The Unapproachable! Between Us Only! 1

For The Oman Daily Observer Features of Sunday

January 22nd 2012.

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 Between Us Only!

The Unapproachable!

Or The Difficulties To Approach Some – Especially In Some Public Places!

  • Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Whoever amongst you sees an evil, he must change it with his hand; if he is  unable to do so, then with his tongue; and if he is unable to do so, then with his heart; and that is the weakest form of Faith“. [Muslim].
  •    The world is a dangerous place not because of the people who are evil but because of the people who do not do anything about it – by Albert Einstein.
  • And from Thomas Jefferson ex USA President – All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is people of good conscience to remain silent.
  • Silence is a war crime – Arab Protestor placard 

I have always wondered this. Why are there in some places – even public ones – people are purposefully unapproachable – difficult, hard, rigid, uncaring, unfeeling, unmovable and simply not listening to you – when you need just some help or and services from them? Is it just their character and nature – or are they expecting something in return – before they can move to help and or serve you? 

Unfortunately even for the simplest (even routine) basic request – and specifically in public places? It makes you think and wonder out aloud on what is really going on here?

 At least if it was clear what they wanted from you in the first place – otherwise one can wrongly assume and conclude it is just their behavior and attitudes – and not something more sinister and crooked! You wonder out aloud – why all these behaviours and acts – and why they are not straightforward and crystal clear with you in the first instance of what they really want from you?


A long time ago – reinstate over 20 years ago – when I was on leave in that place, a relative of mine had given me one of his best cars for personal use whilst there on holidays. Best as what can describe the car if we look at our own standards of cars – but who am I to look at a gift horse in the mouth.

 I was stopped by an irate Traffic Policeman on a motorcycle – who wanted to book me with one of the headlamps was not working! Then he was scolding me – You know in these dark roads at this time of the night oncoming traffic may think you are a motor cycle (and not a car?). And they move more towards in the centre and hit you right in the face. It was a paved road with no road markings!


Apart from the fact that I had never ever before been booked for any traffic offences of any sort – and this happening abroad shook me to my very wits and foundations! My relative who was by my side talked to me in Arabic to give me my International Driving License – and also he needed some money! Then he asked if he could talk to him (the Policeman?).

 A few minutes later the beaming traffic cop said to me – Welcome to our country and have a safe drive! The same thing happened when I wanted to fly I wanted to fly to another city in that place. I was told ‘the planes are full’ – until one of them was brave enough to ask subtlety for a bribe – to give to an airline official flying his own airline that had employed him! When I boarded the plane it was half full!

When I had my own Consultancy then, we needed some stationery and this expatriate guy comes in with a ‘draft quotation’ – and also with a Quotation book with Official Stamps. He thought I was just working for the Company – and did not belong to me! So many examples I can quote – but space will not allow me in what ended in my business to close down because of wanting to REMAIN HONEST!

 Whilst I was still working in my oil company the joke went – Here comes Mr. Honest (who will not go far in career – but will end broke on retirement) – which is what really happened to me – but my conscience remains supreme and clean to date – even if blowing up my own trumpet in the process. Again I must say this was a very long time ago (over 20 years) ago! In my last job aspects I had no money-controls – but other influences (Wastah)…..but then you too have been reading my columns, have you not?

 Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

 My ideas usually come not at my desk writing but in the midst of living. — Anais Nin

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