Arrogance, Pride, Conceit, Vanity and Haughtiness 1

Arrogance, Pride, Conceit, Vanity and Haughtiness

There is nothing so untoward, unbecoming, dangerous and damaging in life than a person who is always very proud, conceited, arrogant, haughty and vain. Arrogance, Pride and Conceit are so dangerous that the Holy Quran says that if people acquire these foul traits, then these traits become a part of their nature and they become always rebellious and vain.

The Holy Quran says that even on the Day of Judgment these proud and conceited persons will behave the same way as they did in this world. They don’t see anything other than their own point of view. Those who are proud in this world will be the same in front of Allah. “Pride, conceit and boasting are deep seated illnesses. They are defined as a person viewing himself as greater and more important than others, while viewing others as inferior and mediocre.”

The Holy Quran further says that when these conceited, proud and vain persons are brought to the grounds of Judgment on Doomsday, they will learn that, in fact, they are destined for Hell. Then, they will object to Allah and accuse Him of making a mistake. They will swear that they are good people and will say that Allah is making a mistake by unjustly assigning them to Hell!

The Signs of Arrogance etc.

It manifests itself in the speech of a person when he habitually says, “I did this and I am that,” just as Satan did when he said, “I am better than him; You created me from fire, and You created him from clay.” (Qur’an 7:12). Its impact on gatherings (of knowledge and places of importance) is that one will try to push himself to go first, raise his voice over others, or seek to open the gathering.

In discussions, it manifests when a person refuses to listen to those who question his opinion and respond to their inquiries. An arrogant person, when he is reminded, responds harshly, and when he rebukes others, does so with extreme rigidity. Any person who sees himself better than others is an arrogant person.

References in The Holy Quran.

  • “Arrogance is refusing to acknowledge what is right and considering others to be inferior.” – [Reported
    by AI-Hakim]
  • “No one with the slightest particle of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise.” – [Reported by AI-Bukhari]
  • Allah, the Almighty, says in the Qudsi hadith, “Allah loveth not any arrogant boaster.” – [Luqman: 18]
  • Allah, the Almighty, says, “Pride is My garment and haughtiness My Mantle: whoever vies with Me for them I will throw into Hell.” – [Reported by Muslim]
  • The Messenger (pbuh) said, “A debate took place between heaven and hell. The latter said; in me shall enter tyrant and the arrogant people: while heaven said, “In me shall enter the weak and
    the lowly.”
  • Allah decided the issue by saying, You are heaven, My mercy, through you I shall have mercy on whomsoever I please; and you are hell, a place of punishment, through you I shall chastise whomsoever I like. It is incumbent upon me to fill both of you!” – [Reported by AI-Bukhari]
  • Allah, the Almighty, says, “Do not speak to the people with your face turned away, nor walk proudly on earth; for Allah does not love any arrogant boaster” – – [Luqman: 18]
  • Salama Ibn Al-Akwa’ recounted that a man was eating with his left hand in the presence of the Prophet (pbuh). The Prophet (pbuh) told him, “Eat with your right.” To which the man replied, “I
    cannot.”
  • Though nothing stopped him but arrogance. The Prophet (pbuh) said,’ “May you not be able to” And the man could never lift his right hand to his mouth again.” – [Reported by Ahmad and AI-Hakim and it is an authentic hadith]
  • “Shall I tell you who the people of the Hell-Fire are? The cruel, the haughty and the arrogant” –  Reported before]
  • “There are three people whom Allah will not speak to, look at or exonerate on the Day of Judgement, and who will have a painful torment: he who wears the hem of his garment low (out of pride), he who
    reminds recipients of his charity to them and he who sells merchandise swearing that he paid more for it than he actually did” – [Reported by Muslim, An-Nisa’i and Ibn Majah]
  • “What comes down the anklebones of the caftan is in Hell” – [Reported by AI-Bukhari]
  • “Understand that a person will not be arrogant unless he believes that he has certain religious or worldly qualities which (he views) as being perfect and complete (in comparison to others).
  • The wickedest arrogance is that of someone who exalts himself over people of his learning and gloats to himself about his superiority. The knowledge of such person is of absolutely no benefit to him.
  • There is no power nor might save in Allah Most High, Most Glorious.
  • The Prophet (PBUH) said, “Quarreling and arguing is not the way of Muslims. I will not intercede on their behalf on the Day of Judgment if they indulge in such things.” He (s) added, “First Allah ordered me to stop people from idol worship and polytheism. The next thing he ordered me to do was to stop people from argument and quarrel!”
  • The Prophet of Allah (PBUH) said – Whoever exercises patience at the time of an argument, will be rewarded with three gardens in Paradise. Of these three gardens two are named Ridwan and Aden. The third garden has no particular name.

The Causes of Arrogance

Sheikh al-Jawi, in his commentary on al-Ghazzali’s text wrote,

  • The first is knowledge
  • The second is being active, and in worship
  • The third is lineage (ancestry)
  • The fourth is beauty
  • The fifth is wealth
  • The sixth is strength and power
  • The seventh is having a large following, students and close friends.”

Types of Pride and Conceit

  • One type of conceit results in argument and quarrel. This means that the person insists on getting his way and wants others to accept his point of view. This trait is more pronounced in some persons. They tend to force their opinions on others.
  • Another type of conceit manifests itself in stubbornness in behaviour with others. There are people who are so stubborn that they prefer to jump into a deep well rather than change their point of view. This is a very harmful and dangerous trait.
  • Another type of conceit results in excessive expectations on others.
  • One of the fruits of conceit is refusing to accept any criticism.
  • Criticising people is necessary but more important is to accept and take constructive criticisms in the right spirit. People face difficulties in this matter.
  • Amongst my brothers my favourite is one who informs me of my failings and defects. Bihar, Vol 74, Page 282
  • Money and wealth – especially those that got them quickly and unexpectedly – and FORGET to Thank Allah SWT.
  • Being highly opinionated, prejudiced, bias, stereotyping others – and ridiculing and belittling others in
    life!

Note

Arrogance, Pride, Conceit, Vanity and Haughtiness

Major part of this article has been taken from the book ‘Kitabul Kabayer’ (Major Sin) – Written by : Imam Shamsu ed-Deen, Ad-Dhahabi.

Let us try our level best to avoid eternal Hell Fire and The Punishment of The Grave – AMIN

RAMADHAN KAREEM.

Majid Al Suleimany.

Our Own Lives To Run! Or Respect Your Parents! 2

The Oman Daily Observer
Features – Between Us Only! – Of Sunday August 7th 2011
 


Between Us Only!  

Our Own Lives To Run!

Or Respect Your Parents! 

This is a familiar call and cry nowadays in many homes with working children – but how often and how much? Please read on…

Or Respect Your Parents!

From what I hear all around, there is this increasing ugly development and phenomena now in society. That is of the working now children forgetting and disrespecting their parents – and having no time for their parents! The element also of being ungrateful with short memories of how their parents had sacrificed a lot – and took care of them since small – and the children forget who their parents are now! Many parents are now facing this increasing ugly development, situation and phenomena – that is of the children being ungrateful inconsiderate and not in remembrance towards their parents!

But we have also heard of – ‘Spare the rod, and spoil the child’ – or similar – how you rear the child is how that child becomes in the future!  The children nowadays are becoming increasingly self-centred, selfish and greedy too! When the children were young – many parents failed to show them that life is a matter of give and take. Of remembering and being grateful! Parents give their children everything and have never asked anything from them – even symbolic like to go and bring them a glass of water – or open the door instead of the parent or maid!

Not all the parents can still depend on themselves – with even their pensions not being secured, forthcoming and a surety – and themselves being in great financial stress and troubles! The children are also in great financial problems with all kinds of loans taken – and the end result is a great tear at the society fabric as a result!

When you have money everybody respects you and when you have no money nobody wants to know you! Even your owen blood and flesh do not care about anybody s- ince now they have their own families – and ignore their parents. Allah Kareem. This is what brings for us a “TEST” to show how strong our Iman (faith) is – but children forget what you have sacrificed your life for them. God Is Great!

Truthfully May Allah (God) Give us the willpower and the strength to stand this and take us when we still are capable of taking care of ourselves but never depend on children – as they have their own lives to look into – and they do not require parents any more is what they think of that they will not and do not need our help any more.

As a kid in that distant land I grew up, we did not have Television then – but just radios – and that too you are lucky to have! In the common lingo there they used to stage dramas and plays – and one of them was comedian Mr. Jongoo (J from now – an African name!)  Family Episodes.

In one of the episodes, J sells of almost everything he owns and possesses to send his son to study in England. He goes on bragging that my son got a Degree in Engineering, and he will return home soon to take ‘a big fat job’. So he brags to his friends – My problems are soon going to be over – my son will return soon and take us to his big house. He plans for his son to marry his cousin – a village girl but only educated to Primary school. What more does he want? So
long as she can read his letters from England – and that is that
!

The ‘shock and awe’ is more on J whose son  returns with his own frame of mind and thinking and he wants to marry another girl from the town highly educated and sophisticated – but from another tribe – and even in beliefs! The son warns the father – I am over 18 – and there is civil marriage registration in case ‘you want to fight with me’. The father and mother both give in! The son does get a big and fat job – and moves into a ‘big villa’ in town!

After the wedding in town in a big hotel, J and wife decide to go and stay with the son and on their own decision without consulting the son! Another ‘shock and awe’ as they are rebuffed and in receiving rough and raw treatment as being unwelcomed! The daughter-in-law speaks in English to her husband – What kind of parents do you have here – they do not know even how to use the flushing toilets – and use ‘their dirty hands’ to eat food! And see how dirty they look and present themselves – and making the house all dirty with their village baskets and bags! I feel so ashamed!

Then the son replies in English – They are my parents. I cannot tell them to go – but ifthey go – all the better for everyone! Unknown to them a visitor passes these messages to J – who confronts the son that he had sold everything he owned to get him this education – And this is how you treat and repay us now? I leave everything to God only – The father cries!

They return to the village – though it is a comedy (of errors!) but nobody is laughing as the villagers sadly receive them back home! Soon after somehow twists and ironies of fate and life – the son somehow losses both job (and his-good-weather-wife) – and asks for forgiveness from his family and the village – and end of drama play!

As I grew up in life, I said to myself – Inshallah I will never be like this son to his parents! I will try all my level best – so help me God! Amin – Amen.

PLEASE – Respect and Esteem Your Parents! A Universal Message – Especially to All The Youth. See the video and more details at the site!

Take Care! Happy Ramadhan Greetings!

By Majid Al Suleimany

 

PLEASE – Respect and Esteem Your Parents!

Please watch the video here – or below.

Video 1

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Translation In English – Respect and Esteem Your Parents!

In short the son agitated on the father asking what is that? A sparrow (bird)! The old man asking the same question all over again!

The Father goes inside the house and brings out a diary to the angry irritated son showing how many times the son had asked the same questions as a child – but the father did not get angry! Actually the son had asked 21 times the same question!

The son apologises and hugs the father – followed by verses in The Quraan saying how we should behave to our parents – like giving them nice comforting words – and not to scream and shout at them – even if we were angry!

A Universal Message – especially to The Youth.

Enjoy … and remember the message!

Actually no language is needed to explain it… The body signs say it all!

You see we are all together in this … and each basket has bad apples (fish)!!

I do not know why there is now so much worry, fear, hatreds, animosities and anger nall around owadays!

Try Here Also If Above fails….!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzD4J7q3VCA

http://www.friendskorner.com/forum/f137/video-respect-your-parents-189150/

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http://www.friendskorner.com/forum/f137/video-respect-your-parents-189150/

Respect Your Parents Film!

by Majid Al-Suleimany on January 6, 2011 – 1 comment

The film is in Turkish I think?


This bored old man is sitting on a bench with his young son on a bench outside their home. The son is reading a newspaper, ignoring his bored father.

A sparrow lands on the grass in front of them continuously chirping. So the old man asks – What is that? A sparrow the son replies. Again the Father asks – the same answer. A number of times the son becomes angry and starts talking loudly to the father – what is wrong with you?

Being disturbed away from reading his newspaper – A bird! I told you a sparrow! A bird!

The Father gets up. Now the son asks – Now where are you going? The Old man says with his hands it is alright – and he goes back in the house. The son is seen lamenting on his action. The Father emerges with a diary in his hands and sits down with the son. He asks him to read a particular entry in the diary. Aloud he says to the son. The entry says – My son of three years of age today asks me what is this? I replied him it was a bird – a sparrow! He asked me the same question 21 times more – but I was not angry – because I can see that my son is very excited to have seen this bird!

The son now breaks down – and hugs the father – followed by The Teachings on Respecting Our Parents.

Tears come out whenever I see this film – and I wish I had given my parents more time and attention when they were still alive!

Take Care! Happy Ramadhan Greetings!

By Majid Al Suleimany