For Wednesday June 13, 2012
At My Workplace! (Outlook)
The Hopes of Others!
* If you cannot help someone – do not make any promises – nor destroy his hopes! – Anon
* Don’t ever take away someone’s hope – it maybe all they have to hold on to! – In sayings – Orchids and Thoughts for this moment.
There is nothing so mean, vicious, brutal, cruel and dastardly in life than trying to destroy someone’s life, hopes, dreams and aspirations by imposing your own standards values on top of theirs – and your rules and regulations – even if they are peculiar, far-fetched and lack coherence, ethics, principles and professionalism – let alone humanity and human values!
A long time ago when my late Father – peace be upon him – was still alive – he cautioned us about in your life in going to important and famous people to ask for any help and or assistance from anyone. Even if they can do so – even by just lifting a phone – and all your problems are all over – like a magic wand! If you need help – the old man added – go to pray to your Lord only – but do not forget to tie your camel – whilst you do so. That is trying your level best to help yourself first – because God Helps those who help themselves – as best as they can!
Also the Lord likes it and gives when you ask him. But for human beings – the more you ask – the more you lose your standing, value and reputation. You end up being avoided and considered as trouble – and embarrassment – especially to just come in riches, promotions and climbing up the social ladder!
Some years ago I had a young Omani girl who had applied for a job as an Executive Secretary. This mystified me a lot – because first the girl had just graduated in Engineering studies in our own University. Second – she did not have any Secretarial experiences. So I was very much interested and called her for an interview. Then she told me her sad state of life – with her father being blind – and her disabled mother – and she was the eldest – and the only hope left for her family now – to get out from this situation.
At that time she was not getting any engineering or technical jobs being not experienced. Nobody was giving her a chance or break because first she was a woman – and secondly she came from the Interior – and she would need to go back home during the weekends. What really killed me is her lamenting that nobody from our own is coming forward to help me now – when I most needed the help!
So as the East Africans say – I carved my face! That is I went to my American CEO and I told him about the case. Initially he was casual – but when he realized that I was dead serious – he relented – and suffices to say that the girl got a sort of best-fit technical job that we could only offer at that time!
One time my British CEO had called me in to see if I could do this thing for him – within the rules and regulations of the Company. There was this Gardener – that after greeting the CEO – as he was parking his car as the Gardener was watering this big tree near a reserved Management parking area. The Gardener was saying to the CEO in his broken English – This tree now big – I still small. Making indications and signals that he had planted the tree to grow this big after many years – but his salary had not changed much! His made the CEO feel very self-conscious and guilty – and he asked me if there was any way we could help him?
It surprised me a lot as to why the CEO had come straight to me – instead of going straight to my senior bosses – be they local like me? I guess he knew what he was doing! Soon after the man was promoted – after me showing him the CEO – how it could be done – breaking no rules and regulations – but bending it a bit! The day the man got the promotion – he cried profusely and uncontrollably. A year or so later the poor man had died!
When my Consultancy was dying – like as sick man with cancer – I went around all the VIPs I knew – but each one turned their back s at me. One of them told me that he is not in my line of business – and another that I write a full and detailed report for him on my status quo – and then he will look at it! In actual fact, whenever he saw me in social functions – he pretended not to see me – and whenever I had called him – he never answered. Once I used another number he did not know – but he again said I am still looking at it – and hung up! That is why it is called curving up your face!
Sometimes in life we are lost as to why things take a very bad turn in our lives – and we lose that is which is most near and dear to us. What we forget is the bad things that we do to others! Or as the saying goes that what goes around – comes around! It may take time – and years pass – and then one day you get hit – by your own actions – and or inactions! Everybody is responsible for what one does – or does not do in life!
People will only fondly remember you by what you have done – and especially your contributions, assistance and help to others. Because if you are not kind to your fellow human being in need – how can you expect the Lord to be kind, merciful and compassionate to you in your grave and the Day of Reckoning? We need to look into this deeply – and in self-consciousness to reflect – and review in life’s pursuits and focuses.
May the Lord Protect and Preserve us all – Amin – Amen.
Majid Al Suleimany