The Road Safety Novel – Muscat Daily April 28th 2012
By Majid Al Suleimany
Between Us Only!
Attire (Garb) Versus Character!
I was reading this article on MSNBC about – Philadelphia Muslims in USA offering $20,000 reward to find criminals wearing Islamic garb. One of the two suspects wanted in a series of bank robberies is shown in a bank’s cameras as entering a Sovereign Bank in Philadelphia dressed as such. They said that they have zero tolerance for the tactic – and are offering a $20,000 reward to find the criminals cloaking their identities beneath Islamic women’s clothing – and saying that the crooks are feeding mistrust of their faith.
Whatever happened to the mask? – Imam Asim Abdul-Rashid of the Masjid of the Delaware Valley said, referring to ski masks often seen worn by bank robbers. Officials say perpetrators have worn Muslim garb in five Philadelphia bank robberies since December 2011. These types of bizarre incidents feed into that cottage industry of Muslim bashers – Ibrahim Hooper – spokesman for the National Council on American-Islamic Relations, told msnbc.com. They demonize Islam and the American Muslims. They also make it difficult for Muslim women to get service in banks – Hooper said.
Sometime back I was also watching this video of some European ladies demonstrating in the streets in skimpy-see-through-dresses – but wearing a hijab – as their way of demonstrating against the hijab (burkah) wearing of Muslim women in Europe.
Honestly speaking, I do hate politics – because I believe in Live and Let Live and being tolerant and patient to others – because at the bottom line of things we are all human beings from the same Adam and Eve – and I have still yet to see anyone come out with blue blood for me to start to change my views, outlooks and perceptions per se! I only hope that human beings can learn to live in peace, harmony, understanding, tolerance and love – and we need to learn from history – and the mistakes of the past and the gross errors of judgement and decisions in life!
This news that I read above brought me to my topic of today. This is the question that I want to pose for today – forgetting the above news for a moment – but on an individual level. Does attire (garb) define one’s character – or is it based more on one own personal character, behaviour, traits and attitudes? Let me explain what I mean here.
If you see a person wearing what we call in Oman as the white turban and dress attire in a man – do you think that you are now meeting a pious religious observing person by behaviour, traits and all the works? That is a person of good behaviour, character, traits and personality? Does the attire make the person – or it is far more than that – and is more related and correlated to what is really inside the person – the good coming out in winning against the bad and evil within! Or is it just like a mask to cover one’s own fears inhibitions, bias, prejudices – and worries – and come out in pretentious, acting and imaginary roles – than in reality and the truth within us?
Understandably it is unfair, unethical and completely wrong to judge and generalize by comparing one and or a few to the majority. There are bad eggs (fish) in each basket – though if you draw two bad fish consequentially than one can be excused to include that the whole basket is bad!
Frankly in life I have been let down badly to think that I am dealing with a sincere, honest, principled, ethical and genuine person – only to find that I was very much mistaken in my outlook, focus and judgement. There are so many cases that have been narrated in these columns and in my books too – not to bore you with more sordid details!
In actual fact, many of my stories are around these themes – things start off moderately well – there is a start of a few signs of disappointments and betrayals – followed by some more – still remain patient and hopeful – then a straw that broke the camel’s back – and then all hell let loose – follow-ups, revenge and vendettas – and everything is now lost and destroyed.
Some time back – a well meaning good friend was asking me – You as the Human Resources professional don’t you need to take in your own advice in dealing with certain people that you will interact and interface in life – and adjust accordingly? A few days back I met him again – and asked him – Are you still working in the same place? He retorted – No I quit! He went on – I admire you – how you could have taken all these crap from that guy?
I wanted to remind him of what he had asked me – but at the last minute decided not to! Yes – yet the person in question was thought by all of us as being religious and pious – but actually and in reality had the most bad, dirty, jealous and envious heart that you ever saw in one in life! God forgive us in passing sentence and in judgement – and in generalising – Amin!
Yet in life I have met characters in life that you would actually want to avoid to meet – in reality by just their wear, appearances and outlooks – but they can really amaze you how good they can be if put to the real test – and how they can come forward to help and assist you – at the most unexpected and inopportune time! His only sandwich? He will want to share with you – or even give it all to you!
In summary – please do not be deceived by the dress (attire, garb) – but what is really inside that person!
Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.
At My Workplace!
The Committee Has Not Met Yet!
See also scanned copy here as has appeared in The Oman Daily Observer of April 25th 2012
In hindsight and again speaking from my own personal experiences and in retrospect – I wish to reiterate this point – that though we have seen some initiations and improvements in the citizens’ rights and freedom – still nothing has changed much on the grounds and in reality.
The problems are the same in pushing them forward into action, reality and into practice – rather than them being minutes of meetings – and if even filed for records first of all in the first instance. There is need for real movement into action, propelling, push, dynamism and pragmatism in moving them forward – into practice and into reality. Time is not in our side – in essence and or in favour – before we all get bogged down into being reactive ‘fire fighting’ – and further ‘red tape, bureaucracy and inaction’!
It is alright to put news of improvements and changes for the better in the media – but what is the use of all of them – if they are still not practiced – or excuses given for delays and procrastinations – as is the usual case? I hope that Readers can remember of what I wrote before of those working within the system – the ‘old guards syndrome’ – to prevent and or delay changes. These peoples need to be exposed – and kicked out – and as lessons to others.
This is also the real truth still! The citizen cannot still win – or very few isolated cases in success – against the public departments and bodies. This is even if you have a case where if things were really practiced and put in action – the citizen SHOULD win in case of dispute scenario. But he will simply not win. Adversely, the same public body can take you for action – and or sue you in courts for the ‘same case and situation’ – for as many times as they want – and the case will still be heard – and nothing can stop them! Even if you cannot draw blood from a stone!
You go to the Public Officials that you know to hope for solace and intervention – and they are obligated to do so by their authorities, power, control and auspices dominion – if not that you know them well and hope Wastah will kick in – but does not! Simply no one will ever lift a finger to help you – or they turn away from you as if you do not exist- and even if you try to contact then face to face – let alone by emails and by phone? Even if you want to fight against the Big Cats for your rights or that company of yours that is closing down – you end yet again as The Loser!
How long these things will go on – before something breaks up – or blows up in front of our faces? The truth and in actual fact – the things at stake and at issue are in reality not really big unsolvable issues – but involve the usual uncaring, care-free, no-interest, cannot-be-bothered-the least approaches and attitudes. What if really big things were at stake? One shudders – and does not want even want to start thinking on this! Heads need to roll – before things can really improve – otherwise it is a lost cause – and everyone will end as the loser!
Even if you have given up and do not want to fight your case – because you know you will lose again as the citizen – and complied by what ‘as has been thought as fair and equitable – does not matter if you think differently – who cares? If you follow up your case – so you can be in the clear – and restore your personal freedom and rights – you get the same excuse – The Committee has still not met yet to discuss and or finalise your situation. You are not the only one – so just wait! This is said to you more in annoyance and in anger – rather than in trying to cool you down – or making you understand about the situation – and in letting you know about the results.
There are things I said in 1980s that now have really happened in reality and on the grounds too. Yet I was given all the labels – including having chips on his shoulders! – A big mouth – a trouble-maker – needs to be stopped! – and so on!
My problems are that I care and feel a lot – and want things to work out – and not go bad! Instead, I always end up as the victim of circumstances of my own making for speaking up and making a stand – and the usual at the end loser! Whilst those who do not care or bother get rewarded – and acknowledged – and given more and more – because of their lack of caring and in indifference.
Twice I have given up writing anymore – only to persuaded to come back in again. Of course, I cannot deny that I need the money – if even after 35 years of dedicated services, loyalty and feelings of caring are simply wasted – because I cannot touch much my own pension for the very same aforementioned reasons.
I can now understand and appreciate why people turn to Religion in despair and in giving up hope – instead of the few like Mohamed Buazizi of Tunisia in self-immolation. I simply cannot understand and comprehend why people are so mean and dastardly to each other – and not wanting to change – despite all the changes around us now!
I am really tired now in continuing writing about these same issues – and I am still in the tunnel – and no hopes for to see the light at the end of the tunnel – if ever that will be so!
Majid Al Suleimany.
Between Us Only!
Need For Tolerance!
Letting The Genie Out Of The Bottle!
Or Opening A Can Of Worms!
I was really aghast and shocked to the extreme to watch this Norwegian Mass Killer Anders Breivik pleading as ‘not guilty’ to his wanton crimes of slaughter of 77 innocent people – many of them at the prime of their lives – and having the audacity to come in the court with a Nazi extreme right salute – and yet still asking to be released.
He also ‘does not recognise the court – the impudence and the audacity! And still more that his dastardly crimes plans were for far more murders than he had achieved – and that if released ‘he would do it all over again – and better this time even’! Yet he could show tears only because his manifesto was being read to the court – but not even a tear shed for the images of the young men and women slaughtered by him and images shown live!
I do not know what the world is coming to by this killer being given all these breaks and opportunities to spread his venom and hatred to the rest of the world – and why even give him live coverage – because that is a sure way of encouraging others and copy cats actions too! I for sure am not in favour of quick and fast justice without finding why these things have been done – and even if admitted willingly that he has done it.
In such other places he would hang from the highest crane – or his head chopped off for all the public to see and left out for show for some time – and as a lesson to others! I do not know who is right or wrong in such swift acts of justice! But surely going this route is really stretching it too far – and the mind really boggles and is confused of what is really going on here!
And what is the real purpose and intention? Civilized open transparent approaches? I beg to differ strongly here! I was just wondering aloud if it was done by the usual culprits would it be like this – and that even Al Jazeera Television will interrupt normal programming to show us live pictures of these court cases going on now?
In my mind, I was wondering if we have people amongst our guests and visitors – invited guests – that maybe secretly cheering him on at their homes – away from host home prying and intrusive eyes? You will excuse me for raising this protruding blatant intrusive questioning here – because my mind is really troubled and worried by things I have seen in reality and in action in my dealings in the work fronts, relationships and interfaces. If you remember my last week article of Polarisation Dilemma – when your ex foreign boss boasts ‘of the bad things he did to Arabs’ in Palestine – and here too trying to ‘divide and rule’ amongst Omanis!
Some fans even ventured to tell me that these things are really happening still. As a Human Resources Professional I have been involved in circulating reading material to foreign staff being assigned to other countries – where they are cautioned that there the office assistant – and even the housemaid or gardener are there ‘to tap and record’ what the invited guests are saying about the nationals and the country.
I am for sure against such extremes – because my late maternal grandmother would tell us – Let them talk as much and as long as they wish – and at night they will go to sleep anyway – and nothing will have changed much! Of course poor granny was talking about our own people gossiping and idle talk – because she did not have the ‘luck, privilege and advantage’ to work with the few expatriates ‘that are anti-local and have abused the usual welcome, acceptance and respect – and biting the hand that feeds them’!
But then if we have our own very people discriminating amongst ourselves – and feeling they have more rights than others – where are we headed – if not more dangers, crisis and catastrophe ahead?
The point I want to make in bringing in this Breivik murderer is the Islamophobia and Extremism that is being preached by certain few – especially in The Western countries – and isolated pockets elsewhere in the world! Now even in quarters that we used to consider as our ever true friends and supporters. An Arab leader had said – The friends of today can change to be our enemies of tomorrow – and the enemies of yesterday to be our friends of today.
Tell that to the Northern (Arab associated) Sudanese living in the South – and vice versa with the African from the South living in the North – when the North now declares the South –as the enemy’! Yet a few years ago were the very same country even!
People are simply killing each other because of dirty slimy oil – and there is no humanity left – even in what was one country before – like in Sudan! See war images here! Danger of a full scale war – and other partied drawn in too! When will people ever learn??
Nobody knows what the future will bring – but hatreds, fundamentalism, animosities, extremism – both sides – are double edged swords that cut both sides – as clearly evidenced by this Breivik case too. Hopefully humankind will learn from this case – that is all one can pray and hope for – Amin Amen!
Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.
At My Workplace!
The Workplace Issues – Polarisation Syndrome!
Starting from this week and at fortnightly sequence – I will be writing about issues that some may consider as enigma and taboo – and ‘washing our dirty linen in public’ – and should not be discussed in public – especially in English – because foreigners will read about us – as if writing in Arabic there are no foreigners there! In actual fact, my own personal outlook is that the latter category there is more danger – because they know us deep well inside and out.
Tell that to the Palestinians in their meeting those from the other side – who are fluent Arabic speakers and born also in Arab countries too! Of course people would like to push the ‘dirt under the carpet too for the very same reasons!
As those that are my Readers and Fans will know me well – I always write from my own experiences and exposures – as personal references and in support in what I am writing about.
Incident One. A long time ago when I was working in my last oil company there was a meeting that was going to be attended by one prominent high profile public official together with the rest of us from the Company. After the usual polite courtesies and welcome – our European boss with the usual axe to grind of ‘divide and rule (conquer!)’ – started asking – In which language are we going to hold this meeting – as if he was able to speak Arabic in the first instance! Though his history that he was proud of as an ex Army of the bad things he ‘did to Arabs’ in Palestine! You can tell this man was carrying ‘a lot of excess baggage’ with him!
My colleagues and I were just silent because we needed the money to feed our families and ourselves too! But then the shock was on us when the Public Official (PO) retorted and sarcastically said – In any language so long as it is not Swahili! To this the British boss broke up in great laughter and mirth – it seemed clear to us that there was a meeting of minds here. Yet still the rest of us kept quiet – because of our upbringing more – and our culture, customs, tradition and heritage of respecting guests and visitors – though the speaker was also Omani – and should have known better!
PO thought he will make his foreign new found friend laugh the more – so he repeated what he said before. To which M being M retorted – You will be very lucky if you were able to speak that language! To which PO was angered ‘because I broke his respect’ and went off without the meeting taking place. My boss asked me to apologise in writing to PO – though ‘lucky for me’ English was accepted in my doing so! The unfairness and injustices in life! A few months later down the line PO was kicked out unceremoniously – so the system works!
Incident No. 2 – The Boss – fellow Omani – quickly first scans the job applicants. He is looking at the place of birth more. The rest of the CV Resume did not interest him! Despite his Wastah and connections he too lost his job – though he was able to kick me out first! This story is in both my Arab Management books – www.myown-ebooks.com
Incident No. 3 – I hinted this in my last week article titled There Is Need For More Realism! So it is still recent and new. This Omani GM of a National Prestigious Project called me to his Office – so we can chat. Then he handed me a bombshell that exploded in my face. Remember this Project is National – and supported too! Initially I was at home quietly doing my own business – when he almost begged me ‘ to set us up the Human Resources’ system in this new Company. He offered me a 6 months temporary contract.
This after 7 weeks he calls me to ‘cancel the contract’ because he says – The Board is against me being recruited – even for temporary basis – because ‘I do not come from The Region’ where the Company is going to operate! There is a Manager who is a Foreigner in another function – but that is alright for The Board (TB). TB do not see any issue in that – only to a fellow Omani – even though he is a Manager – and or Consultant – and temporarily employed even!
The GM (Omani) is a very sharp and rude person I ever saw in my life – and cannot handle pressures! I bitterly complain to the Oil Company – Top Management Officials that supports and backs this project – and the place that I had worked for 25 years.
Nobody bothers or care – even the Public Officials involved too! Nobody bothers or cares – because I am a trouble-maker with a big mouth. It would have been okay if it was only me – but than 2 other Omanis too resigned or were terminated! They too ‘did not come from the Region’ to the company was going to operate in!
Can these things happen now in our country after all the troubles that we had gone through – and still going on now? I leave that to you the Reader to decide – though I surely did complain in writing – perhaps because it was in English! I leave the rest to Allah (God) because He is The Best Judge – Amin Amen
Majid Al Suleimany
Between Us Only!
Need For Realism!
To Be Honest and Truthful With Oneself!
A long time ago the old man – our late father – overhearing our usual complain deride and compare chatter and talking was advising us his children and grandchildren not to be jealous and envious of others in life – Because it is against the very ethics, principles and fundamentals of our Religion – and that was why the Great Prophet was sent amongst our midst to stop all the bad things and practices that were happening at the time. The old man added – Despite his coming we are still doing the very same things he had commanded us not to do – what would the situation be if he did not come in at all? He is surely turning in his grave!
The old man would add – Just do not look at people imagined by you to be ahead of you in life – but look at how many others are behind you – and ready to trade places with you at the shortest or no notice at all! So it is Haram (prohibited) to be jealous and envious of others – or speak bad and evil of others – especially if they cannot defend themselves!
Discriminations, divisions and polarisations we should aim to stop and prevent – because we are passing these bad things to our children and grandchildren to follow and emulate – and we should strive to learn from our own mistakes and errors of judgment – and what we can see and learn from others’ experiences and lessons in life too!
I was watching this documentary which made me write this article today – and remember my late Father’s words – peace be upon him! The documentary shows a female doctor in a Western European country treating a child from a family that has lost their home and are jobless now. The place they are staying now – which a charitable person had given them temporarily – had both utilities of water and electricity cut off – because of nonpayment.
After the child is treated (for free), the charitable organization gives them food which they take to their family – and you can see the children so excited that food is now on the table. It is so heart rendering and emotive – to find people in such a perilous and devastating state in life – after their national economy took a steep deep dive! Albeit that a few years ago this situation did not exist at all – and nobody had predicted the situation to come to this extent!
The other reason that I am writing this article today are two reasons – one my own private one – which will take a column by itself – but the hint is in the start of this column – and the many correspondences I have been sending out to various people – and reminds my own article – Hard of Hearing! People will never change – and still no lessons ever learnt in life!
The other reason is general. And starting with the later – I was really shocked and startled to read in some of the newspapers columns of people now asking that the minimum national salary to be increased to Omani Rials 500 (Five Hundred) from the now Omani Rials 200 (Two Hundred). Are these people for real? Or is this a joke?
Keep remembering that at an average that this is the total salary package for a college finalist – or a secondary school leaver with 2 or more work experiences. I will not even cross over to the expatriate sector or side scales – because I simply refuse to rub their faces further more into the mud – or like the East Africans like to say – to ‘add salt into the wound’!
Let us be real, practical and realistic! We are not that very rich country even in comparisons to our own neighbours. Where in some places they ‘look well’ after their population – they can afford it well due to their national wealth and the nationals being minority in their own country!
In one of my last jobs in one such place my Assistant was earning far more than me – because she was a National – not me by default and inadvertently! I could have been stupid than I am normally – by insisting to be paid more than her – but then they will show me the door to the lift and exit door on the ground floor!
And frankly even if the country went – or could go – on this route of giving such scales – there would be great opportunity costs in many arenas. One of the fastest ways to drive away our current investors – and future ones too – is to go down this route. It would also mean now closed all the doors (and windows!) in future Omanisation, Development and National Recruitment!
What really troubled me was to hear this doctor saying in the documentary – I was always planning to go to one of the third world country to volunteer myself and my services for the less fortunate. But I never realized that one day I will be doing the same very things in my own country – to help the poor, disadvantaged and the needy in my very own country – now!
People should think carefully and wisely before they put their ideas into reality – and the possible outcomes, repercussions and reactions by such ideas and thoughts – though I will defend your full rights of your freedom to do so! But we still need to think on the outcomes and affects on others – and possible repercussions. It is like giving blades to children – and hoping that they will not cut themselves in playing with the blades!
Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.
We defend the things that we should attack – and attack the things that we should defend!– Majid Al Suleimany
Arab Management:Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! – New Arab Management Book – By Majid Al Suleimany
New Book 7th – Arab Management – Book Three –
By Majid Al Suleimany
Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters!
The Book Theme:-
1 A frank, honest, open and call-a-spade-a-spade no punch-spared, no barrels held stuff and no frills play book exposing
2 Still the ever increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism and tolerance in the workplaces.
3 With now ever more increased radicalisation, extremism and fundamentalising of the Offices environment and in similar to the overall similar fast changing facts of the ground in the region.
4 A Tell All As It Is in outlooks, approaches and focuses still prevalent and dominant.
5 It looks into the future in Prophecy and Prediction of what is expected and what is to come – immediately now, in the short term and in the future.
6 Others – Please see below
Addressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism, and still the ever increasing now lack of tolerance and forbearance in the Arab workforce, Author Majid Al Suleimany presents Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Series.
In three parts, the book concentrates on the management styles and aspects of the companies located in the Arabian Gulf Cooperation Council that encompasses Oman, UAE – United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Kuwait, Bahrain and Saudi Arabia.
In deep self-analysis and in consciousness, it critically looks into and assesses any changes in particular – if any – in Arab Management – post The Arab Spring Uprisings that shook the countries in the region post January 2011 – after the First Arab Spring Uprisings in Tunisia with the self immolation of Mohamed Buazizi in Tunisia.
The book critically reviews, analyses, evaluates and discusses the:-
v Changes in the Arab Management aspects (if any!) – post the Arab Spring Uprisings from January 2011 onwards.
v The far more and ever increased and widening divide between The Old Guards and The New Younger Graduates Intakes and Generation
v Lessons that have still not been learnt despite all the changes in the MENA Region in Arab Spring Uprisings.
v Still the ever ‘Ostrich Head in the ground’ – ‘Hard of Hearing’ and Push The Dirt under the carpet’ Management approaches – especially from the local environments, focuses and outlooks!
v The ever faster growing radicalization of the local staff – especially The Youth and in particular.
v Still some misbehaving expatriates – and the old guards locals!
v Unhappy, dissatisfied local staff
v Still more poor treatment of staff, especially by some Expatriate Management
v The ever more increasing extremism and fundamentalism in the offices
v Other sensitive and related issues
In Arab Management: Far Deeper In Troubled Waters! Majid Al Suleimany – an Arab Management Consultant, Advisor and Expert – focuses on what is particular about the type of Arab Management, its context and perspectives, and what is peculiar, special, or particular to that work in the context and in comparison to management styles of other nations.
Using personal experiences, examples, and illustrations, Al Suleimany exposes the new reality and truth and moves away from the trend and approach of hiding exposes the new reality and truth – and moves away from the trend and approach of hiding issues and problems.
“It is a unique book, written in a unique style. It is a soul searching and critical evaluation of one’s own people in the field. He extols the culture and importance of work in his religion and the pitfalls and lackluster attitude of the Managers in position about the Principles and Process of Management.” – Editor Features, The Observer
“Someone must have the guts and courage to write about this growing danger and phenomena with us here now – before it is too late for everyone!” – American CEO
“The book is critical but objective—and portrays the Arab mind and focus in its proper perspectives.” – Senior Omani Public Official
“Your writing is quite exceptional, informative, and gripping.”
– Omani High Official
“There is a great need for improvements and achievements in this particular arena —your book has tried well to cover all these to a very successful extent.” – British CEO
“Part of the problem of Arab Management is the inherited autocratic society we live in, and confronted by new Management concepts and innovation believing in freedom of expression, empowerment, delegation, transparency, ethics and accountabilities – and the clash between the two.” – Indian CEO
“Despite everything that has happened so far since the troubles started last year – nothing has changed much at the workplaces – if not for the worse in divisions between locals and expatriates – and in rivalries, polarisation, jealousies, envies – and lack of ethics, transparencies and professionalism” – A VP HR (Omani).
Even after some Public Officials have lost their jobs, nothing has changed much even in the Public Arena – Retired Public Official
And so many others.
This will be a Tell-All – at whatever repercussions and consequences. Enough is Enough! Things cannot be allowed to go on like this – too many lies and deceptions already!
I am looking for partial sponsorship, financial backing and support especially from those who can – and believe in me – and in this planned new book!
Allah God be with you all – Amin Amen
Majid Al Suleimany – Muscat – Oman
April 10, 2012
April 9th 2012
NEW BOOK – The Road Safety Book – Novel Type – In simple English.
I am now writing my 6th book on Road Safety Stories.
The Book Plan – To write Short Emotional Stories that have happened to people because of Road Accidents!The book will be a novice first time type ever written in Oman as in a reading novel type format – written in the simplest of English – as it is envisaged that many of the Readers English is a second language (or third) after Arabic – and to make it easy for them to understand and comprehend – taking into account the importance of the subject to the increased number of road accidents and fatalities in Oman.
IMAGES FIR DEMONSTRATION PURPOSES ONLY!
Writing has always been in my blood and my hobby and passion.
Road Safety Article – 1990s
I wrote this article for Times of Oman in May 1994 titled – Stray Thoughts on Oman Traffic – and reproduced by PDO Al Fahal Magazine June 11 1994 titled – Drive Safely for the Sake of Family and Loved Ones! – See appended below
A Peoples’ Stories – All True Cases.
.The story must be about road accidents and had happened in Oman mainly.
B How The Idea Originated!
It came some time back from an Omani General Manager (and a very good personal friend!) and whose Executive Secretary and the whole family perished in a road accident two years ago!
I knew the late girl well – see sample story appended.
This idea was given to me also by a good Indian Fan of mine as something worthwhile to consider to do with my Writing Skills and Experiences and taking it up from the Five Books already published by me.
See sample story here
There are many issues to handle first – like people willing to talk first with you and their willing for their stories to be told? But with the right approach and tactics this can be approached in the right way for success.
Otherwise we will not use names but create our own names, initial, nome-de-plumes and pseudonyms
The book can take off very well. I have a strong feeling on this one!
To be published in Oman as we may ask sponsors also from others like PDO, ROP, Newspapers etc – but the lesser the better! I want to own full rights and in publishing too.
I am looking for financial support and in monetary help and in financial more sponsorship.
Also if you know of any stories as above to share with me and other Readers
Or if people willing to come forward to share their own stories – as lessons for others to learn!
Or any views or suggestions that you may possibly have.
Let us not forget life is not permanent or forever – but we will be remembered for what we have done and contributed in this world SADAKA JARIYAH
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1 Road Safety Article – 1990s
2 Sample Story – Continued
2 Sample Story – Continued
Rest in Peace – RAW!
Peace Be Upon Her!
In Remembrance – Feeling Very Sad Today!
Wednesday February 9th 2011.
She had the most beautiful, enchanting and blossoming smile that you ever saw in such a pretty girl like RAW!
Always cheerful and helpful – people flocked in and out of her Office just to visit and talk to her! Always a kind word and gesture to everyone – if it was the last sandwich which she had to keep for herself – she would offer it to you and she would go without!
The old man went up the stairs to the offices as he was afraid of using the lift! He was a very angry man – he had received a wrong electricity bill that went to over a Thousand Omani Rials! His electricity was also disconnected! He had travelled all the way to The Head Office from the Interior – because he did not receive any cheers from the Branch.
He was shouting and addressing me – I had come in temporarily as The HR Consultant! How can my bill be so high? Last time I paid was less than OMR 20 (US Dollars 60)? I live with my wife and my two sons only in the small house!
Hearing the commotions, RAW stepped out from her Office. Abuuiiy! (Father!) Please come and sit down. She brought him water and coffee. Relaxed, the old man started crying! He was ashamed of himself – for shouting so loudly to so many others – and ‘making just a nuisance’ of himself! Do not cry Father she said to him. I will call the GM out of the meeting to see you just now!
Do not worry – she assured him – I will take care of you! And she did…. the old man got his electricity bill cancelled and the electricity returned – and a company car to take him home to his village 250 kilometers away. RAW also gave him Company Complimentary gifts – that is RAW for you – always caring and feeling for others! As a Consultant even for me – this was a great learning experience in kindness, care, feelings and in humanity – all RAW!
Wednesday February 9th 2011.
I was calling this good friend of mine a CEO of a National Company – and he gave me the ‘shock of my life’ to tell me that his Executive Secretary – and a First Class High Profile lady in my books had died as another casualty figure (statistics) just recently – after asking him how she was and having not received any emails from her for quite a while. I had covered this poor lady in My Books as one great person who had always stood by me in offering me support, kind words and in encouragement in my books.
I had never expected to cry again! For me I try best to hold back my tears very much. But failed miserably this time! I still fail whenever I remember her. This poor lady was amongst one of the ‘casualty figures and statistics’ that we read in the newspapers every day and week – without abating an eyelid – as the ‘usual stories’ we read in the newspapers. Or the usual pun – so what else is new?
I also did read this article by one Omani Columnist in the other newspaper titled Killer roundabout’ rings alarm bells in Mahdah – by Fahad Al Mukrashi. Every week we see also in the newspapers about road casualty figures in the newspapers – but as usual in the coming story we never imagine or visualize that it could be someone we know well or related to.
It seemed that an Omani family of 5 adults and 5 children had decided to get into a saloon car and drive all the way to Abu Dhabi in UAE. They decided to have lunch there and then to return on the same day. At 21:30 hrs, the father of the family perhaps overlooked the Mahdah round about and caught by surprise – he panicked and braked sharply – and the car rolled over several times. Six members of the family died immediately but the father escaped with minor injury because he was wearing a seat belt and was awake and alone behind the wheels.
This is one girl that I really liked and admired – and was always a great fan and supporter of me. She was always encouraging and supportive – of me personally – my books and my writings. The happiest time she was when I dedicated some of her comments in my books and giving her complimentary copies.
She was always sending me nice warm supportive messages – like cheering your day or to make you smile messages. These always used to cheer me a lot – especially when I was feeling down and sad. She was always beaming with smiles and kindness. Pretty smiles full of blossom and enlightenment!
Today I am crying again of the sad news and the gap in my life now. She was a great lady and I miss her terribly!
She had a great sense of humour and tease! Once I asked her if she was interested to get married or what – or why not still. With her usual sense of humour and wit she replied – They are waiting for me to get a higher salary first before they proposed to me! My salary is still small to them!
May Allah SWT Rest her angelic kind soul in eternal peace in this world and the eternal – and open the highest heavens for her – Amin.
Inshallah I will always pray for her so long as I will live – Amin.
By Majid Al Suleimany
FOR APRIL 8th 2012
Between Us Only!
The Hard Sale!
In all my working and career life, I have always not liked and despised this element of some of the Sales people just dropping in at my workplace – at random, uninvited and ‘no appointments earlier made’ basis. Particularly pretty tall girls (foreigners more) who think because of their appeal presence – you will not send them away – but will try to find time in your busy schedule to fit them in – and to pay attention to them! It is so irritating to a busting point!
When I was still working, I had such a pretty sales girl (foreign) that though the business to her firm was already regular – but one day she even went so far ahead as to ask what my feelings for her were – because she really liked and admired me as a person! Even the girls in my office were asking her – why do you always come at lunch break – when everyone is going out – with exception of our boss who brings in his sandwich – and stays back. The joke and tease was – do you want him to share his sandwich with you?
The real truth is that people are taking undue advantage of especially our Omani customs, traditions and culture of generally being nice, forthcoming, receptive and being respectful to foreigners especially – and the ladies more! Some may even see us as docile and weak – and easily to be taken advantage of.
Sadly, tragically and pathetically – the same treatment is not vetted out on especially our younger Omani Sales people that are also trying hard to copy and emulate – without the usual same success – unless it is on Wastah basis – and or a very pretty head that drops in! There are some countries’ espionage agencies that use very pretty girls for entrapment purposes – and it can be understood well why they do this!
The sad bitter and unfortunate thing also is that we bend backwards to try to be seen nice and accommodating to the foreigners to a greater extent. This same level of tolerance and patience is not extended to our own – nor do we extend them any breaks – even if the poor youngsters are trying their best to get noticed too. And then at the end of the Sales period we judge unmercifully the young our own ‘as not being that successful compared to their expatriate peers’.
For one the culture is working against them too in addition. Add to that the lack of patience, tolerance and forthcoming from their very own – though advertantly in a few rare cases you may get people with ‘nationalistic and tender feelings’ that may be willing to give them time, patience and breaks too. Or they may fare totally better with foreigners than with their own peoples – sadly the more senior in age and positions that should know better too – as part of their Corporate Social Responsibilities (CSR) – if not the Nation first and foremost!
Please do not get me wrong1 I am not against expatriates in particular – but more in their behaviours, attitudes, focuses and approaches – especially the few truant weird ones that aim to discredit and disadvantage our own youth in particular. In actual fact, we know very well that the troubles in our own country started off small by these kinds of things I am writing about today – even if many people would prefer not to know – and or acknowledge – or wish to put the dirt under the carpet – that has so much dirt already there!
Our Youth are also disorganized and even polarized to such an extent that it is working out badly against their positioning, favour and advantage! They lack the correlation and the networking that their expatriate peers have – and that are denied to be shared with or shown to! Admittedly. some few bad fish and eggs in the basket also give a good ruse and excuse to boldly generalize against our own Youth.
There are also some gimmicks that you cannot use against the locals – that you can use against the expatriates – like giving reduced salary perks – but more on sales commissions. Our youth prefer a steady regular payment than to go for high and low peaks in incomes and in achievements per se! Also, you can set sales targets for anyone you wish – locals included – but once the national cadre has completed his or her probation period – there is nothing you can do to him – unless in a serious violation registered, recorded and witnessed!
That is why I am particularly not that much keen with Family run businesses – and even SMEs too – because in many cases and generally – their main concentration is to get maximum profits at minimal costs and investments – and Omanisation and higher salaries are something they dread and fear – especially as it ties their hands to ‘hire and fire’ at will! There is a need to know and recognize that such attitudes, focuses and approaches are or can work against them too one day – and is actually a double edged sword too!
Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany.
P.S. There are not even images of Sales Persons locals or even GCC I could find! The theme – the message and theme – jobs not for them!
At My Workplace!
The Scared Managers!
For the last 18 months or so I have been at home with no sort of any Human Resources Management job (temporary and or part time) or project-wise. Being bored stiff and having my car back now after it was hijacked by Madam – who finally hit the ceiling to call in retirement benefits (did you notice how sensitive ladies get when they have to tell people their true age and why they are now at home!) – I decided to visit a few of my peers in their offices! Uninvited and unprepared they were for me in my visits!
There are some places I know that I will be most welcomed in and be well treated – whilst I am not naïve not to know that in some places I will be not welcomed – and if I tried entry I would be asked to leave – and or escorted out if I still resisted! This does not bother me the least – because these are places where my good Indian friends have said – he first gave Aaacha Boloo (AB – plain true straight forward hit back talk to the boss!) before he abruptly quit with short or no notice at all!
So I met these good friends of mine. In some of the places the offices provided for the last day of the week samosas and snacks were still continuing (I missed these and the chats!) – but in others they were no longer there. The excuse was of course ‘budget’ – but I personally think it was more ‘sinister and covered up’ than that! In one of the places my peer friend decided to take me to introduce me to the new Top Guy (TG – Omani also) – and as I sat chatting with him the subject moved over to requirement of filling in the position of one HR position – the incumbent who had interrupted a meeting the TG was giving – and had quitted on the spot after getting AB from him.
So the peer was suggesting to promote the Assistant of the resigned incumbent – but the TG would not hear about it! He just said – if we could not ‘control’ the other guy – how can we be able to control this one – he is worse than him (resigned incumbent)! This scared me to my wits that the desire ‘to control, dominate and manipulate’ was still there – despite all the things that have happened – and in some places still happening! Things in the offices will never change – whether it was locally or expatriate run like in the past!
Why are the Managers so scared that they still want to control their staff? It looks to me like conscripted workers that need to be put in their places like in the military or prison arenas with unruly vagabond rebellious units – and inactive and on the run! Actually the scariest part was not this one but the approaches, attitudes and focuses now of not upsetting the staff – especially the latest entrants younger local staff including the graduates too. The fear is that they do not want to be ‘in the news’ again of slowdowns or work stoppages – so the Management is driving a clear safe distance of dealings and inter relationships – and even if the talks of ‘control management’ aspects are also going on in line and in parallel!
It reminded me of one company that I used to work for in one of the neigbouring countries where they laughed their heads off when being in HR I wanted to see a few of the new entrants in the lists! The mockery and tease was – wait for payday when they come to collect their salaries – we make it a point that at least on pay day they come in to sign in for the cheques – though we could as well transfer their salaries through the bank too if we wanted.
But just to keep minimal contacts – because ‘they are not workers – and we are forced to take them in being nationals’! This plus the interviewee who wanted first to see how his office would look first before sitting down and agreeing to be interviewed by me – though albeit admittedly a local by default too!
Frankly if these things are really going on of not wanting ‘to bother and disturb the staff and let peace reign supreme’ then there are more troubled waters ahead – and MORE dangers than if not action and discipline is not taken for the few offenders and miscreants – localization or not? Why are the Managers now so scared – even the locals too?
We really do need to really self-analyse ourselves and deep consciousness review and research – before we build up lazy bones and uncaring unethical and unprofessional staff for the future!
Majid Al Suleimany