Between Us Only! Importance of Family! Reply

Between Us Only!

Importance of Family!

A     References in Religion –

Maintaining Silat ur-Rahm (Family Ties) is an Islamic Obligation

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinshipSahih Al-Bukhari.

Allah’s mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinshipBaihaqi, Shuab Al-Iman.

B     Abu Hurairah’s – Announcement – May Allah Be Pleased with him.

A young man once went to attend the weekly hadith (Religious) lecture of the Sahabi Sayyidna Abu Hurairah, May Allah Be Pleased with him – but Abu Hurairah’s routine opening announcement stopped him: If anyone sitting here has severed any ties of kinship (breaking family ties – Qata-ur-Rahim), he should leave. (And repair his relationship first).

The young man recalled his aunt, who lived in the same town but with whom he had not been on speaking terms. The young man quietly left the gathering and went straight to his aunt’s home. He met his aunt and asked for forgiveness for his past behavior and sought rapprochement. When the aunt inquired about the reason for this change of heart – the young man narrated how he had heard Abu Huraira’s announcement.

His aunt accepted the apology but asked him to inquire from Abu Hurairah – May Allah Be Pleased with him – the reason for this unusual announcement. Why was it – instead of mentioning the major sins – did Abu Hurairah focus only on this issue? What was so special about ties of family and kinship? Sayyidna Abu Hurairah replied that he had heard from the Prophet PBUH that our deeds are presented to Allah every Thursday night and anyone who has severed family ties has all his good deeds rejected. Abu Hurairah did not want any such person sitting in his gathering, which was held on the same night – for fear that it could deprive the entire gathering of blessings. And as above quotes.

C     The Only Eid Visits to Family Members.

Unfortunately in our society nowadays, the trend set and outcomes are to visit family members only in The Eid Holidays – especially after the Ramadhan Holy Month – and particularly with those of us who have family members in the Interior of Oman. And that too the numbers are also dwindling fast with the growing keeping in touch modernity, consumerism and being greedy, unsatisfied, self-centred and selfish too!

The money we spend on holidays outside – and other ‘occupiers trend-setters’ could help a lot in family relationships and build ups – and what has happened lately should be a ‘wake-up’ call to all of us still in ‘slumberland’!

D     The Sick Relative!

From the above, we recently visited a family member (by rank and position) who had a major operation outside Oman – and the operation had failed drastically with consequences of semi-paralysis – a young man only in his forties! So sad and tragic! Yet for more than a year we did not visit before – except again being Eid holidays this time!

Honestly and truthfully speaking, there is no such heartbreaking, pulls-your-heart-apart-to-pieces, tear-jerking, sad-and-painful-to-witness, heart-rendering, highly-charged-and-emotional and touching scene than to see a very sick man opening his mouth to cry – as you say goodbye to him – and simply no sound comes out from his mouth – but his face is all wet and tearful! He holds your hand firmly – and begs you not to leave him alone – please-please!!

If you cannot cry yourself too – then you have lost – and need to apply again for ‘membership to be in the humanity feeling caring list’! My late Father used to tell us his children – Do not just look in comparisons and notes taking with those in front of you – but see how many people that you have left behind you!

In actual fact, there are many that are willing and ready to trade and exchange places with you at anytime that you choose and are ready to do so! We can all still learn from The Story of The Great Prophet Ayoub (Job) – Peace Be Upon Him – Allah was pleased with Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – faithfulness. He soon recovered fully from his sickness, they returned to their land gaining back the crops. Allah blessed him with more wealth then he had before. In seeing how Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – had recovered by staying strong in his faith. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – companions grew miraculously in number with added strength to their faith in Allah. May peace be upon him – Amin (Amen).

I have written considerably on this particular topic – you can find so many of them in my books – Also here at and previous ones at

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany