Doing Bad Things To Others!
Or What Goes Around; Comes Around!
My philosophy and outlook in life still remains the same – If you can help someone – then please do so! But if you cannot – then be straightforward and transparent – and say so! And explain why – and give possible advices and solutions – if you can! But most importantly – do not go for lies, deceit, double crossings – and stab at the back! Respect everyone first before others can respect you. And lead by examples – and not empty words and rhetoric – at whatever level in society that you are! There is also good in everyone – sometimes you may have to search deep to find even the trace of it!
And if you are planning to do good – do it whole not in parts – and certainly you do not choose which part to do – and which part to omit! Either you do it whole – or don’t! These are the basic bare necessities and truth of life – and living with others!
This week a relative called me saying that he had found someone from that distant land desperately looking for me as he was visiting Oman. He is not well off but he does not like to impose on others – and though he has many relatives here – he still prefers to stay in hotels. He says to me – That is the way I can keep in touch – and still remain with myself in respects!
When I left this person was hardly 12 – but now what I see in front of me is this man who looks over 50 – and though quite younger than me – definitely looks much older – with all his beard and hair all grey! With slow moving tired lazy dead-beat eyes and face – he says Hello to me distantly! He looks forlorn and dead beat tired! Some people are not Huggers and Kissers on The Cheeks – I am one of them – but after a second of wait and confusion – he hugs me! Of course the size he knew before has blossomed three times more – whilst he has remained forlorn and thin!
We talk about the old times – and in a way his mother is a sort of distant relative – and an aunt at most! He remembers how I took him and his brother to school for the first time – a frightening never to forget experience for the poor kids! He remembered the nice comforting words – and how that ‘really made a difference to us’ – especially later on – boys being boys – the few bullies around!
Then he told me about a Teacher ‘that had the most dislike, animosity and hatred towards you M – for no other reason except that I stood my ground – and allowed no one to breathe down my back and bully me. The Teacher was not used to this! Always students scurriedly hurried and shied from him – in fear and terror. He was like the Bulldozer – pushing down anything that stood in its path!
People do not know the real me – but frankly and honestly speaking – it was sad what he said next. That the poor man went bonkers and mad walking around the streets – started with his wife leaving him taking with her the kids. He ran his personal and social life the same way he dealt with his pupils – and life had caught up with him! He was also socially and relationships outcasted from the rest of his family – and ‘friends’ – if he had any that could stand him!
The East Africans have this expression – The True Woman comes out when her husband has become poor (lost his job!) – and The True Man when he (suddenly) becomes rich! And the person who digs a well will himself fall into it – or in other words – what goes around; comes around! A famous theme song in most of my writings, columns and books – www.myown-ebooks.com You can also read about whatever I have written in my website above!
In one of the places that I had worked long time ago – I – as being in Human Resources – made a Company Policy Proposal (CPP) in my official capacity for some changes proposals in the Company Human Resources Policies and Procedures Manual – that would have benefitted especially Retiring Omani Staff (and Their Families). Despite passing approval from my direct expatriate boss – it was vehemently rejected by the Top Omani Director – as ‘it would add costs to the company operating budget’ – even though the same facilities and services were provided to expatriates – but not the locals (then). The man was heard muttering exasperatedly – ‘This will only pass over my dead body!’ – and satirically – ‘tongue in cheek’ speaking – it nearly did – when this Director himself retired!
In writing my book Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – I quote many real examples and similar cases – and many Offices related – some life related – but people still never learn!
People should always remember that if you purposefully, willfully and evilly do bad things to others – it will haunt you – and come back to you! Especially if you do it to someone who has not done anything bad or against you – you will be punished before they bury you 6 feet deep in the ground – or cremate you! This is a certainty and a surety – and it may take time – but it will happen – if not to you directly but then those near you! Only you will be asking – that you have now conveniently forgotten – Why Me? Oh Lord – Why me? What have I done to deserve this?
What goes around; comes around! Take Care!
By Majid Al Suleimany