Between Us Only!
Do Not Complain Anymore Now!
And surely we try you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of wealth and crops, but give glad-tidings to the steadfast, who when a misfortune befalls them, say lo! We are Allah’s – possession of Allah – and to Him shall we surely return. Such are they on whom are blessings from their Lord, and mercy. Such are the rightly-guided – The Holy Quraan – Surah 2: Verse 155-157)
A – The Sick Relative – Eid Al Fitr Family Interior Visit.
Honestly and truthfully speaking, there is no such heartbreaking, pulls-your-heart-apart-to-pieces, tear-jerking, sad-and-painful-to-witness, heart-rendering, highly-charged-and-emotional and touching scene than to see a very sick man opening his mouth to cry – as you say goodbye to him – and simply no sound comes out from his mouth – but his face is all wet and tearful! He holds your hand firmly – and begs you not to leave him alone – please-please!!
If you cannot cry yourself too – then you have lost – and need to apply again for ‘membership to be in the humanity feeling caring list’! My late Father used to tell us his children – Do not just look in comparisons and notes taking with those in front of you – but see how many people that you have left behind you!
In actual fact, there are many that are willing and ready to trade and exchange places with you at anytime that you choose and are ready to do so! We can all learn from The Story of Prophet Ayoub (Job) Peace Be Upon Him.
Prophet Ayoub (Job) PBUH Grave Yard and Tomb in Salalah – Sultanate of Oman
B – The (Sick) Chief Engineer Story
(From The Article – The Beaten Up Men – Between Us Only!) – As I entered the house, followed closely by the wife, the man called out – ‘ Z, where are you?’ I held out my hand to him – he grasped it and would not let go.
Then he asked me – ‘Did you see Z? She was here just now. Where did she disappear? The man’s wife came into the room.
After normal greetings, I told her that he was looking for someone named Z. She pretended not to hear me, but just smiled. You could tell that that smile was of great hurt, pain and distress, and being forced out – because there was simply no other way, but only this way. As if taking the cue, the man asked again about Z? The poor wife replied – she will come, she just went out!
It was when I was leaving, and after a very upsetting and emotive sequence that I realized how far the man had sunk down. Not only was he paralysed half way down, but he had lost his reasoning and senses also. The woman he was asking for was his first wife, more than 30 years ago.
The woman had left him for another more powerful and richer person, though she had borne him 2 children prior her departure.
That he is feeling the pain and hurt till now must show how much he really loved her. This was his second wife, but he hardly recognized her. The good wife took it all in stride. How many other woman would just go on pretending nothing was wrong and amiss, when your husband no longer recognizes you, but keeps calling for his first wife, long time ago who had left and abandoned him too?
The man was a sad case, of life’s bitter and unexpected turnings in life. This was the Top Chief Engineer who ran the complete factory at his finger tips – now he was just a sad veggie case – who went back to be a baby wearing napkins again! The transformation was daunting and frightening – it scares one of his ‘false sense of alignment and security’ that this too could happen to anyone of us.
If you are not a Believer, you may be excused to ‘prefer death so that you do not trouble others to look after you, or you have become a “bore and nuisance” to be borne with! Hopefully no one losses patience and abandons you, as the first wife did when things had become hard and difficult, and the way out (for her at least!) was this richer other man who had shown interests in her – though he too was married. But they say – Diamonds are a Woman’s Best Friend an Are For Ever – so if you cannot afford diamonds (when to get that one day’s meal is in itself a big trial and toll on one!), can you blame the feint hearted to abandon and leave?
When I said I had to leave, the man bowed his head and held my hand tightly. He would not let go. It was then that I realized that the man was crying profusely! The wife said – ‘You are lucky he recognized you, and won’t let you go! He hardly recognizes anyone else. Sometimes he recognizes me – Sometimes he does not! Sometimes he calls me Z, and says so you have come back, and smiles as if he just got married.
Then he elapses back to the doldrums, and just weeps and cries’ – the poor woman lamented. She must be loving him very much, with stories of other family and relatives who have stopped visiting with lame excuses like ‘that we just cannot bear to see him like this, it hurts and kills us all! It is better for us not to feel our hurt and pain, if we just stop seeing him like this! They all say in unison!
The man’s story will hurt and pain anyone – anyone that is who knows to care, feel and be sensible and wise about it all.
If you do not care and feel nothing in life will ever touch you – perhaps even a death or sickness of only that of one’s own close one’s relative, friend or family.
Otherwise you just do not care or feel anymore. Hitler did it to the Jews and the Gypsies, by making them be seen as sub-human and inferior, and not one of us – and best got ridden off!
C – The Girl In A Coma
I read a story once of a 16 year old girl who was in a coma for more than one year, after a terrible road accident in one of the Gulf countries. The mother was always pleading to the doctor – switch off the machines, and let my daughter be free and go. But the Doctor would hear nothing of it. Ironically and embarrassingly to the Mother, the daughter one day woke out of the coma, and when the Mother tried to kiss the daughter, she pushed her away saying – I heard you all the
time pleading to the Doctor.
That pushed and drove me to wake up! At least Dad really cared and loved me, because he had faith and trust in Our Lord Allah!
D – The Story of the Prophet Ayoub (Job) PBUH
Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – was a descendant of A’mis, the third son of Ishaq PBUH. Allah had granted Ayyub PBUH wealth and a large family. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – was living in comfort and peace – when Allah decided to test Ayyub PBUH steadfastness in his faith.
Suddenly lightening struck and killed all of his livestock, a terrible storm destroyed his crops. His house collapsed with his family still inside, killing his children. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – pbuh – faith did not waiver. Every time that he was inflicted with a new sorrow, he would bend down in submission acknowledging that Allah Giveth and Allah Taketh away. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – test continued. He became stricken with ulcers over all his body, his flesh was began to rot off.
Several of Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – companions left him. His wife Raceme was the only one that took care of Prophet Ayyub PBUH. She would find food and feed him. She would wash, and dress his wounds.
Soon the people of their town forced Ayyub PBUH and his wife into the woods. They told them not to come to the town. All the while Ayyub PBUH faith stayed strong, firm and steadfast. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – praised Allah for what tiny food and other provisions that Allah had given them.
Allah was pleased with Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – faithfulness. He soon recovered fully from his sickness, they returned to their land gaining back the crops. Allah blessed him with more wealth then he had before. In seeing how Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – had recovered by staying strong in his faith. Prophet Ayoub (Job) – PBUH – companions grew miraculously in number with added strength to their faith in Allah. May peace be upon him – Amin (Amen).
By Majid Al Suleimany
Muscat – Sultanate of Oman.