical and radical – and especially of The West!

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Image – You need to be interested to write!

That was his outlook, choice and prerogative – and he was free to think like what he wanted to! No one can stop another in what one wants to think – after reading a book – though in mine was nothing but the sincere and genuine truth – and as most people well acknowledge too!

The same outlook was outlandishly made by some crude Western Expatriates in my also previous Western run company. And that comes to the main point to be made here – The Westerners and The Foreigners – believe in freedom and democracy only if you are in their camp – and are in support of their views and in outlooks only!

But if you are different – or take a different independent outlook and perspective then you are in Big Trouble with them! Thus creating my two books in Arab Management – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking and A Cry For Help! – please see my books website www.myown-ebooks.com and www.majidbooks.com When we go to their countries we must adjust to be like them – but when they come to our country – we too must adjust to be like them! We never ever expect to win here!

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Starting Early To Write!

Particularly, they do not want you to write about same levels salaries, perks and privileges that they receive – compared to even same qualified experienced locals! Or pushing and supporting Omanisation, Youth Recruitment, Training and Development! In that regard, so do our own old guards too! How long will these things continue – there is a break up point somewhere down the line!

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Image – Writing!

Do not support the Palestinians or The Arab cause. Even if you are Arab – or Muslim! Shut up – Keep Quiet – and Sit There in the Corner! Do not write topics like No More Wars please! Or Lift The Gaza Blockage! Or write anything against Israel! Did you notice that the Israeli Jews can criticize their own government easily – but the American supporters and Jews especially do not allow you to do this?

This is how my two sequel books of series Between Us Only! had run into publishing problems in USA! Inadvertently, the company went against my books – though my earlier books attacking our own had no issues! In the end they had agreed to refund my monies paid – because they simply did not want association with my books!

Makes the whole exercise of their preaching others for democracy, freedom of speech, freedom of expression as shallow and hollow – because they do not allow it in their country to outsiders – and though they are outsiders here in Oman – they want the same for the locals to ‘fall down and play dead’ after the command – when you misbehave!

That is why they hate The Arab Spring Uprisings – because it just works against them! And Israel especially! Because they can no longer control, dominate and subjugate others – and use people as they wish! Or by using others under their control and domination to do their dirty works and biddings for them! That even goes down to an individual level – and Writers, Authors and Columnists like us are not exempt or spared – and are special targeted for writing on THE TRUTH ONLY!

But this issue does not only extend to expatriates in our midst – but even locals too! In one interview on so-called VP HR was making great fun, joke and mirth about my writings – and my books and websites! Yet I was there not for a job in his Company – but more as a Consultant in HR! Nothing to do as me as in writing – which is not profession linked – as writing being just my hobby, interests and passion! Even though he admitted I was more experienced and qualified than even many applications received – including external ones too!

It will shock you still further to find even family members being against you – because you are writing to others about ‘our family’ – as if you do not belong to that family! And then smirking jovial ‘friends’ that take great enjoyment and fun to ridicule and insult your intelligence by wise ridiculous cracks and jokes in front of others!

Part of what they see as the ‘pecking order’ to them – and making them feel great and elated – and that they are on the ‘higher levels and status’ than you! Yet they cannot write even one sentence – in any language – let alone in English!

The other week I wrote to many people telling them about my new Road Safety Novel – Behind The Wheel – www.bethesafedriver.com. Only 3 people responded to say they were interested to read the book. The others that include high profile peoples that are always in the news just ignored me – if they had not deleted the mail too. Yet they are always propagandists for change – and great talkers and Advisors to others! That is the scary and shocking part – at least to me!

A great lady fan of mine – who had died in a nasty road accident – had said to me that people are simply jealous and envious of you – because they know you have the knack and the expertise of writing – and they cannot – even if they dearly wished for this. Mr. M – you have not lost – you have won! The same thing was said to me by two other lady fans – and several gents too – all local!

There was also this Indian HR guy – who first of all is not supposed to be in that position as is reserved for Omanis – who behaved just like The Western Finance Manager in a meeting with the local GM of a company I was doing some HR Project with. He thought he was cracking a great joke in the meeting – and so was a German guy who pretended to be a friend – whilst all the time feeding poison to this same GM. In the end my contract was reduced time period wise – but I quit and left within half an hour of getting the new contract – remained unsigned – and resignation instead!

That is how the cookie crumbles. I really urge you to read my two Arab Management books above.

In summary and in conclusion – writing is not a dirty word! If you cannot write – do not try to belittle, patronize, ridicule and marginalise those that can!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

Funeral Expenses Burden! Reply

For January 27th 2013.

Between Us Only!

Funeral Expenses Burden!

  • What we tend to forget is the poor deceased immediate family members now divided attention to get money for funeral expenses – rather than just mourning for their deceased ones!
  • Even family that have suffered from road accidents are not spared – despite the great traumatic and painful times in their lives now!
  • People arrive at these funeral gatherings in their best formal attire – both men and women!
  • It seems it is a time for a ‘show off’ of the latest fashions and in-thing in town – rather than a funeral gathering!
  • It looks more like a formal party going on – rather than a funeral gathering!
  • The latest talk in town, rumours and gossips take essence in the gatherings – and including back biting – even the died person too is not spared!

The other day my sister was calling me to say that our relative rank wise grandmother had died in our home village in Hayll Al Ghaaf in Quriyat. She had died in Daghmar hospital after a long illness. She was the lady who inadvertently had looked after our late father as a boy when his mother had died – our paternal grandmother – peace be upon all of them!

The time was nearing noon – and we knew that by the time we collected ourselves – we will be already late for the funeral – taking into consideration the quick and rapid funeral arrangements in the society and waiting for no one for the dead body to be so hurriedly buried! Then my good sister suggested we offer our condolences early tomorrow morning – and that would be better – and for the reasons that will be crystal clear as you read on!

In an interview with a local newspaper last week – titled Collecting funds for funeral costs un-Islamic’Oman’s Assistant Grand Mufti Dr Kahlan bin Nabhan al Kharousiimage below – has said that collecting funds to cover funeral costs should be avoided. He also said that providing meals to mourners was against the teachings of Islam.

Dr. Kahlan Nabhan Al Kharousi

Some families collect funds on a monthly basis to cover funeral expenses. Dr Kharousi said there is a need for people to understand the importance of avoiding extravagance during mourning. Collecting funds to cover funeral expenses is considered Makrooh (an offensive act). Having to organise meals at funeral is unwanted. It burdens those who have to be condoled.

He said it is improper for people going to give their condolences to expect meals at the venue. People should also avoid visiting the family during meal times. That too is Makrooh. There no reward from Allah for this – he said. Dr Kharousi said that some people pay for funeral expenses from the deceased’s inheritance. In such cases, the funeral costs are deducted from the inheritors’ share.

This practice is wrong because what a deceased has left behind belongs to his legal inheritors. This should be avoided even if the deceased has requested it in his will. In such cases the will is considered invalid – the Deputy Mufti said.

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Image – The Funeral Pyre!

I have written on this same topic from May 2003 – and 10 years later writing on the very same topics! Nothing much seems to have changed – after all the talks, meetings and lectures – after great shows offs – things just remain the same – and if not inadvertently even worse off than ever before. The topics I had written were respectively titled – Is this a funeral gathering? – Expensive Even To Die! – Even In Death?

My poor good sister was saying to me – we will get chance for by tomorrow to get some money to take with us – we cannot go with ’empty hands’ as it is! Frankly – for me it would be better to arrive immediately with ’empty hands’ – than to wait some time to come with something!

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Image – Islamic Grave!

Actually, another thing that we should also really talk about is this quick hurried burials – where even if the children of the deceased are away 4 to 5 hours wait period are simply not entertained! This needs to change too!

These are the kind of things that Allah God is not pleased with us! And if you speak out – you get labelled with all kinds of brand names, colourings and labels – and your birth place, origins and ethnicity can just add ‘fuel to the fire’ – if you are not careful here!

May Allah God direct us to the right ways and paths – and away from his anger and fury – Amin Amen!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

P.S. Sorry for a morbid topic today!

Tutu’s Children! Reply

For Wednesday January 23rd 2013

Between Us Only!

Tutu’s Children!

I was really traumatised and emotionalised to watch this programme in Al Jazeera Television – and I am really convinced that it is something that we can try in our part of the world – especially in the GCC – for our youth to make them better leaders and innovators in our society. The idea comes from the same origins and part and parcel of encouraging of SMEs!

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Bishop Desmond Tutu with Course Organisers

Tutu’s Children is a documentary in Al Jazeera Television of the living legend – South Africa’s Archbishop Desmond Tutu’s leadership scheme, following five accomplished young leaders as they are coached in the way of their patron to become a ‘moral task force’ for Africa – a network of 25 inspirational leaders, together mandated to tackle some of the continent’s most impenetrable problems

In the programme is set on the ideas and dreams of Desmond Tutu to lead an experiment to build a network of inspirational leaders to tackle Africa’s most stubborn problems. For this group of already impressive individuals – it is a life changing process – full of highs, lows and self-realization.

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Course Participant

For Desmond Tutu, it is another way of leaving a lasting legacy for the continent he loves – and as he bows out of public life. If this scheme is at all successful – it would ultimately bear an uplifting message for all – that the emergence of leaders need not be left to chance.

Who can one believe in to change the world for the better? From the economic turmoil in Europe – to the Arab Springs in the Arab world – to the presidential race in the USA – it seems that everywhere leadership is in crisis. No less so in Africa – where Archbishop Desmond Tutu is heading up an experiment to build a new network of inspirational leaders – who are together committed to tackling their countries’ most stubborn problems.

Tutu is a living legend for many. It is his personal wish and ambition to leave behind a more positive and enterprising destiny, legacy and future for Africa long after his death – and he wants this to be in his epitaph of what he had left behind! The Bishop has been a fierce advocate of peace and justice his whole life – unofficially leading millions without ever holding political office.

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The Class Room

With exclusive access, this series follows Tutu’s 25 person-strong class of 2012 – focusing in particular detail on the lives of five very different participants – as together they are coached to become a ‘moral task force’ for Africa.

In part two of the programme – sharing the Archbishop Tutu’s dream – the young leaders have an emotional meeting with Desmond Tutu and are warned of the pitfalls of leading in Africa. Each of the 25 top African professionals who have arrived in Cape Town for a leadership retreat have their own idea of what the continent needs from their generation of leaders.

They have been inspired by heroic examples to serve society. But they are about to encounter heavy responsibilities and tough deep soul-searching on the road to great leadership qualities and for the future and destiny of Africa.

Tutu's Children: Behind the scenes

Bishop Tutu and Child!

You can watch both the two episodes in Al Jazeera Television. I urge those in the leadership to take some time and efforts to listen to the programmes – even if the programmes are in English! Frankly it is a good business idea for our entrepreneurs to think of opening something like Institute of Development Management – where such a programme can be run – and amalgamated with the Institute of Public Administration.

Certainly, we would and do need better competent, dynamic, pragmatic, committed and wise leaders in the society – to make our world a better place for us all! They can be leaders in all facets of life – from future Company Managers and Public Officials! Frankly I have high respects and esteem for those with Doctorates – but with sincere apologies here – some of the interfaces have been disappointing – to say the least! At least an experiment we can try to copy and emulate here!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

Insulting Writers! Reply

Writing is Not a Dirty Word!

 
Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you earn no money. Jules Renard
 
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The Two Arab Management BookS

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Images – The Author and The Two Arab Management Books

Writing Is Not A Dirty Word!

By Majid Al Suleimany

January 18, 2013

Some years ago, I was working in this Chinese Company and I gave my first book Between Us Only! as a complimentary gift to this European Finance Manager who joined after me! He came from Tanzania branch of the same company. In the book there was an article titled Are You Afraid? It was about magic and witchcraft in East Africa.

One day earlier we had got talking about Tanzania and the subject had cropped up – and in good faith I had thought of giving him the book! A few days later I asked him if he had read the article – but he said that he had not! This person had taken a lot of pride of how he got rid of a Tanzanian local who was the Finance Director before him – and wanted to have an added plus of including an Omani in his list tick off too! Which he successfully did – by telling everyone in Management that Majid had written a book that was critical and radical of The West! That was his outlook and prerogative – and he was free to think like what he wanted to!

The same outlook was outlandishly made by some few crude Western Expatriates in my previous USA run company. And that comes to the main point to be made here – The Westerners believe in freedom and democracy only if you are in their camp – and are in support of their views and in outlooks! Thus creating my two books in Arab Management – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking and A Cry For Help! – please see my books website www.myown-ebooks.com and www.majidbooks.com

They do not want you to support Palestinians or The Arab cause. Even if you are Arab – or Muslim! Shut up – Keep Quiet – and Sit In the Corner! Do not write topics like No More Wars please! Or Lift The Gaza Blockage! Or write anything against Israel. Or Iraq invasion! Did you notice that the Israeli Jews can criticize their own government – but the American supporters and Jews do not allow you this? This is how my two sequel books Between Us Only! had run into publishing problems in USA! In the end they had agreed to refund my monies paid – because they simply did not want association with my books!

Makes the whole exercise of their preaching others for democracy, freedom of speech, freedom of expression is shallow and hollow – because they do not allow it in their country to outsiders – and though they are outsiders here in Oman – they want the same for the locals to ‘fall down and play dead’ after the command – when you misbehave! That is why they hate The Arab Spring Uprisings – because it works against them! And Israel especially! Because they can no longer control, dominate and subjugate others – by using the puppets under their control and domination. That goes down to an individual level – and Writers, Authors and Columnists like us are special targeted for writing on THE TRUTH ONLY!

But this issue does not only extend to expatriates in our midst – but even locals too! In one interview on so-called VP HR was making great fun, joke and mirth about my writings – and my books and websites! Yet I was there not for a job in his Company – but more as a Consultant in HR! Nothing to do as me as in writing – which is not profession linked – as writing being just my hobby, interests and passion!

A great lady fan of mine – who had died in a nasty road accident had said to me that people are simply jealous and envious of you – because they know you have the knack and the expertise of writing – and they cannot – even if they dearly wished for this. Mr. M – you have not lost – you have won!

The same thing was said to me by two other lady fans – and several gents too – all local!

There was also this Indian HR guy – who first of all is not supposed to be in that position as is reserved for Omanis – who behaved just like The Western Finance Manager in a meeting with the local GM of a company I was doing some HR Project with. He thought he was cracking a great joke in the meeting – and so was a German guy who pretended to be a friend – whilst all the time feeding poison to this same GM. In the end my contract was reduced time period wise – but I quit and left within half an hour of getting the new contract – remained unsigned – and resignation instead!

That is how the cookie crumbles. I really urge you to read my two Arab Management books above.

In summary and in conclusion – writing is not a dirty word! If you cannot write – do not try to ridicule, belittle and marginalise those that can!

By Majid Al Suleimany

January 18th 2013

Unexplored Potentials! Reply

For Sunday January 20th 2013

Between Us Only!

The Hidden Unexplored Potentials!

For perhaps those that do not know me – I write more as a passion and hobby! I am not a full paid or on the payroll Journalist – nor either an Investigative Reporter! I always approach my topics from a personal angle – and speaking to you direct from my heart! Now having that off my chest – we will continue with the column.

Some days back, I was cleaning my lateral cabinet where I hold all my personal files since the early 1970s. I found in one file this irate complaining letter from one European expatriate that he had written to my top boss about me booking him at that time in a national airline for his emergency travel back home.

He had wanted to travel in his own airline – but as per the policies at the time we had to go by the earliest available flight – and if possible cheaper too! Both categories were met in his travel. He was bold enough to say that he ‘did not trust local airlines’. Anyway, like I always say – what else is new in ‘biting the hand that feeds you’? Far years later – the tables were turned when the preference was on local airlines – because ‘they treat us better than even our own airlines’!

Example One – This was Gulf Air at the time. Now we have our own Oman Air – and from Gulf Air has come out very well doing others like Qatar Airways, Emirates, Etihad, Air Arabia etc. One sits in wonder and in amazement that before it was only one Airline flying all these routes now – and making money and profits – whilst previously it was not so! So what happened? What changed things – on the ground and in the air metaphorically? It is a question of demand and supply – and how the new businesses and the modus operandi were being met! A good research study for anyone in economics or marketing!

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Image – Oman Air New Jet

Example Two – In March 2005 – 8 years ago – I wrote on this topic ‘The Seagull Has Landed!’ – from the great film theme The Eagle Has Landed! The seagull is the logo for NAWRAS Q-Tel – the second telecoms provider that was allowed to come in to challenge the only one at the time. The business has now so bloomed and expanded that others came in – and Thank God are surviving and doing good businesses – with expansion plans on the mettle!

Example Three – When Al Jazeera Television was created – it was the butt of jokes and pun – especially in The West! From first encouraging its creation – to later criticizing and cursing it because of its freedom and reporting on subjects and topics that the previous giants before would never dare to touch! Or report on!

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Image Showing Potentials

Due to inhibitions whether artificially or self imposed! To the extent that today in case of controversy of The Truth – even in USA and Europe people rely on Al Jazeera Television – including even Hillary Clinton who herself was all praise for it! Even today in some GCC countries people from even inside do not trust or listen to their own channels? There are not even English channels to cater for International audiences. Like we in Oman can easily be that moderate pragmatic voice the whole world is in need! Al Jazeera covers and caters now for almost everyone in the world north to south – east to west!

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In My Father’s Suit!

Example Four – The state Universities from before only SQU – to now several – and including several colleges – all over Oman! Other examples are newspapers, magazines, NGOs, Road Safety, shopping complexes, trading companies, insurance companies, Islamic Banking – expected to do well! – SMEs – and still rising! – and many others!

People – especially the family run businesses should not see SMEs as challengers and adversaries – but as complimentary and supportive. There is wide and huge potentials out there for the pickings – for everyone! See how many new millionaires and multi-millionaires have been created so far – and still rising – from those that could only afford economy seat tickets – to now owning their own private jets!

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All The Good Signs!

That is why I do hope and pray that the Editor’s Commentary and this planned SME Symposium will be successful and be fully implemented – as potentials for self-employment, others employment, raising the standards of living and in the local talents, skills, entrepreneurship and in human resources development in the country!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

The Syrian Crisis! Reply

 2013

Between Us Only!

The Syrian Calamity!

Some years ago, my good Indian friend S and I had joined this Company at the same time – me on a temporary Human Resources Consultancy contract – whilst he joined full time in Operations. We both had our contracts signed at almost the same time in the Western CEO office.

Being a just new start office – we both shared the same office – though he was far more senior to me echelon grade levels! So he was teasing me that – in all good faith and intention it must be stressed here – that ‘he was welcoming me to the company – noting that he was far senior to me – and knew that I was ‘on a temporary’ contract! He had come with his ‘Pooja on’ that day – something the Indian Hindus put on as a ‘sacrificial type’ of ceremony!

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The Syrian Carnage!

So I teased him back! Yes I am on a temporary contract! Yes I am far junior! But you are an ‘invited guest’ to our country – and I being a local and being in HR – welcome you to Oman – and to the Company! That did it! He, sometime later told me ‘perhaps I should not have opened my mouth too soon – and put my foot into it! I just teased back – and that started our friendship – from that day after this event!

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Bombing your own people!

Ironically, being outspoken and making his views crystal clear – he did not last long – though I had cautioned and counseled him in good faith. Who am I to say such things – because 3 weeks later I had left the place within half an hour of resigning – despite the place being made out as a state of the art national prestigious project! But that is what our good Brits friends say – ‘that is how the cookie crumbles!’ – tongue in cheek metaphorically speaking!

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It Is Always The Children and The Women! That suffer the most!

I guess until now you are wondering where this is all coming from – and where is it leading to in such a serious topic like today – and why the long introduction? Let me counter by saying that all that has to be said on the subject has already been said! Sadly also one who was able to pull off a peace agreement in an African country issue in ex UN General Secretary Kofi Annan failed despicably in sorting this one out – and even the new one Brahimi is not ‘doing too well’ either! Incidentally, I had covered this same subject in my last year article titled (No) Meeting of The Minds!

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The Displaced and The Dispossesd!

So let me take my own time to come to my point – my own way. Besides, I get paid by the column – and not ‘the number of words’ in the column! You have to bear with me – because I am going to wander off – once again!

So sometime later, I met my good old friend S. He is the one who gave me the idea to write on the topic years back – Do Not Spit on Your Food! It was a good topic! So I tell S about a very bad nasty dream I had last night – and I do not know what it meant? It must mean something – if we go by the story of the Great Prophet Joseph (Yusuf) – peace be upon him!

The Dream – It was in the same office that we had worked before where I had the nightmare dream! This was well before the Arab Spring uprisings – and even thought off! I received 3 packages of gifts addressed to me. One of the gifts was in the upstairs floor – whilst the other two were on the ground floor. When I opened the parcels there was a large python in each gift box. I got really scared! Who in his right mind sends snakes as gifts – unless a mental sick weirdo person?

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The Python (Mamba) – looks gentle, no?

As I looked at the python (mamba) – it looked so gentle, harmless and peaceful! Almost like you are looking at a pigeon – or a butterfly! Then suddenly – this small type of animal – like a weasel roach something – came charging at the snake! The snake swallowed the small animal whole – showing its true colours! I was screaming and shouting! My late father used to own a double barreled gun in Tanzania – so I was screaming to him – Give me the gun! Give me the gun! I want to shoot dead these pythons now!

Keep remembering this was a dream! A nasty nightmare too! Madam wife was scared stiff in my shouting and screaming! She has a simpler solution to most of my problems – ‘you have been over eating at night again – bound to get nightmares! She would sure make proud the East Africans that believe this to be so!

My late father was protesting to me. I do not have the gun! All he said to me was – Here take this big panga (very big knife used in Africa – if you saw the film Hotel Rwanda!) The panga was not sharp – it was also cracked! Why did my late father give this to me – now out of all times and places! He said to me – Hit the python hard on the head – and also in the centre. Screaming too loud I woke up! The dream – and the pythons – drifted away!

A few months back I was talking on the phone with an uncle relative in Zanzibar. He told me the same thing my friend S had told me! Three things will happen in time to come. Represented by the pythons – though two will be equally dangerous and harmful – the python on the top floor (north?) will be more harmful and devastating! You will want to end it – but you will be fighting something more powerful and evil – by a broken up not sharp cutting panga – exposing yourself to great dangers and harm! The same thing my friend S told me on checking with some people he knew interpreting and reading dreams in India?

Could this upper floor python be that Syria? Could the other two be what happened in Tunisia, Egypt and Libya? Libya was violent too. Why particularly Syria? I do not know these things – reading interpreting dreams – and what they mean! I do not have the capacities and capabilities like our Prophet Joseph (Yusuf) peace be upon him. But my friend S – and my uncle – think it must be! It has to be!

If there are out there people who can read and interpret dreams – I have some more dreams for you! But on a serious note in ending – one can hardly believe that this Syrian tragedy and calamity had all started with youngsters graffiti – and how the whole thing was bungled and messed up! To the extent no one cares anymore – in how the good beautiful country is being destroyed all around – and by the same people – and ‘friends’ – that should have talked to each other first and foremost to solve thir own problems – and had protected and preserved their country at least in the minimum. Arabia – Do Not Cry For Me!

May Allah God Always guide and direct us in the right ways and path – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Material Deprivisation! Reply

 2013

Between Us Only!

Relative Poverty!

Or Material Deprivisation!

  • The children simply cannot concentrate on their studies – because they have not eaten the whole day before!Kenyan Teacher

My heart really broke into smithereens and pieces in watching this heart rending topic in Al Jazeera Television Programme Counting The Cost showing the increasing relative poverty – or as also known as material deprivatisation – in Europe now due to the current economic woes and stagnation.

The part that really pained me was to hear this female Doctor saying that in all her life she had thought of volunteering to go outside her country to help others in other countries more in need. She had never ever imagined that one day she would be required and it was necessary to help in her own country to those less fortunate – or in other words suffering from ‘relative poverty’ or ‘material deprivisation’!

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Poverty Face 1

Despite some being worse off than others – the religion plays a role in their lives – and they group and help each other – despite all odds against them – and a shinning example and beacon to others!

What is relative poverty?

  • Relative poverty is a poverty measure based on a poor standard of living or a low income person to the rest of society.
  • It does not necessarily imply that physical human necessities of nutrition, health and shelter cannot be met.
  • Instead it suggests that the lack of access to many of the goods and services expected by the rest of the society leads to social exclusion and damaging results for the individuals and families in relative poverty.
  • Relative Poverty is when people are poor when compared to others around them – but may still have enough money to survive.
  • It is based on the cultural environment around them, not on a basic amount necessary for all humans to survive.
  • Relative poverty is also defined as the possession of less money than others in the same society, or the inability to afford the standard of living of more comfortable individuals or that is believed to be possible or appropriate.
  • According to relative poverty, if you live in an expensive neighborhood, and you have everything you need to get by, but do not own luxurious things, you could still be said to be in poverty when compared to the people around you, even though you have everything you need.

It really hurts and pains me a lot to see such people that were once proud and able to manage their own affairs – and ways and means of life go down these ways! To the extent that some had opted out the easy way of committing suicides! I could emphatise with them – having myself gone through the motions – to result in my life turning over to become instead as a Writer, Columnist and Author instead!

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All The Faces of Poverty and Distress

In all my life dealings – I have always liked these people to be overall nice, decent and gentlemanly people – but sadly they are now being hijacked by few but fast rising extreme right wingers that blame immigrants and foreigners for their condition and state of affairs now! The ‘blame game’ is now all over the world to find scape goats in others! History is full of such incidents – all over the world!

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In that distant land – a long time ago – my late mother-in-law was frantic and erratic – because there was this incessantly unending baby cries from her house neighbours. So she could not keep to herself – and ventured to go and ask ‘what was the matter?’ She got the response that the mother of the baby was sick and had no milk in her – and the baby could eat solid food yet. In other words – whilst we had tins and tins of powdered milk that was hardly used and only in rare emergency case – the neighbour’s child was literally starving in front of our very eyes!

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No place to go to!

I have written about this in my earlier articles – when long time ago – a family member from the interior came to our house – and the children were so excited and happy for the first time to have eaten ‘fast foods’! I cried that night – and that is why I had always aimed in my life to assist and help others – as much as I possibly can as being my focus, ambition and motto in life. Thank God that those children are now in good decent jobs and positions – and they always ‘tease me’ on this when seeing me!

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If you think you need more – think of these!

I think The Religious Leaders and The Scholars are doing good jobs in lecturing, advising and counselling the youth especially – but I think they – and parents, relatives and The Society as a whole – we must do more – and we must impart life’s true bitter and painful experiences that you simply cannot win all the time – when you want and to get more always – always a win-win thing – because there are others worse off than you – that too deserve a chance and break too – just like you!

There is a need to be grateful for what we have – and come to our senses – and see reality and truth on a level so as to make us better people – and as observing people in our faith and in beliefs – and in our history, culture, heritage, habits, customs and traditions! It is time not just to look far in advance – and demand for more – but to see how many others are still far behind the rest of us yet!

May Allah God Always direct us in the right ways and path – Amin Amen.

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

Being The Safe Driver! Reply

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Being The Safe Driver! Behind The Wheel!

The New Road Safety Book!

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By Majid Al Suleimany

January 9, 2013

Filled with heartbreaking and emotional true stories, this illuminating book shows drivers everywhere the dangers of the road and the true cost of negligence.

FYI – The book has now been published and just awaiting orders! If interested…!

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Short Book Description

The Sultanate of Oman has the highest number of automobile accidents and casualties in the world. With such rampant and reckless automobile behaviors on the rise, there has never been a better time to change the culture and safety of our roads. With this groundbreaking new book, drivers across the nation will finally have proof in hand as to why they should drive safer.

Filled with heartbreaking and emotional true stories, this illuminating book shows drivers everywhere the dangers of the road and the true cost of negligence. With high-ranking officials across the country acknowledging the importance of road safety, it’s time for drivers everywhere to be more careful and drive safer. An invaluable road safety tool, Behind the Wheel, New Road Safety Novel can save lives all across the country.

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This eye-opening book emphasizes the importance of road safety and careful driving through a collection of real-life stories from accident victims who share the hard experiences and lessons they learned in order to better educate drivers everywhere. A vital read for anyone behind the wheel, this priceless book has the ability to save lives.

Inspired by a horrific crash which took the lives of a coworker’s family, Being the Safe Driver! strives to encourage safer driving across the world. Filled with dramatic, true stories of accidents and loss, the book’s poignant moments are sure to resonate with all readers. Whether an accident results in injury, property loss, or simply a shaken emotional self, reckless driving always has consequences. From horrible injuries to destroyed families, this enlightening book does a fantastic job of giving all readers reasons to become safe drivers.

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Book Description – Detailed

The Sultanate of Oman has the highest number of automobile accidents and casualties in the world. With such rampant and reckless automobile behaviors on the rise, there has never been a better time to change the culture and safety of our roads. With this groundbreaking new book, drivers across the nation will finally have proof in hand as to why they should drive safer.

Filled with heartbreaking and emotional true stories, this illuminating book shows drivers everywhere the dangers of the road and the true cost of negligence. With high-ranking officials across the country acknowledging the importance of road safety, it’s time for drivers everywhere to be more careful and drive safer. An invaluable road safety tool, Behind the Wheel! Being The Safe Driver! The New Road Safety Novel can save lives all across the country.

This eye-opening book emphasizes the importance of road safety and careful driving through a collection of real-life stories from accident victims who share the hard experiences and lessons they learned in order to better educate drivers everywhere. A vital read for anyone behind the wheel, this priceless book has the ability to save lives.

Inspired by a horrific crash which took the lives of a coworker’s family, Behind The Wheel! strives to encourage safer driving across the world. Filled with dramatic, true stories of accidents and loss, the book’s poignant moments are sure to resonate with all readers. Whether an accident results in injury, property loss, or simply a shaken emotional self, reckless driving always has consequences. From horrible injuries to destroyed families, this enlightening book does a fantastic job of giving all readers reasons to become safe drivers.

Already being lauded as one of the most important books to come out this year, Behind The Wheel- Being the Safe Driver! is poised to make a large impact on Omani streets. With favorable reviews and blessings from top figures in society from His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said to Our Grand Mufti, it’s clear to see that this is exactly the book that the nation has been waiting for. Using a noble goal and an effective method, this eye-opening book is certain to make a difference in every driver’s life.

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The Sultanate of Oman has the highest number of automobile accidents and casualties in the world. With such rampant and reckless automobile behaviors on the rise, there has never been a better time to change the culture and safety of our roads. With this groundbreaking new book, drivers across the nation will finally have proof in hand as to why they should drive safer.

Filled with heartbreaking and emotional true stories, this illuminating book shows drivers everywhere the dangers of the road and the true cost of negligence. With high-ranking officials across the country acknowledging the importance of road safety, it’s time for drivers everywhere to be more careful and drive safer. An invaluable road safety tool, this work can save lives all across the country.

This eye-opening book by Majid Said Al Suleimany emphasizes the importance of road safety and careful driving through a collection of real-life stories from accident victims who share the hard experiences and lessons they learned in order to better educate drivers everywhere.

Inspired by a horrific crash which took the lives of a coworker’s family, the book strives to encourage safer driving across the country. Whether an accident results in injury, property loss, or simply a shaken emotional self, reckless driving always has consequences. From horrible injuries to destroyed families, this enlightening book does a fantastic job of giving all readers reasons to become safe drivers.

The Book – It Is All About Driving!

Based on real and true stories about Road Traffic Accidents victims – the impact and repercussions on their lives – their families, loved ones and all those around them – and as precautions and learning experiences to others!

If even one accident can be prevented on reading this book – then the purpose and intent of the book will have been achieved!

  • Gripping read and made me rethink what I knew about driving on the roads British HSE Expert
  • · Touched my heart reading such tragic stories regarding the carnage on the roads – Indian Lady Fan
  • Has changed my priorities and those of my children with regard to safety on our roads – British CEO
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    • · This is an issue that is touching all of us either directly or via very dear friends and relatives – Omani Senior Engineer and Consultant
    • · Excellent works brother and good luck! – Omani GM.
    • · Congratulations for the new book and your achievements. Wish you more and more success – Omani Senior Engineer
    • · A very good idea! – Omani IT Expert
    • · It’s is an interesting concept, especially when the number of accidents and causalities are on the rise in the country – Senior Journalist (Indian).
    • · An excellent idea! You should come and see the horrifying scenes we see daily in the Road Traffic Emergency Wards – Omani Lady Surgeon
    • · Something very dear and close to my heart – and another real life situation in our country – Excellent!!Omani IT Consultant.
    • · Your contributions to this noble worthy National cause to reduce road accidents and fatalities should be noted – Senior Public Official.
    • · I read the book – and it made me cry! The wife had also cried! – Indian CEO.
    • · I believe you will do our Nation a huge favour to record these incidents in the stories – Omani IT Consultant
    • · I am very much impressed to read your article in The Muscat Daily dated 28th April. I would like to meet you personally and discuss something more on the subject which you have so nicely thought overHead of Life Assurance (Indian)
    • · You have rightly said it. Fully agree. Believe it or not, you have become the voice of most of young Omanis. Keep writing and be our voiceSenior Journalist – Omani
    • · I give you my full permission and rights to copy anything from my website and from my book for this great noble honourable worthy National cause. I hope people will read your book– learn from it – and not repeat our mistakes! Road Accident Victim (Omani)
    • · Bad dangerous driving is considered as just the same as suicide or killer sins if you kill yourself or others on the road – Great Religious Scholar

END.

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

Drive Safely! – www.bethesafedriver.com

Cyber Bullying! Reply

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Cyber Bullying!

I was watching this Al Jazeera Television programe titled One on One showing increased Cyber Bullying in Australia to the extent and to dynamic proportions that one out of four College students have admitted as having been victims and suffered from Cyber Bullying! There are also increased suicides amongst teenagers because of the shame and stigma being felt under Cyber Bullying!

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According to Wikipedia, Cyber Bullying (CB) is the use of the Internet and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner. As it has become more common in society, particularly among young people, legislation and awareness campaigns have arisen to combat it.

Cyber bullying is defined in legal glossaries as

  • Actions that use information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group, that is intended to harm another or others.
  • Use of communication technologies for the intention of harming another person
  • Use of internet service and mobile technologies such as web pages and discussion groups as well as instant messaging or SMS text messaging with the intention of harming another person.

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Examples of what constitutes cyber bullying include communications that seek to intimidate, control, manipulate, put down, falsely discredit, or humiliate the recipient. The actions are deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior intended to harm another. Cyber bullying has been defined as – When the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.

A cyber bully may be a person whom the target knows or an online stranger. A cyber bully may be anonymous and may solicit involvement of other people online who do not even know the target. This is known as a ‘digital pile-on’

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The programme shows the teenagers suffering alone in silence – and it interviews the teenagers and asks them why they do not report the cases to their parents – or the Authorities. The common answer being that they are afraid to do so – because the first thing that the parents normally do – is to take away the gadgets from the teenagers! Wrongly thinking that in this way they are shielding and protecting their children – but this does not stop the cyber bullying – because there are other gadgets – and other people – were it is continued to be shown!

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Sometimes, it becomes too much – the pain, stigma and all the shame – that some opt out by committing suicides! It looks like that these people desperately need fun and humour on the expenses of others in order to survive! A few months back we had the case of the Indian UK Nurse committing suicide as a result of an Australian Radio prank! It seems that the more ‘advanced’ you become in life – the longer the pecking line (order) of your victims below you are given for your choosing! In this case of CB – it is usually the ‘lonely quiet keeping to themselves’ type of characters and personalities that bear the brunt of the CB attacks!

In all my articles, I keep stressing on the same point. The other day, I received a letter from Zanzibar from a friend and he asked me to deliver a personal message to one of his relatives. When I went to the house – Big Boss was watching football matches in one room – whilst the Madam was watching soap operas in another room. When I asked about the teenager children – the answer came out the same from both – They must be out somewhere – because the cars are both out!

In a Regional Television programme (Arabic) – there was this beautiful television advertisement where it shows a young girl in need of something – or needing to talk – approaching her mother. The mother cuts in – Don’t you see I am talking on the line? Talking to her friend was more important than listening to her daughter. She goes to the father who cuts her short abruptly – Now what do you want? Thinking she wants some money or favours. The girly wryly replies – Nothing Dad – nothing!

The girl goes on to tell her problems to an ‘Aunty Advisor’ – who advises the girl to put her name in the chat rooms – and she soon gets connected to a young boy – and they start video love chats on line.

In another office place – the Boss calls his assistant – but he seems to be busy on the chat lines (office time?). And the boy brags to the boss – See my new find girlfriend! She is really hot for me! The man looks – and sees his daughter as the chatted up girl of his assistant! The advert ends with the advice and counsel – Your children are the most important part of your life – do make the time and efforts – and do listen to your children!

I fully endorse that message. I am not saying I am perfect – but I am trying hard! Very hard!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

In All Seriousness…! Reply

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The Oman Daily Observer – Sunday January 6th 2013

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In All Seriousness ….!

I am going to say this a last time – and then we will continue with lesser topics as lately!

Some people may think that I may be naïve and stupid – but I can assure you that I am fully aware that despite the given facts that I am a fully qualified and experienced Omani National Human Resources professional, expert and advisor – I do not receive even temporary consultancy jobs now – because people are simply afraid on what I might write – especially on those companies!

Image for demonstration purposes only! – Omani Lady Workers

In all seriousness – last two weeks back I got this message from a good Indian friend of mine who was promoted and though now heading a small section – he was now going to report now directly to the CEO – an Omani! The guy has been in Oman over 30 years now – and like Johnny Walker – is still going strong! Then I learnt of another expatriate case where the person has now even retired in Oman in his job – though he came to Oman at the age of 25! He also reports to an Omani CEO.

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Let us put our cards on the table! I am not denying the facts that these two people were very committed, dedicated, good and talented in their jobs – that is why they were kept on! As a HR professional – it would be not doing my job – if I do not admit this.

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Learning on the job!

We had another example of a ‘friend CEO’ – Omani too – who gave away my job to an Indian guy – because he ‘was cheaper – and part of his outlooks – in being able to easier control and dominate people below him – and not the money factor alone. Despite the fact that he was heading a ‘national company’ that was dedicated to offer jobs to experienced and qualified Omanis first and paramount! My disqualification came in ‘being obstinate and not towing the line – the ‘drop dead and lie still’ syndrome.

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All The Omani Air Hostesses

In another example, a ‘friend Omani CEO’ wanted to recruit a woman engineer from one country ‘because she looked so pretty – and nice to have around in the offices’ – as he smugly put it – tongue in cheek! Despite me also cautioning him – as my job required me to do so – that her both written and spoken English were below the required levels. Though calling himself as a religious pious person – he certainly would not extend the same treatment to an Omani lady engineer – however pretty she looked!

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Future Omani Lady Engineers

The common formulae in all these is the same – if local CEOs could do these to their own lots – why do we want and expect expatriate CEOs and GMs to be different? People see these things going on live – and they copy and emulate! If people cannot be kind and compassionate to one another – and we bring in dirty polarisation and politicking in – what else can be the results?

They also say charity begins at home! If we are so hard and uncompromising on our own – how can the good Lord Protect and Preserve us from harm and dangers of all kinds and sorts – because the concept of ‘neighbours’ is paramount in our religion – because of the concept of brotherhood and being one in the faith and in the beliefs!

At one time if you went to the Banks – you could hardly find any Omanis – maybe a few clerks at junior levels – a driver – PRO – gardener – tea boy etc. There were hardly any Branch Managers – Managers – senior officers – except isolated very few! These now have risen to be in Management – and even GMs and CEOs. today! There are still some expatriates in head offices more – but in the branches they are almost all Omanised! Perhaps a peg or two in services went down – but if you consider the volume of traffic of customers and all the lots – overall they are doing very good competent professional services – and are all dedicated and committed overall!

The same thing can be said of the oil companies – from the time I joined in 1970s where even the toilets and dining rooms were segregated – by seniority – and the seniors were mainly expatriates – with few isolated cases of Omanis coming in at lower levels as clerks and technicians!

I am not bragging – but in my Arab Management books – I said almost the very same things and aspects – covering over 35 years in my career life and with live personal experiences and exposures!

Apart from a few bad apples and eggs – each basket has some – given the right opportunities, breaks and chances – coupled with the right ethical, principled and professional approaches, guidance, mentorship and counseling – Omanis youngsters especially have risen to the occasion – and overall not that disappointing and letting down syndromes – as others would like them to be – and that includes our own – and the ‘old guards’ not excluded!

We are all talking about Omanis preferring to work in the public sector. I have not seen yet a study as to why this is so – but all kinds of theories and concepts – many not yet proven! But the truth can be this – in my offering to volunteer some ideas – if even senior qualified Omanis cannot survive in some places – how can the youngsters?

Especially if the theme and focus is ‘to control and dominate’ – and any raised voices are to be subdued. I have said this in my article – The Offices Mini Dictators – and that includes ‘fellow local friends CEOs and GMs too – and even The Board in some places!

May the Good Lord Protect and Preserve us all – Amin – but changes and focuses are still required – where in some places you still have to look around for Omanis! And those that come in simply cannot survive and exist – because of the hidden agendas and manifestos – the Mafia gangs – and admittedly though from a few quarters – are still in control and in dominating! Including our own too for that matter!

Bottom Line – Change has indeed come! Change now – before change changes you! Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com