Between Us Only! Still Burning Homes! 2

Between Us Only! Still Burning Homes!

Between Us Only! Still Burning Homes!

This is in answer to the many fans’ queries that I do not write much amongst on other topics on the increasing marriages break-ups nowadays – some even long married couples.

Frankly, this subject has been covered by me many times before – and as early as at 6th August 2003 – titled ‘Burning Homes’! Please see my book Between Us Only! –

This is what I had said – Quote – But what is this new ugly and unpleasant development now in our homes? This ‘domestic violence’ thing? Do we need an excuse? The dishes and the foreign films and dramas that are beamed to our homes? Or is that the new in-thing fashion now, the provocations and ‘do not care stuff’ – followed by lifting of the hand and beating up that poor creature that bore you babies you call your own and have made you proud too? Do you consider the effects on the children? Hey – what is wrong with us nowadays?

Is it the increased selfishness, materialism and blind emulating and copying of values that are not our own? Against the very fabric of our society in all aspects and values, against The religious peoples need to do something more in this field. And our elders and parents too need to get more involved. Including relatives and friends, who prefer the easy way out of not getting involved or be interested, or feign and pretend they do not know, or have not been told! This respect for the marriage institution need to be rekindled and nurtured back into being once again – coupled with our true values, traditions, customs and heritages!

Not forgetting honesty, loyalty, sincerity, genuineness and care and feelings for each other in the marriage institution! And watching the wrong messages and bad consequences that we are passing on to our kids and the future generations. Definitely marital bliss needs to be looked into – and domestic violence has to be put a stop to immediately first. People need to be open and talk to each other. If they cannot do it themselves, others caring MUST step in – before it is too late for everyone!! Allah be with us all – Amin! – Unquote.

This is what I had also said in my article dated 18th August 2010 titled – ‘Why Even Long Married Couples Marriages Fail Also!’ – I wrote – Quote – Have you wondered on this new phenomenon nowadays? Increasing number of married couples – some married as long as thirty years and plus – are going in for separation and divorces – and it can all be summed up under one line – Lack of Care and Communication Syndromes! Apart from the marriages of couples under Thirties that fail at an average of 33% in their first two years of marriage – a pattern that can be found in many countries of the world – and increasing – and including the rising economies like in India, China and Brazil and even the Arab countries of The Middle East – and particularly now in The GCC. Countries.

In actual fact, the latter has an increasingly alarming rate of divorces amongst the younger generation – stretching from even 1 day to 3 months duration in the first two years of marriage as being the norm rather than the exception! At an age that couples should be together to enjoy their long life together – and their grandchildren – many of the older couples are seeking separation and divorces like going in for hot crispy cakes! ….. Bottom line – it is not a question of being who is right or wrong – or winning in an argument! But in many cases of more than one – and more importantly nowadays – it is a simple case of what can lead to bigger more explosive and damaging things in life – some really unnecessary, uncalled for unwarranted and unwanted. Especially for a couple married so long!

Talking of separations and of divorces too! Especially in this now difficult and hart times in our lives now – when even the retired and pension salaries are no longer guaranteed or even safe! Money is the root of all evils – as they say! Or hungry stomachs! – Unquote.

For us Muslims especially – the coming Holy Month of Ramadhan is the month of compassion, kindness, caring, touch and feelings! Charity begins at home – let us all try extra hard – at least for the sake of our children (and grandchildren) – and for being good Believers too! As it is said – ‘following the steps of the husband’ and ‘following the steps of our parents – especially the Mothers’ is a sure way for opening the doors of the highest heavens for us – and avoidance of the punishment of the grave!

Take Care! Happy Ramadhan Greetings!

By Majid Al Suleimany

The Office Versus The Home! Reply

At My Work Place!

The Office Versus The Home!

Or – Who is the bigger boss?

Ask even the most ardent and zealous workaholic you may meet in your life – and he or she will give you the same answer – of course it is the home which is more important to me than the office – but in many cases more than one he will be deceiving no one but himself or herself only!

A good friend of mine – the irony is that he himself is – in all sense and aspects of the word – a workaholic – and a worst case scenario one that I had ever seen! But then it is easier to preach than to practice! However, he forwarded me this short – but to the point speech given by the Former CEO of Coca Cola Bryan Dyson – and I thought it was very nice to share with you my Readers.

The message said – “Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them – Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you’re keeping all of these in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls –  Family, Health, Friends and Spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.

Work efficiently during office hours and leave on time. Give the required time to your family, friends and have proper rest. Value has a value only if its value is valued.”

How many times we get similar good messages from good and well intentioned friends. But do we take care and notice? Or try to rectify, amend and change our lives? Certainly not – the advice goes from one ear – and out of the other!

Those of you who are my avid and keen readers of mine will have noted that I always give personal experienced examples in my articles and in illustration. If you have read my article A Question of Loyalty last month you must have remembered about me writing about Mr. Care Free (CF). You can still find the article here in my website That was a live example of a person who cared and minded just enough to assure he got his pay check – but his top priorities were more at his home and family more!

The Offices Can Still Be Happy Places!

A good British friend of mine advised me of how his first marriage ended in divorce – and the second one was heading to the rocks too. He was working for this Far Eastern company that thought it just-in for staff to remain in the offices until 10 or 11 p.m. at night as ‘just a normal continouos routine thing and practice to do’. When he came home his wife had moved into the children’s room – and the whole house was ‘cool and lukewarm’ – his own words to me!  He came to his senses after reading my book Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! –

You see we were both working in the same company – and I could not keep on the charades and acts any further – with the strains on the family for me! In the end we departed – peacefully and amicably – after initial comments like how can you as the top Senior Omani go home earlier than us? And after investing in your country too (sic)! Even though they had all their families abroad – but that did not strike them to the fundamental and critical difference between us!

In the book I had saidNowadays it is just not enough only to have your personal and job dedication and commitment – what is needed by them is a complete abdication and surrender in commitment, dedication, loyalty, faithfulness etc to your work, job aspects, and responsibilities. Just your input is not enough, far more is required”.

But Family Comes First!

I know of a good friend of mine who was a crazy workaholic – but not that only –but his loyalties and allegiances were more to his company Management – than to his family and friends. When he became very sick and ailing he was slowly and carefully being sidelined and being marginalized – to the extent he ended being medical boarded. During his time of hospitalization, a few flowers and cards were sent to him at the hospital – with some lower end ranks visiting more than
the higher ones! In a few weeks time – these too dried up. When he saw me he cried like a baby – and in front of his family!

Happy Family Faces – With All At Home In Time!

Please do not be like these peoples – and just keep remembering and keep in mind what Mr. Bryan Dyson above had said !


 Majid Al Suleimany.


But It Is In My Nature…….! Reply

Between Us Only!

 But It Is In My Nature!

The Oman Daily Observer Link.

Can you change one’s nature or character?  Or behaviour and personality traits?  Does a leopard lose its spots? Or the tiger its stripes? The saying goes – That once you cross the age of 40 –  there is simply no way to change one’s own character or nature.  Old habits die hard – it is said! Remember the scorpion and frog story? About the frog carrying the begging help-me-please-to-cross-the river scorpion across the river – and the frog got stung half-way!.

But it is my nature – I just cannot change – said the scorpion – as both drown!. 


If you are a Believer, you know than that there are other stages awaiting you, even after departing from this world.

 Prior Departing – The Punishment first in this world. 

 After DeathThe Punishment of the Grave and The Day of Reckoning – Judgment Day!

 Then all that you had acted in this work, good or bad – or those things you could have done to stop or prevent harm and damages to others, but did not lift a finger to prevent – you will be held accountable for and due punishments (or rewards)
vetted on you.

Many of us are firm believers that ‘what goes around, comes around” – and if you do something intentionally bad and evil to someone (worse case scenario is if you do it against someone who considers you close a friend, or someone who has done NOTHING bad against you) – then you do get paid back in this world itself – even before you depart to the next world. If not you than someone very close and dear to you!

 Look at these: examples –  

  • If you tell lies and fibs against someone – especially behind his or her back – you are one of those who fit the above scenario.
  • If you say I called this person to come and see us, but he did not – and you know well that it is not true – only getting that person into unnecessary and avoidable troubles, pain, shame and degradation.
  • If you say that he is not performing well on the job (but you know he /she does), or apportion blame and criticisms to some aspects that he/she has no responsibility or control for, and the person is either by-passed (or even terminated).
  • If you cause divisions, split and separations between husband and wife, or between brother and brother, or brother and sister, parents, family and children etc.
  • If you swear to be speaking the truth, and you know it is not so – and lend someone in great troubles and distress.
  • If you feel that you are superior, of higher grade and status – and more important than everyone else around you!
  • If you unfairly and unkindly assess someone in work and or in life!
  • If you willfully interfere in the Rizq (Livelihood) of someone.
  • If you apportion and push blame and criticisms wrongly and unfairly to someone
  • If you bear witness and swear to be speaking the truth – and you know it is not so – and lend someone in great troubles and distress.
  • If you feel that you are that superior, of higher grade and status – and more important than everyone else around you!
  • If it is within your power and control to change wrong things or unjust actions done – but do nothing – you cannot be different – you too are in the same category above.  Because you caused great harm and damages to others.
  • If you know someone is in great troubles and difficulties, and he or she has even approached you to ask for your help and intervention – and you simply just do nothing, because you simply do not feel like doing so!
  • If your actions, behaviours, attitudes etc. would result in pain, troubles, degradations and shame to others – you cannot escape yourself (or those near you) what you have done to others yourself or caused to happen to others.

The beauty of it all is that you may have well forgotten – and then you get your ‘reward’!  Only you will be saying – ‘Why is this happening to me?  I do not deserve this!   – because as usual in you – you have already easily and conveniently forgotten!

There are so many other examples – but leave these few to jog you mind a bit.  There is nothing worse than the ‘curse of a
victimized brutalized innocent person or his/her cries and pain in quiet and in sufferance.

 Then there are those who believe in Reincarnation.  If you did something good or nice in this world, you will return as one in some good shape – like a butterfly or bird (pigeon), but if bad – back like a scorpion or snake!

 My 12 year old daughter one day asked me this question.  She (like other daughters) are all named M!   So she asks me – Dad, it is said when we die, on the Day of Judgment we shall be brought back to form to be held accountable for all our sins in this world? 

I said yes, M my daughter!  Then she tells me – Please explain this to me.  When Lady Indira Ghandi was assassinated, her ashes were thrown around in the Himalayas Mountains by a helicopter?  As per her wishes?  I said – I think I have read that so to be true.  She then asks me – If that is true, then how can she be brought back to life in one form (as her ashes has been spread all around?)

 I was lost of words.  I looked at her.  The silence was deadening.  How could she at age 12 think of these things, we adults take longer to understand and comprehend?  I just visualized myself asking this type of question (at our generation!) to my late dad (pbub).  I do not think I would have had the opportunity to finish the sentence – because a slap would have landed on my face before I had to time to finish!

 I asked this question to one Priest (Religious Scholar) and he got angry as I had predicted!  What he told me in short was
I should have known from the beginning.  That is nothing – simply nothing – that could prevent Allah SWT to bring
back anything the Lord Has Himself created!


Have you heard this story – just of finish off in a lighter mood (as the subject itself is all serious?)  A scorpion saw a frog.  So he told the frog – I have my relative who is sick on the other side of the river.  I want to go to visit him.  Can
you carry me across? 

The frog said – Do you think I was born yesterday?  If I do that you will sting me on my back and I shall then die.  The scorpion said – How can I do that?  Did I not just now request you to carry me across?  Do you take to be crazy
or stupid?  
The frog was convinced.

So it said to the scorpion – Okay jump on my back!  As they were crossing the river, the scorpion said – See, you did not
trust me – now do you believe me?  Did I sting you?  No
– said the frog – I am sorry.  Few minutes later half-way the river – the scorpion stung the frog.

Whatever are you doing?  Do you know what you have just done?  I shall now die –drown –  and you will drown too

Yes – replied the scorpion – I know!  But it is my nature – I just cannot change.

Take Care!

By  – Majid Al Suleimany

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Why Employees Leave Organisations? Paak Ghaaya! Reply

July 20, 2011.

At My Work Place!

Why Employees Leave Organisations?

Paak Ghaaya!

This is the Longer Version – Not as sent to The Oman Daily Observer (shorter words reduced!)

For those who do not know what it means, I know you are dying to let me tell you  what it means, but have patience with me Dear Reader; because it is going to be clear in the next few sentences! I can assure you that it is Hindi, just in case you are wondering what it all means! And why not? After all, I have a great following in this group too!

 You know those of us so-called Human Resources Professionals always say this thing – it is not the reasons given to you by a Staff who is leaving the establishment (mad house! Or one flew over the cuckoo’s nest!) That is valid and being more important but actually what was it that had prompted that person to start to look for another job in the first instance that is more important! Does not make any sense, or is the gist lost in its meanings? Let me  explain.

 In normal what they refer in Human Resources as an Exit Interview (let us ask you why you are leaving interview), the Staff may give a number of reasons why. For example the salary is higher being received in the new place. Perhaps and or fringe benefits and perks, or a higher more senior job even if sometimes there maybe no visible financial advantages per se (in some cases even losing out financially – but then you may be right in thinking that no ‘one is mad enough’ to do such a thing!

 You may be right too, but do not forget that there is a mad house out there too, and peoples are capable of doing the least and when expected syndromes too!). But then it is easy for us to judge as ‘outsiders’ and unless these things have happened to you or are happening to you now! Trust my word on it, I know I have been there too, in many times and too close for comfort either!

 What I am trying to say here is this – as an establishment you need to find out what was it that had prompted that staff to apply outside in the first instance! It could be a small thing to the boss in charge and or to the establishment, but could be a major issue and or catastrophe to the Staff.

 For example? When a Boss shouts and screams to a subordinate in front of his own peers and his own subordinates, what does this Boss expect? What do we have big rooms for
Managers and Supervisors for? It is to use for privacy and discuss sensitive issues in the privacies of those rooms. Like a sceptic friend of mine would have remarked – The big rooms surely not for decoration, but for usage. He would go on to say – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations!

 It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before: This is why people leave organizations – Azim Premji. – WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS? – (much of this article is based from that article) unquote.

 The article goes on – Every company normally faces one common problem of high employee turnout ratio. People are leaving the company for better pay, better profile or simply for just one reason’ paak ghaya ‘.

 Why do experienced, professional and talented employees leave despite a top salary?

 The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called First Break All the Rules.

 It came up with this surprising finding: If you’re losing good people, look to their  immediate supervisor. More than any other single reason, he is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization.  And he’s the reason why they quit, taking their knowledge, experience and contacts with them. Often, straight to the competition.

 People leave Managers not Companies,” write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman. “So much money has been thrown at  the challenge of keeping good people – in the form of better pay, better  perks and better training – when, in the end, turnover is mostly  Manager  issue.”

 If you have a turnover problem, look first to your Managers.   Are they driving people away?

 Beyond a point, an employee’s primary need has less to do with money, and more to do with how he’s treated and how valued he feels. Much of this depends directly on the immediate manager. And yet, bad bosses seem to happen to good people everywhere..

 A Fortune magazine survey some years ago found that nearly 75 per cent of employees have suffered at the hands of difficult superiors. You can leave one job to find – you guessed   it, another wolf in a pin-stripe suit in the next one.

 Of all the workplace stressors, a bad boss is possibly the worst, directly impacting the emotional health and productivity of employees. HR Experts say that of all the abuses, employees find public humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a Thought has been planted…

 The second time that thought gets strengthened.  The third time, he starts looking for another job.  When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and NO MORE. This is done by omitting to give the boss crucial and very essential information.

 That could impact and seriously jeopardize an organization. Have you seen this in real life? A new staff joins and is highly keen and motivated. He seriously and genuinely cares and feels for the organization. At the risk of his own job (remember probation and can be terminated in a week’s notice at the least?) he speaks his mind in order to try to rectify, remedy and correct a situation.

 His peers look up at him in disdain, cynicism and even bordering contempt – in their hearts they say we have seen and heard these all over before (so what else is new?). In the end another (new) frustrated, de motivated, dehumanized Staff hits the dust! Another casualty figure to contend!

 That is Paak Ghaya, or in Hindi – over ripe fruit, cannot be eaten anymore!

 It is said – “If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble.  (The sooner the better!) You don’t have your heart and soul in the job”. The day he leaves, there is a BIG CELEBRATION party the villain has gone, no more trouble, no more pain, no more suffering. Until the new Manager has come in ‘with a new broom sweeping better’ – unless and until that is he starts to behave like his old peer again (Remember Animal Farm?).

 Different Managers can stress out employees in different ways – by being too controlling,
too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, too manipulative (divide and conquer syndrome, even if it is the establishment that eventually suffers!) – But they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit – often over seemingly trivial issue.

 It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before. And while it’s true that people leave jobs for all kinds of reasons- for better opportunities or for circumstantial reasons, many who leave would have stayed – had it not been for one man constantly telling them, as Arun’s boss did: “You are dispensable. I can find dozens like

 While it seems like there are plenty of other fish especially in today’s waters, consider for a moment the cost of losing a talented employee. There’s the cost of finding a replacement.

 The cost of training the replacement. The cost of not having someone to do the job in the meantime. The loss of clients and contacts the person had with the industry. The loss of morale in co-workers. The loss of trade secrets this person may now share with others.

 Plus, of course, the loss of the company’s reputation. Every person who leaves a   corporation then becomes its ambassador, for better or for worse.

 We all know of large IT companies that people would love to join and large television companies few want to go near. In both cases, former employees have left to tell their tales. “Any company trying to compete must figure out a way to engage the mind of every

 Jack Welch of GE once said.   Much of a company’s value lies “between the ears of its employees”.  If it’s bleeding talent, it’s bleeding value.

Unfortunately, many senior executives busy traveling the world, signing new deals and
developing a vision for the company, have little idea of what may be going on at home. That deep within an organization that otherwise does all the right things, one man could be driving its best people away.

 Next time you as the Manager or Supervisor feel like screaming and shouting at that Staff of yours – THINK AGAIN. As I said before – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations!


 Majid Al Suleimany

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I will try for A Cry for Help book at least – and others too – Inshallah when I have the money one day Amin… but THIS IS GOOD NEWS!!!!!!!!!!

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Is It Time For The Expatriates ‘To Start To Think To Start’ To Leave? Reply


Link Also Here –

Is It Time For The Expatriates ‘To Start To Think To Start’ To Leave?

A Question For The Expatriates To Ask For Themselves Only!

My Five Books Images –


There was an article a few weeks back by a famed Omani Columnist titled – ‘Fearing axe expats leaving for good’! This is my dire attempt to try to address that assertion being made.

“O my people! I have indeed conveyed to you the Message of my Lord, and I have given you good advise but you like not good advisers.” (Ch 7:73-79 Quran)

Prophet Saleh – (MethuSaleh) – Peace Be Upon Him.

No one is listening to me – now I know how a radio feels! – Grandpa Abe Simpson.

The problem is many people hear – but few listen! – Anon

Importantly and more sadly, it cannot be denied that a lot of things have changed in our Oman now – especially with our Youth! Things will never ever be the same again!  All the things I had tried to caution and counsel have come into being – especially in my two Management books – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – and more importantly even in the title itself – A Cry for Help! The book was published one year before what had
happened to us! –


I am writing this all today because of the article – see it here –

Reply to Saleh Shaibany –

 Also this one –

v – The New Future.

v – What The Old Man Said!

 Also this article – – Time To Say Goodbyes!

v – Equal Opportunity and Pay

Please read all these articles in joint consultation with this write up.


No one knows how far this is true but the story goes on like this. After Iddi Amin the ex
Ugandan Dictator had ‘chucked out Asians’ from Uganda, there were stories that some local peoples had approached also the then President of Tanzania – Julius Nyerere and asked him – What about us in Tanzania? Are we going also to ask the Asians to leave as Uganda has done?

Iddi Amin had accused the Asians of siding with the British to destroy ‘from within‘the economy of Uganda. He also said he had received a ‘dream’ from God to ‘chuck out all the Asians’ in Uganda! Nyerere is purported to have replied – No we will not tell anybody to leave – but they will all leave by themselves without us telling them to do so! – Which
they did – especially after the ‘Ujamaa’ Socialist policies then! Tanzanian Asians mainly were the next exodus to leave Tanzania – just like their Ugandan brethrens!

Known for his temperamental and unpredictable behaviours, in a speech to his peoples he – Iddi Amin – took a ‘Citizenship’ document of an Asian named Patel – he tore it up and exclaiming – Mr. Patel – you are now no longer the citizen of The Republic of Uganda! He added – No longer ‘Paper Citizens’ – We do not want them here anymore! – To wild acclaim,
applause and cheers from his congregation – of the indigenous African population of Uganda!

There were many of us who had left early from Zanzibar after the bloody revolution of January 1964 to move to places like Dar es Salaam and other places in Tanzania and Kenya mainly. Incidentally few Arabs origins in Uganda were touched by Iddi Amin calling himself as a ‘Muslim’ and allied to the Palestinian cause. I wonder how many Asians who might have been pro-Palestinians but were still on those planes leaving Uganda for mainly UK, Canada and Australia – and had missed the boat in joint affiliations with Iddi Amin on these leanings?

Anyway, those of us who lived in Tanzania were subjected to continuous embarrassing searches – even at homes – and if known as ex Zanzibar Refugees. The situation went worse after the assassination of Abeid Amani Karume – the then President of Zanzibar – by one ‘Arab’ youth who was pro the system and was working in the Army. They were called Comrades’ or the Socialists supported by Cuba and China mainly – and had sided with the majority Africans against the fellow ‘Arab Government’ under the then the Sultan of Zanzibar – linked to the Al Busaidy family in Oman!

There were also ‘forced marriages’ when Arab, Indian and Persian girls were forced to get married to young African men – and this was the time of mass exodus of ‘coloured’ peoples in Zanzibar. Luckily, India and Iran had accepted their citizens – we Omanis were not that lucky – though the Yemenis were more luckier than us – despite their South Yemen Communist Government was in cohort with the Zanzibar Government – politics make strange bed fellows

The point is that Yemenis too were massacred in this bloody Zanzibar revolution, though! Just like the Omanis and the Arabs too – and like in Ruanda even some ‘moderate fellow Africans’ too! This was the first ethnic cleansing in Africa – not the Ruanda ones. In all these the role of ‘our protectors’ the British is all vague – and we keep forgetting they may have their own agendas – which are not necessarily parallel and linked to us then the Sultanate of Zanzibar – or the Arab side either!

You will forgive me for going far stretched out in all these – but the connections and filling in the dots will become hopefully very clear! Give me a shout – if not!

As a College student in Morogoro Tanzania at the time of the assassination of Karume, some Arab students were arrested after ‘celebrating’ this. I am not stupid nor naïve after having seen myself nearly shot and my late Father too (Please read the articles – relevant parts – Appendices My Broken Heart! and The Glass Is Bent!) – So I knew what to expect.
In my diary of the day I wrote – ‘Very sad news today of the assassination of Karume’ in brief. Sometime later – a good friend of mine – an African indigenous sidled down to me whispering to me – It is good they killed the fu …ng bas…rd! – All the time he was chatting and occupying me, my college room was being searched by their peoples.

When I returned, I found my diary at the entry that it was written – and I knew that they must have photographed it – finding nothing on me – they left me alone. A few months later, I left the course and joined ESSO (EXXON) – and a few months still later on left for Oman in November 1973 – under the then UN Refugee programme under UAE Rulers then – and after the Accession of His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said – May Allah Give him long life and health – Amin. Omanis started to leave East Africa to return home – after many of their Indian peers had already been millionaires in especially Canada and USA – but those were the dark gloomy days of Oman history!

Strangely my late Father who had gone to Africa to follow his father – my father with his two children at 12 boy (elder brother of mine) and 8 girl (elder sister) and with his wife – all Arabs and Omanis and born in Oman – he was the first one to return to Oman – he was arrested and  jailed in Oman. In anger, he sold off all his properties then in 1956 at Quriyat Al Hail Gaaf – the twists and ironies of life – because 6 years later the Zanzibar bloody Revolution wished he did not! Especially when final return in 1972!

The person who bought his property became one of the richest families post the Ascension! Twists and ironies too it was the time of the Dhofar Rebellion wars when he came back in 1972 – and he was arrested (again) because his boat and with others was caught off (suspiciously) outside Dhofar waters – poor peoples desperate to return home and mistaken for rebel  supporters instead! The irony too was that we had the same friends protecting us both in Zanzibar and in Oman!

The Arab Spring Uprisings.


I do not want to go into details in this – as too we in Oman did not escape it! However, you are invited to also read this – An Open Letter To The Omani Youth. –

Also – All Under One Flag.

And – Forty Years On!

So What Has Changed Now?

I can safely say this – That Oman will never be the same again. A lot of things have changed. All the things I had tried to pre-warn and counsel have come into being. Especially in my two Management books – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – and more  importantly even in the title – A Cry For Help! The book was published ONE YEAR BEFORE The Arab Spring Uprisings!

The Book Theme – A Cry For Help!

A frank, honest, transparent, open and call-a-spade-a-spade no punch-spared, no barrels held stuff and no frills play book exposing the increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism
and tolerance – plus increased radicalisation, extremism and increased fundamentalism of the Offices environment – and in similar to the overall similar fast changing facts of the ground in the region.

Addressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism, and lack of tolerance and forbearance in the Arab workforce, Author Majid Al Suleimany presents A Cry for Help! –  Context and Perspectives – Arabian Management Services.

In three parts, A Cry for Help! concentrates on the management styles and aspects of companies located in the Arabian Gulf Cooperation Council that encompasses Oman, United Arab Emirates, Qatar, Kuwait, Bahrain and Saudi Arabia.

It discusses the:

• Growing radicalization of local staff

• Misbehaving expatriates

• Unhappy, dissatisfied staff

Bad treatment of Local Staff – especially by some Expatriates – mainly Indian, European and Western Staff on Locals

• Increasing extremism and fundamentalism in The Offices

For more on my books information and details – please visit

Those who thought I was just stirring up the pot in creating artificial troubles, situations and will-not-ever-come-to-pass-in Oman-at least must have their words and tongues eaten up as the Arabs say! – because I as an Omani loyal and faithful citizen was sincere, honest and genuine. In the end, I was targeted and marginalized – and I had never received any
Management Projects or Temporary Contracts after that – though I had applied many times to any openings that had arisen!

Sadly and tragically for An Author who knows many profile personalities – including HH, HE and many top Omani CEOs and GMs! – some whom I did successful projects before! You see it is all about my books! I know the sarcastic lot amongst you would add – Should we stop
playing the violin now?
But that does not bother me at all – my conscience, body and mind is crystal clear – and feel vindicated too – I think! Though very sad, unhappy and desolate that all my cautions and advices went to waste – and this should not have happened to us – as we were a beacon to be followed and to be emulated by others in GCC, Arab World – and even the world too!!

The Omani Youth have now changed forever. See here for all the topics I had written about CHANGES – in addition to my books above –
– articles concerning changes only from January 2009 – let alone the books!

I can also say that the worst that has come out of all these is the drawing up of artificial lines and borders on the grounds – and that took the greatest hit and toll is the relationships now and the future mainly between Omanis (especially The Youth) and the Expatriates (The Old

Admittedly, Omanis generally are still over friendly, accommodating, respectful to expatriates – ever still weak and docile – and preferring expatriates to locals at all times – because they are ‘cheaper, trustworthy and more reliable’ syndromes.

Do not get me wrong – I am not against expatriates – especially without the expatriate lower ends labourers GCC countries will not be like what it is today. That is an undeniable fact – even if hard to swallow by some of us! We owe them the thanks appreciation and gratitude too at least!

I agree too that there is still some mass mistreatment and injustice to this labour force – and though steps have been started to amend and remedy the situation – it is still vague and  farfetched. Far more needs to be done still!

I am not naïve and stupid either – I know there are many jobs that expatriates are still better off in doing and in performance you name it!  Some are so indispensable – that if they go – the establishments they are in would most probably too collapse! The best example is the Municipal Cleaners – at 2 a.m. still cleaning the streets – whilst the rest of Oman is sleeping!

However, if you have read this it will show you that the picture is not that rosy – Why There Is A Need To Omanise? Also here –
– Equal Opportunity and Pay! Also –

Let us also face it!

If the tables were turned today and I had to work for my living in UK, USA, Europe or India etc – I will always be on my toes – show I am better than them – either openly (or by hidden innuendos and agendas) – work very hard and diligently – otherwise the natives will take me out of the equation – and ‘they will take our jobs’ – though I may well tend to forget that I am here temporarily – and the job is for their own Nationals first and foremost! And admittedly – there is nothing permanent, surety and forever in life – except God and Death only!

If you have watched Mumbai Calling and Outsourced comedies – you will get the gist of my meaning – of how Indians at least behave lazily at home on the work front!

The Omani Example.

Ask yourself and recorded in history and maritime too – Omanis that went out had created history – and the only non-European colonialists in Africa – see start of this write-up. Their peers stayed on and suffered in silence and agony – to the gloomy and dark days in Oman.

So what was the difference?

It was the opportunity thrown to them to the former. Today in History books in East Africa they have recorded Omanis as bringing ‘Civilization, Islam and * Cleanliness’ – though the bad side of so-called Slavery too! * Imagine my shock to see how dirty the streets were in 1973 when I came here!

There is also this element why some people will ever prefer for the expatriates to stay on! Who will rent their flats? Read their English Newspapers? Buy in the Supermarkets, Stores, and Cars? Who will the lack-of-confidence-and-trust Omani bosses shout at without impunity?

Who will do their jobs – with them only signing the documents prepared by the expatriates? And all the harassments and bad treatments? Surely no fellow Omani takers for that matter!

I think you have seen these famous British films where the joke and tease is – ‘The Natives Are Restless Tonight! – After the British Colonialists hear some distant drums beatings! – Reminds me of the song Distant Drums by Jim Reeves – That I used to like a lot as a teenager!

I have always been accused of taking my Readers up to the bridge – and then let the Reader decide for himself to cross the bridge or not!

In short, however, there is need for pragmatism, tolerance, harmony,  ynamism, patience, more cooperation and understanding – wisdom, tact and diplomacy as in all my articles and works.

Sorry for the abrupt end – you see I am really dead tired and fatigued now ….!!

Take Care!

By – Majid Al Suleimany

Muscat – Sultanate of Oman – July 12th 2011.


*** The Office Fire *** – From – Love Story.

 Five days later after the Office fire incident and his fight with the big American CEO, he had quit the place – and taking all his things in his carton. He could not understand why he cared and felt so much for the company – but here he was treated abruptly, crudely and badly too!

 As he pulled out from the place, he was crying first all inside – and then like a baby as he neared home. He had never cried like this ever before! The housemaid said to him – Do not cry boss – everything has a reason, and maybe there is something better for you to come soon.

The Madam came home – Why are you crying Darling? Do Not Cry – God will repay you. You did nothing wrong. The man thought – Men do not cry, but why am I crying now? He could not explain it.

 ***16 Years Old*** Family – From – The Glass Is Bent!

The shot rang out! They have killed my son, the Mother cried out to the rest of the Family huddled inside. Everybody was crying! We have lost our son, the Mother cried to the Father. The shot rang out again. It was all quiet outside the house, nobody knew what was happening. The one who said he was a Police Official and had lost his job – because of you peoples – had
taken the boy outside. I want your eldest son, pointing his pistol at the family. I want to ask him some questions.

When a loaded pistol points at you, there is hardly anything you can do, even if you are many. Besides, this was a new experience the family had never met before. An armed man who comes into your house –  and wanting to kill someone purposefully and wilfully – because you come from that group of peoples who had made him lose his Sergeant job – though he was not an Islander – but came from the Mainland. From even a different country for that matter!

Like they say, what goes around comes around. If you do good things to peoples as part of your family’s focus and aspirations, you will be recognized – and good things will come back to you. The other armed men were now shouting to the Ex Police Man, what are doing to the boy? They are innocent peoples, they respect everyone. Besides, they just came to this place. Leave him alone!

They were pointing guns at him. Give us your pistol, they said to the man. The man gave it up unwillingly. They – they called themselves Comrades – they hit him by the butt of the rifle. He fell down. Now run they told him – or we shall shoot you next. Like also in each basket, there are good and bad fish or  fruits – take your pick.

Your son is alive – the men in unison told the family – Do Not Cry. He shot at him, but he
missed him! It is God’s wish to send us to save you all. You need to come with us, to come to the refugee centre. This town on the outskirts are no longer safe for you peoples.
The boy went in – they all hugged him – including his younger brother who was always picking fights with him, trying to undercut him being the leader of the pack!


Equal Opportunity and Pay! Reply

For Wednesday – July 13th – At My Workplace!



At My Workplace!

 Equal Opportunity and Pay!

It is all so easy and there is always this tendency to always criticise and blame others in life – but we always do forget about ourselves in the equation and in doing so! We find scapegoats in others’ behaviours, attitudes and approaches to cover ourselves – that we are perfect, right, correct, ethical, transparent and professional – when in truth and reality we are not!

I was watching this film – Made in Dagenham a 2010 British film that dramatises the car company Ford (UK) sewing machinists strike of 1968 that aimed for equal pay for women. It
all began in the Ford motor plant in Dagenham where women workers, originally disgruntled about a new pay scheme that classed them as unskilled, finally took umbrage at the fact that they were paid far less than their male counterparts for doing the same work. The plot starts with the main character  one Rita O’Grady leading the 1968 Ford sewing machinists strike at the Ford Dagenham plant – where female workers walk out in protest against sexual
discrimination and the desire for equal pay.

It is successful and leads to the famous UK Equal Pays Act 1970 – though it shows the hardships and the repercussions of families – and as a result of the strike. The shocking part for me was the attitudes and the approaches of the head offices executives of the company
threatening an executive Minister of the state (herself a woman!). They were ready to close down the factory rather than giving in to the women strikers – and that they will move the factory to ‘other places where they will be appreciated instead’!

The film had very bad memories for me in many aspects. It reminded me that even our very own peoples do not appreciate and value us equally compared to others outsiders – and not with the local talents, expertise, skills, innovation, abilities and capabilities. That was the main reason for the collapse of my consultancy firm when the international contractor was paid three times what we were paid – yet the work was split in half – and we handled the junior levels where there were more miseries and problems.

Yet still in our jobs of Human Resources we always still find this discrimination in payment of salaries – despite those that do practise these continuing calling themselves as still righteous decent correct ethical and professional peoples – which is the more shocking part! Comments like he is from such and such a place – and that salary is too high for them – even their CEOs at home do not get paid that much! Or even if an experienced and qualified local – ‘take it or leave it’ offer – but not for others in the equation.

As a Human Resources official you have two choices – go with the orders and instructions given – or be ready to be sidelined and be marginalised if you raise any protests or stand up to be counted – or even be ready to move out and or leave! And if you go along without any remorse, compunction, conscience or guilt – the rewards are very forthcoming! Why worry about God now – you will only meet Him when you die – and that will still be some time to come yet!

It is not only this – but there are still some ‘Old Guards’ still found in some quarters – in both locals and expatriates – that would think twice – if not more times! – of recruiting the ladies in non-traditional roles reserved for them at the workplace in jobs like in Administration, Secretarial, Nursing, lower ends in Accounts and in Finance, and in Hospitality etc! A woman doctor? A woman engineer? A woman CEO? A woman head in anything (big)! You must be joking! Please be serious, man! Take your job more seriously! What is wrong with you? Ironically, the man has daughters at home – sisters too – that he surely would not want to be
discriminated against!

As I had said  before – the film has still very bad memories for me! Take Care!

By: – Majid Al Suleimany.