Outlook – The Oman Daily Observer – Sunday July 15th 2012
My Website – www.majidall.com
Between Us Only!
Some Will Never Change!
v I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself! – Aldous Huxley.”
v Be blind to the fault of others – It brings peace in your life- Because people won’t change – You got to change your way of accepting things! – Anon
v Never play with the feelings of others because you may win the game – but you will lose the person for sure for good – Anon
v What Goes Around; Comes Around! – Common Saying
Writing is a struggle against silence! – Carlos Fuentes
Sometimes I ask myself if it is worth me keeping on writing on these same topics again and again? Is it really worth it? Or is it a foregone conclusion – that all is now simply gone?
Image – From A Cry For Help! Book
She is still crying!
It seems to me that I am talking to brick walls and all I get are a bloodied nose – and a swollen head by all these. The truth is some people and places will never change – even if they know the consequences and repercussions of doing so! That is how people and some places are – despite all exterior images and publicities! Even if they appear in the press – and even in the internet – all the websites – and even call centres. It is all a show – a facade – an ivory elephant.
In my career life – and 12 years in Consultancy – I have found that there is nothing worse than raising peoples’ expectations and hopes – and then dash it all – and or do nothing real and or concrete in the direction to accomplish these promises. Or make an agreement and or acceptance to a deal – but be painful, painstaking slow and tedious to do your part of the deal – with all kinds of flimsy and inexcusable reasons for not doing your part of the deal.
As if nothing can ever happen or touch you – you are impregnable and well protected – and the others are all bumbling stupid clumsy fools – best ignored and ridiculed. But will we ever learn? I personally do not think so!
During my Consultancy times I used to visit the branches and talk to the Staff with a view of finding out what were their problems and issues – and what help and assistance they needed from the Company! Believe me – they used to tease and mock me – you are the 5th Consultant who came asking the very same questions – and nothing happened after that.
Maybe they did not file in the reports – and or if they did nobody in The Head Offices bothered or cared. Perhaps put in box files – till the next time the exercise is repeated again – all for publicity and for media – but nothing real and concrete in action and in reality and practice.
I had a very difficult time to convince them – but thankfully my records went with me. However, when I wanted to file the reports I was plainly asked to ‘give full information’ of who said what – it was more a spying case than anything else. I refused and the contract was rescinded – but they were afraid I may write about it in my columns – so they tried to appease me – and let me back.
But I maintained the confidentiality and trust given to me by the employees – but then I may have been professional, ethical and principled – but how many people out there can be so?
I worked for one Regional Company but with Head Office in Muscat. At one time in disagreement with the CEO – a fellow Omani – trying to appease me told me that The Company Board had preferred for the Consultant to be a foreigner – or Omani from the Region. I was neither.
Within half an hour I immediately quit from the place. I definitely do need the money – but I need respects and esteem more! How can we Omanis treat each other like this? After all the personal sacrifices of His Majesty? And people still continue to behave like this?
In writing this new book of mine Novel Type on Road Safety – Behind The Wheel! – and despite everyone recognising the importance of the subject with the increased road casualties and accidents – I went to some places asking if I could quote some of their works. Some completely ignored me – some made promises which they rescinded at the last minute when the book was almost ready – and some few only were kind and supportive!
Even if there is no money in books here – and it is all designed for a greater noble, worthy and National cause. But I was a mere nobody and No Wastah person! And that is the sad, tragic and bitter truth – and all the wanton decadence and malaise all around us now!
Yet it is still true that in some places you go you find all kinds of lack of principles, ethics and professionalism – if not behind the scenes bribery and corruption even! Things are so devious and bad that nobody even cares or bothers – and even to try to hide anything! It is a public secret – and everyone knows all about it. Employees are treated very badly – and even the customers and clients even are not spared! Except for oneself – nobody cares or bothers!
The only problem is that those higher up involved and can put a stop to all these are themselves weak and docile – if not part of the pattern even! It is so scary and worrisome to think about this.
Everyone forgets what you treat others will one day be treated to you – or those near you. Meanwhile, they go on torturing and tormenting others in their lives – and those near them. Now everyone is doing – not like in the past in a few places only!
I am even getting a severe headache and pain thinking about these things – and being acute sick and diabetic – I need to stop here now!
The Truth Remains. Some people and places will simply Never Ever Change! They will drag the rest of us into wanton demise, decadence and malaise!
Take Care! May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen
Majid Al Suleimany
N.B. This is the Original Version – without any part re edited…