Long read but well worth it – trust me

Good morning said a woman as she walked up to the man sitting on ground.

The man slowly looked up.

This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new.. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life.

His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before.. “Leave me alone,” he growled….

To his amazement, the woman continued standing.

She was smiling — her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows. “Are you hungry?” she asked.

“No,” he answered sarcastically. “I’ve just come from dining with the president. Now go away.”

The woman’s smile became even broader. Suddenly the man felt a gentle hand under his arm.

“What are you doing, lady?” the man asked angrily. “I said to leave me alone.

Just then a policeman came up. “Is there any problem, ma’am?” he asked..

“No problem here, officer,” the woman answered. “I’m just trying to get this man to his feet. Will you help me?”

The officer scratched his head. “That’s old Jack. He’s been a fixture around here for a couple of years. What do you want with him?”

“See that cafeteria over there?” she asked. “I’m going to get him something to eat and get him out of the cold for awhile.”

“Are you crazy, lady?” the homeless man resisted. “I don’t want to go in there!” Then he felt strong hands grab his other arm and lift him up. “Let me go, officer. I didn’t do anything.”

” This is a good deal for you, Jack” the officer answered. “Don’t blow it..”

Finally, and with some difficulty, the woman and the police officer got Jack into the cafeteria and sat him at a table in a remote corner. It was the middle of the morning, so most of the breakfast crowd had already left and the lunch bunch had not yet arrived…

The manager strode across the cafeteria and stood by his table. “What’s going on here, officer?” he asked. “What is all this, is this man in trouble?”

“This lady brought this man in here to be fed,” the policeman answered.

“Not in here!” the manager replied angrily. “Having a person like that here is bad for business..”

Old Jack smiled a toothless grin. “See, lady. I told you so. Now if you’ll let me go. I didn’t want to come here in the first place.”

The woman turned to the cafeteria manager and smiled……. “Sir, are you familiar with Eddy and Associates, the banking firm down the street?”

“Of course I am,” the manager answered impatiently. “They hold their weekly meetings in one of my banquet rooms.”

“And do you make a godly amount of money providing food at these weekly meetings?”

“What business is that of yours?”

I, sir, am Penelope Eddy, president and CEO of the company.”


The woman smiled again. “I thought that might make a difference.” She glanced at the cop who was busy stifling a giggle. “Would you like to join us in a cup of coffee and a meal, officer?”

“No thanks, ma’am,” the officer replied. “I’m on duty.”

“Then, perhaps, a cup of coffee to go?”

“Yes, maam. That would be very nice.”

The cafeteria manager turned on his heel, “I’ll get your coffee for you right away, officer.”

The officer watched him walk away. “You certainly put him in his place,” he said.

“That was not my intent. Believe it or not, I have a reason for all this.”

She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently.. “Jack, do you remember me?”

Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so — I mean you do look familiar.”

“I’m a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I’ve even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.”

“Ma’am?” the officer said questioningly. He couldn’t believe that such a magnificently turned out woman could ever have been hungry.

“I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn’t find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.”

Jack lit up with a smile. “Now I remember,” he said.. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.”

“I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble… Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”

“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said.

“I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card.. “When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons…He’s the personnel director of my company. I’ll go talk to him now and I’m certain he’ll find something for you to do around the office.”

She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet… If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you.”

There were tears in the old man’s eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he said.

“Don’t thank me,” the woman answered. “To God goes the glory. Thank Jesus…… He led me to you.”

Outside the cafeteria, the officer and the woman paused at the entrance before going their separate ways….

“Thank you for all your help, officer,” she said.

“On the contrary, Ms. Eddy,” he answered. “Thank you. I saw a miracle today, something that I will never forget. And..And thank you for the coffee.”

God is going to shift things around for you today and let things work in your favor.

If you believe, send it.

If you don’t believe, delete it.

God closes doors no man can open & God opens doors no man can close..

If you need God to open some doors for you…send this on.

Have a blessed day and remember to be a blessing…


 If you like this article, you can find many others at my and at – like A Glass Of Milk!

Please note that I have now stopped contributing to The Oman Daily Observer for my two columns Between Us Only! on Sundays and At My Workplace! on Wednesdays.

The reasons why are here This Is Saying Goodbyes!! Better this way!

Best Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany – Muscat – Sultanate of Oman – November 30th 2011.



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November 21st 2011 

Subject: Allah <God> Will Be With You Always – Amin <Amen>

 AAWW <Islamic Greeting Abbreviated>

 Dear Ami <Uncle>  Majid,

 I am very sad to hear about the bad treatment you got in the job in Oil Company by our own peoples to say the least. I thought it was a new one but noticed later it was an old case but still does not change things.

Be patient Uncle. All those who have let you down and betrayed will have their punishment in this world first before they get the Adhaab Kabri <Punishment of The Grave> and Jahanaam <Hell Fire> next.

 Please remain good and do not change or follow their steps.

 My family will never forget you and the troubles you went through to get the job for my wife (Engineer SQU) and she was only getting administration clerical jobs only because she is a woman.

 This is how bad we have become Yaraabi Starah <God Protect and Preserve us> Amin

 Please keep IMAAN <Faith> n Allah <God> SWT <The Most Grateful and Merciful> only Uncle. Praying always for you Amin

 With fond memories

 Your  Son



A       Dear Majid,

Is it true you are saying goodbye to writing. If it is so, it is a shock to me.  Because I have been handling your column appearing in Observer. Now I can say with confidence that you have become a mature, confident writer. 

In everyone’s life there is ups and downs, especially in a writer’s life. Many times people don’t take them seriously.  Some may say writers are eccentric; others may say he is a rebel.

Such adjectives are suffered by many writers; such is the world of letters.  You will be remembered somewhere in the world sometime even after you are gone, when people happen to see your book and your name.

 As a friend my sincere advice is do not stop writing. ….. (Personal) … But keep on writing till you can raise your fingers and think clearly.

  Best wishes

 J – The Oman Daily Observer

 B – Dear Dad;

 I’m really sad and shocked that this is your last column, every time I have a chance to read them it gives me a sense that I’m part of a unique and precious moment, your articles are not only interesting but useful, delightful and better yet educational. I’m so honored and so happy every time I see that smiling picture of yours, the titles and one liner.

 Pa you’ve not only amazed me and the family with that witty quotes, your sayings, your ideology and advisors but thousands and thousands all over Oman. It made you an intelligent, spontaneous and open book person who I look up to and say “That’s my Dad”.

 I’ve never told you this before but a good friend of mine told me once “Dude I don’t want to be in your shoes!” I said why “You have a heavy burden on your shoulder… Following your big man shoes” and I replied “Maybe you’re right”, but it’s true it’s going to be a tough one, here I am trying to go above a line of a man who

 1.       Co-created and strong support of Omanisantion in PDO and other places

 2.       Help hundreds of Men and Women to reach goals that they never imagined they dream of

 3.       Build a company from scratch and <your proposals> helped to build the Biggest Company in Oman today

 4.       Have people calling every day for Human resource advices and training

 5.       To write 6 management and personal management books

 6.       To have 4 kids

 7.       And better yet as I always say “Always land on his feet”

 You always amazed me and make me feel so proud to have your name after mine and for that I salute you.

 Wishing you all the best

 Your son….F 

C       Omani Lady Fan

 HEY WHERE R U GOING? COME BACK FAST! Hey come back! I can’t believe this!!!!!


D       Omani Friend and Fan –

Sheikh Majid, Assalaam Alaykum <Greetings – <Peace Be Upon You!>

 I really read this short article of yours with a very heavy heart.

 I always enjoyed your articles in the Oman Observer, as well reading your first book, “Between Us Only”.

Unfortunately, someone borrowed it and never got returned. as always you try to recollect who actually took it, but in vain.

 I am sorry to learn that your health isn’t keeping up with your daily activities, you enjoy so much.

 I think you are taking the right decision to obstruct the stress and pay attention to your health. There is nothing so valuable in life than your own health.

 I wish you a calm and enjoyable retirement at home with the grandchildren around you. I know that, because I enjoy with mine every day.

 One thing for sure, you will be missed in the journalistic arena, and for those who wanted you to shut-up and quit, will miss you too.

 Take care my friend, just relax and enjoy your remaining life, but DON’T say Goodbye to me.

Akhuuk Al-3aziz <Your Loving Brother>


E       Admin Observer

Dear Mr. Majid,

Hope all well at your end. 

Kindly let me know if you have received your pending payments, till October.


PV – The Oman Daily Observer (Admin) 

F – Omani Columnist 

WHY?? What will happen to the inspiration you were instilling?

Please don’t leave us alone!!!

NAM – Omani Columnist 

G – Omani Fan

Though I will miss seeing your smiling face and all the inspiration you gave to us especially The Youth by your many of articles like An Open Letter To The Omani Youth; All Under One Flag; Forty Years On and many others

Even if they do not appreciate your contributions to the society and Human Resources, but I can assure you that some of us will never forget you and what you have done.

With great sadness and a heavy heart I must beg you not to forget us and remember us always.

Take care of your health and yourself Uncle. Forget the rest!

SAR – Omami Young Fan and Supporter 

H – Omani Girl Studying Human Resources

I expected that (your agreeing to help me) as from a highly educated person and experienced person like you – and how you always help us.

Omani Lady (N) helping her in her Project Study for PhD in HR. 

I   – Another Omani Lady Fan

AAWW Dear Majid,

Insha Allah <God Willing> you are all well. I am really going to miss this, the good bye almost made me cry

!. I wish you all the best and pray to Allah to make you happy and give you  good health now and always. You will be missed by a lot.

Take care, regards and all the best.


And so many others in confidence and via The Wife and Family Members….


Majid Al Suleimany

November 22nd 2011

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THE FINAL ARTICLE! It Is Time To Say Goodbyes! 2

Between Us Only!


It Is Time To Say Goodbyes!

  • A wise man once said: ‘The skill in attending a party is knowing when it is time to leave’. We built something extraordinary together… and all things must end, and we wanted to do it right, to do it our way – REM lead vocalist Michael Stipe announces the alternative rock band is splitting after 31 years and 15 albums.
  •  A farewell is necessary before we can meet again, and meeting again, after moments or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends. Anon
  •  True love doesn’t have a happy ending, because true love never ends. Letting go is one way of saying I love you – Anon
  •  Sometimes you have to let go to see if there was anything worth holding on to – Anon
  •  Set the bird free – if it flies away from you – it was not yours from the beginning! – East African Swahili saying.
  • Do not wake up sleeping dogs, they will wake up – and bite you! – Another East African Swahili expression.
  • This battle may have been lost – but the war is still on ahead – French General after France invaded by Nazi Hitler German army.
  • Sometimes you think you have won; when you have actually lost – and sometimes you think you have lost; when you have actually won! – Anon
  • The usual old games and tricks do not work anymore – because people have gone past the Fear Element now!
  • Do not bite the hand that feeds you – otherwise you will lick the boot that kicks you – Anon
  • If you have something growing for you – keep it, nurture it – let it grow and prosper – do not put sand in your rice cake (food) – (Swahili East African) or spit on your food (Indian). If you do – in the end you yourself cannot eat it anymore!
  • Do not kill the messenger of bad news! – Anon
  • Sincerity and being caring, feeling and genuine are never wasted in the front of God – Arabic

I am one of those fans who had really got hurt and disappointed when The ABBA Swedish music group had decided to close down. The same for the Comedy series Seinfeld and Friends. Also The Oprah shows.

The reason they gave was the same one – when you are still ‘up there’ then it is time to quit!

I watched the film of Titanic as it was being rushed to its utter destruction – as it was being moved towards the icebergs – and despite the protestations of the young captains on board!

I am a sick diabetic person 63 years old – with eyesight and glaucoma problems. I am now continuously feeling a lot of pressures – and getting my face always bloodied – and my head swollen – as I bang it against brick walls! Nobody is hearing me – and I always end as the victim – because people do not want to hear the truth – and find evil and devious ways and means to ‘get back at me’!

I simply cannot now continue to handle the pressures I used to be able to do in the past – especially being out all alone there – and abandoned without any support and backing!

Things that have seemed to have been settled are being revived just to put me in a corner – and to silence me!

I have been writing for the last 8 years – and on the same subjects and topics – and I keep writing – again and again! I am writing more as a hobby – something that I like to do! Nothing more or less! The money is peanuts – if and when it comes in!

The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak. Or as we Arabs say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had appropriately had said – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (Let it be syndrome!).

Things I had said in 1980s came to pass – even in my working time and career too! I am tired of saying so many times – again and again – I TOLD YOU SO! The same things that I have said in my articles from 2003 onwards – 8 years ago – came to pass! Just imagine! From my first book Between Us Only! –


My First Arab Management Book – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Magement Series. The book talked all about ‘the things going wrong in Arab Management’. See here how to order – or

I warned and cautioned on the cinder fires burning underneath – instead my books and I were targeted instead! The book A Cry For Help! Went even so far to prophesied and predict the Arab Spring Uprisings – but who cares? See Even the VIPs that I had sent my books did not have even the politeness and courtesy to acknowledge and thank me! As if I was embarrassing them instead to send them my books!

 Why and What for are all these things? 

My Second  Arab Management Book – A Cry For Help! (The Real Cry!)  – Context and Perspectives – Arabian Magement Series. The book talked all about ‘the things going more extreme and fundamental especially with The Youth and sort of predicted and propheised The Arab Spring Uprisings!. See here how to order – or

Anyway, I would like to thank all my fans and supporters from my heart with warmth, sincerity and genuine feelings and touch. And I ask your forgiveness for those who chose ‘not to be my friends’ – and those trying to get back at me – to shut me up and close my mouth!

 This is Goodbye – and wishing you all the very best in your lives, your families and in your endeavours! I came – and now I am going. Leave me alone NOW in peace – please!

Goodbye and Maa Salaamah!


 Majid Al Suleimany

 November 19th 2011 – Muscat – Oman.  –

Need For Compassion From The Banks! Reply

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 Need For Compassion From The Banks!

(This Is The Full Version)

 The Holy Quraan – Surah Al Baqarah – Verse 280

If the debtor is – In a difficulty – Grant him time – Till it is easy – For him to repay – But if ye remit it – By way of charity – That is best for you – If ye only knew

Abu Qatadah related that the Prophet had said: If anyone would like Allah to save him from the hardships of the Day of Resurrection, he should give more time to his debtor who is short of money, or remit his debt altogether. (Muslim) 

With a heavy heart and sadness, I have noticed the new trend, fashion and in-style nowadays is to draw blood from stones! Or having your pound of flesh with blood drawn in!

 The world we live in is only temporary (transit) – and on The Day of Judgment we will be held responsible for all our actions – and inactions. This applies especially more to The Leadership.

 There are so many others verses of The Holy Quran and The Hadith (Religious Teachings) on being kind, considerate and compassionate to those especially heavy in debts – but cannot pay – even if they really wanted to.

 It is well understandable that the Banks have no monies of their own but are mainly their depositors’ monies with them. They have therefore full rights to protect and preserve these deposits and investments with them – and the trust and confidence put on them. There is no question and or dispute here for any reason.

 One can also try to understand and appreciate the point and reasoning as to why they are ‘harshly chasing and pursuing so-called defaulters’ – if they themselves are now running in the red and losing money and profits.

It is also understandable that the banks have to operate under set rules and regulations of the Banking Sector an as per monetary and fiscal policies of the nation with the Central Bank as the as the Head of the Banking Authority in Oman – and as the Custodian of the Banking Laws set by Royal Decrees.

 And then let us face realities and truth in life. Banks have indeed made great profits and returns as we see in the news every day. Many of them have built expensive top-of-the-art creative Head Offices and Branches, many top good pool cars and handsome bonuses and dividends too. Let alone the Top Management bonuses every year. Where does this money come from? It is like what we hear all being said on Wall Street all over again!

 But it is also a statistical fact and reality too that especially in Self-Employment with the SMEs there are bound to be failures – and not because of not trying or one not being responsible, accountable and transparent – or because of wrong calculations, estimates and risk taking. Those businesses that have not done this have remained small grocery shops for ages – but even here now there are unexpected eventualities, turns and outcomes.

We live in the global village. And what happens there has a direct and indirect bearing and affect to us too. Tell that to Video Shops (remember Beta and VHS formats?) and now replaced by CDs – Bookshops selling physical hard copies by eBooks (remember Borders etc) and by Kindle iPads and others! Audio cassettes – what is that? Even in the small villages in the third world!

And then let us face realities and truth in life. Many Omanis are heavily in debt – even the younger coming in generations. Then we have the usual jealousies and envies streak in society that are willing to pay foreign companies three or four times more that they are willing to pay local firms – ‘on take it or leave it basis’ as we were told. Or a lot of empty and dry promises made to you ‘to finish off the job – even if you are running at a big loss’ – and when you told them you cannot continue at this rate – and or need review for more money, support, assistance and cooperation.

 Then we have the usual issues of ‘of getting entry, break and opportunity first of all to come in’ – the ‘Wastah element’ – ‘corruption fiascos’ – and the differences between rhetoric and reality!

 Whatever the case the CBO, Ministry of Finance and the Commercial Banks need to do something quick – before we also start to have Wall Street demonstrations here – or someone does something untoward and unexpected at any time. 

In memory of BouAzizi of Tunisia who started The Arab Spring Uprisings!

Images – BouAziz In Remebrances, Supporters Demonstrating and Fadia Al Hamdi – The Policewoman who slapped BouAzizi!


Pervez ex Pakistan President had said – it is all nice to have all kind of nice policies and coverage inside and outside – but it is what directly impacts and affects citizens’ lives that make the difference. Or metaphorically having a nice painted villa outside – and only in the Sitting Room where guests come in – but the rest is a mess!

 It is the small things that count in the final analysis and calculations – and we are not there yet. How does a customer feel when he sees the Banks getting so much profits and incomes – and is giving this and that prize – and is sponsoring this and that – but a citizen Pensioner salary is not safe – including his house too!

 And The Big Question – are we following the CSR – Corporate Social Responsibilities guidelines – or for that matter our Religion and Teachings too?

 [Quran 4:58] Verily! Allah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due; and that when you judge between men, you judge with justice.

 Verily, how excellent is the teaching which He (Allah) gives you! Truly, Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Seer.

I REPEAT IT –  Whatever the case the Central Bank of Oman CBO, Ministry of Finance and the Commercial Banks need to do something quick – before we also start to have Wall Street demonstrations here – or someone does something untoward and unexpected at any time.

 Frankly, I do not think that banks should worry about Islamic Banking coming in if they do treat with feelings, compassion and consideration their customers and clients now – before they start switching allegiances and loyalties. The time to do that is now – not tomorrow!

  Allah SWT Will judge us by our deeds and actions – and also inactions – on The Punishment of The Grave and The Day of Reckoning! May Allah SWT (God) Protect and Preserve us all from His full anger and fury – and Guide us all towards the right path and ways always  – Amin..


 Majid Al Suleimany



Are we watching and seeing things all around us now – even near home? Or happening in so-called Advanced Western World with the Arab Spring Fever?

The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak. Or as we Arabs say – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had said – Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (let it be syndrome).

Narrated Hudhaifa:

I heard the Prophet saying, “Once a man died and was asked, ‘What did you use to say (or do) (in your life time)?’ He replied, ‘I was a business-man and used to give time to the rich to repay his debt and (used to) deduct part of the debt of the poor.’ So he was forgiven (his sins.)” Abu Masud said, “I heard the same (Hadith) from the Prophet.”

Al Bukhari – Volume 3, Book 41, Number 606:

Narrated ‘Abdullah bin Ka’b bin Malik Al-Ansari from Ka’b bin Malik:

That ‘Abdullah bin Abi Hadrad Al-Aslami owed him some debt.

Ka’b met him and caught hold of him and they started talking and their voices grew loudest. The Prophet passed by them and addressed Ka’b, pointing out to him to reduce the debt to one half.

So, Ka’b got one half of the debt and exempted the debtor from the other half.


It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“The soul of the believer is suspended because of his debt until it is paid off.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1078).

It was narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

Beware of debt, for it starts with worry and it ends with war. Narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta’ (2/770).

May Allah SWT (God) Protect and Preserve us all from His full anger and fury – and Guide us all towards the right path and ways always – Amin..

By: Majid Al Suleimany

At My Workplace! Technocrats As Managers! 1

At My Workplace!

(November 16th 2011 – The Oman Daily Observer)

 Technocrats As Managers!

I do not know if you are watching the news like I do – pinned to the television set morning in and night out! But I do notice the following things going on now! 

  • Unalike Tunisia and Egypt where the transitions were sort of more peaceful in a way in comparison – in Libya they are now fighting amongst themselves (where did I read this one before?) – and with all the arms around – and having got rid of a common enemy in Ghaddafi and his cronies!
  • Things are getting much worse in Yemen and Syria especially – but people never learn even – if they see lessons in real life and in front of their faces!
  • But my attentions are mainly drawn to what is happening now in USA and in Europe!
  • In the Wall Streets demonstrations they are being put down with that much vigour and force that if they had happened in other countries – guess who will be talking the loudest against – especially if they happened in places like Iran etc.
  • In Europe – Greece and Italy – two major economies are in dire straits and great difficulties – namely elected Prime Ministers are being replaced by Technocrats – and that seems to be the only logical choice left.
  • There is something really ironic in seeing Technocrats coming in to replace politicians
  • The semantics and rhetoric are lost to everyone!
  • The domino affect seems to hold – with danger signals in other European Nations too!
  • And the rest of the world too!
  • Who thought George Papandreou of Greece and Silvio Berlusconi of Italy will go that quickly to be replaced by Papademos and Mario Monti respectively?

 Maybe it is an idea that we can incorporate in our business world too by replacing all the current (or many of them!) Senior Management like in the positions like Directors, Chairman, Managing Directors, General Managers etc.

 Just like the Arab Spring Uprisings, we have some of them who have been on their seats in some cases over 30 years now! They still hold absolute power and control – just like being Mini-Dictators in The Offices.

 I think many of them have fixed ideas and dogmas – The Old Guards Syndromes – and can be equally if not be more ruthless like those Dictators being replaced – when they see competition and challenges. Their brains and outputs are all rusted – and there is no more innovation, ingenuity, discovery, new ideas and enterprise! But use all the games, ploys and tricks to reign supreme and stay in the Offices!

 Is it not time to start to consider replacing them with new and more enterprising and innovative Technocrats – just like Portugal and Italy have done as States? There is need for changes here too in the Private Sector – especially in Family-run businesses and in SMEs. And for bigger enterprises and National ones too for that matter!

Don’t we have enough Omani Professionals and Technocrats and Entrepreneurs who could come in as in the positions of New Directors and Chairman – New GMs and MDs and Directors – to cause and effect change – change in reality for the good – and not just for window dressing, empty words, promises and rhetoric.

 I think we do need CHANGE in The Private Sector too! We have to start think of our future and dynasty – now more than ever before! Our present and future generations will judge us by our actions – and inactions!

 Take Care!  


I must admit that I am biased and prejudiced here – because as a Qualified, Professional and Experienced Omani National I had met the most ‘resistance for me to come in’ from this group – more than anyone else for that matter!


 Majid Al Suleimany


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 Between Us Only!

 We Need To Be Serious!

 Practising more of what is being preached and in reality!  Or difference between rhetoric and reality!

The other day I had gone to this Medical Centre in Town. As I entered the place there was this Western lady who was at the Reception Desk. She was wearing a white nurse dress – so I presume she was a real nurse acting out the duties and function as The Receptionist cum Administrator at the counter.

She was trying hard to be friendly – and you could tell it was all an act and charade – until she realized that we spoke Queens English to be more receptive! Or perhaps the place encourages only the Rich and Famous Omanis – not like us!

I was wondering to myself whether she was really doing the job as such full time  – or would not surprise me being just off Eid – if there was an Omani boy or girl doing the ‘real’ job – but as usual – and not surprising again – the fear of the rain and the wadis – or just Shuwa and Mishkaak at the home village had decided not to turn up – like the rest of the Private Sector did!

Frankly I was perturbed as I was sitting there and though smiling comes in this person (Patient – Western) who sits facing me but my smile is wasted on him – as if we are in Europe – and not in Oman where it is customary too to at least smile and say Hi! as you enter – but that is another story for now! This despite all the things that have happened here before – and my last book published 2009 on the same issues – A Cry For Help! –

Do not blame me by going with appearances – because I simply have no way of knowing! It then dawned to me that if she was really doing this job full time – then she must have come in on a Labour Clearance of a Nurse (or even Doctor – nothing is surprising anymore to me now!). And that must be a very expensive exercise of the establishment – and needed to be done anyway because she came with the ‘investment package’ from home – or through other connections, contacts and reasons.

If that was the case, for sure this job (like many others too!) could easily have been done by a local – given the right touch, encouragement, push, mentoring, guidance and coaching! But then who really cares? If you can circumvent the rules and regulations for your benefit – and the others are looking the other way – why not I ask you? Not only here but in so many other places in Town! We Need To Be Serious!

If even all these jobs ‘sort of reserved for Omanis only’ can now be done by expatriates under fanciful names and titles – why not? Could perhaps explain why this expatriate lady was doing a Receptionist Admin job – supposed to be reserved for Omanis. But if even more senior jobs like Admin, PRO and Human Resources Managers are being done now openly by expatriates under fanciful names – why not?

Incidentally and coincidentally if you go to the Professional Sites liked LinkedIn, you will see them brave enough to call themselves as just plain HR Managers – and nothing to be scared or to be afraid about! But perhaps more scare the guy who writes such things instead!

Frankly too – and the other side of the coin – if you as a local and are not really serious about your job aspects, accountabilities and responsibilities – and give them an excuse to bring in a friend or contact from home – or is already here looking for a job or something better – whom do you blame – them or just plain you? After all they have come here to invest with Returns (Profits) On Investments – ROI! And if the office atmosphere can be cheered the more by having home faces – or more friendlier faces – why not!

If the excuse was that  she was acting because it being Thursday and the Youth insist on a five-day week as per the new regulations– the two days off could be made on shift-basis – and recruiting more Omanis for the position. This instead of wanting to give bad name to Omanis as being ‘not cooperative – even with overtime offers – instead of these short cuts! The same story starts to repeat itself with the introduction of the basic minimum salaries – and what followed next!

Here we go again!

There is something that I must also say and repeat here for the benefit of everyone – and I hope common sense, dynamism, realism, pragmatism and vision will come in! First there is no more this element of fear still running or even scantily – and secondly everybody is just fed up to the till! And if you think still the old games and gimmicks will still work in winning always – you have got it all wrong – and are just deluding no one but yourself only – and those near you!

In desperation and last attempt and effort – last week I had written in the same column – Let The Strong Man Win! Do not tempt to scare me anymore – because in the end we will all lose – some sooner than the others!

I think I may need to quit now writing anymore for ever – because I always get hurt and pained in the end – and I end with a bloodied face – and swollen head banging it against brick walls! Like I have said so many times in the columns – The Romans had said – Those that the gods are out to destroy make them not see, hear or speak.

Or as we Arabs sayThere is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see; no one so deaf but with ears but cannot hear; and no one so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as Napoleon had said Do not interfere with someone set to destroy himself (let it be syndrome).

And finallyThose that bite the hand that feeds them – end in licking the boat that kicks them – proved so many times before!

Take Care!


 Majid Al Suleimany


Just Say No To It! Reply

At My Workplace!

Just Say No To It!

(This Is The Full Version – Briefer in The Column)

Peoples take great pride and sadistic pleasures that they have said NO to someone. Especially if there is something particular or special that you do not like about that applying person. It is all subjective, personal, individualistic and selfish approach, not looking at the ‘bigger picture’ or putting blinkers on’ on the journey that you have set on yourself to reach, and you do not want to look at the greater picture. Or as they say – you cannot see the forest because of the trees.


This beautiful high profile lady was telling me – M, I see that you always get emotionally involved in the subjects that you write about. You know Writers – like Doctors – should not get attached and emotionally involved with their subjects (or patients that they are treating!). The problem is once you get emotionally and personally involved, it is difficult to look objectively at a given situation, and come with the right results and propose suggestions and recommendations that would hopefully be able to solve the problems on the issues that you have raised. 

As a writer, you must be more objective and more as an observer (outside) on the issue that you write about! She is my greatest fan; surprisingly I am her fan too – because of her achievements in her career. I cannot believe that such a lady is still single, there must be something very wrong with us man, and perhaps hen-pecking is the order of the day nowadays. Perhaps too because the ladies were pants, just like us men do!

 Then I get the other fans. They say – we really like the way you write about things – the styles, the approach, the format. You always quote by personal and self experienced examples (or from peoples you know well). Who said that writing was easy, even if it is more like a hobby than an income-generating thing? If you think writing is easy, try to write on something – for example on your hobbies or why you like some particular dishes.


 Anyway, coming to serious stuff. Have you noticed the new trend, fashion and style in the market nowadays? It is to ‘just to pretend to use formal channels’ to say NO to any raised issue or expectations. Peoples take great pride and sadistic pleasures that they have said NO to someone. Especially if there is something particular or special that you do not like about that applying person. It is all subjective, personal, individualistic and selfish approach, not looking at the ‘bigger picture’ or putting blinkers on’ on the journey that you have set on yourself to reach, and you do not want to look at the greater picture. Or as they say – you cannot see the forest because of the trees. Or as they say in the Management lectures long time ago attended – lacking vision and lacking helicopter quality!

Helicopter quality? I hear you asking. It is simple. Remember the Forest and the trees syndrome/ Well, helicopter quality is taking off upwards, and whilst the helicopter is hovering overhead, you can see the picture better from all way up. When I told the lecturer, isn’t there a danger by still going further up, you will loose a clearer picture and see the whole thing very small in comparisons?

 The lecturer did not like that, worse when this ex-Army Pilot guy in the course (now in Human Resources!), said to all of us – you know how a helicopter flies? If you really knew, you would not go up in one (something about a pin – excuse me, I am not technical!). Anyway, he did not get to finish his sentences, the Lecturer was upset that ‘we were diverting from the main issue’, though the course was supposed to be on communications, and freedom and expressions etc!  That just goes to show you – you can have all the lectures and courses, but to change the outlook, approach and views of someone (because of these courses attended) is something completely different all together!

 Now coming to what about saying NO, just for the sake and enjoyment of doing so, although you know deep in you and in your heart the situation studied in front of you best deserves ‘maybe’ or even a ‘yes, but with some stipulations and conditions!

In some many cases the ground works have already been prepared in advance in private and informal quarters to say NO! This is before moving to official and formal circles and venue. That is all how subjective, selfish, bad, evil and prejudiced some people are always


Ask us so-called Human Resources and Management experts. We have a book full of (magic) tricks and ‘fooling techniques’. Unless you are a smart Director or Manager, you will know the tricks of the game, and bring the writer (proposer) to his knees – and say – be serious, please study this case more objectively! How you are asking me that you can fool too to your boss? Simple. Blow out of the proportions the weak points of the case. Say if we do this, than this  (BIG) situation will develop if we are not careful.


Frighten them the more. Just say – as a Company employee who gets my salary (the only income you can add too – if you like!) from the company, it is my duty and responsibility to highlight (highlight? Is there a lowlight?) The issue. Kill the guy – add – personally I have nothing against this person (death is faster if you even add – I personally like him a lot. He is a good person (all kind of craps, easily reads between the lines by experts, but if you have a gullible unsuspecting boss – or one who knows the tune being played and goes along with it too!) – cannot be seen or be digested in actuality.


But what if you use your judgments based on outside factors (environmental, as the slang goes)? You judge a case by not the person in front of you, but whom he belongs to? Family, Social, Ethnic, Religion, race or Creed? Isn’t that a more worse crime and unprofessional and unethical thing to do? Crosses all borders and boundaries, but is still happening.


A 3rd world country President was lecturing to his countrymen. They had just gained Independence from a colonial power. He was afraid that they would not retaliate against their colonial masters. So he told this wolf and rabbit story. If you have heard it, allow me to just fill in the number of words for my column! So this President says – there was this wolf drinking some water in a river. He saw a rabbit, and he wanted to find an excuse to eat up this rabbit. So it yells at the rabbit – hey what are you doing? Don’t you see I am drinking the water here? Why are you spoiling it? The rabbit replied – but, Sir, the water is flowing from you to me. Then the wolf says – Yes, now I remember. Last week you insulted me, and then ran away. The rabbit meekly replies – but I was born only yesterday. The wolf now screams – well, if it was not you, than it must be your father. The rabbit replies – but my father has died long before I was born. Well, replies the wolf, if it was not your father, it must have been one of you, your uncle. Brother etc. Without giving a chance to the rabbit to say anymore, it jumps on the rabbit and eats it up! Let us not be like this wolf – that President said!

 In the old Russian communist days (KGB), if a person was suspect, his whole family, string of friends and acquaintances were too on suspect. No one was spared. If you ran away from the country, they would imprison one of your own, usually closest to you! If they cut your phone, they also cut your whole family phones, even if it did not concern you, or you were not involved. If you did not pay your telephone bill, they cut not only your telephone, but your son’s too, or anyone else in the family – even if you paid yours on time. They just did not want to hear or listen. You all had to suffer the repercussions and consequences. If you lost favour, all yours lost favours too. Thank God communism has died. Or the wolf who wants to eat the rabbit syndrome.

 Anyway peoples saying NOS always are known by all and everybody else – and why they do it is also known too!!

Keep Smiling! Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

From the book – The Sequel – Between Us Only! –  


Eid Special Supplement! Reply

Between Us Only!


 The signals were there already – but none of us had noticed them before!

I would like to share with you all today of the signals that were given to us our family long time back – but we did not notice them. Now on hindsight – it is very telling! And with due apologies to the vegetarians – but I think they may like it in a certain way! And to the meat-eaters – take it as fun and humour as you celebrate Eid with your families.

Please receive my prayers, deepest sympathies and condolences for the victims of the recent storms.

This was a long time ago when both our parents were alive (Peace be upon them). And this was the Eid Al Hajj (Sacrifice) with all its religious connotations and connections of the Great Prophet (PBUH) Abraham (Ibrahim) wanting to sacrifice his son Ismail and being given by Our Lord a ram (image below) instead for sacrifice!

Our late Father had purchased a goat for the slaughter. They were staying in Maabela – and when we reached there early morning from Qurum our twin daughters at 8 then and son at 5 with other family children were playing with the goat and enjoying themselves immensely by feeding it grass. 

Then the great moment came for the children to be taken inside for the goat to be slaughtered according to the Islamic ways and rites. Children being children some of them looked even though we had tried hard for them not to see this. It might also be during the skinning time. Anyway children cannot be expected to be kept inside all the time – especially when they are ‘loaded’ with Eidiyah (money given to children on Eid days).

During the time of lunch, our children led the strike not to eat the food. They were quiet and silent – and were not talking to anyone – all upset and moody! Despite all persuasions and encouragements, they just would not budge! At the time we did not put our finger on it of what was wrong – or went wrong! It was only when we returned home in the car that they budged and started talking and opening up. They chorused together – how would you like if somebody gave you food (grass to the goat) – and later on slaughtered you! Would you like it! Did you not notice we were playing with the goat – and it really liked us! How can you do this to us?

I was laughing – and they all attacked me. You should feel ashamed of yourself – especially you dad – we thought was a nice and kind person – and yet you participated in the killing! This is NOT a laughing matter. So Madam says to me in a language they do not understand – do not laugh – try to be serious and explain to them! Then Madam Wife volunteered – those burgers that you like to eat – where do you think they came from? Oh there you go morbid – they all hit back! Why bring this thing now? We are not going to talk to you for the next few days. Then they went moody, silent and quiet.

FLASHBACK. Decades back in another age, time and place (Mafia Island – Tanzania)

The ox wase – and was running wildly – and nobody dared to come near it. You will not get me today – it says. It is also Eid! They finally catch it and bring it down. I speak to my brothers and sisters – Our father is a killer! The poor ox – see how it struggled to escape its fate. But it was sealed anyway! This presents a different picture of us of our dad – how cruel and mean he is!

It is lunch time. We boys sit with the men. My brother and I just eat the potatoes, salad and the rice (pillau). Then Uncle throws in some morsels our side. Eat – he insists! My brother and I look at each other. Silent telepathy and communication. But the protest is short-lived – as dad turns to face us. Why are you not eating the meat your uncle put on your side (the old Arab Omani way of as a child you wait and do not take meat in the centre – unless it falls your side – or a senior gives it to you! We eat. There is nothing you can do about it. There is nothing you can do about it. There are simply no elders to explain anything to you – not like then yours truly trying to explain to his children the whys and whats.

Guess if we had dared to ask the question to response would have been immediate and sharp – and a slap – or a stick!  What insolence and audacity to ask such a (stupid) question!   

And  that explains many things …now!

Eid Mubarak!

Take Care!


Majid Al Suleimany

The Royal Opera House. Reply

Between Us Only!

 The Royal Opera House. 

Many Readers and Fans have been asking me why I have not commented or added to the supposed to end now discussions (sometimes still heated!) of the building and opening of The Royal Opera House! Before I start on the serious subject – let me throw in some humour here!

Humour One – During the 25th  National Day celebrations, in my ex Oil Company still then – my Top Management had received some VIP Classical Opera Music Invitation Ticket to Al Bustan Palace Hotel for the celebrations. The tickets came moving downwards till it came to me. My ex boss threw in to me this bait – There is nice dinner after the show – you will surely like it!  And as he knew I liked my food! So I and Madam Wife offered to take the tickets from them (for free!). The tickets needed to be used – anyway!

For my wife and I, it was a First Time to attend such a type of function! Anyway, to make a long story short, I made a Big Fool of myself of clapping at the wrong places (believe me alone and as The Starter)! Everyone looked at me – even the players! Because smart me had concluded that the music had ended (when is that dinner time?) – When actually it went to a very low crescendo – and then slowing rising again to full blast! I was clapping whenever the music went to lower crescendo – and not to be beaten in clapping!

In the break, I think it was one of The Master Conductor himself visibly upset coming with another Composer (annoyed and cross!) and an Arabic Translator (fellow Oman!) came over to me that I do ‘not make a nuisance and annoyance’ of myself in the second half by ‘waiting for those who know and or are the real experts to start clapping – ‘and then you can follow!’ – They chorused to me! Madam wife was so embarrassed – but then she does not have a sense of humour like me!

Humor Two –A good friend of mine had given me a cassette (audio) in which was some classical music. I do not know which bits they were – could be Chopin or someone else – I now forget! These bits I liked very much – and kept repeating them – again and again!

We were going for a Departmental Party and my Top Director (Expatriate) was commenting on my good choices for music (he was in my car – Majid I will go with you!).Then he said to me – I did not know that you liked classical musicand why do you like this part(forgotten now!) – And he named the part! So I was lost! What? What part?

Then he turned round and looked at me – You murdered one our National Beer (Heineken) to say it was British – when it is really Dutch!. Why did you not just say you never drink instead of lying to me (I lied Sir because I was afraid you like your Stuff – and if I said I do not drink you will look to lower estimate my potentials!). And then as the goalkeeper you let our Departmental Football Team down by being beaten with the highest number of goals (13!) in the 6-a-side Company matches. After all the things you have done –see my – now you are murdering the Classical Music too! This is too much for me! (He did not return in my car!).

Now Seriously. Our late Father (and our Religion too!) teaches us ‘not to get involved in things that do not concern you as a Believer!’There are so many quotes in the Holy Book and the Teachings on the very same subject! Or The East Africans say – it is not you eating the chilly – so why is your mouth now feeling hot?

My life’s concepts are these – Tolerance. Moderation – Life’s give-and-take, live-and-let-live – being considerate – caring and always being kind – welcoming and accepting esteeming and respectful to everyone – and especially our ‘invited guests’ in our country! (I never cast the first stone – though!). The point also of some people feeling that they are always right and correct – and imposing these on others forcefully!

Even though I may not like the classical music that much – but Umm Kulthum, Majda Roumi (images below) etc. is something else (my twin daughter’s name!). And also other composers (Arabic ones) – and few bits here and there of other Composers. Frankly,  however if you offer to give me Omani Rials 60 for a ticket – or a dinner of OMR 30 – I will go for the later!

One thing for sure I will not also do! Write all nice and grand things about this-and-that just to get attention that I too ‘am forward-looking and advanced (socially). If I did that I would not be humbly writing this column today – I would in most probabilities have retired well off as a Director level at least (I was first joiners there!). But M is M – you cannot remove a stripe from a tiger – nor a spot from a leopard! And to change at this stage?

I also know this – there is an opportunity cost in everything in life – and we are responsible for own actions – and inactions! Having said that as a proud citizen of the land – I do feel great and elated to note that we in Oman are the only second one in the Arab world (after Cairo) to have an Opera House – but I too know others will follow, copy and emulate soon! That is the Arab way for you!

You say non-committal? Your stand not clear? Confused? Frankly I have always been before – and more confused now too! J!

Take Care!

Eid Greetings!


Majid Al Suleimany