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Being Proud In Life! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

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For Wednesday August 8th 2012

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Being Proud In Life! 

  • I have only been sent for the perfection of character – Prophet Muhammad PBUH
  • That person will not enter Paradise who hath one atom of pride in his heart! – The Hadith.

When Satan was told to bow down to Adam, he refused Allah’s God’s order because he thought himself as more important than Adam was – though all the other Angels did bow down to Adam! He refused and he was proud, and he was one of the Unbelievers – Surah Baqarah 2:34

Many Scholars of the opinion that ‘Pride’ is one of the greatest sins and evils in life and in humanity – and the cause of many disasters, tragedies, calamities and catastrophies in life – and the situation is only getting worse by the day! People will never learn from experiences and from history – and that is the most sad, tragic and misfortune part in our lives now.

If you read the Holy Book and The Hadith it is full of verses and stories of ‘those who are proud, arrogant and contemptuous’ of being assigned for eternal Hell Fire.

Allah says in Surah Zumar (Verse 60) – Is there not in Hell an abode for the proud? Also – It shall be said: Enter the gates of hell to abide therein; so evil is the abode of the proud - Surah Zumar 39:72.

In Surah Mo-min (Verse 35) Almighty remarks – Thus does Allah set a seal over the heart of every proud, haughty one. “Certainly Allah God does not love the proud ones – 16:23

It is narrated that the Great Prophet Moses – May Allah be pleased with him  – asked The Exalted Allah: – Oh my Lord! Who is the most deserving of your wrath and displeasure?” The reply he got was – It is he whose heart is filled with pride and his tongue is filthy (that is abusive), his eyes are devoid of shame, his hands are miserly and he is of bad conduct and character

 Images Conceited – Images For Demonstration Purposes Only! 

One of the requirements of fasting the holy month is your own personal salvation – where you vow to be a better person in life – and ask for forgiveness for your past deeds and sins that you have committed – so that you elevate yourself to a higher level of behaviour, conduct and the way you deal with others – and not only your relatives, family and friends – but everyone else that you will interact and interface in life.

Images Contempt and Arrogant - Images For Demonstration Purposes Only!

Despite knowing all these things – and yet so-called fasting too – people continue to behave and act as before – if not getting more bad and worse by day – even in this Holy month of fasting too! They will simply not change – and they will continue to think that they are always right, correct, ethical, principled and professional. That is the most worrisome and scary part!

As I always like to say that after family – offices are well people most behave – and where human wickedness, evil, foibles and everything else bad most comes out! Being M I like to send what I consider as good emails to people. However, last week a friend advised me not to send any emails of any kind to a certain person – sort of a ‘friend’ – because his Big Boss was asking him why is M sending you emails? Just block and return his emails – because I do not want you two to correspond to each other! I had noticed myself that the emails were returning ‘as undeliverable’!

Frankly, I do not like to harbour and deal with people that cause strife and friction between peoples – especially in this month out of all months. Yet this person – and his big boss – go into fake and artificial smiles – as if they are really interested and happy to see me – albeit all the other things behind the scenes! How much double faced and hypothetical one can get in life! They both think that they are well past needing or requiring anything from me – so they can well afford to do what they are doing now.

Honestly and frankly too – I do not like to talk or deal with politics – but a good friend of mine had sent me this video of an Arab Conference where a current leader in very big and dire troubles was ‘laughing sarcastically and cynically’ at Ghaddafi when the man was talking about hanging of Saddam Hussein – and he Ghaddafi was against this – little knowing his own fate in the future – including the present one now!

If these kind of things can happen to Top People – who are you as top company brass and echelon to think that you are better than others? Have you not seen scandal-hit top brasses too quitting at short notice – and even in situations that they had little to do – or of insignificant level – committing and adding to the situation!

People will simply never learn lessons of life – until it is too late. Forgive them for now because they are brain-washed, indoctrinated and drunk with power, need to control, manipulate and dominate others – and always cynical, proud, sarcastic and contemptuous of almost everybody else – even to their own family, relatives and friends unexcluded!

Just feel sorry for them – and pray for them. That is all we can do for now!

Take Care and Ramadhan Kareem! 

By: 

Majid Al Suleimany 

Pride, Conceit and Arrogance! Outlook! By Majid Al Suleimany Reply

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 Conceit. Pride and Arrogance! 

  • Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter, don’t mind! – Dr. Seuss – Writer, Cartoonist and Animator.
  •  Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can – and the wisdom to know the difference between the two!  - Anon
  • That person will not enter Paradise who hath one atom of pride in his heart!- The Hadith (Islamic Sayings)
  • Humility and courtesy are acts of piety!- The Hadith
  • If you want to stay in this world, be like a lotus flower who stays in the dirty water, who was born in the dirty water, but never gets adopted to dirty water – Prem Rawat 

Decades ago when I was a College student in UK, one of my lecturers who was known to be anti-us was lamenting to us. Do you know why they say in the West that God has a sense of humour? Though I knew the answer and the one he was expecting me to ask why – I feigned ignorance of what was coming next as the answer. You will find the ** answer if you keep reading on!

 Last weekend I had attended this wedding of a family member at the mosque (Masjid). There is a person there from the family connections who was recently highly promoted on the job place after marking time for generations and stuck in a dead wood position. Personally I think it had to do more with his weird behaviours and personalities – rather than competence and capability tainted.

The ironical tragical part was that he was a great complainer and whiner – and always skeptical and cynical of everyone around him and with no exceptions – even his own family, relatives and so-called made-up friends – though he was a friend in reality to no one except himself only!

 Taking my good and trusting nature on humanity with my usual focus, vision and concepts that ‘there is good in everyone in life – unless proven otherwise’ – I tried hard to catch up and join with him – as he was in front of me – and in offering my compliments and congratulations to him.

 

From the sides of his eyes – I could see that he was noticing me – but he pretended not to – and walked faster still – and being younger and more agile than me – made sure he left me behind! He then proceeded to sit in the VIP areas – and this thing really disturbs me the most – because this is a place of worship and in front of God we are all equal – if not the poor suffering hard sweating believer is perhaps more closer to his Lord than the rest of us – all put together! 

 

I decided to go with my gut feelings and not go to the VIP side. Upon which the groom family side came and picked me and insisted that I move to the VIP arena despite my protestations he would not have it – and started insisting and pulling me towards the area. 

Not wanting to create a scene – I reluctantly agreed to accompany him – and lo and behold – he decided to sit me next – near the running away from me sort-of relative! Seeing me coming to sit near me – he got up and pretended to go after someone else to bring him to the area – though he was a guest just like me – and I would never have dared to be so brave like him! The irony was this relative went to pick the very same person who was well known to be an adversary for everything I stand for! Birds of a feather do flock together!

 But he had a point – just to move away from me. He soon came with the person he was after – and sat away from me! There is a saying that goes like this – in the East African lingo – with due apologies – Those that deny you beans have just reduced you from only more gas!

 I sat now – by the grace of God – with people now that really liked my writings – and insisting for me to give them more information and details – and my business cards too! There is always someone to upset and annoy you in these gatherings – that is why I try my level best to avoid going to these places – unless I really have to – like in this one!

 M being M – I called him soon later on – and gave him ‘a big piece of my mind’! He retorted that I am just imagining the whole drama – and perhaps old age element is creeping in – by being ‘over sensitive!’ True today I am 64!

 Then I told him point blank – call a spade a spade – did you think I was an embarrassment to you – or could be – or I would open my mouth to say many things – removing all doubt – on my stupidity – and people around you will hear the rubbish I am uttering – and to embarrass you – now the Big Man that you are? Thank God he did not put the phone down on me – which initially I thought he would do so.

When I got into the car my son saw my worried face. He knew what was wrong. Then his heart spoke to me – Dad – keep your pride – let no one make you feel small or belittle you! This man cannot write even one sentence in any language – let alone in English – despite his so-called new great position now!

I am always amazed by such people and their behaviours and attitudes. Actually it was another wake-up call for me on human foibles, vanity and weaknesses – vileness, deceit and betrayals – and truthfully nothing can surprise me anymore now!

I also hold this my strong view that many of our problems today arise mainly from the ‘poor type and weak personality behaviours and characters people’ – that are in their positions now – not because they are really good, competent and capable – but are there merely  more to ‘follow the line – not to rock the boat’ syndrome. They are there just to ensure to ‘keep the lid on’ – ‘just stays on’.

They come with ‘the killer instincts’ survival – like the sharks’ – that will attack anything coming near them – even their own – and even if not an adversary or enemy for that matter! Even that person who just wants to say Hello to him!

Some people and places will just never change!

Take Care!

 By: -

 Majid Al Suleimany

 ** The answer – Giving oil to the Arabs!

The Doha Mall Fire – by Majid Al Suleimany 1

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For Sunday June 3rd 2012

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The Doha Mall Disaster. 

  • The ink of the Scholar is more holy than the blood of the martyr – The Hadith (Islamic Sayings).
  • Leave to themselves those who do not give any importance to the Divine – and have adopted and consider it as mere play and amusement – The Hadith.
  • That person will not enter Paradise who hath one atom of pride in his heart! – Again The Hadith.
  • Commonsense is not so common – Voltaire.
  • Words once printed, have a life of their own – Carol Burnett
  • Those that do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it – George Santayana
  • I’m dying - one of the three Filipino teachers trapped in the fire told her aunt in a text message – before she succumbed to her death.
  • The children are trapped, the smoke is too thick – Another Filipino teacher to her husband.

Below Images – Villaggio Mall – Doha Qatar.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Images – Tne Triplets that Perished in the fire – and their Parents (New Zealand)

I was reading this article about the fire that had broken out last Monday at the nursery school in the Qatari capital Doha in the city’s Villaggio Mall. In a press conference held in the city on Monday evening – the Qatar’s Government confirmed that 19 had perished: 13 children, four teachers and two civil defence workers. A further 17 people were injured in the fire – four of them children and a number of civil defence workers.

No explanation over how the fire had started has yet been provided. The victims included people from Spain, Japan, the Philippines, Benin and Arab countries – not including Qatar, the officials said.

Two-year old triplets from New Zealand – Lillie, Jackson and Willsher Weekes – have also been confirmed as being among those that were left dead after this huge fire at this shopping mall. “Lillie, Jackson and Willsher came into this world together and were inseparable as siblings, best friends and the joy of our life,” the heart-broken and the tragic couple said in a statement to the Press at the place – and to consoling friends.

More Images Below

Amongst the alleged lapses (1) Mall employees not acting fast enough when the fire erupted – (2) Fire alarms did not go off or rang faintly – (3) No emergency exists at place of fire – (4) No drawings available – (5) The kindergarten was not known to have existed nor was legally sanctioned to be in this mall – (6) Some of the sprinklers in the mall malfunctioned and fire exit doors were locked – and several others.

It is definitely a great tragedy and one can but just imagine the terrible grief and agony that their parents – and the other victims’ families – are facing now – when such young innocent lives are swept away and lost in this way.

About two years back, I was going to this Mall to check on if any of my books were sold still yet at this shopping mall in town. I had written an article about this – because I forgot where I had parked my car. The Omani young boy and girl had really helped me out to locate the car – after pointing it out to them in the security cameras.

It was then easy for them to give me a lift in their car trolley to my parked car. What really impressed me the most was first for them to identify myself as the real owner of the car – and seeing all these cameras watching all the scenes going on – which I would assume there were no blind corners or invisible places not covered by the cameras! It was a great wake-up call for me on the realities and practicalities of life. Sometimes in life we think we know everything – and no one can fool us – but there is still out there far much to learn still – and catch up!

Zakheir Mall Oman Images Below

In the week before that we had the incident at Zakher Mall too in town. We see every day about places that have mysteriously have caught fires – and the usual culprit is blamed to be an electric short circuit. Like in many people – I used to be sarcastic and cynical on this – until I saw it live – at one of the places I used to work when the ceiling lights caught fire – presumably because they have been kept on running for too long – day in and day out.

Like we the Arabs like to say also always in this thing – from the stomach of evil came blessings – and that is how my last Arab Management book – A Cry For Help! – came into being – www.myown-ebooks.com. It was another wake-up call for me on human foibles, vanity and weaknesses – vileness, deceit and betrayals – and truthfully nothing more surprised me any more – even the ominous and sort of prophesied in the book one year later – the Arab Spring Uprisings – and thus the title of the book in a cry for help!

 

It is well understandable that some maybe asking at this particular juncture where is the relationship and the correlation between a mall fire and my books – and perhaps am just finding excuses to propagate and push my books at any possibility? Let me connect the dots and in explaining myself here – if you will give me the chance to do so!

The question that I need to pose here is this. Why do we take things for granted and for surety that nothing can or may happen – until it really does happen – and it does – and again we are caught surprised and unawares – again and again – and all go into fire-fighting and reactive mode? What is this curse on us now? Instead of being pragmatic and active – and as we all know prevention is far better than cure – and if even the cure will work – and if not too late already – or the damage and repercussions have already taken place?

How many times people have written about employees being unhappy at the workplaces? How many times people have written – and spoken too – about how we carry our young children to schools – and how they are being treated in schools too? Accidents about to happen – as the headings go! Even the nurseries and the kindergarten are not spared even! Even live photos and videos are shown – yet we do not still see! It goes in to one ear and out from the other! Till something dastardly and big happens – and the learning curve is again short lived. Till the next time!

There are same or similar situations existing in the Private Schools – and perhaps even in the public schools – and possibly in our own malls too. There are private schools in residential areas – and near homes of residences of people – exposing them to great risks and dangers!

Please forgive me because I am not an Engineer – nor an Architecture or HSE expert or advisor. All I know is writing job descriptions and human resources policies and procedures books. And columns and books – more as a hobby, interest and passion. I did not even attend book-writing or journalist courses – so even in that I just stumbled into writing – and cannot in the real sense of the world put claims to be an expert either!

But let us use some of the faculties given to us by The Lord – our common senses, brains, judgments, analysis and evaluations – our own consciences – of what is right or wrong – our intuitions and perceptions – and whatever else! Till a tragedy or happening will occur than reactively – after the event and in fire fighting – we are all then propelled into action and dynamism.

I personally think it is this fatalistic and do-not-care-a-damn – and do-not-want-to-hear-anything-from-anyone – and also this let-them-wait-and-suffer traits in all of us that is as the main cause of all the problems facing us now and with us – and will be far more with us – if we still continue in these ways and behaviours.

I also hold this my strong view that many of our problems today arise mainly from the ‘poor type and weak personality behaviours and characters people’ – that are in their positions now – not because they are good, competent and capable – but are there merely  more to ‘follow the line – not to rock the boat’ syndrome. They are there just to ensure to ‘keep the lid on’ – ‘just stays on’. They come with ‘killer instincts’ survival – like the sharks – that will attack anything coming near them – even their own – and even if not an adversary or enemy for that matter! Even that person who just wants to say Hello to him!

Lord Have the mercy on all of us – and Protect and Preserve us all – Amin Amen.

Take Care! 

By: - 

Majid Al Suleimany

Suicidal Tendencies – At My Workplace! Reply

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 Suicidal Tendencies!

  • “My poor cousin,” said the town mouse, “you hardly have anything to eat! I do believe that an ant could eat better! Please do come to the city and visit me, and I will show you such rich feasts, readily available for the taking.” – Aesop fable of the Country and Town Mouse.
  • Not all that glitters is gold - Anon

Please will forgive me for dramatizing and going morbid and being so melodramatic – but I have this inner feeling that out there in the streets there are now great tendencies of what can best be classified as people being on the warpath! Or are just being suicidal to say the least!

The other day this fast coming car – with more than 5 youngsters inside in this small car – were trying to get in between my 4WD and a bus on my right side. It would have been alright if I was in the fast lane and blocking them – but I was in the middle lane and going at normal speed limit – and so was the bus on my right side. A bicycle could not even get through the space – let alone a car!

They did not seem to care at all – as if they were going for a mission impossible trip – if not a suicidal one at that! It is okay if you want to kill yourself – or hurt and injure – pain and maim – but why should you take yourself along with other innocent people – and who are driving just safely, carefully and defensively?

In all my columns unless proved otherwise – I have and still propagate this great theory of mine that the way people drive on the roads nowadays – for both Omanis and even Expatriates for that matter – is linked to the level of unhappiness and dissatisfaction levels. As in my columns, I believe that this is linked more with the Offices environment – followed by family, environmental factors and others.

I was looking at the Global Happiness Index and I note that there are hardly any countries from the MENA areas classified in the top lists – if any consolation is that there are other countries that fare much worse than us!

Last week I was reading this magazine titled Campaign Against Suicide. The campaign is mainly targeted for the residents and guests – and mainly of Indian origin. The article shows 32 expatriate suicides committed alone for the period from January 1st to end of April 2012.

It studied the suicide patterns, the causes and fallouts in order to have a better understanding of the phenomena. The campaign aims at visiting the Labour camps, offices and homes – through discreet means in order to encourage those with such suicidal tendencies to have and get a feeling of belonging – being appreciated – and to come out in the open!

And those are the key words. The truth is that such suicides include all ‘classes and categories’ of people – from students, nurses, teachers, businessmen and labourers. The only part we come to hear are those ‘successful suicides’ – but there are many others that ‘have failed’ – and go hidden and unreported – as it being an embarrassing taboo subject.

I wrote about this morbid subject even from June 2003 with the title ‘Why do they do it?’ – with a woman – a related one too – that I still cannot comprehend from hanging herself – all because of perhaps a family tiff and dispute. With the son growing up saying ‘I will kill my father one day!’ – because the son blames the father for the bullying and aggression.

As a Columnist, I get many email letters from especially the expatriate wives that are not happy at home – though it may ‘shock and awe’ many that their husbands have well-to-do high profile jobs – live in decent places etc. And it all has got to do with the wives being professionals – and are not allowed to work by their husbands and or legally – and or cannot just find jobs.

All IMAGES FOR DEMONSTRATION PURPOSES ONLY!

Just go and visit the ‘Situation Wanted’ columns in the newspapers – and see how many female job seekers are there on ‘family visas’ – qualified and looking for jobs. It is a bloody shame – because both they and the country can benefit – than by bringing in more new expatriate staff – and just adding to the phenomena!

When I had my Consultancy, I had ladies with Doctorates PhDs staying at home as house wives – and in some cases if they were employed they could even be bigger bread earners than their own husbands even! And tongue in cheek speaking – some of the ladies are really presentable and pretty – and perhaps of this reason – have jealous and envious husbands that do not allow them to go to work!

These unhappy and dissatisfied women are more prone to be suicidal – especially if the marriage is arranged – and the husband spends all his time from 6 a.m. to 11 p.m. in the offices – and also worse off – if he does not know how to be patient and tolerant – and treat his wife and family well.

Please forgive me for bragging and ‘blowing my own trumpet’ but there is big vacuum in the offices of ‘trust and delegation’ – when the boss does not trust anyone – and never delegates – ending for him doing all the works – even the menial ones that can easily be entrusted and done by his subordinates!

In my book Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! – www.myown-ebooks.com  I have given many examples – and I have myself become the victim of the circumstances – especially with bosses – who have been taught, educated and trained ‘to control and dominate’ others theories! The problem is across the board – though admittedly the Western boss fares a little better than the rest – generally speaking that is!

I still believe that things need to change first in the offices – otherwise they will drag the rest of us all into this cesspit pool – and the Losers will be everybody. People need respect, decency and good well-mannered treatments – and to have a feeling of belonging. As I always say – treat a person nice, decent and well – and he will try to bring the moon to you.

It is also a question of people waking up to the new realities now at our doorsteps – and learn to change and adopt fast – otherwise it will be as usual – Change before Change changes you! And we will never just learn – even if the ground below us is crumbling below our feet even!

God Help, Protect and Preserve us all – and our families – Amin.Amen

Take Care!

 By: -

Majid Al Suleimany

P.S. In Islam suicide is considered as the greatest sin – and one is designated for eternal damnation from the grave to eternal hell fire starting from there. Killing of one innocent person is like killing a whole nation in punishment – and eternal hell fire….!